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do not rush into anything, let the guy make his intentions known, then u have to really make up ur mind if the relationship is worth it, then u have to take the time to know him now that he is around, and this means u have to hold on from saying yes or no to watch his reactions. no need to take him to his parents place he has family members who can do this, allow him to chase u and earn ur love.

are u sure u love this lady or u just love the sex and u are afraid that if u tell her that u cannot continue she would deny u the sex (check your motives)? are u also sure that the lady is not after something? be very careful, sex comes with responsibility, she may be asking u to come to her village (where her supposed boyfriend is) for another supposed pleasurable sex, but have u welghed the consequences of answering that invitation. no matter how sweet the sex maybe it does have its consequences, be ready to bear the brunt of any decision u take. but my advise to u, end this now that ur senses are still intact (egunje dey run belle)

we all hurt some time in our lives but we also move on, see this as good riddance to bad rubbish, women have not finished in the world, there are lovely sisters out there who would add meaning to ur life. do not give anyone the power to hold u down, she is not worth the headache.
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where is it a hard and fast rule that a man must earn more than a woman, circumstances of life can always change, tables do turn, i earn more today does not mean it will be so 2morrow, the most important thing is that we are happy and the family does not fall apart over a nonsensical issue as who earns more, there are more important issue to sort out.

u did not state how old u are, also does the guy behave in an immature way? if u like marry a 60 year old man it does not guarantee happiness, know what u want and look out for those things in the people u go out with. always ask urself whether the person u are involved with is the missing piece in ur puzzle, does he add or subtract from ur life and is he the kind of person u want to be involved with. it is not grey hair on a man"s head that makes him wise.

is this topic still on?

people cheat because they Choose to cheat. The weaknesses of others or ourselves is not a criteria for cheating.

my dear u do not need help at all, all u need is reassurance that the path u have followed is the right one. do not think that because we live in a sex deluded world that everybody u meet male or female is into sex and must be enjoying it, there are still people who hold onto morals, principles and values. if those u meet want sex from u kindly walk away from them, the men in this world have not finished, keep searching for the right one. do not delude urself that if u give in he will stay with u,this is a fat lie.

u are 21, marriage is not something u rush into, u have to be ready. take the time now and mould ur life into the woman u ought to be. when u are married if u desire to have sex 365 days of the year u have that opportuinity. be assured that there is nothing wrong in being a virgin, be true to urself.

rubbish of the highest order, u are such an irresponsible boy, please if u do not have any meaningful thing to post pls leave this thread. HABA IS SEX FOOD.

the reason we date or are involved in a relationship is it not to find out if we are compatible? dating must not lead to marriage and if it is called off at least it should end in friendship.

forgive her first before letting her go, holding on to anger and bitterness will only eat ur soul and make u loose out on the opportuinities out there to find love. but above all let her go and move on with ur life, u are no substitute boyfriend.

how does his assets declaration affect the price of boli and groundnut in the market?

@ zignor
my brother money matters, at least it will buy pampers, cerelac, pears baby products and household items. all these if u are married. if u are not money will buy perfume, mr biggs, tasty fried chicken, recharge cards and all other items used in maintaning ur sweetheart. unless the woman is a hard worker and is interested in meeting her own needs and likes u as u are, which i am sorry to say a number of our female folks do not think in this line. only then can i say that money does not matter in relationships, but i stand to be corrected.

most men would tell u that money matters in a relationship, a few women would tell u it does not, the truth remains that money does matter in a relationship, but i stand to be corrected.

@oje
(a) should i relax with her?
        i guess u mean if u should continue being angry with her. anger solves nothing it just blinds our ability to think rationally.  at this moment u need to weigh the consequences of ur accepting her, if 3hrs was all she needed to throw away the relationship then such action raises a lot of question about her love for u.

(b) should i be serious (discipline) with her
        if u must discipline her is it out of love or revenge?check ur motives.

(c) should i be afraid of her?
        by this i guess u mean doubting her love for u, if i were in ur shoes i will seriously doubt her love for me. yes be afraid and thread cautiously.

(d) should i run from her?
         run to where?stay and resolve the issue.  
         
(e) or should i get a "spare" just in case?
         as if that will make things better. u will only be telling the spare that she is a substitute, no human male or female deserves such treatment.

if i was allowed to be vengeful, such a person would hate the day our paths crossed, thank God that vengance belongs to him alone, my advise - after vommiting do u go back to swallow that which u have vommited?

yes i can.

(running to call 911) young lady are u out of your senses (degubi calm down). my dear girl the young man in question is out to ruin your life, u are 14 for crying out loud and he is 18 without a sense of direction. if he loves u why would he tell u not to say anything to anyone whe he asks u to strip, be assured when he does have sex with u he would also implore u not to tell anyone. flee my dear naive lady before some irresponsible fool ruins your future.

i hope u are joking if not u are such an irresponsible fellow, u think just because u have a manhood it is visa for u to pratice sex without responsibilty, there is no remorse in u and i do not see u changing if by chance this issue is resolved, i only pity the young lady who will fall prey to u.

instead of laying a good foundation for the kind of future u want, u are busy sowing ur unrestricted hormone induced wild oats, u do not need advice, u need to have ur manhood seized untill u start thinking responsibly. pls flee from this thread let people with real issues come on board.

@ThiefofHearts
Here's a suggestion, instead of looking for someone that will have no one to compare you to, how about you learn NOT to suck in bed.

thanks for that imput, i intend to get all necessary info on the steps for good lovemaking so that when the time is right i can apply what i have learnt.

its being a while i saw ur post, i hope u've being okay?

being educated or not does not guarantee success in marriage, status symbol is not a perequisite for happiness in marriage, the character,values and beliefs of an individual will determine his or her success in all aspects of life. know what u want, if u will be comfortable with a less educated person so be it, if u won't then do not go into it.

i would prefer marrying a virgin, i would not want to spend those precious moments feeling - this is the way she had sex with other guys, thats why she is so experienced, what is the guarantee that she is sexually satisfied with me, what stops her from looking for an old flame to experience that sexaul satisfaction.

but i do not rule out non-virgins as long as their is an obvious commitment on her part to put off old ways and do better.

@Islander
I want to marry a virgin man, Seeing that men who aren't virgin are wailing about marrying virgin ladies, so why can't a lady demand that her mate be a virgin too.
What is good for the geese is definitely better for the gander,

my sister u have spoken well, if we demand the best from others then we should not expect less from ourselves.

flee the relationship. no gentleman behaves in such an inhumane way.

how u choose to carry on from here is up to u, u can decide to wallow in self pity and regret or u can realise that his walking away is his loss of u, the world does not revolve around one person, do not allow your world revolve around his.

it is sad but the truth is that we guys like to think that we have power over the women in our lives, do not give him the impression that ur world is coming apart because of him. mourn the loss, unburden ur heart to a close friend, and pls for the love of God move on with ur life.

[color=#000099][/color] although being a virgin may literally mean not engaging in the act of sexual intercourse, it goes to say that being a virgin also transends just the physical act of sex but also the purity of thought. if u dwell on sexual fantasies even though u have not engage in the physical act does it make u a virgin. if we must strive for purity in actions let us also strive for purity in thoughts.