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because what we see around us and what we encounter from some unpleasant experiences do not encourage us to settle down.

why will they not avoid u when u think they are bread that must be toasted all the time. When u make advances to a lady she may avoid u to find out if u are serious or simply taking her for a ride, she may want to know the depth of ur patience to get want u want, also she may simply not like ur person.A lady wants to be pursued,so it is not about having superior yarns,do u have the patience to woo her heart.

Whether a woman tells man her past or not is not the issue, the issue is if the man would be mature enough to handle it appropriately or would use it to get back at her when she falls short of his expectation. Some women keep secrets of their past out of a concern that the man may not be able to handle such revelations and some men fail to realise that we all make mistakes,so there is always need to over look the past. But a woman should not be forced to reveal her past unless she wants to. And a woman should ensure that her man is aware of any scandal of the past,so that if he hears it from a third party he would know how to handle it.

(Trust In A Relationship: Should it be 100%?) At the start of a relationship it is difficult to trust the other partner because of certain inadequacies, but as the relationship progresses trust for one's partner quietly creeps in. Trust in a relationship is something that comes about because of the level of openness and sincerety of both partners, where this is absent then trust has no soil on which to grow.

Does Love and Money work hand in hand? Well it calls for balance. Money should not be the pillar upon which all relationships should be based,where it becomes the centre, the absence of it creates tension. But money is needed to spice up the relationship and meet some of the basic every day needs, i would love to take my dearest to places of leisure, attend once in a lifetime events, buy her gifts that speaks volume of my love, and if we are married i would love to0 be able to provide the suitable comfort my family needs. This is the small role money plays in every relationship.

The part i do not subscribe to is the part of greed, a few girls would want to live a large life, drive porsh cars and live in fanciful houses because their girlfriend was fortunate enough to marry a business mogul, forgetting that the grass always looks greener on the other side which in most cases is not so. A lady is not willing to work and support herself but is looking for a guy who would meet her endless vanities even if the guy treats her like thrash. Contentment is something we all have to learn, a guy may not have a large bank account, but look out for other signs like hardwork, determination to suceed, Godliness and the desire to be supportive and provide for his family. A lady seeing this trait should then commit herself to supporting him in any way she can.

why do girls think that bankers are flirts? because they have being unfortunate to meet the wrong set of bankers,and this has probably led to a misconceived view of bank staffs. if u are used to flirting with people u will always find urself doing it even if u are in a monastry. besides flirting is done by both sexes, some men think that  women who work in banks are nothing to write home about, but the truth is such impression only arise after a few isolated cases, not all bank workers fall into such category.

Firstly ask urself why am i jealous? Is my jealousy progressive or retrogressive,is it for my own satisfaction or for his/her own benefit? Are u jealous because u see him/her wasting her time on what will not be beneficial to his/her present or future or are u jealous because he/she is moving up in life or being ambitious and u feel threathened? It all has to do with motives behind our action, even love can have a negative side to it if not done properly,so search ur heart always and ensure that whenever u are jealous it is for the right reasons.

my dear poster i cannot begin to tell u how terrible ur situation is,u have rubished urself in the eyes of ur inlaw, the sad thing u may soon discover is that this so called brother in law may stab u in the back when matters that concerns his family arises,i hope u are not deluded that he was falling for u? In truth he was just satisfying his selfish desires and the sad thing is that u allowed him get the better of u.

You have made a grave mistake,look for an appropriate time to sit with ur brother in law and discuss what transpired,whether u accept it or not the truth is that u have reduced ur worth in the eyes of ur brother in law and u really must redeem urself. Let him know that it was a mistake that is unlikely to happen again, and stick to ur resolve not to let it happen,whether with him or any other man.

there is nothing exciting in banking,the pay may be good but the monotony of the job can make u go crazy,i work with a bank and i am praying that God will help me get a better job that is exciting in the sense of creativity and less stressful time wise.

As much as i do not subscribe to the harshness of the sudan government i must also point out that the teacher in question should have considered that the place she was residing is predominantly muslim,even if u do not consider the beliefs of the people habouring u sacred, courtesy demands that u respect their beliefs,naming a teddy bear muhammed runs contary to the muslim beliefs. That simply is their belief therefore it should be respected.

real nice well done

You even had the courage to post such topic instead of hiding ur head in shame.U should ask urself if such line of thinking is proper,will u find it pleasant to hear that ur brother is lusting after ur own wife,please stop wasting our time with topics that add nothing to our lives but only brings u insult. If u want recognition on this site there are better ways to go about getting it.

no perfect relationships do not exist, all relationships must be worked upon to give u the ideals u seek.

@poster
the more he continues to linger on this issue the more complicated it will become for him, let him leave now while he still has his dignity intact, if he wants to go for DNA fine let him go but whatever the outcome the girl should have nothing whatsoever to do with his life. if the child is his he should do the rational thing and take care of the childs welfare without adding the woman to the equation, if the child is not his please advise him to fleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee such a lady.

its amazing to see the rate at which fingers are pointing to the men as culprits of infidelity as if it originated from them, men stray and women also stray whether u are good at hiding it or not straying is straying, everybody has being tempted to stray at one time or the other especially when things are not moving as u would desire, i am also prone to stray, but the truth is the grass is never greener at the other side, every situation in life comes with its up and down, that is why self control is important, weathering every storm is vital and making ur relationship work should be everyones goal. but whether men are naturally made to stray is a lie from the pit of hell.

every lady needs to be chased, courted, romanced and sought after.so let the experience with this young man help u hold ur ground with other men in the later future. if a man is interested in u let him do the chasing not u.

tell i pray what u would want her nude pictures for? instead of thinking how constructively u can affect her life, u are interested in capturing her nude, pls ladies if ur guys ask u for such nonsense just look for an available large spanner to help u readjust his thinking.

@hot chic
The issue is its not all about engagement ring,its about your heart,its got to do with your feelings,if you actually want him and not those friends,then you can without the ring in your hand and besides are you sure that you are not dating this guy because you are a member of thesame church

THANK U MY SISTER, WELL SAID. U HAVE DRIVEN THE NAIL STRAIGHT TO ITS MEETING POINT, I DARE SAY I AM IMPRESSED.

It does not matter whether u fill all ur fingers with engagement rings, if u are not faithful u are not faithful shikena!

a word is enough for every seventeen year old, go my dear child and apply all that u have heard from the elders on this forum.

its a shame that women are being sexually debased, i am not a fan of big brother but like divinediva asked where are the pictures of the men in BB, its too bad that we allow our sexuality to be flaunted for all and sundry, is our dignity as africans worth nothing?

such ladies are short sighted in their thinking and such an attitude presents u as cheap, no matter how much recharge cards a man buys for u he would never take u seriously. never give a man the impression that u cannot meet ur needs, come across to him as someone who does not need his money to survive. then watch and see if he will not respect u.

good wife is hardest to find, the reason being the unpredictabilty of humans.

olanajim my brother, i hope we get there. but what i stand for is for men to rise up and take charge of their lives, to surround themselves with sowers and not reapers, to be proud of themselves in their own eyes, to play the man. u do not need to own a lexus jeep to be worth something, if a lady will not look ur way because u have no convertible, that is her own cup of kunu.

when u were falling for both ladies did u seek our advise now that u are in trouble u want salvation, oh well the truth is that u were not proper in ur actions five years in a relationship is enough to help u decide on a person, u had a little disagreement, made up and december u were already eyeing another lady. if u knew u wanted to play away matches why did u not end the first match?

if i continue to type i would thrash u with words, my advise is for u to get ur priorities straightened out and gently break the heart of one of the ladies which u would definitely do, and settle finanlly with the one of ur choice. but to tell u which one to choose i am in no position to do that, u of all people know which is suitable for u.

let me just say that if i want to believe your story my advise would be do not do it,two wrongs never does solve any problem and how will u carry on after the act? but in truth i do not believe your story one bit but that is my opinion.  na wa oh things i don  read for nairaland 

we have not reached that stage of thinking where money does not become an issue in relationships and i fear we may never reach that level. those who are married to wealthy men discover that money is not everything, but give them the option of leaving such marriages and u would be suprised that many would refuse all because of the false comfort money brings. a young lady would promise eternal devotion to a young man but let that bros from yankee come around and the music will change.

the truth is when we huff and puff about money not being an issue the way we turn the cheek at the sight of "brighter opportuinities" says differently. in summary to my fellow men out there my advise is that we should commit ourselves to working hard to ensure that we are able to provide the basic needs for our families, we may not have millions but at least we are able to take care of our families. let us look out for women who do not judge us by the content of our pocket but the quality of our person and is ready to support and bring out the best in us.

there relationship was a fairy tale and such tales are not meant to last, the problem may have being the way they buried their differences when ever they had misunderstandings and the pressure on them to play to the expectation of the public by being the perfect couple. relationships break and mend and theirs will not be any different, it is not easy convincing a couple who has seen themselves as the role model for others, u just have to be in that league to make any sense to them. let them be if they will reconcile or not it will be their decision not anyone else

Truly, that's what a true friend really is! not the one that collects your boy/girlfriend from u and apologises when they break up, gossips u around, tells out your secrets, [sub][/sub]na so life b sha!!!!!!!

true talk my brother, true talk. a friend is someone who bears not just the name ( friend) but the responsibilities attached to it, someone who seeks the best for u and is committed to ensuring that u have the best, a friend is someone who seeks to know both the good and bad of u,a friend is someone who will not take advantage of u even to his / her own gain. the list is endless but the fact is a friend is a friend in deed not just in need.

flee such a woman fast or else the consequences will be dire, to do that to u is just a titbit of greater things in store, leave her while u still have ur dignity and senses intact, God does not need to use lighting on u before u do the proper thing.