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amokeme:
Financial abuse?? Please can you enlightened me on this, never heard of it before

Simple. The man makes sure the wife is never financially independent.
I had a colleague who refused to sponsor his wife's NYSC, he said she is married to him and doesn't need to plan for any job outside their home. She had to seek help from her uncles and parents to go do her youth service. Then he said she could not work, he is also physically abusive. So when ever she manages to get a job, he beats her up and starves her and their child. Or he gives her #50 only to buy indomie for the child but doesn't give her a dime for herself.He also brought his dad to live with them. Dad was a pant chaser too he said he brought his dad so that she would keep busy by cooking, cleaning and fetching water for him. This Na papa wey strong pass even the son
The wife finaly left that marriage. Now she is doing well with her kids.
See that is financial abuse. The abuser either stops the partner out rightly from making a living or they keep a very tight régime on how money even if earned flows into the abused partners pocket.
Some marriages eh, people ESP women Dey endure many bull shit o. All because their mothers and fore mothers also endured the same. Some wives also financially abuse their husband's ESP those that lose their source of income.

Mzflow:
Maybe she's leaving soon also

Typical woman.

Next time, when Dem mention change una go ask.......What type? Before una start to chant like zombies.

Anyhow, Na Buhari get all of una now. To serve under him means to shut up and look. The moment you kwesion, DSS, EFCC, SSS is ya portion.

When we Dey sweet, una no Dey remember people, when e sour, una go call hungryman to come fight for una.

zykson:
Wasnt wit a mobile phone when i saw it and did try catching it alive but couldnt...just curious abt it cos avnt seen such animal before

OPKE, you call yourself an undergraduate? You haven't seen it before, so to satisfy curiousity, you........KILLED IT!
shame on Nigerian future leaders. We are all together destroying Nigeria. Our leaders damage the economy the followers damage her wild life and eco system.

Koolking:
You can't separate women from their self-destruct complexity.

Women always feel threatened when they see another beautiful woman in their territory, even if it's their blood sister.

And you will feel very Comfortable if your wife constantly hangs around weatlthy handsome men ba?

freshness2020:
My dear u won't understand. Not seeing it as a strange act. I was only tired on that particular evening.

I feel you bro

porozhniy:
Marrying @ 17 is legal as long as (a) she consents to the marriage of her own volition (b) parental consent.

She clearly did not. Parent can't consent alone. The girl is not a property. She is a human being.
(2)do you know the age she got married? Just because she seeks divorce at 17 doesn't mean she got married at 17

CHARLOE:
Lol, try go east n make enquiry.

Hahahaha, where for east Na? I can't just be roaming like the prodigal son Na.

CHARLOE:
I believe in d existence of d supernatural n aliens n I think they're 2 different things/worlds. I've had n heard experiences, let me share 1 or 2:
Back then in Ife, I'd a friend from sapele who used to gist me of a guy back home with supernatural powers who cld c things happening in far away places, tell u thingS bout ur life, lots of stories, can't begin to type.
Long story short, met him finally n we got talking n he told me some personal things bout me no 1 else knew. I was stupefied!
Another 1: back then in school, CD player was reigning n my roommate just got 1, he handled it like an egg. Sha 1 day we got back to d room to find CD player missing. We were 4 in d room, 1 of us travelled, living 2 of us as d suspects. D owner was calm, he said when he gets back frm home (east) he wld no d thief ( it was almost Xmas). I was relived but I rem d 2nd guy was a bit agitated, that d owner (let's call him Mr b) claim to b a xtian n he wants to consult a herbalist. Told him I don't care as far as d thief is caught. I remember a friend of Mr b smiled n told me he wld definitely catch d thief when he gets home (forgotten d name of his hometown in d east). Said there are catholic women there that see.
Early jan we got back to school n Mr b called me to a corner n told me he knows d thief, I asked who, n he mentioned d name of my roomie that wasn't comfortable a supposed xtian wants to consult. It was so shocking cos d guy ( d thief) is well behaved n from a well to do home, nobody suspected him.
When Mr b confronted him he confessed n started begging him not to tell any1, offering to pay. Meanwhile we already wrongly accused someone else with shady xter we suspected.
Mr b told me immediately he greeted d woman he consulted, without mentioning y he came, she told him u people have accused an innocent boy wrongly, this is d thief (mentioning d thief's name).
Got a lot more to say but let me pause here

Abeg those women, make Dem come teach me Na. I want to learn

Thought he said he never heard about her before?

DONSMITH123:
YEYE, na now you wan go school. you no know b4?

Are you naturally stupid or you just feel like joking?

Bravo. Good concept. It is good to see out style embraced by foreigners. Unlike before when we trash our own and borrow foreign wedding cultures. I even see Nigerian brides dressed as Indians.

mosezky:
If you can find someone dead body.... Then declare the person missing

But you can't definitely say he is NOT dead too. You point is he can not be declared dead until they find his corpse. Someone can be dead but his body is still missing.
In the end, I understand your point.

mosezky:
Dey no see d guy dead body..

Maybe he go die for bridge or for some lonely place Na. That is even a cause for more worry.

mosezky:
the guy is not dead!!

How did you know

HardMirror what is the basis of your belief in Aliens

Good

Nigerian girls, abeg the engagement ring should be on the ring finger. Where you place the marriage ring.
The engagement ring is clearly not a wedding band so anybody that sees it will know that it is for engagement not wedding. Don't worry about ignorant people who would ask why you placed it on the wedding finger.

Parents treating their kids anyhow. A damn shame. You the so called mother, how can you be madbat someone else when,
Your pikin sleep outside, you the mama no worry, you no go look for her but you are quick to blame the woman that housed her for not telling you your child slept in her house? Na waa.

Chinyeresandra:
By God's grace,I have started and it is making me to widen my horizon about spiritual matters.

Thank God. Its well. Let me know how things go. All the best

estheremma:
I believe u are still a child, how dare u call a human being barren!do u know what they go through, may God have mercy on you

Ignore him, he thinks only women face reproductive struggles. For all we know, Na the man set naim no fit give woman bele.He will experience her pain and then come back to tell how sweet it was for him to be called okobo

emilyone:
Why you sef go marry second wife?

What happened to for better for worse,
You are lucky she didn't poison you.

Many Nigerian men do not believe the for worse part refers to them. They are only for the "for better" part .

midehi2:
wow! well i feel for the wife without a child, but she should feel for the husband too to have a child, it supposed to be proper arrangement, sometimes the 2nd wife might bring luck to her to have her own child, i have seen cases like that, wild world!

Coming from a woman sha. If your husband is having difficulties in getting you pregnant, would he allow you Bleep another man and bring the baby home so that it will give his sperm good luck?
Don't justify this your bush belief because the women in question later get pregnant after their husband's cheated outside. Those pregnancies would have occurred whether he married a second or not. There is no set spiritual gain in letting your husband go outside. None.

Ambassadors:
All hands are on deck to rubbish the image of The Reverend thats all i can say, but remember many are the afflictions of the righteous but the LORD delivers him from them all.

A simple DNA will prove his innocence. We can not claim anything until he is truly cleared. She say she get bele for him, not he just slept with her.

Chinyeresandra how far have you gone? I hope you have started your journey to solution land.

freshness2020:
Tired after church activities.

If Na woman now, you go gree for that excuse? Being a bachelor doesn't mean you should see cooking as a strange part of life. Just as being a spinster shouldn't mean the woman should not work for her upkeep.

Na wa

Shebi DNA still Dey? No need for long talk. If she has also taken photos with him before, she can upload it let us see.

OP, ANY MUGU THAT FALLS FOR THIS SCAM.....FOLLOW AM GO HOUSE AND CLEAR WHAT EVER EXTRA MONEY S/HE HAS. COS THAT PERSON DOESN'T KNOWN WHAT TO DO WITH MONEY.

Lol see PERSON wey Dem never pay 60k Dey go pay another #20k to the person wey hold hER money

Hahahahaaaaaa! Dem owe you, come Dey give you condition before Dem pay you 30% Lol, you set come Dey consider to pay more. Lol. When I thought I seen it all

Lazyreporta:



Lalasticlala come pick one o

Bae her cooking is rich because she no get responsibility yet and she is still struggling to keep her man. Mom and wife Don know say, you can't use all the pocket money to cook a pot of soup.

jaymejate:
Please, i need a Godly, Moral advice on this.

I'm still a student and i am willing to give to God but my allowance is very small.
After removing money for handouts, textbooks and assignments, the left over is little that it might not last 5 days. Should i still go ahead and give the tithe?

No. You are not a worker. If you work and you decide to pay it, it's your choice. You are not obliged to as a dependant. If you desire tobdo it, it's your own choice.