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This is what happens when you give peoe power. They claim the soldiers as theirs and the country as theirs and you must obey or be shot dead. Who then shoots and kill the milli try and the leaders when they make policies tht cause the death of their citizens? Who shoots them when they look the other way while corruption and poverty push the masses to fight?

Anyways, in Nigeria they don't shoot those in the streets who are violent. They just retaliate by raping and infecting their mothers, sisters, daughters maybe young sons with HIV virus.

I knew this would happen.

saintbillion:
NO SHE NEVER STOP, SHE IS ENJOYING HERSELF IN HER HUSBAND HOUSE, UNLIKE UR MAMA WAY DEY COOL OFF FOR OSUN ISOLATION CENTER. HEARD YA MAMA WAS AMONG THE COVID 19 PEOPLE THAT RAN AWAY?

Such a shame you will use Covid-19 as a fun insult. Na your type dey even mock blind people for being born blind. What next? Laugh at a cancer patient? Humans šef. It's all cool to make fun of people until you or your loved one catch it

OP, this suspense Don dey too much o.

Drabeey:
That lies doesn't rule here

Wetin you expect me to talk na?

ibkayee:
If my husband wants a particular name, we can discuss it, who knows, maybe he has a 'better' reason than mine. It's not a deal breaker nor a big deal in the first place for me. My point is that if the choice over a name were down to sentimental value vs just 'custom', I wouldn't be AS willing to just go with whatever he wanted, otherwise I'm not that fussed

As for the 'community' you're talking about, you're adding new factors to this discussion, I wasn't thinking of all that. Funnily enough, the OP said his friend's children are in the North, bearing Yoruba names

They might be in the North but most likely their father is not from the North (judging by customs which makes kids identify with their fathers side as natives). There are many Chukwu dis, Emekas, Aleros etc up north and vice versa.

Blackmiserable:
That is why I said she's fortunate to have married an understanding man.

Sure. We have to follow these things by the nature of people at large and for the child's sake.

ibkayee:
Lol why are you turning it into this? It's not that she doesn't like the husband's tribe, it's about children not completely losing their identity in favour of another. It's not an unreasonable point

@Blackmiserable
Most people I know give their children names from both tribes, but it's just tradition for the child's 'first' name to be from their father's side. Maybe this is the case with your friend? But I get your point, since the 'other' names are technically 'hidden' lol. Most of these things are just down to 'custom', rooted in patriarchy, yes lol that's a story for another day, most people don't think it's a big deal, or don't care enough to bother 'changing' anything

I don't think I'm that fussed, but if there was a name that I really wanted my child to bear and be referred to, I don't think I'd be as willing to forfeit it with my husband over so called 'custom'

So what if your husband also wants a particular name?
The only issue here is if the husband does not permit the wife to even pick a name for her child or be involved in anything except to cook, clean and breastfeed the child.
I would rather my child bear the name of the culture he is identified with. If hubby is Igbo, and child is Olawale and child is expected to thrive in an Igbo community, how does that work smoothly in our naija? Best bet is for the child to be given a neutral name eg Nelson

Blackmiserable:
I'm not trying to argue for or against, I just want to hear opinion. Thanks for stopping by lol.

Neither am I. You welcome

Buhari says its just an innocent clash between communities. Nothing to see here. Just an innocent clash. On behalf of Buhari and his cabal, I will encourage the people being attacked to sit back and let the law take its course. They should not fight back. The must not take the law into their own hands. This doesn't deserve millitary presence.


Meanwhile, a more important war need to be fought in warri. The gallant naija army has sent its boys to go rape and infect with HIV any woman the see in warri. They have greased up their p£nises with ky jelly, drank burantashi and are fully errect for their mission.

Blackmiserable:
I don't agree sir. We identify with people, not tribe. You have it backwards.

As a woman if you can't stand someone identifying your child with the name of a particular tribe, why marry from that tribe? How will a let's say Hausa woman who has a thing against her children bearing or being known by any name outside of her culture and tribe decide to marry a man outside of her own? Does it make sense?

Pkele, don't worry when you hammer small, those friends and family will comeback and offer their support.

Blackmiserable:
So I went to the neighborhood where I grew up in the north and made friends with one of the new tenants introduced to me by my mom.

I checked in on him once and I was having a good time with his kids. What's your name, I asked the first. Second. And third. It was all Yoruba names. But wifey is a not a Yoruba woman. She looked happy I must admit and I can see that the man is taking good care of her -- madam balance wella with one very big chicken wey I never see chop this year.

But I kept asking myself: why did this woman tolerate this. I honestly have no problem with the idea if I were a woman though but I just want to put myself in other people's stead who disagree with their husbands during Naming. She took the baby for 9 months in her womb and ended up calling him by a strange name. Lol.

But that aside and to the topic, as a woman, do you have problems with the fact that your children are known and identified by a regional name that you do not identify with? Like, an Igbo wife whose son is often called Tioluwani. I know people bear many names but people are identified with one more than others.

If she no like the husbands tribe, why not marry a man from her village so that her child will bear the name from the tribe she likes?
Its silly to marry from a people you won't feel comfortable identifying with.

Chai! They forgot to tell you guys?

The thing is that... You guys were supposed to compete. Stage a wrestling match. Heads from every household will fight. The winner takes all.
So sorry that they forgot to tell you guys the rule.

Erediauwa:
This is the handwork of God Almighty...


Imagine how many years she have been trying IVF.

So we should ignore the Dr's and others involved in it? I am not a blind hypocrite. Thank God and thank all those that supported her through her journey.

Erediauwa:
Our atheist brethren will attribute it to quality sperm and good doctor's advise.

Might as well be. Abi is it not sperm and egg that make babies in the first place? Maybe she did IVF. All in all we thank God for making it successful. She did her own part and God blessed the rest.

Thank God for her.

They have sent their people to come and do what they do best. Turture, murder and rape.

Modern day Nigerian contractors.... Nothing they do can stand the test of time.

Naija for show! They send mostly non Hausa fulanis to fight and die with BH and then, send hausas to go handle civil unrest outside the North.
Those soldiers are not trained to handle this matter. Unless the order from the top is explicitly to go and destroy. Then I understand the reason why they will send terrorists in disguise to go handle this delicate matter.

When they succeed in creating a civil war, they will rest. Unfortunately warri people don't get arms dropped for them unlike the terrorists in Sambisa who get all they need supplied by their patrons in high places. But who knows, someone of interest might just hijack this and fund the warris and any faction that falls out of this mess. Then I guess the top men will withdraw their tribes men in the army that they are sending in now to go and distabilize the place and replace them with non Hausa Fulanis.

They say....... "Na where short man hand reach.... He go hang his bag".


This is a good ground for them. This is where they can flex muscle without crying to Nigerians to beg Bubu that they are out weaponed, out fed and out smarted by the people they are sent to fight (cough! Boko haram. Cough)

That was how one aunty in the bible called her child a terrible name. Poor Jabez had to beg God to was his head and free him from the bondage of his name.

APCNig:
As was about to be done to the adulterous woman in the Bible?

At least Jesus stopped them. He taught mercy in place of bloodshed . What did your prophet teach again? Yeah, stone her. Stone her and let the last stone be cast by her father. Kill, kill, kill and let blood flow like a river if anyone doesn't believe.

What exactly makes him bad? I guess Boko Haram is more of a muslim than him. Cos I have never seen muslims rushout to riot against their killing of Christians. They only discredit them cos they also kills Muslims.
When Muslim terrorists kill non muslims in the name of Allah no Muslim in Nigeria comes out to cry like sick dogs. They just sit back and deploy their best taqiyya when people complain. They just lie and say Islam is peace. None will take to the streets to decry the evil. None will take to SM to denounce them. They become weak to do anything. But just wait until 1 woman is told she can't tie a scarf on her head, then you see them posting on SM, making riots, summoning FG, the coward professor will come out to throw threats etc.
But this one comes with the mindset of peace and Muslims are saying he is fake. Fake because he doesn't support bloodshed and chaos?

I always say it, most Muslims are radicals and believe in chaos and violence. The few with human hearts are golden indeed. Nigerians should see that a certain type of Islam wants to subdue and dominate. Even Muslims from other tribes are oblivious of their plan. They think they are 1 and same.

allthingsgood:
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That's not the point. He was blabbing because such don't exist in Malaysia. Fake imam

Oh, OK. Make them try. World will end in the next 200 yrs and we all rest..

iamdrfresh:
She did d right but hurtful thing.. I appreciate that but it didnt make it less painful!

Awwwwn sorry about that. I hope you meet or have met someone that suits you well.

I have my popcorn and zobo ready.

iamdrfresh:
"you're a nice guy and you're really presentable but I'm in a very serious relationship"


3years later. It still echoes in my mind!

So she should have lied to you or double dated(cheated on her bf with you) ? What exactly is hurtful in what she told you? Are you one of those people who feel entitled to always get what they want?

GamalNasser:
Nonsense he said the truth about Buhari ..Buhari is your greatest enemy not your own ..the Malaysians only turned against him because he supported Homosexuality

He did not say he supports them. He is only against punishing them.

Trusting naija govt to provide security is like trusting a lion with your goat.

Unfortunately the govt will block the victims from fighting back while look the other way when they are being attacked.

To them, he lost credibility when he spoke for the right of women and gays.. How dare he did not commend the flogging, imprisoning and even killing of women and gays? Didn't the prophet tell exactly how they should be flogged, stoned and thrown from a hill? Is he saying the prophet was wrong?