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sexkillz
we were all kids and/or childish once before. If he felt he could handle it, he wouldn't have come to NL to put himself out there. Remember be nice.

Whenever you get to ask a lady a straight forward question like that
1. The mere fact that you are asking, shows you are asking from weak position.
2. You say the girl is a friend. She cares about you just a bit not to want to rub it off on you. She will deny it even if its true.
3. These important kind of questions are best asked face to face when there isn't much time to think and you can read her micro expressions to know when she is BSing you.

Do you know for a fact that she prefers the other guy to you? That she wants him to come ask her out?

Its very easy. When the priest asks the question, make sure you are still standing there to say I do.

Living conditions in USA were too ghetto for me.

You are ugly and dress badly but I have lots of money to make you look good if you Be Intimate with me.
I want to try that someday and see if I get slapped or not.

In a club or bar: Would you like to Have S.ex?
Works 1 in 10 times. Get ignored 2 in 10. Get slapped 8 in 10.

sexkillz:
Who be MUMU? I also played a prank on her jare! 1:1

GBAM!!!
I was listening to the radio show and recognised her voice, next thing she is playing a prank on me. Of course I played her right back. Now where are the tickets.

^^^^ Yet people wonder why men cheat.

Trust me when I say YOU hav the wrong impression of  her. You think cos someone is all righteous etc you can't classify them as bad boy material? You think she doesn't like bad boys? You think she has a choice who she gets atttracted to?

let me tell you smth funny: I once lost a girlfriend to church boy.He used her for a bit and then dumped her azz. Then she came back. In reality, he was a bad boy and a crazy flirt then while I was the wuss. I learnt the hard way

MoneyRule:
that bad huh??then, y r u posting?

duh cos its a public forum.

Errmmm, made for who exactly?

I stand to be corrected:

It depends. If he asked then she should tell him the truth cos lies just don't work.
As for me, I like to know what I'm getting into so I would prefer she tell me herself now that go hearing it from others.

A personal case in point, I met and started dating a lady about three years ago. We had dated for two weeks when I saw this lady had a good potential to have a future with. So I asked her to be my gf. When she accepted, that very moment I told her: there is something I feel you should know before you find out from others: I have slept with two of your friends before. She took it well in front of me but ranted on her friends when I was gone. But that was it.

But I never had any issues with trust, or wondering what I'm doing or where I am etc. My words are accepted for their value. But I'm careful also not to violate that trust.

This is the one thing I hate most about NL.
Many folks here come and drop their bombshell. Hardly will they come back to give us the update on their findings or actions so some of us can tell them "I told you so "

OP, make sure you come back to tell us when you discover there is another guy involved. And please, use this your NL ID. Cos I want to tell you "I told you so "

You have seen this before, and have heard people talk about it many times. But I bet you don't think it is true or it applies to you or the girl.
Girls (esp good girls) like bad boys
You my friend are nothing but a good guy. You are killing the attraction she has for you by being a wussy.
She walks on you, and you just accept it. You even tell her its ok by agreeing to being her friend. My God, you are screwing yourself so badly, its unbelievable.
PS: being a bad boy, does not mean you have to kill, steal, lie etc. Nah, it goes deeper than that.
I do feel for you. Cos I've been as stupid as you many times once b4. Thats why I might be a little strong.

Dude, if you think your heart has been broken at this time, you are in for some real treat. There's lot you don't know about women and I can assure you that you are doing this all wrong and you will definitely lose out.

First of all, cut all ties with the lady. And don't give her advance notice. Just do it.

You see all those jokes about the other dudes, they are about to become reality. She doesn't love you in a romantic sense, and is just trying to let you down easily, gently , softly. I have been there many times in the past and I know. She doesn't see you in the romantic sense.

Within a year, you will wonder what the hell happened to that girl you used to know. When she dumps you finally, and starts hiding things from you, starting with fb, then emails, phone calls, txts and others, you will be shocked.

[quote author=tenderheart!!! link=topic=733028.msg8913179#msg8913179 date=1313212371]hehehe, U guys are so funny nd lovely, U're really cracking me up ryt now, I still wanna be friend wt her, I know she still loves me, I called her yesterdei just to say 'hi', texted ha bout y I ad to delete ha from my friends' list, not dt I was angry, She was positive in her response nd evn replied my text, My problem now is, dere are other guys who are also crazy about her, She tells me bout some herself, we both laff about some of dem wen dey keep sending her gifts nd won't stop calling nd all dt, she'ld tell me I now av lots of rivals( Jokingly), probably so dt I won't mess up, but dere's ds one who is really a nice guy too, nd @ tyms she'ld tell me jokingly dt's her bf, I found out about d gu 4rm doz who know him, I got to realise, He really likes her, nd my baby feels d same tin 4 Him too doe she'ld tell me, She cnt date him dt dey are just ghud friends since high. Schl nd E's been a nice guy, I feel, I'ld send her d wrong message if I shld stop talking to her nd I'm so afraid d oda '9ce guy' myt wanna take my place,
When I agreed we shld just be friends nd dt we shouldn't av ourselves in mind, she was like, y now I won't change my fb password, U can av it as It's not lyk I'ld stop loving U, I just feel we shld do d ryt tin by holding on' she wouldn't agree @ first but later when I insisted, She agreed nd changed d password, den went ahead nd post on d guy's wall on fb, she wants to see him!
Ok! Now, she def knows I'ld go check ha wall nd see dt nd would def get jealous, could she really wanna see him or She's tryna play on my emotions, She doesn't like it when I comment on girls picture too, maybe Shez tryna pay me back in am own coin, lol
It now seems lyk I'm forcing love, m scared she myt wanna muv on wt d guy if he ever asks her out, Honestly, I still want her, quitting talking to her myt be dangerous, dnt U think so Jenifa
ut dere's ds one who is really a nice guy too, nd @ tyms she'ld tell me jokingly dt's her bf, I found out about d gu 4rm doz who know him, I got to realise, He really likes her, nd my baby feels d same tin 4 Him too doe she'ld tell me, She cnt date him dt dey are just ghud friends since high. Schl nd E's been a nice guy, I feel, I'ld send her d wrong message if I shld stop talking to her nd I'm so afraid d oda '9ce guy' myt wanna take my place,
When I agreed we shld just be friends nd dt we shouldn't av ourselves in mind, she was like, y now I won't change my fb password, U can av it as It's not lyk I'ld stop loving U, I just feel we shld do d ryt tin by holding on' she wouldn't agree @ first but later when I insisted, She agreed nd changed d password, den went ahead nd post on d guy's wall on fb, she wants to see him!
Ok! Now, she def knows I'ld go check ha wall nd see dt nd would def get jealous, could she really wanna see him or She's tryna play on my emotions, She doesn't like it when I comment on girls picture too, maybe Shez tryna pay me back in am own coin, lol
It now seems lyk I'm forcing love, m scared she myt wanna muv on wt d guy if he ever asks her out, Honestly, I still want her, quitting talking to her myt be dangerous, dnt U think so Jenifa[/quote]

[quote author=Jenifa_ link=topic=733028.msg8912887#msg8912887 date=1313205408]The thing is that sometimes you won't know when you are breaking someone's heart. This girl for instance, I don't think she's breaking your heart on purpose or intentionally. That's why I asked you if you knew that this thread you created may break her heart if she sees it. doesn't mean you intentionally wanted to hurt her feelings. Just that some of her expectations are different from yours.

I think u should try to respect her desire and be a good friend to her. Over time, you will find that the romantic love you have for her will fade away(yes there is a difference between romantic love and unconditional love) and you are falling in love with someone else. but at least you will still have a very wonderful and true friend if your friendship lasts.[/quote]I agree with you mostly except on that one point. What is it with you women? After shattering some dude's heart, you want to remain friends. Friends fire!!! You do realise being friends make the healing process harder, longer and sometimes impossible. When someone breaks your heart, you take a clean break from them. Till you are strong enough, or over it, don't even say hello to them. Go heal first.

I found it. He has a case to answer.

kandiikane:
^^why you always frowning? Don't want to spoil that pretty face oo. .
Apparently, for me. .ahaha. .I don't know

@deniyor, did you know the op opened another thread asking and I quote "How to nyash his girl"

Lmao I did not know. I saw couple of his many threads but I missed that. Time to look for the thread - deniyor to the rescue

A classic case of a dumb broad.

Op, you already lost the friendship. The friendship line has been crossed. So you have two choices: 1. go your seperate ways 2. Sleep with hm but it doesn't mean he won't still leave you.

I don't have an ex bf so I can't help you there.

Leave the past where it belongs - in the past!
If you were still dating the elder sis, then I would suggest you confess. But you are no longer together, let it go.
We've all done crazy things in the past. Hell, I've double dated my girlfriend's roommate. Even though we are best of friends today, I do not need to tell her anything. Why open old wounds?

If you are not ready or have the willpower to transcend religion or culture, don't date people from other religion or culture. Cos its a lot of work.

kandiikane:
^Have you ever thought maybe the reason why you don't know anything about relationships or still a virgin is because you are attracted to men but hide it deep down because you do not want to be or feel like an embarrassment to your family and the people around you?

That's kinda harsh. Cos a guy chooses to be a virgin don't make him a fruitcake!

kandiikane:
@pweety4me, it is a shock isn't it and just does not make sense. .Even when I found out a friend of mine was a virgin at his age I was shocked. And the thing is he was not waiting for marriage. .

Different strokes for different folks

27, Graduate ( or almost graduate), Virgin. Quite interesting.

If you want to date a lady with no sex, make sure you look for a girl who wants a non sex.ual relationship. Else if you must remain with her you have two options: give in to your woodpecker demands or date her while she satisfies her punny somewhere else (if she doesn't leave you that is)

^ Na lie?