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Crazy abt you or not, its a smart decision to get scare the girl away. If she is no longer in love with her bf, she should leave him then. No one needs a useless girl like that around.

I am with Dsense on this. If a lady is taken, move on and go find a single one. Lots of single girls around. If the lady is willing to take it to the next level, you will never be able to trust she won't leave you for another dude later on. If it is just a fling you desire, she is just not worth it.

myob

Mobo, so true. I tried so hard to be faithful till last week when I met your white gf. I must confess, she even told me compared to you, I'm a s3x god.

I give my approval. Marry her as soon as she clocks 4th wknd.

Overbearing
Very Jealous
Overprotective
Absolute lack of trust

Check all that applies.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]He prolly thinks she's easy.
If she stands firm and he keeps on texting and stuff, maybe he does want more[/color]

More like YOU think she is easy. The guy has not said or done anything to indicate she is easy. All he has shown is he is interested in her.

Doesn't matter what we all think. They are both consenting adults and can do as they please. That said, mind your own business. Go look for your own guy, and if you have one already, go face him.

[quote author=Orton1_0 link=topic=587659.msg7552029#msg7552029 date=1295302170]Lmfao, Wisyno bro, do you know how it feels to finally see one's lost rib?
Bro its like the feeling you get after a finding a needle in a haystack,lol, Then talk more of proposing to her,
As for me o, God knows i've been fooling arround wif the wrong women all my life,
But the moment I set ma eyes on  dat rib, dat 'wife material', huh, i don't mind  licking her feet or
even kissing lil' a** while proposing, regardless irrespective of the fact that the She loves me or
even wants to gat married by all means.lol[/quote]Na wao. It must be really bad for you. Lick on!

Love ko, love ni!
Don't waste your time with the chic. She is playing games and not worth it. Just fashy her for a long time. If she is really interested, she will come to you asking her out. And then you can give her your exact conditions b4 you even talk to her. No be only mountain, na ocean!

Yeah I agree with you. After putting all the effort and money into buying the ring  , and the relationship, I think she should be the one kneeling down to accept my proposal lol  .

Best to do it lying down in bed .

Online relationships usually have a nice foundation. One based on mutualism and understanding. Cos of the online nature of it, people find it easy to quit at the onset if they feel it is not a match. This is provided one is not settling for any body you see online.
For the relationship to be sustainable, it should move from online to physical. There will be a bit of understanding and rapport built up from the online version of the relationship. THe physical part will be a true test of how you can interact in real life.
Summary: For most online relationship to survive in the long run, there has to progress to some form of physical relationship. Else you are still two strangers trying to know each other.

annawhite:
selfish deniyor

Whatever you say. One thing I hv learnt about relationships is this: No one cares about you as much as you do. So never shortchange yourself or settle.

pervert on the loose!!!!

stupid question

I've had a girl like that b4. She was absolutely scared of the first time pain and couldn't take her mind off it. It took about a month to finally get thru. Nice and slow works. If she is ready and willing, little wine to soothe/ calm her b4 all the action might help. Don't mind the poster above me that said a few months is nothing. It is something and lots!
Still, nice and slow.

^^^ No disrespect but you probably wouldn't know if your dad was cutting shows, esp when you were much younger.

@OP
Yes a nigerian man can be faithful. Depends on the individual, upbringing and experiences. I have never cheated on my gf and she is not nigerian.

^^^ lol. If a guy with stomach ache goes to the doctor and tells the doctor he has an headache, he will be given advil ( panadol or similar) to cure the headache. Now face the topic at hand and stop passing judgement.

Tough one.  I do not want to join the bandwagon of those clamoring for his head. Yes he is unreliable, and has cheated. While I do not condone cheating in any way, you have moved past that incidence or period. Although the first instint will be to tell you that you should move on from him, don't act based on a stereotype.
Like you mentioned earlier, 'maybe' he deserves a second chance. You should open up to him and let him know how you feel about him. Let him know that the moment he cheats one more time, you walk away. Walk away if he does it again. Don't get so snoopy and mistrusting. Let him do his thing but be more alert and knowledgeable.
He might not be using you but he is seriously misguided.

@poster
That's a nice way to ask her out. It's a start but know you will still have to go for the kill shot. That is, you have to let her know you do not want to be friends. You will to be more than just friends, you want her to be your gf. Don't assume she knows exactly what you mean. Else she could be going to the movie or hanging out with you just as a friend.
Don't worry, girls shake in their legs too when we ask them out. They will always deny it but keep that in your mind, always.

Ermmm, no.

While she is dating me, I expect she does not even entertain offers from other guys. Face the relationship or get out of it if she is not satisfied with it. For someone to propose to her, what could hv happened btw the two of them b4 the proposal. If someone comes out of the blues to propose to her, then the guy is a joker and I expect she should be mature enough to know that and send the dude away laughing.
If she is telling me as a gist, then i will laugh at it. But if she is telling me cos she is considering it, or as a bargaining tool, I will give her the boot. Cos I deserve the best, and ryt now, she is no good.

I will tell her bye bye in a non challant way. And walk out or walk her out.

Yes I can give it to my gf. I think she actually has it. I trust her.
Moreover it is such a small price to pay to know if someone you might end up spending the rest of your life with is trustworthy financially. I am not afraid of her knowing how much I hv in my account as she is not the gold digging type either. So its a win win.

Lucky for you, the girl wants to quit the relationship as painless as possible. If a girl will not choose you over other people's opinion (even her parents), get rid of her asap.
I once had an issue with a girl that her parents did not approve of me. It took her mind of the relationship and she started looking for backup options behind my back, even cheating repeatedly knowing I would take her back then. It messed up my self belief badly and I began to doubt myself. Eventually I was able to pick my self up and get over it to become who I am today.
Point is, if she has made her choice, let her go. Don't try convincing her cos you deserve more than that. Congrats.

^^^ He can start now. Success will improve his confidence and come handy when needed in that HND1 or college or whenever.

@OP
The worst the girl can do is say no, maybe slap you in the process (if you overstep your boundaries). But I will tell you this, as a man, its part of the game. If you want to hv a good lady at anytime in your life, you hv to be able to take risks. NO MORE DROOLING OVER A LADY FOR MONTHS AND YEARS ON END!!!!! ok? Just approach them and say your mind, even if you stammer it out, you will improve over time. All you need is confidence.

Go talk to the lady tomorrow and tell her what you want. If she says no, move on. No shaking since you will hv saved yourself the emotional torture and hv time to study too. Plus believe me when I say girls are a dime a dozen. Lots of them round the corner!

^^^ I liked the 'inbreeding' version better

Forgiving a cheating wife does not make you a fool or a weak person, in fact it the other way round, it makes you a much better person, more understanding, and more sensible, ( we are not saying those who don’t forgive are weak or otherwise).

This also does not mean we approve of cheating, but what it means or what we are trying to say, is what we never give our selves time to think things over, once we hear the word cheating, we normally would react. Yes it does not matter who approached who, if it was your wife or the other man, that is irrelevant, what is sad but important is that they are cheating, and a solution has to be reached.

Understanding your wife is very important as well as understand why she cheated, we always make this mistake when we hear the word cheat, we dismiss the women, and refuse to have a dialog, you need to, you need very much to see things from her eyes, why she cheated how she felt, how she covered her tracks, what she wanted out of the other person, this way you are able to put things to gather and work out a better relationship plan for the future, there is just no woman out there who would not cheat in certain situation, , unless they are born again Christian, those who think and believe theirs would never do a thing like it, and it happened, should not run a mile from the problem, it so easy this days to just end the marriage just for selfish reason, if it was your good job, and you had some problem with you boss or the job, will you just leave it and walk way. , will you not try and rectify the problem, the way it is with all marriages, problems comes, you look for the solution, the word solution is for a reason.

And forgiving her cheating ways, try and work thing out, so it will not occur again, remember your marriage is for life, most cases when a partner cheats, and they work things out by talking about everything and seeing things from different angles, it brings them ever closer together, please do not forget your marriage vows.

Believe this; every good marriage and long lasting ones are always face with major problems, it all the testing of your marriage to a more better great place.

so guys pls make it a top priority to forgive your spouses even as we enter a new year, women pls let us try to make a diference in our relationship with our spouses it will certainly make the world a better place.


Now 190 et al, what do you think of this version?

fair game? you cousin fit kill you sha
what is the limit for dating family?