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Your ex's cousin is fair game. Infact, anyone is fair game. The problem with the cousin or a family member of the ex is if things get serious. Your ex's family could kick against it if they are aware of your previous relationship with the ex.

Hey it's her choice what she wants to carry. Me don't get the need for handbag that can fit a person's head. But as long as she can carry her bag herself, we hv no probs.

same reason I find it hard to marry oyinbo woman. It's not that our naija women are much better anyways. They can just pack their bags and leave cos I just can't get the husbands did wrong at all. Put it simply, the women got bored and declared themselves unhappy!

Mehn, those women were mostly bitter! Most of them had men who were good husbands, but the women had fallen out of love, not happy in marriage etc. Instead to work on it, they were being helped by parasitic 'friends'. If going by the account of those women, what can a husband do right and not still suffer from these women?

You are reconsidering now that he has quit his job? Why didn't you think about that earlier b4 you both agreed to move to abuja.
Be there for your man and stop whining!

Tell his parents. you will be doing him a whole lot of good. As a very young teenager, I was such a culprit too. The discipline as a result of my actions prevented me from turning into a rapist!
His father will punish him but he will live and be better for it.

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If this is true, it is ridiculous.

I am surprised you took the time to reply my questions, kudos to you. I hv no other questions for you. thanks

Based on your responses, this is my advice to you:
Take time to know her. You cannot determine if a lady is the one based on a 7 wk relationship. People tend to put their best foot forward for yrs and the flaws  can be well hidden within couple of months. Online relationships, however how they began, complicate issues. You think you know Hilda but not as well as you should for marriage. Don't let the age issue rush you. Take your time to know her. Know her in person. It is easier to be patient when you hv 5 mins to reply to a txt or online msg. It is easier to hide your anger or irritation over the phone if you can't see the person's expression of anger or irritation. I will tell you this even if Hilda was younger than you are. If you can't live with her, for any personal or religious reason, live in the same place as her and get rid of the long distance. That is a small price to pay than to discover that 'all that glitters is not gold' in marriage.

Hilda, the above advice applies to you too. Don't be fooled. Take time to know each other, and work through emotional baggages you both might hv from previous relationships.
Good luck.

Dude I feel you. Don't mind all those who say you are insecure. It's true, so what? If I disvirgined a girl, and I sucked as much as you did in bed that she has to go to someone else to experience a climax, of course I will be insecure!

1. What is your dating history like? empty or being dumped countless times
2. what is hers? why is she still single at 40? I meant the REAL reason she is still single at 40 not the official story
3. As a uni / college graduate, you couldn't find any girl in your entire sch during your years there? Are you that wowo or you just absolutely lack game?
4. Wetin carry you go online to start a 'casual' friendship that developed into a blossoming romance?
5. Have you admitted to her that you really hv a problem with her age? proofs 1. your heart sank 2. you lied to your bro abt it means you are also not comfortable abt it.
6. B4 you met her, what was your requirements in women and how hv they changed since you met her?
7. you want kids?

Answer those questions to yourself. Might point you in the right directions. Feel free to post her of course

Kevin,
of course you are perfect for her now. I bet 12 yrs ago, she wouldn't hv considered you ( assuming you were 25 and as mature as you are now). You see how life works is, the older and single as you get, you start revising your requirements in a partner. Based on this, her high requirements hv been so reduced that you now fit the bill, which says much about you.
You know something else that says lots about you? The fact you fell in love with a woman (and one with a kid) over the internet and you are asking us if you can marry her after 7 wks. It just shows you are not good with women, and you do not hv many options to pick from. If you did, you will not hv chosen her. I finished that online love nonsense since I was 20( which I still considered quite late). People like you, once any lady tells you they are in love with you, you go gaga cos you do not believe you can get anyother lady or deserve any better. So my fellow brother, dust up your confidence and go find a much younger and less immature chick and mature together.

You will probably not like my tone, or my words either. But admit it to yourself, its true.

If you didn't think it will go anywhere, why did you put some much effort and emotions into it? It is still mostly long distance now so it will seem perfect till you meet in person and hv a one on one relationship in flesh. Then, what might seem so perfect will not be that anymore.
The lady might seem a bit desperate to hang on to anything ('might' and may not necessarily admit it) including a much younger guy.

At age 25, you should be able to stand your ground and decide who you want to marry. If you decide you can't marry her, you will still meet lots of women that if you gave them the chance, you will feel the same way for.

try magun

only time will tell you.

You hv a point, quite vague tho.

53 yrs old

I'm the one screwing your fiancee. Now back off!!!!

yes, dump him asap b4 you get married and things don't change. You deserve much worse!

Could be cos of any number of reasons from not knowing what to do to not being interested anymore or taking his time so as not to seem desperate.

Take pictures

the washer

I feel you bro, been there done that. Just enjoy the experience for as long as it lasts. Figure out and learn what to do in the process.
It is ok for couples to be different but they hv to do some things together, and let the other person be in other things. good luck

^^^^ fish brain in women u think?

As soon as you know the answer. You keep a man waiting, his proposal may no longer stand esp if you are playing games.

Ivynwa:
I agree that friends should be there for each other in good times and rough times whether married or not, ther's no condition that is permanent in Life. There are times even the most capable and harworking of all men runs short of money and can do wt such help from his partner. Out there and far out from home, we should be one another's keeper.
We should help and it is also wise as some ladies said to help the man get a source of income like help him get a job, talk to work places on his behalf, help him with business initiative, encourage him and even support him financially and other wise just to see him be able to stand on his feet and be able to handle his financial affairs. A mature man that can't handle his financial scenes (ie is unable to use resources around him, work hard and even manage the little or much he makes) isn't attractive to women at all.

Poster your boyfriend doesn't seem like a lazy man though, be patient while supporting him but don't put yourself in financial difficulties to do that too because home is far and you are a lady and should avoid being vulnerable. You sound like you are already did that and I think you should let him know how you feel. If he is as nice as you made him sound he won't want to see you be unhappy and in difficulty all because you have the good heart to help.

You are not strong enough to handle her. She is selfish and domineering with the support of her divorced mom. Best u run away from her as fast as your legs will carry you. This is definitely a misery and divorce waiting to happen.

Let sleeping dogs lie

Mobo is back

It can be an indication of how wild a person is.