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That guy loves himself too much to have any love left for you.

If you marry him, be rest assured it will get worse and you wouldn't hv a life of yours. He is a dictator who has absolutely no respect for you and expects you worship him while he watches sports with his feet on the table.

If you can stand it, go ahead.

Poster no try o. U no abuse the girl well enough. girl is very stupid expecting the world to fall at her feet. and even demanding. You should hv even 'accidentally' tripped her to embarrass her some more.


Did I miss the war yet?

Dude is tired of the long distance relationship.

It can get pretty messy and boring after a while. You need to see each other regularly if possible. sometimes calls just don't dig it.

I just read ur other posts. Your relationship is over. He has a stance you are not aware of yet, NO SEX NO RELATIONSHIP.
Even if you have sex with him, he is not staying (maybe for a little while).

He has told you it is over many times but you aren't listening. When you asked if you are still in a relationship, and you did not get a straight answer, that itself was your answer. If he comes back to you, it's cos he doesnt hv better options available at the moment and not cos of any yeye love. Gd luck.

Get rid of her ASAP or just enjoy while it last. She doesnt give a hoot abt you. Don't even bother calling her except you are in town and you need some quick action.

Personally I love been asked out by girls but different strokes for different people. Don't go asking a guy out if he has a problem with it. You automatically lose value and respect in his eyes. Point is research that about the guy b4 u do.

;d ;d ;d ;d

Congrats.

[s]Proof that jungle fever isn't so bad afterall.[/s]

^^^ Are we talking about the same bible that said the marriage bed should be kept undefiled?
Abeg go siddon. If you don't like what the church, go hang yourself or go somewhere else. Na by force?

RCCG Marriage doctrine:
Marriage is btw two people - a man and his wife. It shouldn't involve a third party (the child in this case). The couple can still get married after the child is born (provided other rules are followed)


You will have to check the full details with the redeem church.

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Real repentance.

I'm in SK not AB. Any special reasons for asking?

^^^^ she is not the type that loves. She is the type that tries to survive and also mortgage her toto for her well being. If you watch the HBO show Hung, she will fit the Ray's wife, Jessica (I think).

Gold digger and LovePeddler she is.

Dunddy:
Mr. think tank! read the post before u make comment nah. said i was done. Ode!
moreover, if we all were to be judged at the first error we commit, there'll never be a courtship dont you think? we all deserve second chances.

Na you be the ode and Mugu. Your girl bang others when she dey date you and you are talking about second chances. I laugh in pidgin.

Cheating is an unforgiveable crime. No matter your sex.

I am here to help you so listen (or read) careful:

1. When a lady cheats on you, you give her the boot. No second chances.

2.The other thing is, you are found wanting in your manly duties if she kept on doing it more than once. It shows you have a lot of learning to do since you can't satisfy your woman. For that one, I will not insult you. You need to go learn - ASAP. To be a real man, you will have to learn to correct the two points. Best of luck with your fresh chance to be a real man.

@poster
You hv gotten lots of good advice in this thread already. You should look for attributes in people when you date them. It is of course important that you are attracted to who ever you choose to date.

You obviously have some odd, 'to the point' kind of guy you like. Well everyone has tastes. You do not hv to consider every guy that comes your way. Take it step by step. First consider the type of guys you are attracted to for relationships. Then consider their traits and see what you can live with.

In considering their traits, you want to hv priorities there. Some are more important than others. I will not say go for a percentage, instead I will say go for the traits you know you can not do without. Some others are not so important and can be overlooked.

Above all, in the last five years of my live, I have come to realise something about relationships, they take a LOT of WORK to keep them alive. When you get a guy you like, its going to be a lot of work that you will hv to put it. Ask any of your friends they will tell you.

Finally, your colleague isn't worth it. Refuse him softly and firmly. If you go for him, he will leave you for someone else later on. He has made his choice in marriage, it's time to carry his cross.

I am going by what she has said. She says she lives in abj and I am simply going by that.
All we need to do is go by what she has told us thus far. You are taking NL way more serious than you should. Buddy, It's definitely time to find a second hubby.

No one knows the true story but there is a good argument for both sides of the coin.
At no point did she say she wasnt dating people btw age 17 - 25. She said she had lots of short relationships and did not get into bed with them. Is it so hard to fathom someone in a relationship and not hving sex? She abstained from sex, and not from relationships.

And who says she might not hv been active pre-17. We all know how it is today.

We can only comment on what any poster tells us. If they don't give us the full picture, we can't help them fully cos we only know what we are told. No need to try plucking holes in people's tales.

Based on her emotional feelings of loneliness and desperation, it's easy to feel the poster in older than 25. However, I believe even those younger than 25 yr olds feel very lonely and desperate esp with the kind of society we have where marriage is everything.

You and I might not believe in whatever the poster is doing, but everyone deserves a break so you do just that. Give her a break.

^^^ I assume you don't mind sharing - for the good of mankind

^^^ Why not 190? If he commits suicide, there will be more girls (young girls esp) to go around btw you and I.

^^^^ I am just enjoying myself.

She is not even done sch and she is pressuring for marriage already? Good riddance to rubbish.
She lost my support the moment she was trying to blackmail him using other suitors. Let her go for the suitors jo. Its her funeral.

^^^^^ I actually thought she was more on the early side of 30. But she said 25 and we will be hv to believe her for now.

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I love your standard. I think they are pretty good but impossible to meet. But lets say for example, there is actually a naija dude (since you stay in abj) that meets those very standard. That makes him the perfect guy for most girls in abj area (for argumentative purposes).

Such a guy will be used to girls swooning all over him and gets to pick the best of the best. So he gets to be picky and have a high standard just like you. If he is of a good age, say 27 (assuming you are 25), he will be looking for someone btw 22 - 25 cos he has the options.

Why will he choose you over all the other girls? What makes you think he will think you are pretty enough. or fat/slim enough ? smart enough or he prefers just plain dumb. Why will he think you are good enough for him.

Don't you forget if you need a baby, all you have to do is open your legs.

As expected, most of the ladies will give you a pat on the back. Don't mind them jo. Yeah, you have not committed a crime. However, in naija, its considered that only weak men will go as low as washing their girl's undies. Personally, I think I will respect my lady's privacy and leave her to do it herself. As you can see, even your lady found it embarrasing and degrading for you to do so. A typical woman will even start taking you for granted, or see you as houseboy material.

Of course, don't forget your rep took a nice deserving hit. Now put on your balls back and try to stick to roles that are more manly and will still help your gf feel good and appreciate your help.

Don't get me wrong, what you did was very nice. It is however too much and quite unorthodox. Stick to the cooking and maintaining the cleanliness of the house. You can leave the actual cleaning and washing (ESP undies) to your gf. She will appreciate you leaving something for her to do.

Too much of anything is bad. Mr too good

Tracey, you still hv 15 years b4 u hit 40. When you reach 40, you can start worrying abt being single at 40 and no kid. Till then, it's your life, enjoy it the way you want.

Mugu #1

She will ask that eventually. She will develop the courage sometime and probably ask it very casually (pretending it is not important).

Another scenario could be she is testing if you are the religious type ( she might hv a phobia for that).

Either way, you are giving it too much thought than it deserves.

Either she is the religious type, and would never date a non christian, or she has not asked you the real question yet.

*singing* *HALLELUYAH*