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Not my responsibility to train any woman who is not my wife.I will let her and her family take care of that. Doing so means she will be indebted to you but does not guarantee love or faithfulness. If she decides to cut the relationship off in her 3rd or 4th yr, you will start accusing the poor lady of using you bla bla bla.

My advice, marry her first if you want a future together, education or not. Just don't use marriage as a tool for bargaining for education.

The guy wants to talk to you, talk to him. You never know what he wants to say. He might be harmless, or might be looking for a way back into her heart. Either ways, you won't know yet but be on your guard till you know exactly what he wants.

Your investments in her stock market is about to crash! It's time for you to pull out whatever you can still salvage out of her portfolio.

PS if your story is true and not exaggerated, don't listen to those who say you are insecure.

newmusic:
Yes i am coming there,prince albert.
are you there also?

I should have been there by now but i believe everything is stage by stage and according to God's will, i believe i will be there soon. I am keepiing in touch with the school over there.

In saskatchewan for the last 7 yrs. Not prince albert tho. Are you going to the First Nations Uni?

I will be supporting westham.

If they are both ok with it, who cares how it looks outside. Mind ya business!

honeric01:
It's a no no to me, especially if it has to do with white garment churches or catholic churches, their interpretation of the bible is way off the mark for me and i can't afford to jeopardize my home and relationship with my future-wife and kids.

They went to different churches when they were dating and are both comfortable with it. You need to show some respect your for partner's church and stop looking down at other churches like yours is better.

^^^^ Poster, I strongly disagree with you on the issue of asking other nl ladies to interfere in the poster's marriage. The poster should learn to handle his marriage. It's ok if he asks faceless individuals online on how to deal with his marital problems, but going as far as getting a nler to call his wife is another level of immaturity. He has exhibited that lots when he gets family and church member to talk to her.

I went through the poster's other thread. One thing jumps at me. The poster does not respect his wife, and he really needs to start treating her with respect. Respect is reciprocal. If you expect people to treat you with respect, you have to start by treating them with such first.

I painfully stopped talking to one of my closest friends recently. He disrespected my lady. I gave him a chance to defend himself and to apologise to her but he wasn't up to it. No friend of mine or family has the right to disrespect my woman. I will never accept that. You disrespect my woman, you disrespect me. There is no way around it.

Poster, stop letting outsiders insult your woman. You should be on her side, no matter what. If you hv issues with her behaviour, take it up with her quietly later on. But first, you hv to let her know you've got her back always.

You seem to be going thru a lot in your marriage. Like a pastor told you, it's your cross. Try to see how you can turn that cross into a blessing.

For one, I believe your story is missing her side of the story. What will your wife say if she were to come to nl to talk about her marital problems? Its obvious she wants to remain married to you but is finding it hard to handle your marriage.

Dude, I know it's a very hard thing to do but you should start paying attention to your wife. I mean serious attention. Look back at the time when you first met, and she was your angel. You would go out of your way to satisfy and make her happy. Start treating her like that again.

You know all the expected roles of men and women in naija marriage, throw it outta the window. A happy wife leads to a happy home. Stop being selfish. Talk to your wife. Ask her what you are doing wrong, and what else she will expect you to do. It will take time but you can still win her love back. Eventually, you will find your self falling in love with her again.

Treat her like a queen. Stop involving every family and church member with your disputes. You both are married, and should hv the emotional stability to handle your fights. Talk like adults. Remember, it is never what you say but HOW you say it.

If you realise a situation is getting heated, cool down, put your hard feelings aside, and make it condusive for a conciliatory conversation.

Above all, be forgiving.

Don't be quick to quit. The grass is not always greener at the other side.

newmusic:
I hope fidelo can give us some info about life over there in Saskatchewan, someone is hoping to be there very very soon, Let us know bout jobs and cost of accomodation over there especially prince albert.

cheerz

u coming to saskatchewan?

MRbrownJAY:
@poster
because they can!

not everybody stands for the vows they made AND the women they got married to knew it but decided to get married anyway. some women are so desperate for marriage that they will accept anything from their man. . . . . . . if a sneaky man knows that then he will abuse it. if all wifeys out there dropped their cheating husbands then a few less men would go on the act.

also we do know that these women that are chased by the married men know FULLY WELL that they are married and still get down with these cheaters so if these skanks wouldnt allow married men then there would be less cheating.

btw last time i checked married women are cheating too.

last but not least, understanding why men/women cheat is stoopid, there are so many different reasons that it could never be avoided. IF YOUR SPOUSE HAS GOT FIRE IN THEIR PANTS THEN NOTHING CAN BE DONE ABOUT IT.

I totally agree.

^^^^^ No need to waste my energy on people like you. All I need to do is 'kum' and you can be on your way. After all it is free, its not like I want to get my money's worth out of you.

You always let other people decide for you on who you want to settle down with? Grow a pair buddy.

It is just weakness and lack of discipline in a lot of cases. Whatever the reason, it is a wrong thing to do.

sexylogan:
@ deniyor: u'r nuthing but smelly, slimy, bacteria-infested fluid from a donkey's dik, donkey-come,donkey-come, LOLLL,

Ok I found the other yabs funny and with some sense.This one - nah, not at all. You either don't know how to yab, or you are out of words,. Maybe you no sabi yab pass the first one wey u throw at me. Anyways try again.

PS abeg u fit help me tell ya lady to wear that sexy red gown with no undies when she dey make our wknd tryst this wknd. As a side note, help me thank am o. she talk say she no go dey charge me again as per say na only me sabi do am well well. I need to teach u some tricks, call me.

Abeg see yab o!!!

I can see my jibes got to logan and viva real good. . Don't give it if you can't take it.

Logan, I hope by now your woman can feed you with the payment for ashewo services rendered. Next time I will brand my initials on your girl so you always have a reminder where your daily bread is coming from.
Viva, it doesn't matter what you can marry or not. Afterall you don't believe in marriage, except of course you only stopped believing in it cos no man found you good enof to even ask for ur hand in marriage. I bet you dance on a dik well enof that I will extend to you the chance of a quickie. Come teach me some tricks.

Nothing as sexy as a lady that's got some fire in her. The quickie offer is still open too.

its all up you. prepare for war and learn to stand ur ground.

Logan, you think I have a holier than thou attitude? This is a no brainer. When you enter a relationship contract with another person, if you want smth and you are not getting it, quit the relationship and go for sm1 else you think can give it to you. You don't breach your contract. This has nothing to do with religion, morality or your sex. just common sense. And this applies to guys like you and me.

Go thru my posts and you will see it where many times I hv admitted to cheating. But as much as I was man enof to cheat, I was man enough to confess it and be forgiven. I knew I would do it again and I broke off the relationship nevertheless. And I did not plan going into marriage with such an opinion. Viva comes here telling the OP to go out and fck everybody available in the name of adventure.

You talk the talk, but can you walk the walk?  My most defining relationship - I hv dated a girl that is by all standards considered a slut, and I wanted to settle down with her as long as she is willing to stop f, ing around or jump on the next emotional wagon. But as they say, you can't make a ho a wife. With all your talk, you can't  even handle such a girl. so shut the f, k up!

This is a place I am entitled to my opinion and zings as much as you or the next person. Go back to the first page of this thread and you will realise that Viva was the first to throw the punch.  You attack me, I go out guns blazing.

Now I want you to answer the question in my earlier post, how would you want the girl to react if you were the bf of the OP. Would you want to know?


Every wknd I go  pick an ashewo up to satisfy my sexual urges. How did you know that. I have a regular I pick up and guess what? She is your wife to be. I guess that is how U know my big secret.

^^^^^ Just like I'm entitled to my opinion and defence. Say what you will, I'm sticking to my guns.

I bet your story will be different if you were the bf of the OP.

mobo!!!! 

vivaladiva:
at denyior----u lack the mental complexity to deal with anything other than the mundane boring conversations u have with your equally boring friends and family---uve spent your whole life threading in the footsteps that others have left behind and at no point have u felt it necessary to unplug your head from your arse and do a lil thinking for your own damn self

Srry I find this very funny. If you had called me a rebel leader you will hv been closer to the truth. well we are all faceless individuals here so you wouldn`t know anything abt me. But I know from your posts are a slut.  Maybe if you come over here, we can hv a quickie  .

Everyone will say a guy will cheat etc but I tell anyone never to stand a cheating partner. If the OP willing to confess and her bf is willing to go ahead (a sign of weakness to me), then anything is possible. Doesn`t change the fact  that she is a ho tho.

PS I will demonstrate my head up my arse soon by opening my own thread that says Viva is a ho, who agrees?
*** Back to my song*** she (VIva) is a ho ho ho ho ho hooo

All those saying she should give the poster chance and more time to be ready for marriage, what marriage? Marriage is off the table after she slept with the first guy that cameafter her. And if she keeps her mouth shut, she is entering marriage with a false pretence.


Prayer - God save me from dating women like the poster and viva. Viva esp Amen.

^^^^ ***singing *** she' s a ho, ho, ho, ho , ho, hoooo

MOBO444:
shameless black lady with no ounce of dignity.

Poster don give MOBO mouth to talk o. Unfortunately I agree with you just this once.

vivaladiva:
deniyor---your not judging her has got to be the understatement of the millenium

ok a spade is a spade but cos she slept wiv another dude she has bcome a LovePeddler
i mean wat the hell is wrong wiv u, have u checked your calender lately its 2010, women have not only earned to right to be cheated on but to cheat on men too---kapish

i must say u have a very narrow defination for wat a LovePeddler is, i wonder wat u wld call a owman that hangs around street corners giving blow jobs for 10dollars---seriously u need to put things into perspective before u blurt out any only tot that comes into your otherwise empty head
she only came here for a lil advice, y send her to the gas chambers she aint done nothing special, she jus met a man dat does it better than her current man or perharps he says the right things

anyway poster from experience, i would say stick wiv the old guy except u dont love him any more or he has done some bad arseshit and u were just hanging in there waiting for aa better dude to come along, now that u got one u can make a sharp exit
dat said new relationships can seem all hot and tingly in the early dayz, four years is a long time to be wiv some one,,,,,,,u wld be surprised how much u wld miss the old dude wen u start dating a new guy-----my ex said somin to me---before u left vivaladiva u were my best friend---we had been together so long u bcame part of me----it is hard to achieve that level of closeness in the begining ---things like that take time and committment====

It's viva again . I hv followed your posts well in the past, and girl I must say people like you give women a bad name. I cringe at the things you type in here. I always try to avoid your posts cos I don't think I can dignify them with my comments. The poster is free to follow your advice of course, hopefully she ends up like you too.

But to answer you, I do not believe in cheating on your partner, no matter what sex you are. If you knew me outside this forum, you will know I practice what I preach on it. And for your info, Yes, years ago, I  cheated b4. And I wish I could undo all that. But what is wrong is wrong, no matter how you sugarcoat it. If you are in a relationship, you should stick to your partner, no matter the temptation.

The lady you mentioned above who takes the money for sex is a love-peddler, tho I get the feeling you are not so different from her yourself. Except I think you give everyone a promotional offer of $0.

Of course not everyone cares for marriage. But even those care about companionship with the opposite gender at some point in their life. But who will even bother being with you knowing how you share every bit of yourself with any stranger that comes calling in the name of adventure. You Viva are nothing but a slut, of course along with the poster.

MOBO, I hv questions for you. Why do you really hate women (esp black ones), what did they do to u to make u really spew horrible lies and stories about them. Do you think your own lady is any different? Or are you just looking for attention?

MOBO why naw? you just called yourself a cheat and a prostitute. Now you can afford to buy that textbook.

MOBO u again! You need to brush up your lying skills. Sometimes I don't even know whether to laugh or get mad at the way your mind functions. You just an attention ho.

You cheat and you come ask us for advice on who to choose? First go tell your bf of 4 yrs that u screwed another dude, then come back here for your answer.
I'm not judging you. Irregardless of my sinful nature, lets call a spade a spade and call a slut a slut.

Summary
1. The fact is, I can't stand your type.
2. Go tell your bf you a ho
3. Stand in front of the mirror and repeat to urself that u are a ho

jennykadry:
@Luvlgenius

The reason why I said it all depends is this, a man doesnt call like he should does not necessarily mean he doesnt love the girl, things might be quite difficult for him and at the same time a man that has introduced you to his family and made some necessary preparations might end up not marrying you.

A man that calls you everyday might all of a sudden after 6 yrs of waiting stop calling you and what do you do? start allover again.

I will say this never put all your eggs in one basket and I dont mean go ahead and sleep with any tom dci.k and harry you come in contact with but the truth is this "He has not married you yet,for this reason you are still single"

WOW
I'm speechless