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The success of your marriage depends on both of you. Your approach and how you deal with issues that come your way. It is not dependent on your parents approval, or lack of it.

My family has toiled and laboured to try making me who I am today. If I am getting married, I do not need their approval. I would want their blessings but its theirs to give. If they do not give it, they will not be a part of my family going forth

Your parents will not be the one to get married to the girl or share the same bed with her. If she is your choice and you are fully convinced she is the one you will want to share the rest of your life with, I will say GO AHEAD.

You do not need your parents approval to get married. There is no space in a marriage form that asks for parents' approval. It is of course wanted in a lot of cases.
Invite your parents to your wedding. Let them know it is your choice, and they are free to become a part of your life, or not. It is their choice just like it is your choice who you choose.

Let me warn you tho, fasten your seat belt, it is going to be a bumpy ride. Good luck.

I understand how you are feeling.  I stayed with some older couple (about 10-15 yrs older) when I just moved into a new town here and it was like I had a curfew till midnyt. Geez, I'm a guy and in your age group. It was very annoying, and I couldn't wait to move out. Not that I stay out late all the time but I like to have the option available.

As for now, its their house, their rules. Try to take it for as long as you are in there. When you move out to your own place, you can play by whatever rules you want to.

That was the storyline on HOUSE last wk.

Hooray!!! Wedding bells and naming ceremony in the air. Take this as my RSVP.

On the bright side, the parents wont hv to spend money sending the girl to sch anymore. She will be wife no# ___. Congrats

Maga, pay up! That's your role.
She has someone else servicing her so her sexual needs are taken care of.
She has another person taking care of her emotional needs. If you want to continue being a part of her life, the only available slot is the financial bf. I know it's not much but its still something.

I'm sure she will prefer if you dont bother talking to her or her folks on the fone. Just send the money and you are good to go.

Poster, your wife wants to kill you and at the rate you are going (fresh to fresh ), she will succeed quite soon. So i advise you to start a bucket list of things you want to do b4 you die. I can give you a few tips:

1. Find out who your wife first cheated on you with
2. Find out the remaining names of the people your wife cheated on you with
3. Find out the exact name of the person your wife cheated on you with and contacted HIV in the process
4. Find out what your wife really has against you that she wants to kill you

5 - 19. Things you actually want to do in life eg. (protected) 3som, travel etc

20. Give your life to Christ. You know you want to be prepare, just in case. . . . . .

Thanks my life has been changed forever. EEEdiot

You want her to lie to you and tell you that you are handsome? Get over it. Take it as a compliment from her. What she means is 'You are ugly dear, but I am not dating you because of your looks. I am with you cos I love you ( or you are rich, if it applies).

Stop letting insecurity worry you. It is bad enough that wowo is worrying u. Who says a wowo person can't be loved?

lemme be the first to say RIP while u still breathe.

Wait for him to fall in love with you. He is your ideal guy and is definitely worth the wait. Your case might end up like this lady here.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-523293.0.html

You have always listened to your pastors why stop now?

nikkykay:
@ Deniyor
Why wuld she break up again?With the lookm of things the poster was in luv with d guy and u expected her to sit him down and talk to him.He wuld brainwash her and she wuld fall for it again.

Hence the part where I wrote, she should be gentle but firm. How will you feel if a guy breaks up with you with a txt msg and no explanations / talk. Be honest!

nikkykay:
@ peelove
I love your boldness my dear.Pls dont encourage the idea of giving a guy money it is not good.Some guys will take u for granted
your guy is meant to take care of u financially and u shld reciprocate by getting him nice gifts.Look for a nice and lovely guy that will love and care 4u please.Since u r working let it be a working class too
If u can just forget everything he has borrowed from u,you will be rewarded in another way.
Takkia

A lady should not expect her guy will take care of her and just reciprocate with nice gifts. In this era, you both contribute to the relationship. You take care of each other. You think gifts contribute to taking care of someone.
If a man's ego is such that he wants to feel like he is the one totally in charge of taking care of his girl, so be it. Else be prepared to contribute and stop expecting you go shopping for gifts as your own contribution. Otherwise, you will always wonder why your guy doesn't respect you.

^^^^ I will be keeping ur wife warm too. Dont mention it, you are welcome.

poster is definitely mr cork

Uclloyd28:
and then stay babeless, in this era? Omo, i no sabi [color=Black]self-service or jerk o[/color]ff, which ever u understand

I understand you well. It is not by force to be in a relationship with a girl at all times. Sometimes you need to do just you. As you can see, it is your need not to be babeless in this era that has made you stuck with two bad options.

When you are married, there will be lots of problems. You do whatever it takes to work it out, and that does not involve jumping into bed with another man. If you cant work it out or you think that marriage is not the right one for you, you get out - Legally. Then you can jump in bed with anything you want!

It is not your friend's position to take care of another woman's husband no matter how negligent she might be. Let her save her energy on how own dying marriage. Remember, there are two sides to a story.

That's a harsh way to break up with someone. After almost two years of a relationship (no matter no twisted), you should hv sat him down and discussed things. Let him know why you are breaking up with him. Be gentle and firm. After that, you can refuse to pick up his calls for a while.

His bringing his mother and siblings to bed you is very immature. Why would his family get that involved in your relationship to the point of them begging you to keep dating their boy. I find it hard to get my mind over that one.

NL could be wrong on whether the guy really loved you or you were just his ATM (tho I doubt that). He could hv been just an immature guy. Either way, no one deserves to be broken up with a txt msg esp with a relationship that long. How will you feel if a bf / fiance of two yrs breaks up with you with just a txt msg and no explanation.

Asking for the money you have spent on him is also immature. Consider it as a gift to charity or smth. The loans can be tricky I know. However, as misguided as he might be, he seems to be in a crazy financial situation at the moment. Be nice.

Goodluck with your nxt relationship(s).

Why is this thread moved to the politics / crime section?

Dude, you still got it wrong. Your wife should respect you well enough to not raise her hand on you. I never accept it from anyone I date (its a deal breaker for me) and I let them know right from the onset. A good way is to let her know ryt from the moment she took the action that it is utterly unacceptable.

Where you got it wrong is to think she can't slap you cos you have been sponsoring her since she was a kid or smth or cos you paid for the entire wedding. It doesnt matter all you have done for your wife or where you are located. She is your wife and should be on some equal footing with you as your partner. So get all you have done for her since birth outta your mind. With that done, she still should not raise her hand on you. Neither should you raise your hand on her. Without knowing, she might hv introduced violence into her family.

2sexy, 190 has a gd point.

^^^^ whatever the story, it is no reason to raise her hand on her husband! too late bro but u should hv reacted immediately it happened to show ur discontent instead of coming to nl. so how did u react?

Get rid of both of them when you can.They are no good.

I see no reason to cheat. Adultery is wrong, no matter the petty reasons involved. Rather than work out her marriage, she resorts to being 'comforted' by the other guy. Yes they both got shytty marriages, but they should concentrate on making it right instead of jumping into bed.

The other guy might hv a 'fake' wife but its none of your friend's business. Neither is it yours.
If your friend's husband is cheating on her, she should sit him down and discuss the lapses in their marriage. Also see if their marriage can be worked out or she leaves. I don't believe in divorce but I feel it is a personal issue. And it is not ryt to stay in a marriage cos of family ties or opinion of others. It is only the opinion of the two in the marriage that counts.

The other guy should sort his marital problems with his wife in whichever way will be acceptable to them. Whatever the case it, it is still none of your business.

If the poster had involved her in the conversation or had made her feel very important at the BBQ, I doubt the gf will be that jealous. If the gf is involved in the conversation or beside you, and you hold her close/ tight in the way that says this is my girl, I doubt you will hv had that fight.

That is absolutely not the way to treat a lady. If she is jealous, all you need to do is assure her. She might be wrong, but she can't help feel the way she does. The fact that you have known a girl since you were six does not mean she doesnt want to screw you, ladies know this very well.

Throwing your lady out of your place cos of the argument, as a result of her jealousy shows you have little or no respect for her. Not the way to treat someone you call your gf.

If you feel a guy is hitting on her seriously, and you bring it up with her. How will you feel if she threw you out cos of the resulting argument? Treat people how you want them to treat you and some acting like someone that expects the world to bend over for you always.
My 2cents

What do you think?

cut off the left hand

^^^^ Genge --- The die is cast!

*popcorn and action movie ahead*

^^^Na fight?