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Like the poster wrote, she is not a learner. What you see is what you get. Don't expect any changes when you are married. Assume this is the final product. Then ask yourself, can you cope? or move on?

^^^^ Yes I agree but pre-intimacy has nothing to do with being romantic. If there is no pre-intimacy and you just jump on the lady and keep pumping, my dear you are not good at sex as a man. There is a lot more to sex than being able to last hrs.

^^^^^ Lemme guess - you hv a woman now that you rank better than all the women friends of yours? And you are currently satisfied with her.
You do hv a point tho.

It is a start. You also need God.

I noticed you missed out the sexual nature of the relationship. Taking good care of yourself helps esp when it becomes a competition with the sweet sixteens. You also have to challenge your man without unsurping his 'authority'. You do not have to give in to his every requests but make him feel like a man and one that is extremely lucky to have you.

@ The Skipper
Men and women can't be friends. Someone always wants to screw the other. Except of course, if one of them is dating someone of a higher preference than the 'friend'. Look at all your female friends, is there one you hvn't thot of screwing yet, even the ugly ones? I seriously doubt that.
If your so called female friend comes into your bed unclothed, will you tell her to put on her clothes or you will screw the hell out of her. Don't lie.

Lacrrissa, you did the right thing by telling him that you are in a relationship and not ready for anything else except friendship. He did the right thing by totally letting u go and ignoring you. The one thing a guy shouldnt do is be friends with a girl he cares abt. It is destructive esp seeing the girl he likes with sm1 else.So his actions you may not like but it is for the best, and not childish. He is a smart dude afterall.
summary - you both didnt like / accept the other person's offer, so u both move on.

Remember - Men and Women cant be friends!

^^^^ The very definition of not good at sex!

Blue Moon Rising. City wins

All Hail City, we are the kings of Manchester!!!!

One thing I hv learnt in life - you can never close mark a lady. If she wants to do smth, she will - with or without your permission . So why stress yourself over smth you can not control. I got more questions that should get you thinking.
Based on your response above, what are you answers to the following questions
1. What does she feel about you, tell you etc? You say you are hot for her, is she hot for you or lukewarm. Your guts should be able to really answer that question.
2. Do you think she can handle male friends. Do you think she should hv male friends? Do you hv female friends or acquitances?
3. Do you think she is the best you can do? If it doesn't work out btw you two, do you think you can find someone better?
4. What will you do if cheats on you with someone else? Or develops feelings with some other dude?
5. Do you like how she looks? Would you prefer she looks good and tempting to other guys or look shabby and unwanted? What attracted you to her in the first place.

You know humans tend to want what everyone else wants. I know these are a lot of questions but the answers will point you in the right direction and give us a some background on your relationship with your girl. Lastly do you hv any other side attraction/gf?

PS thanks for the compliments.

You hv not answered why you do not trust her. What is it about her that makes you not trust her. Has she cheated on you b4? Is she a big flirt? What do you fear will happen if other guys talk to her (and you are not there)?

@poster
Go outside and look for a very gorgeous woman that you really want to bed (and is interested in you of course) and can cook well. Do not bed her (just cos cheating is wrong), instead keep the temptation and flame alive. What you need to do is employ the gorgeous lady as your cook. As part of the employment terms, she will dress in mini skirts and half naked.
If your wife asks you why or what you need the cook for, tell her you enjoy the woman's cooking. When you answer, make sure you lick your lips and look lustfully towards your new cook.
That should solve the problem well enough.

Disclaimer - if trick not well executed, it might land you a few days in the doghouse.

A simple question to the poster:
why do you not trust your gf?

^^^^^lmao

Does MrsRopeto know that you are her boyfriend?

she is not that into u

Only a wuss would wash his gf's undies. Girls wash your own damn undies. While you are at it, wash ours too.

Yes, you can be jealous and trust at the same time. My original post mentioned as much. In terms of relationship, I trust my gf. I am in a pseudo long distance relationship. She is a very beautiful lady and as such attacts attention from a lot of women. Do I get jealous some times, Yes. If you love someone, you are bound to be jealous sometimes. I enjoy it sometimes and othertimes, she is the one that is jealous.

If I do not trust her as much as I do, I will doubt and worry abt her every movement. I will worry abt every guy she talks to or talks to her. I will be unable to joke abt her pretty her babies with the other guy talking toher will be. i will pick up fights and try restricting her movements or her friendship with people. Actions that very much undermine a relationship. I will feel insecure everytime my position is threatened by other men interested in her.

What I am saying is, you get more jealous when there is little trust or lack of trust. You tend to act irrationally in cases where there is little trust.

so you are saying that if suicide is linked with depression, then suicide equals depression? That is wrong. Linked means there is a relationship btw two things. It could be direct relationship, inverse relation, exponential etc.

Basically, what I meant is, there is an increase in jealousy when there is a decrease in (or lack of) trust. And vice versa.

^^^^^ Thanks for the clarification on the dictionary meaning of jealousy and trust. I did not mention trust and jealosy are the same thing. I wrote that jealousy and trust are linked. That is incase you need a summary.

It all boils down to trust.

If you love someone, you experience some kind of jealousy, no matter what. what makes the difference btw those who show it and others like me that seem unperturbed about what the lady does is the fact I trust her very much. I also know it is not who talks to her that is the winner, but Me who takes her home to do all the things the other guy will want to do to her. Therefore the other guy should be the jealous one not me. Moreover, the lady knows her replacement is waiting in the wings if she messes up.

I think I was a little harsh in my first post.
Before you give her the pink slip, burn all her dirty undies first.

Kick her out ryt now! Tell her to go get mugu houseboy if she wants one as bf.

The second man wife no want trouble at all. Hence pretending to be sound asleep.

Studio and others like you (efe, Element etc), if you don't like other people's jokes, or they are recycled or for whatever reason, you don't hv anything sensible to say, then
SHUT THE F-U-C-K UP!!!

Poster enjoy yourself jo. Clap for yourself. Afterall what goes around comes around. Your wife will be abused worse in future so I am not even concerned.
The woman that hangs around people like you even while married is to be blamed too. You are right, she chose her path and has to live with it. You are however wrong in being a part of it.
Goodluck, imagine her being your wife, sister or mother. Cos it will be eventually.

I will be the bestman at their wedding.

Both Landlords and tenants in Nigeria are crooks and dishonest. They both do not honor contracts or respect the other person's privacy and opinions.

Landlords do not adhere to the law and act with inpunity. They readily evict and treat their tenants shabily.

Tenants on the other hand are just plain evil. It is rare to find one that pays his rent on time. I personally feel it is hard on a tenant asking if to pay a year's rent in advance when he is been paid monthly. However, whatever it is that you hv agreed to, stick to it.
Why will you just move out of a rented apt without notice and with outstanding rents. Or cause damage to a property you are renting.
Sometimes I feel everyone deserves what comes their way. Renting in Nigeria is just too much hassle.

u love her but u know nothing abt her! love indeed

I would pay a callgirl for sex, no strings attached. I hv companionship/patnership and a whole lot of additions(both good and bad) from gf. And I do not hv to spend a dime. Giving and gifts are not a one way street. Due to circumstances, I hv gone a yr without giving her anything b4. Didn't change anything or dynamics. Instead, she did the spending/taking care of me.

^^^^ Your calendar dates back to 1910?
It's obvious you are new here. MOBO444 is the NL village goat. Pay no attention to him.

Can't believe anyone is taking MOBO seriously! MOBO go ahead!

Forgive ko, kill ni!
Forget the man. If he can descend so low as to sleep with his fiancee's mum, it is just the beginning. The lady will fall in love again and should not accept that kind of crap from her husband to be.