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tbaba1234:
From all the literature i have read, there are conflicting reports about her actual age, some say 60 others say 80. There is no historical confirmation.

Check out these references
http://www.scribd.com/doc/7090987/2Sauda-Bint-Zama
http://www.kalamullah.com/Books/Great%20Women%20of%20Islam.pdf

I checked d 1st one. I think the most important thing is to show that she wasnt a young woman.

BetaThings:
Salaam,
We are waiting for Q39 from you. I know about school work, but I just like to keep the thread active.

wa alykum salam, thnks

Q. 39 who are those forbidden for a woman to marry

I read a blog and found this. I loved it and decided to share. the link is- http://justsimplyinlove./2011/11/25/john-mayer-daughters/

The encouragement to seek children covers both sons and daughters, and along with this general encouragement Islam has given special merits to seeking and bringing up girls – contrary to the thinking of the people of ignorance (age of ‘Jaahiliyyah’) of the past and present, since the people of ignorance – wherever and whenever found – hated (some of them ‘still do’) to have daughters and were grieved and angered by their births!

“And when the news of (the birth of) a female (child) is brought to any of them, his face becomes dark, and he is filled with inward grief! He hides himself from the people because of the evil of that whereof he has been informed. Shall he keep her with dishonor or bury her in the earth? Certainly, evil is their decision.” (An-Nahl 16:58-59)

But the Messenger of Islam, Muhammad(saw), came elevating the status of this gift given by Allah(swt),
welcoming the daughters, and raising high the importance of their upbringing with words to delight the hearts of the believing fathers and bring joy to their souls:

“Whoever takes care of two girls until they reach adulthood – he and I will come (together) on the Day of Resurrection – and he interlaced his fingers (meaning in Paradise).” (Reported by Muslim)

So can there be any greater honor given to daughter!? And for those who wish to have them and bring them up properly!? And he said in another Hadith:

“Whoever has three daughters or sisters, or two daughters of two sisters, and lives along with them in a good manner, and has patience with them, and fears Allah with regard to them will enter Paradise.” (Reported by Abu Dawud, Al-Tirmidhee and others)

And in another Hadith:

“They will be a shield for him from the Fire.” (Reported by Ahmad and Ibn Maajah)

And along with the Messenger’s(saw) honoring the daughters with his words, we find that he also gave us a
living example in his own actions and behavior – for example,

“One day he(saw) led his Companions in Prayer whilst carrying Umaamah bint Zaynab(ra) when he made rukoo’ he would put her down, then when he stood, he would pick her up.” (Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

So the position of daughters in Islam is very clear and the encouragement that it gives for them, and also the
hatred it has for those who hate them or are grieved at their births! We know from this that hatred in some souls toward something – if found – is not a true judgement upon that thing and this is explained in the Qurân, as Allah(swt) says:

“…If you dislike them, it may be that you dislike a thing and Allah brings through it a great deal of good.” (An-Nisa’ 4:19)

So how many righteous women have brought happiness and well-being upon their families and theirUmmah!? And how many corrupt young men have brought every form of misfortune and trial upon this Ummah!?

Therefore, it is upon the parents who have intellect to accept whatever Allah’s(swt) gift is with full joy and
happiness, whether the gift is male or a female. Since its being a male or being a female is due only to Allah’s(swt) order alone – He, the One free from all imperfections – and Most High says:

“To Allah belongs the kingdom of the heavens and the earth. He creates what He wills. He bestows female (offspring) upon whom He wills, and bestows male (offspring) upon whom He wills. Or He bestows both males and females, and He renders barren who He wills. Verily, He is the All-Knower and is Able to do all things.” (Ash-Shura 42:49-50)

And finally, a stern warning of the ‘Day of Judgment‘ is given to all those people who went (still go) to the extremes of killing their (infant) daughters (or these days knowingly go for an abortion after finding out the gender of the fetus) out of fear of poverty or shying away from responsibility, superstitions or ignorant customs etc;

“When the sun (with its spacious light) is folded up; When the stars fall, losing their lustre; When the mountains vanish (like a mirage); When the she-camels, ten months with young, are left untended; When the wild beasts are herded together (in the human habitations); When the oceans boil over with a swell; When the souls are sorted out, (being joined, like with like);

(When the female (infant), buried alive, is questioned – For what crime she was killed; When the scrolls are laid open; When the world on High is unveiled; When the Blazing Fire is kindled to fierce heat; And when the Garden is brought near; (Then) shall each soul know what it has put forward.” Qur’an 81:1-14)

note- d writer of the blog is sufi. but do we not agree on things we agree on and disagree on the ones we dont? We still all are Muslims. May Allah reward us all and accept all our ibadah.

frosbel:
Hijab is a symbol of female servitude to chauvinistic Muslim Men.

It is a sign of bondage and oppression.

and what if someone decides to be in that 'bondage' like i decided to be.is dat servitude to man still or that to my lord. I bet even in my bondage am freer than u are. . free ur mind frosbel, open your heart to the truth. . tomorrow might be too late.

frosbel:
Of what benefit is it to me , to create a username and claim to have converted as a Muslim.

Sorry that is not what  true Christians do, Jihadists might lie their way to spread deception, in Christianity it is forbidden.

In fact the bible states that ALL LIARS will have their part in the lake of fire.

Keep deceiving yourself.

I predict a major worldwide event will happen in the near future , of such cataclysmic proportions , that Muslims will flee ISLAM in their millions even if it means DEATH.

dat sounds like wat dajjal(some call him anti-christ) would want. He would surely come at a time when the world would already be full of mischief. Arent u surprised that the whole world seem against Islam and people like you are now so many. the practices of Islam seem so foreign, sound to you as old-fashioned. They only show the world is coming to an end. And you would have been warned. But would you ever yield??

[quote author=tpia@ link=topic=810793.msg9638041#msg9638041 date=1322329464]but your wife and your mother are two totally different beings.


the topic is simple enough, imo.

wouldnt have thought it could generate any controversy at all, and i actually felt its tongue in cheek.

I think its up to the man, or the couple to decide because its a private matter.[/quote]This isnt for anyone to decide. op asked so as to know what Islam says of it. it is either right or not.

A woman is to suckle a child and not a man. .


waAllahu a'lam

maclatunji:
At first, I did not get where you are coming from but after a second thought I see your point. Well, I suspect that na over sabi dey worry the Sheikhs who are against it because[b] there is nothing expressly stated against it in Qur'an or Hadith as far as I know.[/b] It is assumed that the husband will want to explore all parts of his wife's body and vice versa. We have evidence that the back door is expressly forbidden and as such it is not up for argument.

In conclusion, I suspect that this is one of the things that Allah has deliberately keep silent on as a mercy/benefit to us!

The counter-view will have to be based on things that do not have primary backing.

there are so many things that are not expressly stated in the Qur'an but for them rulings are drawn from other expressly stated ones. suckling is seen as blood is. A woman who suckles you is like a mother. And of course, no one wld marry their mother.

For a man to even compare his mother with his wife makes her forbidden to him until he does certain things.

I dont even know what a grown man wants to derive from breast milk. .should he start competing with his children over that?? it doesnt even sound good.

olawalebab:
There's an ayah in suratul baqarah, Allah refer to wife as men's garden, and you can enter your garden the way you wish, to me unless otherwise proven. There's nothing bad in it. Wallah alam

that verse is in relation to sexual intercourse. that is different from suckling. A verse also asks a woman to suckle her child for up to two yrs and not her husband

I dont think it is allowed for a man to drink from his wife's bossom.

Anyone whom a woman suckles(to the fill) has become a mahram to her, someone she cannot marry.

For example, if i adopt a little boy and I fear that I wouldnt want to av to always cover up in his presence, I can suckle him and thus he becomes forbidden for my children or me to marry.

But if a little of the milk goes into the man, dr's no harm I think But he should be careful not to allow it happen again.

Happy NEw Year. it is great to have been here with you all, brothers and sisters. . May the following year be better than the previous ones.


May We always ignore Lagosshia plssssss.

@op, thanks for sharing this But , u omitted this-

12.Maria Al Qibtiyya.

BetaThings:
May Allah make the endeavour easy and add blessing to the knowledge thereby attained

Q38
When a woman attains the age of marriage, can the guardian force her to marry?

She can not be forced to marry. marriage to any1 is her decision to make.

tbaba1234:
Sawda bint Zam'a was an[b] 80 year old widow[/b]; the first widow in islam,

can u pls provide d proof that she was 80. I av only heard of her as middle aged at the time of the marriage.

She was also the first woman to migrate to abyssinia.

BetaThings:
Oh, why not?
Good point you made about women and men though
And, Insha Allah, the list will continue.

skool matters, brother.

BetaThings:
Salaam
The above is correct. An alternative which some people actually prefer is for the man who hitherto was standing beside the Imam to continue to lead the prayer. Of course his rakats are less than those of the women he is now leading. After the women have completed theirs, they will remain seated while the man alone gets us to make his outstanding rakat. After the man completes his rakat and, makes tashadud and says salam, the women will now end their prayer by making salaam

One party waiting for the other is legislated in the Salatul Khauf

And Allah knows best

sounds good But wld work when d pple involved have that understandn. for example, d imam going on sujud during recitation can b confusing if d congregation is not aware of it.In fact, i was confused d first time I experienced it.

olawalebab:
When mallam and[b] mu'alima [/b]are talking, ma'mun should just be learning. You're both correct. Wallahu Alam.
Q37, what will be the fate of an unbeliever pior to his conversion to islam has 8 wives. What will happen to the 'extra' wives

mu'allima loun loun, am very much a student ooo.

BetaThings:
Sawda bint Zam'a, a widow
Aisha (RA) was betrothed to the Prophet (PBUH) around the same time, but became a wife later

My question is coming later in the day, Insha Allah

this is one of the reasons it is obvious d prophet ddnt marry many wives as a matter of the flesh. The woman wasnt only a widow but was in her middle age and wasnt described by beauty.

mukina2:
unnecessary deols he prolly didn't read the first posts.

i thnk so too. But my referring him to it can get him to read it.

35.

deols:
i like ds, I shldnt be here but ds question is tempting. .lol

a. One very important mistake people make is the thought that women have to pray diffferently from men. The prophet asked us to pray like we see him pray without making any reference to gender.

. . .let the list continue

b. not saying takbiratul ihram b4 joining salaat.

-When d solaat has started by the time u are joining in, you are to stand upright, say the first Allahu Akbar, before joining in what others are doing,

olawalebab:
*smiles* happy to be back

me is not totally bak sha, but I'll chip in once in a while,

36.

miftaudeen:
salam alaykum to all muslim,
let me ask a question, A person was leading a group of women in prayer after first rakat another person join him then the imam polluted, how can the group of women and the person that joined after he had missed first rakat pay the missing rakat

wa alaykum salam,

THe women and d oda man should complete their salaat separately just like it is done in Qasr prayers

WaAllahu a'lam

and pls, follow the rules next time.

1) is it fair on me?

yes if it is fair on her. She has every right to decline your proposal. u dont always get what u want and that isnt termed unfair.it is just d way thns are.

2) now they are dating, but it may lead to marriage, will she have comitted a sin against God/man for marrying outside her religion shd it turn into marriage?

it shldnt turn into marriage But if it does, she has done somfn wrong and dat is left for Allah to judge.

3) should i also count it that when ladies say they'll do 'A' they probably mean 'B'

why generalise ?? Do all men chase after shadows??

BetaThings:
I will stay here. The thread is interesting enough and I don't think we need to create so many

Q 35
What are the errors that we typically make during salat and how are they rectified? I suggest that we item both the errors and the corrections.

i like ds, I shldnt be here but ds question is tempting. .lol

a. One very important mistake people make is the thought that women have to pray diffferently from men. The prophet asked us to pray like we see him pray without making any reference to gender.

. . .let the list continue

LagosShia knows exactly when to let the others flow in. Until Ashura when their support would be needed again??

Wont be surprised if kwarashia=LagosShia.

[size=15pt]Two eids in Islam, Eid al adha, eid al fitr.
Yaom al jum'ah is termed an eid too but not a conventional eid.

Any other one is bid'ah. no right thinking muslim should pertake in it.[/size]

BetaThings:
^^^
I think the thread is a very brilliant idea. We need to work to make it deliver its potential benefits
I would like posts on how to correct errors in prayers, determining time of prayer, etiquette and best times for du'a, how to strengthen eeman, how to avoid shrik, also contemporary issues like suicide terrorism, surrogate motherhood and many more that can help better understand our deen

except dat u want them in question and ansa format, I thnk its beta to start a new thread for them.

olawalebab:
Muhalimah Deols. Salamun alaykum

w.salam. ow have you been?

more on Q. 34

@Beta things, I tried knowing more about the pillars of kufr and I understand the above are as written by Ibn Qayyim. But, certain things come to mind. If u call anything a pillar or certain things pillars, their absence make it not standing. I mean, a house cannot stand without its pillars nor can anyone be termed a Muslim without the pillars of Islam. My point is, arrogance, jealousy, anger and desire cant(shouldnt) make anyone automatically a kafir.  [b]Rather than call these d pillars, wouldnt it be right to call them the elements of kufr? [/b]I'd c dem as elements since they actually are characteristics that lead to kufr.

                              wa Allahu a'lam

[quote author=Francis-1 link=topic=802511.msg9547238#msg9547238 date=1321200361]Note the portion that says this is a widespread practice
This act is coming from the people claiming holy holy with Sharia?
This act is coming from people who claim they are not corrupt?[/quote]what is d bickering about. the problem isnt the shariah but the people. Who never knew corruption is everywhere in Nigeria. The wise thing u should av done is ask for justice to be served. And if a shariah court finds them guilty and is out to cut their hands, I hope u wont be here talking of how a better judgement could be served. I can tell you are more concerned about discrediting the shariah and I dont blame you since it is what the article sets to portray.

it is a good thing. Nigerians should be encouraged to work out. Aregbesola looks fit

HMMN! I felt like, God catch him heheheeeehhh.

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Re: I Can't Get Off The Religious Section -Is This Because Of Remote Control
« #17 on: 12-11-2011, 01:33:03 »

Thanks all for the advice.


I am happy to hear that no atheist, Moosie or prosperity champion is behind this. Grin

u cant b so sure man!. But it is good u think that way.

[quote author=tpia@ link=topic=729056.msg9551048#msg9551048 date=1321243477]^^got it.[/quote]Ohhhhhhhhhhhh thank God!

I think each government should work more on renovating the present buildings. with that, the limited resources might go around.Rather, each government wants something to call theirs and they give the buildings different colours according to the new government. You end up having some odd looking color mix.

I wonder if some of these schools have plans from inception. A new government comes in, constructs a block of three classrooms, without matching them with other amenities and bam!- they are praised.

well, thats what I c in Oyo state.

kufr means disbelief.

your desires can keep u away from doing what is right. for example, it is time for prayers and then, you desire to see a movie instead of praying. By the time the next prayer comes in, it is time for a TV show u love and then u do that rather than pray again. .gradually, your desire is taking u towards being a kafir.

After all, a kafir wldnt pray just like your desire is keeping you aaway from praying.

EID Al GHADIR is BID'AH. no doubt about it.

BetaThings:
According to Shaykh Ibn Qayyim al-Jawziyyah

The Pillars of Kufr are

1. Arrogance which prevents submission, (to the command of Allah)
2. Jealousy which prevents acceptance of advice and the giving of it.
3. Anger which prevents doing justice
4. Desire which prevents total devotion to worship.

I remember the above with the acronym DAJA

And Allah knows best

think u are right! d last one scares me. DESIRE. sometimes we think we av enoff xcuse 2 keep away from worship(voluntary ones). May Allah help US !

namfav:
cool

i dont know what to bring up i guess[b] i have to go back and see what you all were talking about here [/b]( i hate going back )

sounds right!

tanimz:
So what does shakara mean?

* awaiting the reply*

bhusayor:
*knock knock knock*

who is dat knocking? come in pls. what do u av to say to d shakara issue.