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Mintayo: just curious,pls what is d meanin of WALI?

Wali means guardian. In relation to marriage, it refers to the person who gives the lady out in marriage.

Leyqute: .....wow! I only wanted to know where the briefcase baggage was because I wanted to carry it...shebi na $$$ dey inside

Na STDs dey inside. U still wan carry?

I dont think these ones fast anyway.


And not the government would face the.punishment on their behalf.

This is a good one, ma sha Allah. We should not forget the lessons from Ramadan. May Allah make keeping to his dictates easy for us. Amin.

It boils down to perception then.

I dont think what I bear would affect my relationship with the man I marry. I dont think it would make me less submissive more than I can.

I know people doing well in marriage and husbands who are ok with their wives not changing their names and they are happy.


Me o, I love my family name and not even a Dangote would make me change it. In fact, many of my friends call my name with the surname when in our joking sessions. i dont wanna lose that!

I believe a man should not feel threatened by the wife's need to keep her maiden name if he is not having an authoritarian attitude.That attitude should be a keep off to many, I guess.

The excitement part is really important. When I hear of couples who'v been living together before marriage getting excited, I wonder what for especially when they've had children.

I didnt bother to read the story.

It is an imperforate anus that can be surgically corrected.

It is not new. I saw a post operative case of it, last week.

But why is the picture of the girl here? These things have psychological effects. Journalists should learn their job well, abeg.


Hmmmn. Now I see it is about getting money for the surgery. Well meaning Nigerians should please help.

But naturally, what makes an identity goes beyond the looks. It includes the name you bear, your culture of dressing, eating, etc.

If a ching Ku starts to bear Chong Lee, a lot is lost. If Mr. Lee is chinese and the woman korean, anyone seeing her name would already think she is chinese. Her korean identity is lost.

People who never knew her as Lee may have formed an impression that she is Chinese.

All they have to do is to look up my maiden name which they already know, and work their way backwards.

This will happen only if you use it as a compound name.

But tell me, what is there to lose by keeping one's maiden name? Or to gain by changing to a husband's?

Why would Muslims want to spoil eid for fellow Muslims.

It is either that they are liars claiming to be Muslims or mentally disturbed.

I'd rather think the former is the case.

chaircover: deols, I dont understand what you mean by identity

I am still a very special sister, mother, daughter, friend, aunt, niece, cousin etc

if I changed my name to Chong ku Lee, I am still all these things to the people I listed above.

If your name was Chong ku. That is your identity from birth. Your family is the ku family and everyone who knew you, knew you as the daughter of Ku.

In the future if anyone needed to look for you, as Chong Ku, it would be easy.

But if you became Chong Lee for being married to Mr. Lee, you would have lost that identity.

Some children dont know their mother's maiden name. If they live abroad, they may not be able to trace their maternal heritage.

At this time when people get illegally married without their folks or when what should be marital affairs are now free for all, people of the same descent might have gone far in these relationships before realising that they are a family.

Leyqute: Nne biko telli mi, where is the briefcasebaggage?

I donno where it is. But if you mean to ask what I mean, I fiti telli you.

*STIs(& dont call me ridiculous for that)
*love/mistake child that he may not be aware of, showing up in the future
* girls/ladies hanging on because of what they shared
*sexperience that may not be appreciated by both parties


There are more, I guess

@tbaba, I understand the qunoot and the explanation is a good one.

Beta things answered my question on the khutbah recited by the alfas. It doesnt seem like the qunoot explained here.

If discussing this was too archaic for 2008, I wonder what cave/village the people having problems with it in 2013 came from.


Weaklings calling themselves men over something very trivial. I pity them wives.

Yes and yes and Yes again.

In fact, that is my preference.

I don't want anyone carrying baggages.

Pure, clean. SIMPLE.

Thanks for the replies. I didnt know of his history.

What is in a name??

Seriously, I don't ever understand how a lady is all too ready to lose her identity for marriage.

I thought it was about complimenting or being complimented and not about becoming somebody else.

With men seeing it as their God given right to take that identity from her is even more mind boggling. I would like to hear Why and see it from their perspective and try understanding the rationale behind it.

WE are not talking of a 13 yr old here. The woman is 25 for God's sake. I wonder what the father wants to do with her when elsewhere, 19 y.olds already live away from home.

I assume the Etsu's palace is large. There is usually a side of the house for women. That should be where she lives.

When she's ready for marriage, the Etsu can be her wali.

[quote author=tpia@]nothing wrong with recognizing his dad's contributions.

besides, in yoruba culture, omo to ba se rere, ti baba e ni.[/quote]Alright. Nothing wrong with recognising his contribution. I am only pointing out the God's will part.

People are thanking Fashola's father as if he created his son.


Great Men are self-made sometimes and not born. And either way is only by the will of God. #justsaying.


May Allah forgive baba's sins. I hope he was fasting and prayed well.

This poster sounds genuine.

Not to be ignored please

Did Biu die before Abacha?

Was he ever tried by any government?

Is he alive and well?

Msdarkskin?? Welcome :-)

Ayoobscom: At my age 5 to 12,by now my new clothes would ve been ironed and kept under my pillow, I check on it each time I wake up to ease myself,and i iron it like again on the salah day to straighten the gator..

And upon returning from Eid,I headed to play street football with same pampered clothes...

I missed those days lol

Why stop? You can do that still.


I like to make my eid special. I am hop3ful that nothing will stop the 'special' that goes with it.