Yewandequeen: i dont support the curse but the dude uttered total rubbish. No amount of flaw the woman has must make a man to hit her. What happened to him walking away? Some men are just animals pls.
Modified for those Quoting me: And by walking away doesn't mean leaving the marriage always, it only meant you leave the premises(taking a stroll out, drive out, go to the room) till both parties are calm and you both sit down to talk about it and work on lasting solution. And it is not in all cases that the woman is razor mouth! Pls Beast in Men form beats their wife's for saying no to sex when tired/not in mood, even when their meal come out late! Etc Does the aforemention deserve hitting. No SANE human being should ever think of hitting the spouse just because they are provoked.
If your spouse's misconducts cannot be contained, corrected nor controlled and you think the next action is to turn a boxer, Then simply leave the marriage.
The fact remains No To Violence from both gender... Period.
Well, you ladies only project the physical violence of the abusive and not the emotional and psychological violence of many wives that has left many husbands as walking, talking shell who come to the open to expose what their wives are doing to them at home. When a husband manages to speak up, you women will him down, accussing him of "not protecting his wife", he's openly ridiculing his wife", he's playing the victm", he's not man enough to handle his wife at home" and the public bullying forced abused husbands to remain with his "harmless" abusive wife, becoming hypertensive, depressed and one day he drops. His wife gets all the sympathy of "young, innocent, unfortunate widow". Until one of you one-sided argitators' brother becomes a victim only then you admit the domestic cruelty of some wives. Domestic violence and abuse comes in different forms and expression.
PassingShot: I read a NL thread https://www.nairaland.com/7077990/why-tinubu-lose-osinbajo-apc#up suggesting reasons why PYO will defeat BAT in the APC primary election to select who flies the ticket of the party in 2023 and I could not help but to laugh at the naivety and desperation of the writer. Well, without paying any attention to the weak and unfounded reasons he presented in his article, I make bold to advance the following arguments to conclude that Jagaban Borgu remains the only candidate who will win the primary contest, barring any last-minute jettisoning of primaries for consensus which is not even contained in the constitution of APC.
1. Tinubu’s political structure and machineries Even, his political foes will attest to the fact that BAT has built a well-oiled political structure that has not only survived the best of political warriors in OBJ and GEJ (with federal might), his structure has endured the worst of political earthquake and has remained very solid and functioning. In the primary contest for the presidential candidate which will be decided by delegates from APC across the 36 states, Tinubu structure will come in hand to deliver the goods.
2. BAT’s political alliance This is somewhat related to the first point but not entirely the same. In the course of single-handedly building and strengthening his political base (ACN), Tinubu it was who took ACN into alliance with CPC, ANPP, a faction of APGA and a faction of PDP. In fact, most political watchers agreed that the 2 most important figures in that successful alliance that produced APC are Buhari and Tinubu. The rest were only needed to make up the numbers and the spread. BAT has since that alliance built a working relationship with strong politicians in the north. The likes of Ganduje, Ribadu, Ado Dogawa, Ahmed Lawan, etc. are staunch Tinubu’s supporters who will deliver the delegates from that side of the country.
3. Neutrality of PMB PMB remains a political juggernaut whose support and influence can, to some extent determine who wins the APC ticket. From what I have read and heard, it was this support that Osinbajo was looking for that delayed his declaration. Unfortunately for him, PMB did not assure him of anything, instead preferring to be neutral and asking all the contestants to work hard to win the ticket. While it is possible for PMB to have a preference for PYO (highly doubtful), Buhari has demonstrated many times that he handles situations like this with utmost maturity and fairness to all involved. If he has forgotten how BAT deployed his resources to make him defeat Atiku and Kwankwaso in 2014 and to win the presidency in 2015 and 2019, he will surely be reminded by his close allies like Ganduje and the Senate President of this fact. And Buhari will choose to remain neutral. It is PYO who needs PMB so much and not the other way round.
4. Clear message of endorsement by the APC Senate and Rep Caucuses Not many watchers of political development will have missed the enormous support Tinubu enjoys from the APC senators and representatives. They are not hiding it and they have been saying it loud and clear even to the hearing of PYO. You only need to watch the Senate session when BAT paid the APC caucus a visit to intimate them of his ambition. You can also listen to Ado Doguwa’s recent interview on the same subject https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xqe6AQllcPA and here https://www.nairaland.com/7079123/doguwa-speaks-bola-tinubus-aspiration. I also read that of the seventy-something invited by PYO for Iftar, only 24 or so honored the invitation with majority of them spotting facemask with BAT logo. These speak volume about their position. They are the people that matter in this election and they are not politicians you can intimidate to change their mind. They believe in BAT and they are ready to reward his past support for them too.
5. Osinbajo has no political structure After seven years of being the VP of Nigeria, it is a fact that PYO has no political base or structure of note with which he can be guaranteed of delegates votes. This is someone who lost his polling booth in the last general election. Irrespective of whatever sentiment anyone in the party top hierarchy may want to have for a PYO candidacy, they will realize what a dangerous option his candidacy represents for their party and they will bury the thought without wasting time.
6. Perception of PYO as someone who cannot be trusted Like it or not, Osinbajo’s declaration has portrayed him as someone who cannot be relied upon. In politics, the currency is loyalty and anyone who is perceived as not loyal is usually avoided by those who matter. Even among those currently propping the professor on, there are those who will be murmuring within their heart that the VP cannot be trusted not to betray them at some point, especially if he becomes president and thus untouchable. I will personally be weary of such character too. Yes, he has the constitutional right to contest but he has thrown morality to the dustbin by standing up to challenge his one-time political mentor. I read a piece about how Tiinubu reluctantly agreed for Osinbajo to be the running mate to PMB out of the three names suggested to him. The fact that BAT’s choice was still going to be picked and that he eventually agreed to PYO being named as the running mate is enough for our erstwhile star boy to abandon his ambition for BAT’s.
Anyway, let’s see how far the support of sycophants and traducers of Tinubu can carry him in his quest to wrestle APC’s ticket from Jagaban.
Passingshot (O.S. Olayiwola)
In spite of these advantages, yet Tinubu's camp is in panic about osibanjo's declaration....
cj1900: Hi guys, I won't take much of your time. I have a very delicate matter in my hands and I need diverse opinions please.
Background I don't live in Nigeria but me and my wife both have a very comfortable 4 bedroom duplex in Nigeria. We have a one year old baby. I have been in Nigeria for 5 months now and I will be returning to UK in a few weeks.
Ever since I've been in Nigeria, my cousin (mid 30s) has been with us. Quite frankly, it is not very easy for him at the moment and i do care about him as a brother. He is in the process of processing his visa, so its not as if he is loafing about.
The plan is that both me and my wife will be taking turns in visiting each other for the next 2 or so years until I return fully to Nigeria.
The problem The problem is that I do not feel comfortable leaving just him and my wife under thesame roof whilst I return and he is not showing any signs of leaving when I return to my base.
So, this is my situation and I don't know if I am being insensitive.
I married a very good wife and under most circumstances, I trust her. I am just not comfortable leaving my wife with any man atall under thesame roof.
I need your opinions pls.
Bros, back in the days when there was sanity and respect in our society and families, such was no issue but today? Don't try it. Don't be sentimental with it. You can assist him find somewhere else to stay while your wife stay alone. 2 of them under one roof for weeks and months in your absence? Bros, life and people of today no be like in the 1980s again ooo.
If you don't have a coaching training and License you can't be appointed as coach. Okocha is not interested in coaching, he can't be appointed as coach and he can't transfer his skill to another by coaching. Skill is a gift and it's can't be taught.
Karemarealty288: Why can't these two puppies give us space...we dey talk say Buhari wan borrow another money and these ones dey fight over toto-crackism and preek-loothing....this is the lowest level of idiosyncratic idotism and total neglect of cybercromium peaceful coexistence...pure manifestation of primitivity and inferiority complex 2⁰..... make I continue?
INTEGRITYA1: "In as much I don't like trouble, I don't shy away when I see one". Kpokpogri 2022
It seams Kpokpogri is a good match for Tonto.
Obviously, Toxic dramaqueen Tonto met her match and she's running berserk. Churchill escaped for his life and sanity and he's better for it. She can't do without attention hence, she would always cook up something for her pityparty maniacs to feed on
Lordmech: One of my colleague at work came begging for cash and I ask him. What happen to your ATM or salary and he reviewed that the wife is the one who sees alert and holds the card.. I was shocked. My pipo is this love or stupidity?
When a man discovers that his wife is loyal, financially and economically prudent, such a man is blessed and he can safely leave his life in his wife's hand without fears. But if his wife is not of the above category and he still gives her power, something else involved...
illuminutty: Stay away from his phone. What you don't know won't kill you. Why do women like giving themselves unnecessary HBP by checking their partner's phone? It doesn't make sense.
Evidence of an insecure woman and sadly it can't be cured by her husband because it depends on her, just as flirtatious men can't be stopped by their wives. An insecure wife will always find a reason to remain so but she'll keep blaming her husband for it.
robosky02: 2022 World Cup: Babayaro names two people responsible for Nigeria’s failure to qualify
Former Nigeria goalkeeper, Emmanuel Babayaro has said current goalkeeper trainer, Alloy Agu, and the president of the Nigeria Football Federation (NFF), Amaju Pinnick are to be blamed for the country’s failure to qualify for the 2022 World Cup.
The Super Eagles lost out on away goal rule, after drawing 1-1 at home with Ghana on Tuesday.
Babayaro, who won a gold medal at the 1996 Olympics, said, “For me personally, I will lay the blame on goalkeeper trainer, Alloy Agu. He has been the goalkeeper trainer for many years and has failed to bring any improvement on any of the goalkeepers. And also, he has not brought up a new goalkeeper into the fold. So, why is he a goalkeeper trainer?”
He added, “Football has a lot to do with psychology. Uzoho after conceding that goal was shaking because it was a flop for him to allow that ball to go into the net. It takes a lot of character for the goalkeeper to come back better after such a goal.”
The former Super Eagles goaltender also laid blame on the doorsteps of Amaju Pinnick.
“There is no teamwork among Super Eagles and the Nigeria Football Federation (NFF) because in a situation where only the President is in charge of everything. The President of the Federation is the Chief Scout of Super Eagles. He has been the one traveling to Europe to convince players who were not born here and don’t know much about Nigerian football to come and play for us.
“How can you bring strangers together and expect them to do the work of brothers? They cannot play with that urgency because they don’t know the history and the rivalry between Nigeria and Ghana and what football means to the average Nigerian,” he concluded.
Alloy Agu as a goalkeeper was average and worse as a goalkeepers coach. Since he's coaching our goalkeepers all of them have made match costing blunders, which means he hasn't been able to improve their quality. As a goalkeeper his blunders reached climax in Senegal 1992 and against Ghana in the semi-final which Nigeria lost 1:2. When the world cup qualifiers started Westerhoff had to go get Wilfred Agbonavbare from Spain who had improved so much from the 1984 Wafu cup mistakes. He had become the 2nd best keeper in Spain. Alloy Agu was relegated to the 3rd Choice within as Peter Rufai also came out of his 4yrs hiatus from Super Eagles. One wanders the of reasons why Peter Rufai has never been appointed Super Eagles goalkeeper trainer since he's returned from Spain after qualifying as coach. In a crucial match like this, even if the team struggle, the keeper's heroics could save the team and save the day. Alas, Pinnic made the mistakes of allowing Rohr stay too long when the has started to deminish in quality after AFCON 2019. If a new and more competent manager was appointed say since start of 2021, the manager could have had enough time to ungrade the team before these crucial matches. Eguavoen is just the fall guy, the scapegoat of the team's failure, the team was already in a free fall.
TheGoodJoe: Jada is just full of herself and it is because of the way Will worships her. What is there in that joke
She has a shaved hair style and he said watch out for GI Joe 2. It is funny and hilarious. I does not mock her in any way. Even Chris laughed and said that was a good one.
Will Smith laughed because it was just a hilarious joke that matched her hair style. Nothing today do with her condition.
Then the high and mighty queen who feels she is beyond the level of anyone frowns at her husband for it and he goes RoboCop on Chris.
No excuse. Will Smith had his highest jonsing on his memorable night.
FERNANDEZISBACK: Nonsense if I must say.. Is that how you will go about slapping random men cos of a mere joke.. people really need to work on their emotions..there are things you wave off tho..
Walking up to a grown up man just to land him a slap is not only rude but mindless After slapping you went ahead to use slur words on him..for what? ..
No excuse for that disgusting behavior..I love the way Chris handled it like a smart Chap.. I really hope Chris finds a place in his heart to understand that Smith was only being childish..
Will Smith is an emasculated man desperately trying to impress his unfaithful wife and to earn her respect. Such a low level to descend to, he's a damaged and by this action of his he's doomed.
Johnrake69: The peace Europeans enjoy today was paid for by Africans. Before the Berlin conference Europeans where always at war with each other over resources. And they thought instead of fighting ourselves for resources let's go to Africa.
You're historically knowledgeable and right. Europeans are habitually war mongers from centuries back. Some of their technological advances were the results of their need to have military and war advantages over each other. Their determination to kill relentlessly led to the invention of military hardwares of mass killings. The 2 world wars was btw them but they pulled their colonies into the wars and used African resources to fund the wars and rebuilt the ruined cities afterwards.
When it comes to football or sports in general, most African teams usually play dirty especially if the opposition is formidable. Ghana doesn't have much in their tank right now but their disdain for Nigeria is a huge motivation for them to play like wounded lions. Since, Nigerian artists started ruling the music world, Ghanaians have been all over YouTube cry blue murder raising one accusation or the other as why Nigeria artists are dominating the Africa and the globe musically. So, you really know people with inferiority complex play dirty, don't surprised at the length they'll go. I only wish our Diaspora born and raised players know the pride and rivalry at stake and be ready to poop on the head of the Ghanaians, home and away.
Sterope: I will never understand what drives Africans to eulogise people that don't care about their existence. The juJu behind white worship must be extraordinary.
Some of do it out of stack ignorance, others out of inferiority complex and some, from pure self hate...
Amojii: I do not see any rivalry here...Ghana pass Nigeria any day any time super eagles are overrated, Ghana has won Afcon 4 times, Nigeria 3 times Ghana has won Nigeria 21 times, while Nigeria have managed to win Ghana 10 times, then both sides have draw 18 times, Statistics shows that the odds favours Ghana to win on aggregate.
Most of the statistics show were obtained when Ghana was a force in 1960s- early 1980s. Ghana won their last AFCON in 1982, that's 40yrs ago by that time Nigeria has only won one AFCON. From the 1980s, its either been par or Nigeria have victories. Check the history books
Igbodicool: Wike should get ready to return to his father's compound in Bini. 80% of Ikwerre clan are pure Igbo aborigines. Wike did all to spite the Igbo as a normal Bini man, but time shall tell.
But there is no difference between Umahi and Wike.
Wetin come concern Bini people for this matter? The group didn't say anything about Bini people but your typical hateful soul found a way to inject Bini into this unrelated statements. Igbo leave free and excel in Benin, own properties, marry, dominates trade and businesses in Benin without any hindrances or bias against them but your hate must find expression against Bini any how.. Quit hating, its not good for your soul.
My question is, what Mrs Obianor accomplished by herself? Honestly speaking I don't know her but I will want informed person here from Anambra to educate me about her. Maybe from that I can understand the reason for her arrogance to the point of dishonouring Prof. Soludo on the day of his swearing in to office. Before Bianca married Ojukwu she was already famous as the most beautiful girl in Nigeria and Miss Intercontinental beauty pageant. She was a beauty in full definition of it and still for her age. Her family reputation is also well documented as her dad (Chief C.C Onoh) was a rich business man, former guvnor of the old Anambra state so, she was raised in affluence, power and exuded same by her natural prowess. Who really is Mrs Obianor?... Anambrarians make una educate me.
Mynd44: I like Ebelechukwu die. Action woman. See her adjusting her weave ready to raise hell and keep the fire burning. Her husband no even stand up, he knows whatever happens, his wife is like an Onitsha thug, she can take them all.
Ebele was in no mood for nonsense ooo. If you do anyhow, you see anyhow right there and then.
Did you imagine if Chief Odumegwu Ojukwu was alive and there or if Bianca was in good relationship with Ojukwu's children, would Mrs Obiano had tried this thuggery? I don't think she for get the liver to try am...na Willie Obianor himself for use him bia bia sweep Dim's compound for apology..
dettolgel: Instead of Africans to pursue self development they are busy getting distracted by word.
The idea of dwelling on this so called wokeness is an idea developed to distract the black Americans from focusing on the real issue and it is shame that Africans instead of asking the real questions and doing the heavy lifting required to emancipate themselves from poor governance and backwardness they are busy chasing shadow.
Can someone ask the lady if her Muslim brothers allow their fellow Christian brothers to marry their daughters?
Most families will stay take the piss on their wards choice of partner because of tribal differences. When are we going to fix the rot in our homes?
Like the teacher rightly said it is Finnish culture if the lady does not like it she can take her child elsewhere. Imagine the hatred this woman is trying to put into the mind of a 4 years old. Poor child. Children are not born with hate or bigotry they are taught by parents like this lady.
If you some of you know the psychological impact of racism or experienced it real time in the western you won't sounding so righteous. This is exactly why the white people find us easy to deal with because we find excuses to exonerate them and blame ourselves. This is kind of game is used to keep their people consciously seeing Africans as inferior race, to be exploited and looked on generation after generation. What has the Finnish culture got to do African continent and history? They have started indoctrinated children to keep their narrative of Africa and Africans.
xpressionx: Somebody started with grilling vulture on nairaland, he deviated and started doing sai barber. Can we please donate Iyaebe to gift him a live vulture so he can come back to his senses?
ImaIma1: Your wife's family really exhibit a rare kind of wickedness. And your wife is soo soo soo gullible. Those things they advised her to do to you and against you, do they do them in their marriages.
The fact that your wife took everything they said says more about her than them. I am the last child too and I have 3 sisters. Thank God they are not wicked people. But if they were, they can't even adivse me that way, and if they do, I won't follow such stupid advice.
Thank God, they have retraced their steps. However, it is more because they were caught and not because they repented on their own. I think you should let them know that a member of yoir family knows. You don't have to tell them who it is. That will further keep them in check.
I hope things are better now. Gives us update.
Consider the bolded, it's not rare any more. Why many young married ladies detest their in-laws and find ways to instigate quarrel between them and their son and force him to avoid his relatives, these same young wives exposes their marriage to her own families, get instructions from her own folks to run her home and how treat her own husband. The unsuspecting husband end in strong of his in-laws who would pretend to be neutral until there's misunderstanding btw him and his wife then, they 'll bare their fangs at him because he had no idea that he's been held down. It's not rare I've seen it and some of my male friends have tasted it too.
juman: On this issue the gov. behaving like the west reacting to russia. He refuse to address the concern of obaseki and his followers. They are saying they are marginalized in pdp. But instead wike abusing them. That is not good enough.
Hope the pdp national leaders take note of what obaseki and his followers are complain about.
Don't mind Wike the bully, he's blackmailing Obaseki to fool the shallowminded people. They refused to accept and integrate Obaseki followers that decamped with him from apc and they addressing it as people who want to take over the party what shame. Wike has his own ambition but pretending to be generous and blackmailing Obaseki. Wike is too thuggish and bully everybody. Those calling Obaseki a betrayal are ignorant of the real situation but are fooled to attack Obaseki.
czarr: women are the sexual selectors...as long it's not rapey then the responsibility is on the woman. How many men wanted to have sex with you that you let have sex with you? Men can only try, women remain the sexual selectors.
Exactly! No man can see a lady's undies if she says "No"! Hence, men have to appeal and decision is still hers to make. If she say no but the guy forces his way, it becomes rape and a crime.
czarr: women are the sexual selectors...as long it's not rapey then the responsibility is on the woman. How many men wanted to have sex with you that you let have sex with you? Men can only try, women remain the sexual selectors.
No man can see a lady's undies if she says "No"! Hence, men have to appeal and decision is still hers to make. If she say no but the guy forces his way, it becomes rape and a crime.
BluntTheApostle: For as long as you continue to fixate on physical abuse, domestic violence is going nowhere soon.
Domestic violence includes:
1. Physical (typically used by men)
2. Verbal (typically used by women)
3. Financial (both genders are capable)
4. Emotional (both genders are capable)
5. Psychological (both genders are capable).
You can't reduce domestic violence by fixating on reducing physical abuse.
Emotional abuse is even worse because it is subtle, and the victim may not know that they are being abused.
If you as a woman are a chronic nag who resorts to hurtful words to hurt her husband, if he hits you, do not think he is the only one guilty of domestic violence. You both are guilty.
I have tried to sanitize society the best I could, but seems like you people just want to play a gender blame game, instead of tackling the malaise head-on.
Bless your soul. This is how some women deliberately mislead other women and promote the perpetual victimhood narrative which most of the most toxic women revel in.
QuinModah: Domestic Violence Is An Accepted Nigerian Epidemic Domestic violence is a funny problem because everyone online fights against it and indoors dey practice it
Domestic violence is not an issue of today its something that is done regularly in our society and its often commonly overlooked , there is no Nigerian that hasn't seen a man beating his wife , from neighbors to friends even movies show it, its a common thing here, when kids or young boys see men beating their wives they accept that its the way to handle issues , the fact the social media has made it possible for people to reach out Doesn't mean that it will stop , its normal to nigerians so stop hoping for any change , instead be observant
The problem is the women not the men b4 u eat me raw hear me out
Antelope when know wetin lion be has no business staying in the same house with it - jude 2017
If a woman is dating a man , it only takes one incident for her to know that he is a violent person , maybe one day she annoys him and he insults her or slaps her a normal woman with brain in her head will run away from that relationship no matter how hard the guy begs but when this happens to most women they will stay because of love or they are desperate for marriage if he is rich , they will be hoping that he will change over time. When you marry a man that has slapped u b4 or is quick to insult u , expecting marriage to change him is desperation my sister
If u know that ur man is hot tempered and you're desperate or u love him them learn to handle him , dont talk back at him when he is angry , become a sheep after all you're the desperate person , if ur brain they work u learn to live with it
When u see news or stories of a man beating a woman , don't be deceived the man didn't just beat her for the first time that day , he has been doing it for a very very long time , na that day own u hear
Most women will talk bad about it but when it happens to them they are quiet , the common nigerian thing of no be my matter people go hear
Conclusion; Nigerian society encourages it , even our leaders beat their wives , ebonyi state governor , if a random man beats his wife and he is arrested , he wouldn’t be convicted because even if its a crime they dont see it as one , police will tell him to calm down and na woman she be , in short they will call the beaten wife and advice her to learn to respect her husband
This is us , its the way we are , when we now see threads about it , guys that beat women will be shouting no its wrong as if they are any better , all na internet holiness
its simple my sisters
From you're mad to a slap to push to punch to beating to knife to strangle to I will kill you till he eventually kills you
The domestic violence thing isn't an individual problem its a Nigerian problem
if a man slaps u, insults u or gets angry easily dont marry him run as fast as ur legs can carry u
The funny thing about this piece of write-up is that it assumes that only men abuse women in all cases which is a terrible fallacy and malicious propaganda. The author is either naive of the scope of what constitutes domestic violence or she's only wanted to bash men in an offence that's almost a 50-50 occurrence in our society.
Family › Re: Domestic Abuse: All The Women In These Pictures Are Dead! All Within 5 Months by DeRay98(m): 5:37pm On Apr 15, 2022
