LOL. It's like I need a microphone for the deaf people at the back.

passionberry:
what is this one saying? How does this your post relate to this topic?? Guy get sense small na..

Feminism is not a problem. In all sincerity, it is inevitable minding the shift in narrative about the concept of "bread winner". Men simply have to understand this and adjust. However, in cases where the man still carries the load of providing for nuclear and extended family almost exclusively, the woman should do and be a good African wife. No story.

cococandy:
I don’t know what you meant.

And this confusion stems from reading comments of people (like you) who accuse feminism of breaking marriages and “against good values” yet the greatest value of love, fairness, oneness and togetherness isn’t something they agree with based on their comments.

In that case, must be dating around. Good for you sha, gather the experience while you can

ibkayee:

Lol I wish, give me about 20 more years and I’ll be qualified

ibkayee:

No none of my husbands are cheating on me

Good to know, sugar mommy

There is something called shit and many Nigerians are so full of it. Basic amenities provision, and their polithiefcians becomes a God.

ibkayee:
What does being 'loyal' even entail in this case though? Because we know to most Nigerian men being loyal means putting up with their shvt like a ragdoll

A 'rebellious' one could be one who did not put up with his cheating for example and 'broke the home' by retaliating negatively like a normal human being and/or leaving. To Nigerians the home was broken because she did not forgive him, not because he cheated

Not saying this is what happened between them, I wouldn't know, but this is just how a lot of Nigerians think

Is your husband cheating? Lets cheat on him together.

There is something called peace of mind, and when a woman can be her husband's peace, this kind of story is what happens...

I know this fo' sure because something similar is going on in my family. Dad called me some weeks ago for my opinion on the car brand that would be befitting for mom on her 45th birthday come November, so he can know how to budget for it. When I mentioned Toyota, he was like 'yo mom is too big for that, you know how many cars Ive used without that woman ever complaining?' He then goes; 'Boy, keep it a top secret cos I know she might talk me out of it', which is exactly what she would do. She studied Economics and everything is on a scale of preference. My dad had his degrees in accounting, so, don't sweat it,it's always a matter of "at loggerheads" when it comes to decision making.

It's all about love, baby, Nothing is perfect, therefore, it is

Weyrey gidi nie

starbuck:
Believe this story at your peril



Maybe she is tired of taking care of the man and no longer interested in the marriage, the reason they might accuse her falsely...

I have seen enough in this life, abeg cook another story

[s] So, that she is tired of him is reason enough for attempted murder? ... Would this be your justification if it had happened to your brother? Perhaps you dont have one sha... alainironu ara galatia [/s] Imso sorry, I think I got your point after re-reading your post. My bad!

I know our women. She must have said some things that must have totally put the man off. BUT, he was not man enough to remember he has responsibilities at home. Now, he will be relieved of his work because of a stupid stranger. Wisdom and caution is primary in everything. Physically abusing her is where he got it all wrong.

Depression like anger is a normal feeling that anyone could find himself in at one point or the other. It is very normal like I said, and it is how one reacts to it that leads one on to suicide or resets one to stability. There are so many triggers for depression but I think depression will not proceed without a catalyst, which is being over-analytic. I think the first step to combating depression is taking a breather from whatever is making one depressed in the first place and if it hurts too deeply, talking to a more experienced person, or anybody at all within reach.

More importantly, one should always remember that life is not meant to be an army of one, we are here for all of us. So, it is important to reach out for support when we are drowning. Nobody has it all figured out, and a problem shared is half-solved.

If she truly has the brain of a five year old, I do not see how herculean it would be to persuade her into letting go of the baby after she delivers, especially, when it's her mother that is going to assume full responsible for the child. AND, She is 6 months pregnant fa !...Who are these people mehn!?

Lmfao

kingxsamz:


STFU...
OP if you like listen to this one's advice, I pity you.
If you both have love for humanity, you better reconsider your plans for marriage.
Don't bring any child to this world to suffer.
A sickle cell guy who just graduated from Lasu few months ago died 2 weeks ago. Did he tell you his parents didn't have faith?
Smh...

Even if you guys did not do biology in school for whatever reason, you have google and still wont use it to educate yourselves? Why you ppl just like to dey embarrass Nigeria lai dis? Outsiders go dey think say everybody for here na complete dimwitted ignoramus,which is not so...

ibkayee:

They're mussels, I’m not currently in Nigeria but I’m pretty sure some restaurants sell both (oysters and mussels) there

Ok, Ill waka meet am one day.

Sorry o, wey you get the already processed oysters from in this our Nigeria?

ibkayee:
Snack, didn’t cook

propaganda against the use of cucumber! It will not work!!

Unstable. It dims and jolts back to life like welder's light

Something like

Hello sir, I don't feel you are doing as badly as you have made yourself belief. Misfortune is a part of life that knocks at every man's door from time to time, and it is how one reacts to it that makes one a survivor or a victim. Again, life is a mind game and it is how one has resolved to keep ones mind and attitude towards whatever might come one's way that makes one lose or win. One whose mind is set at winning all the time is already a loser up front. So, i daresay we are not meant to win or lose at life. We are meant to live it, embrace and appreciate lessons from its ups and downs and immerse ourselves in the simple things that sets our soul on fire, something like loving what one does and doing what one loves. The oldest man in America(deceased now) who was a war veteran once said something similar to these words in an interview headed to inquire about his secret to longevity; The moment a soldier turn his back on the war his chances of getting hit by the bullet increases.Therefore, a soldier should only turn left ,right dodge and roll while moving forward fighting the war. He also said a bullet that was not meant to kill you will not hit you on the forehead.
More importantly, when your mindset is set at "win some, lose some" and you learn to count your blessings no matter how little and insignificant they might be, you give yourself an upper hand at life because you suddenly stop guaging how well you are doing by societal standards because you already have a scale that works for you. In the end, you realize you are not overweight or underweight, you are simply not of this world.

bouncin04:
im 31 been working with a beverage company with a beverage company for 10 years now as a quality personel ... recently rounded up a BSC program ... problems are I feel been stagnant working with a comnpany ... ive tried looking for a better job ... found none ... soime of my colleagues that started together with me already got kids and are even planning to get properties while I was busy using money for school , believing by the time Im out with my kpali , I will be better ... but its still same story ... I have tried business .. it turned out to be a wrong investment ... I have tried traveling outta the country .. it was a negative .. I lost 1.2 million naira recently to another wrong investment ... and I just got of depression after that loss ... now i care less .. I ve lost the ability to save money due to all these ... I am now a chronic womanizer ... my girl noticed and left me ... its getting worse as days pass by ... as Im typing this right now i have less than 5k in my account ... help please

Make dem transfer both of them go Maiduguri or wherever else wey hin dey hot








Shebi dem sabi fight?

QueenSekxy:

Lmao. You guys are the problem, so, champion that cause towards the bulldogs.

Guys are the problem? You are beginning to sound off like a misandrist and I dont know how to have a decent conversation with someone like that. So long.

If you are a fellow occupant of planet earth, I know you know who the victim usually is, and consequently, should pay heed to caution. Of course boys too got to be trained to be responsible adults, but while at it, we should keep in mind as you have rightly pointed out @ bolded that some bulldogs are beyond redeem,hence the need to keep up the respect yourself crusade burning for our girls

QueenSekxy:

1)Or rather, guys should respect themselves and stop opening their legs anyhow, they aren't dogs. We demand decent males aswel.
2) most men are just good for sexual gratification. Some ladies are in some relationship cos of good dìck, and once she sees the guy she likes, she'd dump the good for nothing guy
3) yes, I agree. Everyone will still get old irrespective of gender.

@ op, nobody takes those misogynist elements serious, they will still log out to worship those pussies they were created to worship. And also, most are teenagers that's why we hardly quote or insult them back.

Fhemmmy:


Thanks sir, but why not leave me and him alone sir, seems like you are the one prying right now between myself and the gentleman... but thanks for your comment

That means there is more to your back and forth than meets the eyes. Sorry for prying.

These came out rather brash, but definitely have elements of true in it. Take home messages are that;

1. Girls should respect themselves and stop opening leg anyhow.
2. They should keep up with carving a life that would bring more to the relationship than their bodies.
3. Nobody is worth killing your dreams for as at one point, youll still be regarded as old cargo.

The guy is fresh and somewhat handsome. Ugliness is a disease most other guys suffer from, reason for the envy and the hope of "that was me", which they try to mask with the insults

Anything for the gram. Congratulations to the beneficiary(if the amount given is not the equivalent of the original price though)

Well, this is a problem ordinary condom would have solved. We simply should make sex legal for teenagers, cast aside our full-fledged hypocrisy, as most people started having sex as teenagers.

I think that is his personal business.You dont have to pry, sir...

Fhemmmy:


So as the man of the house, you just go to work and bring the money home, they the wife does everything else in the kitchen, at the kids room and then in the bedroom too? Does she go to work too or she is the home manager/maker?

I disagree with you sir. Things sometimes blow up beyond the proportions for which they were initially established or construed because human beings are dynamic and not a programmed robot.
The fact that you dont understand Mandarin does not make it any less of a language, neither does that make it any less original and concrete for those who use the language.
If the right instrument to achieve the result for a meal involves the use of the kind of pumping machine originally used by a vulcanizer, whats important is the end not the means.
Food preparation and processing suddenly has gone beyond art and talent. It's more scientific now than ever.
You simply need to be a little less conservative to understand the shift in narrative.

Sanchez01:
This thread used to be very interesting but it has become the Instagram of Nairaland where people go all out to impress people they've never seen. 'Cook In Your Kitchen, Take Pictures And Post It Here. SIMPLE!' and people are going as far filling syringes with raw Tomatoes/Ketchup. Far from reality, if you ask me. It is one thing being a chef on a professional level, it is another thing when you're alone in your kitchen. I can't imagine the pain of filling a cooking syringe with ketchup on a normal day in your kitchen... Haba!

The essence of every meal is simplicity; not how it is prepared but how it looks when it is finished. It would be a different ball game entirely if you were cooking for a gourmet or a critic. The pressure has pushed some to use slay queen filters on meals just because they don't want to be left behind.

To the Amiedi and Starch eaters, God bless your originality, the Okra cooks, the jollof variant cooks and lovers of simplicity, God bless you lots. To the complicated cooks, God bless you as well

I just pray we don't start seeing Crepe Bandages in plates, in the name of artistry.

You should oh Ariyke. It's quite nice.

Ariyke:
my neighbor prepares oota alot , never tasted it though