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Fembleez1:
Wow,........you never explained it this way before,you hid many things,u never said he once dump u or cheated on you!!!

To the best of my knowledge he never cheated. Those girls were during the 3 weeks he had dumped me.

Fembleez1:
what possibility is it that,that he doesn't have a gf now after those long 3 months

Ha ha ha... he was single when we met...?

grimandevil:
solve d primary problem. i sense is a cheating problem

Ha ha ha... He must have been cheating then. Me I do not cheat.

By the way people he's also dumped me before so I'm not the only one who did the breaking up. He then came back and told me he tried to date other girls but those feelings he has with me he didn't get them with the other girls. So he went to his country for a two week holiday and the girls he met there also did nothing for him and that's when he realised I'm the one who can make him feel that way. (That time we lasted less than 24hrs before we broke up again. LOL)

If anyone had an ego in the r/ship its him. He thought he was better than me and would brag about his abilities. He even once told me he's smarter than me - I laughed because he doesn't know my IQ and he'd also brag about his royal lineage (what he doesn't know is that my family is also royalty). Actually now that I think about it those said the r/ship was childish and doomed from the start are right. I guess it's true: absence does make the heart grow fonder. I'm probably just missing what could have been.

Fembleez1:
I have interest in this topic!





OP,....tho am sorry to say 'I agree with those who said you have ego'




I have a gf just like u,dun lemme say same character or even worst than yours but we had to work things out,it was applicable to both parties,so it worked!!,..........it z not easy tho,but the grace of God and humility was/is sufficient!!!

What ego? I really don't understand what have I done or said that was egotistical? And why am I to shoulder all the blame? What about him and his disappearing acts?? And guys don't forget the reason we broke up the first time is because HE stood me up without a word. And HE is the one who starts the fights. And they really were stupid fights. Like this one time I called him and asked him to meet me somewhere (I wanted to treat him). Just because he didn't know the place he decided I'm controlling, started a fight and refused to meet me there.

numericalguy:
You really do have an ego problem which is why you feel you have to win each and every silly argument which lead to unnesesary quarels.
You also feel he's sooooo "lucky" to have you.

I don't get you... You keep saying my head is in the sky. How?

I also don't understand why you thing I have an ego problem what did I do? I never felt the need to win the arguments. Did you not see I said I think I weakened my position because I used to apologise all the time because I wanted the fighting to stop. How is that egotistical?

I never said he was lucky to have me. I said MAYBE HE FELT he was lucky. His friends used to tell him I'm hot and he called me "damn beautiful". Even though people walk up to me and tell me I'm beautiful and sexy everyday I've never used my "beauty" against him. The reason I said maybe HE felt lucky is because of my exes. After a while they couldn't handle the attention I get and they started feeling inferior and scared some guy better and richer than them is going to come along. And I never feel they are lucky to have me.

Gelco:
Damn! This is so close to home. Three whole months? Babe forget about him! He ain't worth it.

Peepz here talking about op having a big ego, wth? Like she should be the only one tryna make it work? A relationship is supposed to be about two people not just one person always tryna make it work.

YAY!!! Was starting to believe I probably some deep issues I'm not aware of. Thank you.

Lexxybooy:
Its a dead relationship! As in a very dead one! It was kindaf a childish one &ego. Its filled with BITTERNESS, which is alwayz difficult to let go! No matter how hard u try,u will always end up fighting and remembering eachodaz mistakes!(Talking from experience). Just move on, forget about him and i think the best thing to do is to move on,get another cool dude! And learn from ur mistakes to make u a better gf....e.g! From my observation, 1)take away ego. 2)learn to be patient; Always allow his to tell u the reason for his actions b4 making decisions or accusing him... (NOTE: i mean for ur next bf). Find joy somewhere proper!

Was I the childish one? Advice noted and shall be considered

numericalguy:
OP, I think you are the cause of your problems with your head in the skies and your foolish ego. You are always in a power struggle with because you don't have any respect for him and you probably feel you are too good for him which is why you laughed at him when he was asking you out.
You probably dumbed him because some other dudes where chycking you, now that you have seen that not all that glitters is gold, you now want him back. What happended in the 3months your were seperated.

I have an ego problem? Okay if that's your assessment then I can take it. But may I ask why you think I have an ego?

To clarify, I did respect him, I never felt I'm too good for him (maybe he just couldn't believe his luck), there were no other men (but he probably didn't believe me). The power struggle was because he wanted me to bend to him and whenever I made relationship decisions he acted as if I'm trying to control him when I wasn't. All I was doing was making decisions he wasn't making. If you are my bf and you are not making decisions or driving the r/ship then I will because someone has to.

I laughed when he told me he loves me because when he said it we had only known each other for 48hrs. Oh, by the way he had his own issues as well. I'm South African and he is a foreigner so he had some self-esteem - hostile - complex too.

Nothing happened I just miss him

You know I think the letter and the fights were an excuse. I don't think he ever forgave me for laughing the first time he told me he loves me. I think that's when the problem actually began.
@samisparkle: I didn't just leave. I tried and I got tired of the cycle. My staying also made him take me for granted I think.

Dapo777:
are you serious?

Wow u are a good catch Then. How do I contact you?

Photo, proof of a job and 3 month bank statement first please

Ps thank you

Dapo777:
Am talking about you. What are your physical qualities

Oh! Let's see...

Kim K body, Halle Berry complexion, Angelina Jolie lips, natural hair and average height

Dapo777:
specifications please

Lol!!! Tall, dark and handsome with a car and job. Applications must accompanied with 3-months bank statement. Applications without bank statement shall be rejected without being reviewed :p

Thanks y'all for being mature (with the exception of air over there) you've helped me make a firm decision. I'm going to close the chapter.

Sooooo... Anyone looking for a gf? (Kidding)

Exjoker:
The relationship is under a spiritual attack

I think so too. The devil made me do it.

Afrok:
If comprehension were like this, I would've being failing English language exams from day 1 .

You are air

neoapocalypse:
If it isn't too much to ask , may we know why you dumped him in the first place ( what caused the fight and why you took that irrational path ).

I'm actually embarrassed to tell you (lol)... On a Friday he went out with his friends to his friend's birthday party. He called me that afternoon to tell me where and what they were going to be doing but while we were talking someone interrupted him and he said he'll call me back and he didn't. On Saturday we were meant to spend the whole day together and he didn't show up or call so I got really mad and on Sunday I wrote him a 2500 word (he counted - lolest!) letter dumping him. He got angry and called me immediately and we fought about the letter for about a week before we made up. I really tried to make things right but somehow if more than 2 days went by without seeing each other we would start fighting over the phone about stupid things. And he would accuse me of starting the fight then he always brings up the letter. I don't know how many times I've apologised for the letter. But I think one of my mistakes was always apologising, I only did it because I wanted the fight to stop. And oh, he also used to tell me he believes me but doesn't trust me.

1mindchrisr:
very true n sad
i dont knw why they have to do all ds lip service
really every proof of leading economy is all spirituall gain n nothing more
they forget we can see all dt going on in politics section dt all ds so called succes is paper dynamics
i wish they can do something abt their country honestly the situation they in is very serious than focusing on SA or any other country ds is a crucial n sickening moment to see so many things hapening at once
Oil sector is falling,election campains are more important,job sectors are crucial

d killings of innocent people is too much
so sad dt one cannot b protected coz their religious ,polics n tribes are diferent

ds obsesion abt SA maybe they doing it to heal their deeply infected wound caused by what hapening around them

ds is d first iv seen a country so divided
not even one mass protest at least for d sake of humanity people jst die n it business as usuall

It is very sad. Nigeria has sooo much potential! 60 years after freedom and they still haven't gotten it right. Their arrogance is their undoing. Instead of insulting us they should be learning. We are the most stable african country economically and politically and contrary to what they like to fool themselves into believing it has nothing to do with white people. We have always been united as black people, we even accept our differences because our ego comes last and ubuntu is first and foremost with us. The unity is and has always been strong to the point where the whites finally figured it out the way to conquer our land is to divide us institutionally since the tribal wars they were instigating weren't working. Ubuntu first, ego last would lead to a very prosperous Nigeria.

kenrish2:
but be very careful he might just end up toiling with ur heart again

That's what I'm afraid of

passionate88:
Do you check out his fb page?. Call his line with a hidden number?.

LMAO!!! Noooooo... Lol! I'm not on fb, twitter or instagram (I like my privacy) but I do check his Whatsapp status and everyday he chats till midnight. Wonder who he's been chatting to

Dapo777:
This is What happens when the internet takes over natural human physical interaction, problems are bound to occur because humans aren't naturally made to interact without seeing each other physically.

Lol... What problems now? You talking about the other topic?

nobilis:
That you guys drifted apart and for 3 months, none of you bothered to contact each other doesn't mean the relationship is dead. No! On the contrary, it means you guys put your pride and ego first and ahead of your relationship.

Every relationship that is coming to an end, should always have a sense of closure to it. So that things can be straightforward to avoid emotional and psychological complications and entanglements later.

So if u really wanna end it, call your lover and u guys should officially break up so that it will be crystal clear to both of you. But if your relationship is worth salvaging, then call up ur partner and try to talk things over. From what u said, it seems u guys never resolved d issue that led to the very first fight. So I think u guys should sit down and get to the root of that matter.

I still love him and miss him a lot and it feels like I gave up too easily/took the easy way. But the thing is we just fought so much about stupid nothings and the fights were quite bad so that makes me wonder if we were meant to be but when we are together the attraction and chemistry is very strong. Yes, near the end he started acting shady but I've never had to wonder about him or worry about things like cheating and always responded to my texts and calls immediately. But you are right about the pride and ego. It always felt like we were in a power struggle.

chimerase2:
Op re u a HE or a SHE
Or none of the above listed

Lol! I'm a hermaphrodite. Does it matter?

Yeah, I actually know you both right. Guess I'm just missing the good times
@ pasqal: yep, definitely we are going to end up fighting