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beryl04: Dude d only sick person here is u who wants to compare peadohilia and homosexuality and ur sickness is ignorance and prolly paedophilia since u seem to be defending it with ur last breath.nobody needs to justify anything to u as u don't need to justify ur heterosexualiity.as in prolly u being a peadophile,d world awaits u to bring ur case forward.

[quote author=beryl04]PEDOPHILES AND HOMOSEXUALS ARE BOTH SEXUAL DEVIANTS. BOTH LIFESTYLE CANNOT REPRODUCE.

The actions of homosexuals affect you, because their lifestyle introduced HIV to the world! A lot of men who have anal cancers got it from homosexual practice. So it affects the society! Today, we are wasting billions of dollars on HIV research. Money that would have been useful for other things.

masonkz: Smh.

The million dollar question. Is how are two homosexual people in love affecting your life?

1, Their deviancy has now encouraged those who prey on kids to demand support citing the same lame excuse you deviants used. So children are not safe.
2, All manner of homosexual diseases. Homosexuals are many times more likely to contract HIV due to their lifestyle(Many of them swing both ways) . Diseases some of them pass on to heterosexual women who are not aware of their risky sexual status. The innocent women in turn pass it on to heterosexual men . That is how they introduced HIV.

3, No biological purpose to their lifestyle.

My million dollar question is why haven't you shown support to your sick cousins the Pedos?

AND THEIR WANTING CHILDREN JUST SHOWS THAT THEIR LIFESTYLE IS INFERIOR TO HETEROSEXUAL RELATIONSHIPS ! After all the we are equal with heterosexuals, we do not want women, the sickos still sulkily look for surrogate mothers. At the end of the day the surrogate mother is the actual BIOLOGICAL mother of the child, not his sick partner.

How dare you compare PTF and SURE-P both no be mate abeg! SURE-P is a looting medium while PTF is a development medium. Take your pick!

GEJ and competence cannot be in one sentence! The guy is the greatest cry cry baby president we have ever had. Every thing is a challenge for him apart from maybe drinking ogogoro. Sending him to the zoo is an act of mercy this guy should be sent to Afghanistan, period!

masonkz: Dude shut the Bleep up if you don't know how to put your argument logically.

How in the world do gay people compare to peadophiles? How are both parties mutually benefitting when the kid knows nothing about his/her sexual well being? Or did the kid ask to be molested??

Your Homosexual brain has lost the ability to think logically long ago.
Pedohp1les now say the same thing you homosexuals has been using as your punchline for years "we were born that way"
Now why judge Pedoph1les and leave homosexuals since Peodph1les cannot control their "sexual orientation" too? Is it their fault that they feel the way they feel?
That s the million dollar questions for you homosexuals who have refused to admit your sexual deviancy.
Don't escape because I also expected you to embrace your cousins the pedoph1les! it is not your fault you were born gay and it is also not their fault they were born the same way, so why are you holding back from endorsing your sick cousins?

YOUR SIN WILL FIND YOU OUT!

Don't mind that guy that calls himself insincere Nigerian. Other Presidents even faced more challenges but any little thing this Jonathan faced is always magnified to attract sympathy. If he can not lead this country, he should throw in the towel and let more worthy people take over. We are tired of all the drinking binges and sympathy requests. Leading the most popular nation in Africa no be beans! The issue with the G7 governors is politics. If he cannot play the politics then he should stop going by the name politician. This man should straighten up and act like a man. Enough of this Kindergarten leadership.

@ most recent post, the admittance of wanting children is a sure way of saying that their lifestyle is INFERIOR to heterosexual couples! Pedoph1les also lay claim to medically proved research that shows they were also born that way. Why do you now criticize them? If being Gay is not anybody 's fault are you prepared to give support to Pedoph1les too? Are you in support of Pedoph1iles too?

I can't stop laughing! And lets be honest it is really fun to say I told you so when you are right. I have always countered those who claim that homosexuality is biological and therefore those who practice it are normal. I got news for you! Some Psychologists are claiming now that the result of their research proves that pedophiles are wired biologically. In other words, like our homosexual opponents will say, they were born that way! I WILL NEVER SUPPORT EITHER OF THEM IN THIS LIFE OR THE NEXT! See the here http://articles.kspr.com/2013-05-15/offenders_39289011

[quote author=Master K-tops]Look,you people just criticise and curse them like you are holy yourselves. Sin is not different from sin! I have about four fb gay friends who I intentionally searched for out of curiousity. They are not gay by choice. Some of them pray to be attracted to women, but when they see a man,the attraction is uncontrollable. Some want to change,that is why most gays even get married to women,hoping they can slowly develop attraction to their wives. But in the end,most of them never do. So,you see,don't ever crucify them. DO NOT forget that being gay isn't the only reason Sodom and Gom was destroyed. There are other sins which were commited then that we commit today in Nigeria. Afterall,they do not hurt anyone with what they do. Maybe the marriage is unacceptable,but you can't persecute them for who they did not choose to be attracted to. You should only sincerely pity them or just treat them like normal people.
And I'm soooooo not gay!!![/quote]Your arguments make me laugh! Do you know that most pedophiles claim that they are born that way and all through their lives they struggle to contain it! Most of the great men in the world in ancient times had young boys not men as lovers! We must understand that one is born with a deformity does not make it normal. I have my doubts about people being born gay, so I wont go into that but most of the other deviants too cannot help themselves. Almost everyday you hear cases in Nigeria of matured men defiling little girls. Do you think they could help it and they went along to do it? HOMOSEXUALITY IS A DEFORMITY. You are not attracted to a woman but you are attracted to the product of man and woman relationship. What type of self deceit and hypocrisy is this? Are surrogate mothers not women? Who gets pregnant from the anus? I am no longer surprised about homosexuals claiming that they are normal, after all pedophiles are getting bolder and claiming they cant help themselves. It will only get worse. In the bid to get votes politicians will keep lowering the bar all the time, one day we may wake up and see the laws against pedophiles being relaxed. Psychologists will have an explanation as always, trust them.

Both male child and female child are important for different reasons. I prefer to have a boy and a girl as both brings different things to the table.

Everyone knows whats special about the male child. The correct question is what is special about the female child?

@OP why are you bothered? Simple. Don't marry! .
Submission and the rest of them are for CHRISTIANS who want to marry.

There is a law of cause and effect. Nothing happens without something causing it. She may be the reason for the man's change of character. if she truly wants to heal her marriage, then she needs to ask herself questions. If she wants a divorce then she could just walk a way. My questions are only for those who wants to save their marriage.

[quote author=soul_glo]I will not google staph infections and I am at liberty to quote and unquote any post I read. Personally I do not think she needs to answer any of your questions. The reason being that no matter what she says you will find ways to poke holes in it. Your questions to her border on insulting. Does she take care of herself, why does she not follow him on his ho-ing expeditions etc. Why should she? Why can't a woman trust her husband to go to a party with friends and family and come back home the same day at a godly hour? Who the hell cares if she is an extrovert and he an introvert? What does that have to do with playing his role as protector and head of the home? I am not saying the OP is an angel. I am just telling you that you are hell bent on this woman taking responsibility for her immature and irresponsible husband.

Just wanted to point out that I just have a puke inducing vision of married men in a party atmosphere trying to mark on women. It is really just a vomit worthy situation for me. A guy I know (in his early 30s) threw a party recently. He always has some party or the other. I agreed to come but told him I would only stay for an hour and a half. I went and did the hour and a half and started leaving at about 11.45pm. On my way out at least 3 obviously married Nigerian guys (1 dressed as if he just came from a civil service job trying to blend in with 30 somethings) asked why I was leaving early. I explained that they were actually coming late since it started at 10pm. I had to cut the conversation short and keep moving because I knew disgust was written all over my face. Maybe I should not judge so quickly but the idea of these obviously married men at a party thrown by a 30 something year old party animal is just so unbelievable to me. If they were already stopping me at the door and knowing what I left inside I don't expect these men to behave themselves at all. I used to think that these men just forgot the values instilled in them growing up in Nigeria but it seems that they brought that stupidity with them. I have zero respect for men like that. It is hard to look them in the face and have a genuine smile. So if I sound like I am really irritated with Dinachi's questions it's simply because there is nothing more irritating to me that a grown ass married man still living the life of a bar hopper. Playing primary 6 games by telling his wife he is going somewhere and then goes somewhere else. Basically behaving like child but wanting to be treated like a man.[/quote]It sounds funny that you will judge another person so completely without hearing his own side of the story. And yet in your mind you believe you are being fair. HER STORY IS ONE SIDED.
Now lets review some of her strategies and see whether she made any progress.
1, Stopped having sex with him: It didn't change anything! Some of you ladies go to marriage on a mission to return any and every real and perceived slights with 10 times more slights to your spouses at the end what do you get? Some like hiding behind computer screens to give advice that they themselves cannot heed.
My dear, it is all so simple, if you really want to amicably settle marital differences, you need to be more tactful. Get all the facts right to make an informed decision. Marriage is not for children! There are definitely ups and downs and it takes a wise woman to build her home but if you want to tear it down there are many people willing even here on Nairaland to lend a helping hand.Most importantly remember we are in A COURT OF LOVE NOT COURT OF LAW.

Rad1cal: Absolutely

The burial of PDP

[quote author=soul_glo]I think she contracted an STD. Did she get that from herself? So what further proof does she need to show that he is sleeping with multiple women.[/quote]Goggle Staph infections. There are other multiple means of contacting it apart from sexual intercourse, besides those questions were not directed at the you but the OP unless you are in the same situation and can answer the questions.
Again, the point I am making is that it takes two to tango in a relationship and it therefore makes sense that a balanced view of the issues are presented before you can make an informed advice, other wise you just give a biased advice which I can assure you will rather aggravate than solve the issues.

At the risk of sounding immodest, I have had to wade into marital issues of friend's wives who sought my opinion or assistance in their marital challenges and most often than not you realize that the first complainant is usually at fault. Therefore I have learned to be cautious in entertaining all these my husband is a devil or my wife is bitch kind of complaints without checking the background of the problem. Quote me, at the end of the day, you may find that the OP may have contributed her own fair share to the problems at hand.

This is exactly what women liberation has turned some women to: JERKS!
A loving father has now turned to a Pedoph1le because he kisses his lovely daughter.
That woman is so gone she is even jealous of the love the man shows the daughter.
And those who dare to question the man's motive are evil paranoid people with unclean minds. I am sick of all these half baked, silly people here questioning a fathers heart felt love for his daughter. YOU PEOPLE STINK!

lorretta u: What exactly are u trying to defend?
The man is a serial cheat. They are probably not having sex because of that. Maybe he's the one who doesn't even want to touch her cos the way I read her posts,she seems so pliant.
Well even if she's the one who won't have sex with him,I endorse that. How can a man go about dipping it into every garbage can out there and expect me to happily open my legs for him to pour aggregate of Garbage into me?
Any woman who values herself won't allow that.op herself certainly isn't perfect neither is the man. Does that give him a right to expose her to danger like that? Cos that's what he's doing.

@OP Marriage is for better or worse yes. If I remember,those include sickness/health n poorer /richer etc
Adultery is the one accepted reason for divorce.add that to battery,and I'll say I don't know what you're still doing With him.
Why are u there?
Because u love him and can't live without him?
I don't think so. Cos u said the love is lost.

Just that you're afraid of the unknown.or maybe u care too much what ppl will say.
Truth is that he won't change. TRUTH! except he grows old and tired.then he'll come home to rest his tired bones and his dysfunctional manhood. Then u can have him all to yourself.
Meanwhile if u won't take a stand or take a walk in this iSsue,then just kneel down and pray that until he grows old and tired he won't infect you with AIDs. Then you'll thoroughly hate urself and regret ur decision. Life's too short to live it miserable.

My dear I will advice you to condemn the man with caution because you have not heard his own side of the story.

Even according to her own story the man was good to her after marriage until after some time the man changed. It takes two to tangle in a marriage. Taking sides because one partner came here and gave her tales of woe may not be the best way to tackle issues. We need to balance the scale. She claimed, she does not have concrete evidence that the man cheats, only hear say. Meanwhile, in all of these not one word of where she thinks she missed it. You will be abundantly amazed by the time you hear the man's side of the story. The only true way to handle this is full disclosure by her. She needs to answer this questions rightly:

1, What kind of person is she ? Is she introverted while the husband is extroverted?

2, How and where did they meet before they got married.

3, We have heard all the husband's wahala. What things does he do right?

4, What things does she do wrong? What are those things that offend her husband?

5. Does she nag or challenge him openly?

6, The man goes to parties all the time, why dosen't she go with him? Is it because she dosen't look after herself well or what?

7, In her own opinion why does she think he changed all of a sudden?

If she answers this questions clearly, her situation will now be clearer for anyone to see and I may then give my advice based on some years experience. NOTE THIS: The first couple to report his/her marital problems is not always right. Sometimes by the time you get a balanced view you might end up blaming the supposed right person you earlier endorsed. Thanks

What is her own fault? Or is the man the only one with a fault? Bunch of Hypocrites!

If you are only submissive to you husband because he treats you well, then you are not really submissive. A submissive person will not change her orientation no matter how the husband treats her. On the other hand a submissive woman gets the best treatment from their husbands! Submission simply means to defer to your husbands leadership in recognition of his authority over the home.

I will not condemn the man until I hear his own side of the story. From my little experience women like this are usually the problem. After marriage, they become humpty dumpties , become lazy and very unreasonable. I don settle matter tire for a lot of couples like this. From her own confession, the man was an angel before, so what made him change? How can you starve your husband of sex for five months and you come here to sing like angel Gabriel?
All these her stories that make her look so good and the man so bad is fake. The truth is that everybody has their own wahala. If the husband come here now to say his own, you will be shocked at what he himself is enduring. Marriage no be beans!

plaindealer: 1. Based on the merger agreement with ACN and the other merged parties, the APC presidential candidate is coming from the North and the most credible and electable candidate from the North is Tambuwal. With Tambuwal, the North down to the Middle Belt is very well secured.

2. With Fashola on the Ticket, the whole of SW is very well secured

3. The SE and SS can do whatever they want, but they are very marginal and less influential politically and votes wise.


Rigging is very possible like I said and this is the only option available to GEJ and his pose, but rigging in 2015 means the end of Nigeria as a country as predicted.

Excellent analysis! Tambuwal to me is the best candidate from the North that can easily beat Jonathan hands down. He is Charismatic, tolerant, educated, exposed and most importantly a fresh face with no baggage's and therefore easily marketable.

Good development! People are beginning to see APC as a very good alternative to PDP. Our democracy is moving forward, just like Republicans and Democrats in the US.

How about, any woman who insults or slaps a man is not a real woman!
Real women don't insult or assault men!
Real women die for their men!
Real women do not beat a man!

Gurls are smart, damn!
Their definition of a real man:
1, Any mugu man that caters to all their whims and caprices
2, Any man that they can insult, slap around and spit on without any reaction is the ultimate real man.
3, Any man that can die for them while they enjoy his memory few minutes later in another guys/girls arms with a chilled bottle of coke.

Note: if you refuse to do any of the above then you are not a real man

Joe Igbokwe shouldn't have bothered, the archaic, outdated , foolish politics of our people will not be corrected just by a mere face book post. I am almost becoming certain that the Igbo will not change because all we care about is our shops and the change we have in our pockets! As long as we have money to feed our family, every other Nigerian is a fool. Yoruba's are betrayers, Northerners are Bokoharam and so on, yet the Ijaw people has learnt to build bridges and now rule Nigeria. I am sure that had the Igbo man been offered a the vice presidency then we would have refused it on the grounds that it is beneath us! The Ijaw have shown the way. it remains to be seen whether we will follow it.

It is simple: don't beat so that you wont be beaten! It dosen't matter the gender.
The truth is most men everywhere in the world will beat the hell of any woman who insults their mom even in the US.
Women who go about provoking and assaulting men are going to get what is coming to them ditto the men. EVERYONE BOTH MALE AND FEMALE ARE EQUAL. Therefore no gender has a monopoly of violence. Argue at your peril.

Baybe: Okay true, I'd be thrown offguard, but then, I'd ask you to repeat what you said and if you do, you'd receive a resounding slap from me to you.

Easy! As the slap dey land my face I dey lock my mouth to yours in a hot unexpected kiss. The suddeness of the whole thing is the appeal. Before you know what is happening you are shouting baby please don"t stop!

jmaine: A dunce voted into power but placed several heavens above you and your family members.

So what adjectives should be used in classifying a nonentity like you governed by a "dunce" .

Nigeria is on a free fall . There is no leader not until the dunce presents those 22 mil plus he claimed voted him for verification.
You can continue your dunce worship no doubt but don't expect your betters to join you.

@ OP APGA didnt win . The election was declared inconclusive owing to terrible irregularities and massive rigging bu APGA.