Psalme91: It is almost 4AM my husband hasn’t come home yet, just because we found out that I am carrying another baby girl. I’m in pains. I don’t know what I have done to deserve all this .
Please help me beg God if I offended him unknowingly to please forgive me and blessed me with baby boys ( triplets). Please
It is painful, especially now that most young girls turn to lesbians in Secondary School.
Rapecase: Edit - to those who may be wondering about my username, I created this account whilst trying to help two kids who were victims of rape.
Our 4th anniversary was few days ago, as I thought she would , my wife forgot the date. It ordinarily would not have hurt me so much but I have always had this feeling that she doesn't love me.
When we were dating she was all over me. But nothing I do ever since we got married gets appreciated. Few months ago she hurled abuses on me for helping a sister, a friend of hers, who lost a child and are homeless. And what's the help? Just 100k. Apparently I enjoy abandoning her need for others. And this coming from a woman who few days earlier was saying I had invested over 2m on her business in a short while ( by her own calculation, as I don't take note when giving her money ).
I told a mother figure in church who is close to both me, her and the family I helped who corrected her. Expect if she will apologise tomorrow.
Off course the lady I helped in question is idiotic but I can't bear her and house and kids being homeless especially after losing a child.
My wife will never apologise when she does sometime I object to. Her apology which is often done in the most demeaning way is only tendered if I take the issue over board.
Our sex life since we got married has been poor to the extreme. I have ensured I do not cheat, not for a single day but I constantly have to beg for sex or masturbate to relieve myself.
Laying our bed is always a war for her. She does it only when she wants. Mind you we have two kids and a maid who helps with virtually everything.
The maid in the morning ( 90% of the time ) makes the breakfast, clean the house while she only baths our first child and get her ready for school, I take her to school most of the time.
Am I overreacting to expect my wife to
1. Properly apologise when she does something I do not like and ensure she doesnt repeat it? For instance few days ago she was planning on traveling outside our base, I only got to know through her phone conversation with her sister although she didn't eventually travel, I felt I should have known before hand as I got to know a night before. Till date what I got in form of apology is, "I would have told you". She was planning to travel by 5am, I heard her conversation by 10pm a night before and we slept on the same bed.
2. Sex at least 3 times a week? I stopped trying to initiate it after so many rejections.
3. Not to forget important dates such as our wedding anniversary?
4. To at all time be the one making my meal.
Please note she practically doesn't work now. We are setting up a fashion house for her she has taken over 3m from me as of the time of writing this. Note my cloths go to dry cleaners. Only thing she does is cook my meal ( when she wants ).
I am beginning to think maybe I am a mental health patient who doesn't know yet. Maybe something is wrong with me and I am just reacting based on that?
You are not ready to do what is necessary to enjoy your marriage and be in charge most of you young men of nowadays are so weak and it is so so pathetic!
How can you be asking an already married woman to do her duties?
Abeg I am tired of weak men abeg! Look at how a woman is twisting and turning you up and down with your money oh! God forbid , if you loose your job, do you know that this woman will give you high blood pressure and untimely death.
Well, if at any time you get your wits around you and you are ready to be a man do the following:
1, Stop worrying her, quit it all together. 2, Get a girlfriend outside or develop your masturbating skills to relieve yourself so that lust wont make you rush her and start begging. 3, Improve your dressing drastically. 4, Reduce drastically your communication with her to the basics. Don't be rude but be tarciturn. 5, While at home and in her presence make call to your lady friend and talk long and loud, in fact be joyful while making the calls or pretend you are talking to a lady but don't look at her while doing this. 6, Stop giving her money for her business. Of she asks let her know you are low on cash. Keep posting her. 7, If she makes move for sex, resist it and say you are not interested. Don't rush and go overboard to sex her or else the spell will be broken. I know most of you young men are weak I hope you have the strength to do the following.
IF YOU DO ALL THESE AND SHE STILL DOESNT CHANGE, DONT BOTHER, SHE HAS BECOME A LESBIAN! DIVORCE HER!
Tim16: Because Nigeria has fools like you this is why it has remained underdeveloped which made your useless smelling disgusting mother resorted to prostitution and in the process she got impregnated by one of her clients in the brothel and gave birth to a useless bastard as you. You don't even know your biological father because it was one of your mother's customers in the brothel where she worked as a chip prostitute that got her pregnant which she was unable to identify the actual man that impregnated her till today. You are a worthless useless bastard gotten from the brothel so don't talk when people like us are talking. Foolish bastard
See mouth! From the way you speak, it very clear to doubting Thomases that you, your so called prostitute aunty and everybody else from your line are from the gutter!
It is now clear to all that your evil Aunty due to her prostitution infected and killed her innocent husband with HIV! And you come here to change the story! Why do you love evil?
Tim16: You are working, but he doesn't have any job yet. He comes home late everyday at 12am. You clean the house and provide food for the family, upon that you don't nag, and you are good looking.
Madam you married a very very irresponsible man, and people like him always engage in careless sexual activities with random girls/prostitutes. Most times he could probably be in one brothel having fun. I just pray he shouldn't someday infect you with HIV. same thing happened to my aunty, her husband was living this kind of life and infected her with HIV and both of them died of AIDS living their 4 young kids miserable. It will only take a Divine intervention by the Almighty to change such a man and make him live responsibly... I pray God to come to your aid and touch your husband's heart to become responsible and respect his marriage. I will advice you to become a prayer warrior because of this for there is nothing God can not do. You don't only talk to him you also back it up with fervent prayer I bet you you will see result. May God bless your home. AMEN
You are the most irresponsible man I have ever seen, idiat! You think everyone is like your irresponsible cursed aunty and her innocent husband? How did you know it wasn't her that infected her innocent husband? Old cow!
Emmanuel453: churchill or whatever you call yourself forgive her mother and take her back. i know of aguy who had similar issue as you do i advice him to take his wife back today both of them living happily. people advicing you your wife is evil do you really think they are perfect.besides tontos loves you and if you say say she is the rough type i believe your wife have learn new things about life. Mr churchill consider if tonto.were.to.be your sister and.a guy put her away.aftre marraige will. you take it. listen to your conscious not to the voices of hypocrite. i am urhobo so that you wont think i am writing on the basis of tribalism
Shut up asshole! Weak men like you are why men are despised everywhere!
Just shut up. You can go and be Tonto's house boy. Idiat!
sassysure: Don't mind him. He was there and didn't fight for this boy until tonto changed his surname.
That boy is forever lost to him. Nothing like he will remember his dad when he is old. No be ikwerre pikin again? Very useless guy.
He is promised political appointment so he is trying to cover ground but it's rather too late. First is lawsuit and now this. After saying silence is the best answer to her? Tonto outsmarted him intelligently and everything is on records.
Was screaming tonto this, tonto too like others until I took my time to go through all their various interviews and posts. I did a drastic u turn. Guy is a big fool. Yahoo kingpin that wanna belong by all means. His protege here are busy hailing him up and down.
Tonto, we all know this is you! Just shut up, you Don enter one chance this period. Produce the 500 Mil or go to jail.
freelansa: A man identified as Chris Konor Ehima has shared a video to show how his girlfriend of 7 months accused him of trying to use her for money rituals.
The lady, a UNIBEN student, was in a hotel room with the guy who travelled all the way from Lagos to Benin to spend Valentine’s Day with her.
Unfortunately, he had to break up with the lady because of her toxic behaviour. This didn’t sit well with her, and in response, she accused him of money rituals. (VIDEO)
Mstick: Where’s the prove that his wife abandoned him?
Even in sharia court the woman will be given a chance to defend herself.
Why are you guys not asking for her side of the story?!
The story was even told to the nairalander by another woman! Which side of the story? A woman abandons her husband and even her own kids? Haba! Men who think like you should just join women!
benratigan3: why blame the woman only? first scenario, both are adults and you should blame both.you are bias in your conclusion second scenario, hmmmm I advice Nigerian guys ,if woman no like you don't influence her with money cos when it goes she goes with it.I blame both parties and op you are bias with your conclusion. at least the first scenario, you heard from both sides ,the second you didn't
It is because of weak and foolish men like you that the society is against men!
You can imagine what a man is saying to a fellow man that his wife abandoned him and the children to follow a rich Alhaji!
We donate you to the women folk. You have nothing to offer as a man!
Women aren't stronger in anyway. They are still the same entitled and manipulative piece of shît everywhere around the globe.
The big problem is the men lowering their standards, which women exploit.
From birth, the dominant masculine frame of males is being attacked and consistently derailed by popular culture (TV, Movies, books, Music), food (Soy and other testosterone degrading foods), and the Government (leftist political correctness, feminism, gynocentric family courts).
Fiyinfoluwa20: Yes bro, it’s a thing of fear to be a man these days , a Lady can decimate your person by laying false allegations online and boom ! Nobody wants to hear your own part of the story.
I used to be a male feminists until my ex showed me, almost slipped into depression bro, I am no longer a frea*king feminists whilst noting that I strongly support equality - I am just against the black women’s version of feminism targeted at destroying men!!!
Guys fear girls, always keep receipts and evidence of whatever happen between you both.
It is foolish men that don't want to hear your own side of the story!
herakles: I disagree! we don't have weaker men, we just have a system/society that is increasingly antagonistic to masculinity, and tends to favour feminism and the likes
Who created the society that is antagonistic to masculinity? MEN!
It was foolish men that abandoned our forefathers wisdom and started promoting women foolishly. They will learn Adams lesson very soon!
Overlordship: Hello all, I got married to my wife 9 months ago and it has been a wonderful experience all through until her friend showed up two months ago. That was actually the first time I was meeting her as she wasn’t around for our wedding as she was doing her masters programme in South Africa. I knew she and my wife were closed as she was always talking about her best friend while we were courting.
She showed up at our house and I thought she came to visit and catch up with old times with my wife so I gladly welcome her. Later in the night, my wife told me she will be staying with us for sometimes while she gets a job. I was upset because we never discussed it before and I made my feeling known. Nevertheless, I had to give in since she said the friend also accommodated her in her room back at school for a session. So, I accepted her living with us and I felt it was only for a short time. We gave her the visitor’s room.
The first trouble started when I noticed her night gown barely covered her bum and sometimes were transparent with her boobs showing whenever she comes to the sitting room. I expressed my reservations about it to my wife and she dismissed it playfully that it was nothing and that what were my eyes wandering there for, so I let it go. Sometimes, she will enter her bedroom without knocking saying she wants to gist with her friend. And I will just stay on my side of the bed playing with my phone while the both talked. I noticed my wife doesn’t care, but I don’t want any issue with her so I accepted it with the hope her friend will soon leave the house.
I must admit that the friend was a bit useful in the house. My wife closes late than I, and her friend stays home when she’s not job hunting, so sometimes she would have cooked before we arrived. Though, I complained about this also, but wifey believe it was trivial. Her friend was intelligent and as times goes on, we talked on a wide range of topic while waiting for wife to come back from home so I stopped complaining about her to my wife.
It became so normal about her dressing that I accepted it like that. There was a day she came to our room to gist with my wife and playfully, my wife hit me with a pillow and before you know it, the three of us were throwing pillows about and playing like kids. They were both jumping on me and incidentally, I had a hard on as we were playin. I noticed her friend was slightly brushing her hand on me. I had to quickly stop and stylishly use the pillow to cover myself until I came down. I was really uncomfortable with the whole situation, but I didn’t complain to my wife again since I know what she will say. What I just keep asking my wife is when her friend was leaving.
The incident that happened two weeks really changed things. My wife took one week leave and decided to visit her parents outside the state we reside. I wasn’t okay with it leaving her friend alone with me, but she said I will just do fine. I tried to come home late for the first three days so I can completely avoid her, until the fourth day when she came into my room. I didn’t want to be rude by asking her to leave, so I asked her to sit down on the sofa in the bedroom. We first spoke about football, politics and other things. I can’t really say what happened, but in a lapse of judgement, we started kissing and then I had sex with her. I felt regret immediately and started apologizing to her for taking advantage of her. What she said really dazzled me. She said I shouldn’t be sorry as my wife never keep talking of our big I am and how sex was so great. And how she wishes her friend can experience what she was talking about.
My regrets turned to anger immediately and I asked her if she and my wife planned this whole episode just to confirm what my wife was boasting about. She denied being in cohort with my wife, but said something that devastated me. She said my wife wouldn’t mind as they sometimes share things together as they are besties for life right from their school days. I had to quickly exit the room to the balcony. We barely talked again until wife came back, though she tried to initiate some conversation, which I rebuffed. My wife further heightened my apprehension when wife asked if her friend really took care of me and that I couldn’t have missed her much since her friend was around. The dilemma now is that I can’t confront my wife about the incident as I will be admitting I slept with her friend. Her friend is also acting normal and I am afraid if she will inform her “bestie for life”. I have been thinking, what if they had been “Sex partners” before and I married a bisexual cos of the way they do play together. I had just been asking her when her friend was leaving and I don’t want to be forceful because of what happened between us.
Note, my wife has been a good wife. All my family member love her like she’s part of them and she is so comfortable with them. We never had any issues except this. I need advice on how to go on so I don’t destroy my marriage.
Foolish man, your wife is a lesbian and has been a lesbian under your nose, fucking and enjoying her lesbian partner why your foolish self like most men failed to notice anything!
My dear I am sorry for you, you married a lesbian. And let me tell you, your wife will rather dump your clueless ass than her real lover who truly satisfies her!
Now that they have roped you in, watch as they are free to explore themselves in front of you, if you make any noise your lesbian wife will divorce you and claim that you committed adultery with her friend and the pain drove her to lesbianism!
That's how women lie, she will cry while saying it and a lot of men, you know most young men are mostly foolish will support her and blame you!
They set you up!
Solution. Install coded cameras in your house, and observe your wife sucking her bestie pussy! Confront your wife, ask her directly if her friend is her lesbian partner, keep a hidden camera and recording device nearby
Sayfact: When Maryam was sentenced to death by hanging, my wife was lamenting how the judge wasn't fair in his judgment and how the family of the deceased should have pardon her, I tried to convince her that a killer deserved to be killed, ever since that day, I haven't been having peace of mind, I can't sleep with my eyes closed..you already know my fear
Officialgarri: If some people could stand with Maryam Sanda who was found guilty of killing her husband and say she doesn't deserve death sentence, then I see no reason why women shouldn't be encouraged to kill their husbands
Some idiotic and foolish men were busy supporting Maryam Sanda without knowing the consequences of their actions. If she goes Scott free it will greatly encourage female murderers!
Kingosytex: Is she a lesbian? Why is she wearing a leg lace?
It still baffles me why Ned Married Regina instead of Regina's mother. The old man is enjoying the food meant for the young.
She is a lesbian! Most young girls of nowadays are lesbians but most he goat men fail to notice. Ladies are with you not because they find you attractive but because you spend on them.
fergie001: • Vested interests search for amenable judge. • Panel members ‘turn down juicy offers to write indicting report’ against Achuba
The Kogi State government appears to be facing an uphill task in getting the newly handpicked Deputy Governor designate Edward Onoja, sworn in as required by the Constitution.
Onoja, who is Governor Yahaya Bello’s running mate in next month’s election, was named on Friday as successor to Mr. Simon Achuba.
Achuba was impeached by the State House of Assembly within hours of the submission of the report of the panel raised by the Chief Judge of the state, Justice Nasiru Ajana to investigate the allegations against him.
The panel headed by a senior advocate of Nigeria (SAN), Mr. John Baiyesha, had cleared Achuba of all the allegations against him.
Authoritative sources in the State said judges are reluctant to inaugurate Onoja because of the panel’s clearance of Achuba of the allegations against him.
The panel said allegations of misappropriation of funds and non-compliance with extant financial regulations by the Deputy Governor were not proved.
The report said in part: “In line with Section 188 (8 of the Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria 1999 (as amended) quoted herein before, we hereby report to the Kogi State House of Assembly that the allegations contained in the Notice of Allegations admitted in evidence by this Panel as Exhibit C7 have not been proved.”
There is now suspense over who will administer the oath of office on Edward Onoja.
Section 185 (2) of the Constitution provides thus: “the Oath of Allegiance and the oath of office shall be administered by the Chief Judge of the State or Grand Khadi of the Sharia Court Appeal of the State, if any, or president of the Customary Court of Appeal of the State, if any, or the person for the time being respectively appointed to exercise the functions of any of those offices in any state.”
Most of the judges are scared of getting sanctioned by the National Judicial Council (NJC) for acts considered to run contrary to the letters and provisions of the Constitution.
Chief Judge Ajana is an adherent to the spirit and letters of the Constitution and it has been difficult for the state government to approach him to administer the oath on Onoja.
Sources said on Saturday that some political forces were shopping for either an amenable judge or the President of the Customary Court to swear in the new Deputy Governor.
Investigation by our correspondent revealed that neither the State House of Assembly nor Governor Bello had notified the Chief Judge yesterday of the removal of Achuba.
It was learnt that some forces in the state had been working on permutations on how to inaugurate Onoja without the Chief Judge.
A reliable source said: “The truth is that the Deputy Governor of Kogi State, Mr. Simon Achuba was purportedly removed behind closed doors barely 30 minutes after a seven-man panel, set up by the Chief Judge, submitted its report.
“The panel, headed by a Senior Advocate of Nigeria, Mr. John Bayelsa, said in clear terms that the Deputy Governor, Achuba, was not guilty of all the allegations contained in the impeachment notice of the House of Assembly. Therefore, there was no condition precedent for the removal of Achuba.
“Assuming, but not conceding that the allegations were true, the 1999 Constitution allows a 14-day grace before any impeachment proceedings can be initiated. The Assembly got a report within 30 minutes and sacked Achuba from office.
“Section 188 (8 and (9) of the constitution says: ‘Where the Panel reports to the House of Assembly that the allegation has not been proved, no further proceedings shall be taken in respect of the matter.
“Where the report of the Panel is that the allegation against the holder of the office has been proved, then within 14 days of the receipt of the report, the House of Assembly shall consider the report and if by a resolution of the House of Assembly, supported by not less than two-thirds majority of all its members, the report of the Panel is adopted; then the holder of the office shall stand removed from office as from the date of the adoption of the report.”
Another source said the illegality behind the removal of the Deputy Governor accounted for the stalemate over the swearing in of the new Deputy Governor.
The source added: “Up till now neither the House of Assembly nor the state government has notified the Chief Judge of the state of the removal of the Deputy Governor by the lawmakers.
“They are finding it difficult to prevail on the CJ, Justice Nasiru Ajana to set machinery in motion to inaugurate the purportedly nominated new Deputy Governor, Edward Onoja. They know Ajana is a stickler to the law and he will abide by the report of the panel he put in place.
“Some political forces in the state are now working on other alternatives to administer oath of office and allegiance on Onoja.
“They are considering using a judge of the State High Court, the President of the Customary Court of Appeal if any in the state, a judge from outside the state or a Chief Magistrate or any magistrate.
“Most judges in the state have been distancing themselves from the push to swear in Onoja. They do not want to be sanctioned by the National Judicial Council (NJC) and ruin their career. We have suspense everywhere.
“They are desperately looking for an amenable judge now to inaugurate Onoja.”
Meanwhile, there were indications that members of the seven-man panel, which cleared Deputy Governor Achuba, rejected inducement from some influential forces in the state.
A source in the panel said: “They came with all manners of inducement but we decided to be conscientious. We stuck to the truth because the allegations against Achuba were not proven.
“All our allowances were not paid since we started the inquiry based on our body language that we will not compromise.”
Fineboigossip: Hello Nairalanders! Pls I Have A Question To Ask... There Is This Girl That I Love So Much And I Wanted Us To Date, I Toasted Her But She Refused,i Tried All My Possible Best, Yet She Refused,telling Me Dat "Shes Not Ready Yet",from That One To "She Already Have A Boyfriend " I Was So Confused....I Stoped Talking To Her,and We Stoped Seeing... after Few Months, Her Mom Opened A Bar Close To Our House And We Start Seeing Again..This Time She Became Friendly To Me,always Asking Me Question When I Come To Their Shop, Teasing Me Also.... Does It Means She Now Love Me And Should I Toast Her Again Or Forget? I Dont Want 2nd Rejection Please Nairalanders Help Me
You no get sense at all. She is being friendly because of the bar the mum opened! They need Mugu customers like you.
Family › Re: Husband is disappointed that we are having another girl by dinachi(m): 5:19am On Feb 20, 2020
Or Forget?