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DissTroy:
Still on good music, let me quickly inject this:

Bez Idakula - Here We Go.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4d8kO-GoX8M?si=7TyOCq3y_4A03GLJ

Notice it has only 21,000 streams? Yet no song this year by those with millions of streams comes close to it in terms of quality and replay value.

Sad that this man isn't headlining stadium music concerts in this country. Thank God Tems made it out before they ruined my girl.

Or this Jazz classic: Bez Idakula - Say.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-bl7lhx4JJI?si=LkjzKN8k0o3MPnwo

If your work is mostly sedentary where you sit for hours hitting away at the keyboard and staring at large bright screens, imagine this on repeat on your playlist. Then you throw in a medley of Tem's songs.

Still on good music, let me quickly inject this:

Bez Idakula - Here We Go.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4d8kO-GoX8M?si=7TyOCq3y_4A03GLJ

Notice it has only 21,000 streams? Yet no song this year by those with millions of streams comes close to it in terms of quality and replay value.

Sad that this man isn't headlining stadium music concerts in this country. Thank God Tems made it out before they ruined my girl.

Ibime:
@ disstroy

Finally saw our boy Joe Thomas in concert today. Was a joint concert with Dru Hill, Toni Braxton and Boyz 2 Men. Probably the best I've ever been to

Nice! Coincidentally, it was the next on my YouTube shuffle after watching the Craig David concert.

Joe and Toni Braxton in one night should be illegal. That's what Heavenly music should feel like.

donjazzet:
Look at how he gleefully enjoys this type of dysfunctional politics we have. For him, it's all about our lives being a game.
In all the permutations, he makes it clear, the people themselves, the masses don't matter at all. That's really a shame.

Wasn't it Ibime who stated, "You tell it how it should, I tell it how it is"? Ironically, it was to you.

Politics isn't idealistic. World over, politicians have always orchestrated dissent and chaos in the opposition ranks.

The Dems are doing it to the Republicans with Majorie Green and other RINOs; the Repubs are doing it to the Dems too.

He's stating Tinubu is weakening the Opposition from the inside. Technically, it isn't illegal except a law is being broken. There's no law against having allies on the other side.

Can you swear at this point Gov. Otti isn't causing disaffection amongst Abia APC at this moment? Haven't you seen Abia APC members turn on each other on Facebook?

The law isn't always moral. What isn't illegal might hurt your feelings. Always argue from a logical standpoint. Keep emotionality out of arguments.

joseph1832:
private outside but a tigress inside, no?

Yes, sir! She is a bad girl for me. But private. Just like I have always preferred them.

The timeline doesn't need to know we are up to at home and the moves we've been making. Like cuddling up and seeing this movie we are seeing is enough without validation from the world outside.

marlow1962:
Na lie, she no dy torment your brother, na your brother dy torment himself cus of the love of baddie.

If your brother dy responsible, as him see baddie with leg chain, him no supposed take such person serious cus such person belongs to the street.

I have always avoided intimacy with women who dress that way: leg chains, nose rings, multiple piercings, tattoos, drink, smóke, abuse drúgs etc.

I judge women harshly by how they present themselves. I have ALWAYS avoided women who are always in the thick of controversies only and involved in gender wars. Once I see "gender advocate" nonsense, I flee.

I have no empathy for men entangled with such women. They walked right into it.

I like my women cultured, feminine, composed and private.

BlueRayDick:
He knows deploying troops without senate approval is an impeachable offence, that's why he's quickly write to them ASAP.

If the Senate were not a rubber stamp one, they would query him over the deployment of ground and air forces on Sunday prior to seeking senate approval. But as things are currently, he has nothing to worry about since they even sing "On Your mandate we shall stand" in the senate house. They definitely won't raise much of an eyebrow considering almost everyone either belongs to his party or are on their way to the party.

If we had a proper opposition instead of everyone waiting for Obi to say what they are too scared to say out loud, Atiku would have started a court case on Monday making a case for impeachment.

At least it would have forced a hearing and Bayo Onanuga would have unwittingly admitted to it as evidence in his tweet while trying to counter.

Somehow I miss the Saraki-led Senate.

As usual, when the FG makes a gaffe, they post a distracting article or discourse to make us redirect our attention.


The topic is we bragged about bombing a sovereign country. Stay on topic.

Ibime:
So far they requested it, it is a valid intervention

So Nigeria can be big brother to someone in this world?

The Syrian Militia asked for help from the U.S. to fight the Syrian Government which the former accused of persecution of its people.

It was justified by certain quarters and that was the pretext to invade Syria.

Is this begining to ring a bell?

Nigerian organisations (including our current INEC Chairman) have been writing the U.S., seeking intervention to save Nigerian Christians being massacred while the Nigerian state looks on or persecute those who try to defend themselves.

By your own admission and the antecedental example I stated in Syria, Trump is justified to breach our sovereignty and invade us, right, Ibime?

OasisX:


..........they called for help, Nigeria responded and delivered. That’s all matter, rest na story bruh.

We can’t allow a repetition of Niger scenario in the South, that ain't gonna happen. ECOWAS Standby Forces are already on ground to clear off the planet, the remaining Coupists.

DissTroy:
ECOWAS deploys troops to Benin Republic.

https://www.nairaland.com/8576741/ecowas-orders-immediate-deployment-troops

Good. That's what we should have done as allied/regional forces - not Nigeria going to bomb. Or we could have just bombed as first on the scene then claim it was ECOMOG.

The U.S. does same claiming NATO forces as a buffer.

You know why the U.S. gets a lot of shielding when it breaches sovereignty? It has a NATO buffer.

The U.S. is the chief sponsor of NATO and UN forces so it uses them as cover.

Nigeria is the chief sponsor of ECOWAS forces - we should have used them as cover. That way you shield your citizens from being singled out for scapegoating by military dictatorships and other aggressive West African states.

This is what I mean.

ECOWAS deploys troops to Benin Republic.

https://www.nairaland.com/8576741/ecowas-orders-immediate-deployment-troops

Good. That's what we should have done as allied/regional forces - not Nigeria going to bomb. Or we could have just bombed as first on the scene then claim it was ECOMOG.

The U.S. does same claiming NATO forces as a buffer.

OasisX:


.....read again bruh. LOL!

We are stating the same thing. There's a Benin Republic account on X this minute posting hour by hour updates of bombings and shootings going on there.

Coup is treasonable.

Asking a foreign government to invade your country is treasonable.

It's a stalemate.

We should never have admitted it was us bombing - we should have been silent. That's what the U.S. does in Latin America.

OasisX:


.....For Nigeria Invade a Sovereign Nation Crooner, this is for you. LOL!

You do realize the report you posted is an official confirmation that Nigeria actually invaded a sovereign nation, right?

Worse even, no part of the official statement mentioned Tinubu consulted with the NASS - he took a unilateral decision to invade a sovereign country on "saving democracy" grounds?

You also realize all our arguments that Trump can't invade Nigeria on "saving Christians" grounds have been rendered invalid, right?

Already, all of the 4 or 5 military dictatorships in West African will increase their hostilities against Nigerians in their domains and particularly consider us threats.

Go on X; many strong APC guys are condemning the bombing.

We handled this one badly. We should never have officially admitted to invading and bombing a sovereign nation. Even the U.S. never does admit to such interference unless classified documents are leaked.

South Africans are having a field day on X, mocking our hitherto claims of Pan-Africanism.

BlueRayDick:
I think Rivers state used to be very clean too, what later happened to the state is what I don't know.

In 1998 when we traveled to PH for my uncle's wedding, everyone one of us that traveled down from Lagos were shocked at how clean PH city was. The roads were just too unbelievably clean.

Fast forward to present day, PH is not anywhere near what it used to be in terms of cleanliness.

Amaechi would have been the best governor Rivers State ever had, but he made two mistakes.

1. He gave out too many capital project contracts to indigenous contractors as compensation who ended up embezzling the money. The Elelenwo -Akpajo Road linking Eleme - Ikot Abasi Federal Highway and Port Harcourt - Aba Federal Highway is a prime example.


2. He lost the last 3 years of his administration fighting Patience Jonathan (and Goodluck) while funding the coalition to merge into an opposition while Akpabio and Fashola were going at top speed.

That beef affected the completion of both federal highways I mentioned. The Akwa Ibom part is good but the Rivers part is part after Ogoni.

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But Amaechi had good intentions. He used to drive powerbikes around to inspect projects. Insisted on free education and built model schools which were well-equipped.

He was the one who use to force landlords to paint their buildings else the RVSG will paint the buildings then give them a bill.

Theflint1:
Nigeria actually has a lot of states that people should normally be able to reside in if not for this insecurity issue, like there was a time last year I seriously considered moving to Akwa Ibom...Calabar is still quite decent, Jos is another nice city, Asaba and Delta environs isn't bad either...Kaduna is another state I've heard good things about, Enugu too, if not for the water issues.

You need to have seen Calabar under Duke. That was the period the saying "Efik edi afia enwe" (transliterated as "Efiks are Whites" ) was most popular.

It was a crime to drop litter in Calabar. It was under Akpabio too. Yes, you'll be picked by a taskforce for dropping litter even from a moving vehicle.

Cross River slacked under Imoke while Akwa Ibom picked up under Akpabio.

I have noticed the better-performing governors are those who fought their way to earn it without the backing of Godfathers.

Akpabio fought an institution to earn it so performed. Imoke was literally handed the reins and messed it up.

"Akwa Ibom Ranked the Cleanest State in Nigeria, Topping the List For the Eight Consecutive Year".

https://punchng.com/akwa-ibom-ranked-cleanest-state-in-nigeria-for-2025-report

Yes, but it is relative to other states. Funny how under Akpabio it was, you'd be surprised, twice as clean as it is today.

Under Akpabio, it was almost a crime to allow dirt or weed in drainages, or uncovered drainages in the major cities.

And two minutes after rainfall in the capital city, all drainage and rain water automatically siphoned into the underground drainage system.

Still the best governor (project execution-wise of his era) and the best the people of his state have had so far.


Sad also, that Cross River under Donald Duke use to hold this record. Now Calabar is, you know.

Akpabio the Senate President with all of his flaws and gaffes still gets a pass from his people because we haven't forgotten Akpabio the Governor. It's why he still gets defended or his people turning a blind eye to his flaws on the national stage.

TemporaryHansel:
If it can truly be filtered it'll be enjoyable, I agree but I've not been able to do so. That networking aspect and the fact that when you open the app you hardly need to talk because most times people already said what's on your mind as if they're reading your thoughts.

From my account.

1. Click on web or just use your app. https://x.com/settings/privacy_and_safety Mute words like 'purrr", mute "BBNaija", "Bobrisky', and any word those irate feminist mob like to use. Mute accounts like Mochievious and the rest of the Coven.

If you want to avoid the toxic rivalry between Davido and Wizkid's fanatics, mute certain words like "Popsy" and "001". The Coven and the BBNaija crowd flock around such posts and they are usually the ground zero for gender wars and scandals.

2. To network and join Communities, click the Communities tab on your app or click this link: https://x.com/communities .

The screenshots are what mine look like.

TemporaryHansel:
Even changing the country and muting words/people hardly solve the problem. At a point, I deleted the app entirely.

I can't delete it even I wanted to. It's the best platform to really network and learn the latest industry trends without all of the superficial megalomania of LinkedIn and the toxicity and rivalry of Facebook. Plus you get opinions without the filter of biased mainstream media with an agenda.

It's also not an echo chamber and even your nested comments get seen unlike the other two platforms.

There are X groups you can join. It takes time. It took me two years from 2020 to 2022 to really clean-up my X timeline.

The Ezra controversy almost dragged me back in but I escaped.

When almost every trending woman is a misandrist on X Nigeria and every woman is posting about putting men down, soon enough you begin to second-guess the good woman you have at home who has earned the admiration you shower on her. If you're not careful, you treat her harshly till it becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy.

If you find such issues, just copy the X link, read in incognito mode, note the lessons to be learnt like the ones I learnt about the whole of FemCo tumbling during Ezra's unraveling then move on. Don't interact with your account so such toxicity never turn up on your timeline.

We need more stories like this to scare men and women. The fear of AIDS has waned.

You'll see men sleep with a girl who is known to be loose. You know your girl is unfaithful but you're still sleeping with her to "teach her a lesson and waste her time" while risking your health.

In the last year, sale of condoms in Nigeria dropped by 55% which means more people are having unprotected sex, including those with multiple partners.

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
Dey play. Some of dis children of Naija politicians wey dey move with LGTV ideology, wey be say their papa marry one wife nko? Wetin be the cause? Wetin studies talk about that one?
Recently , some married women begin expose themselves for TikTok live,.. Women wey dey their husband house ooh.

Again, like I stated in my caveat, exceptions do not negate the rule. And I never mentioned sexual/gender dysphoria so as not to deviate from the point.

If you haven't yet started, choose that girl with the least baggages before you impregnate her then both of you raise the kids right or to the best of your ability. At least let them see mummy and daddy together, and you being a present father.

Don't duplicate the Andrew Tates, Gehgehs, and Nick Cannons of this world, please.

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
U never understand my point. This is not an issue of SS1 male student impregnating a
Jss3 female student. I dey talk about made men, wealthy men taking good care of his offspring, whether the child come from legal marriage or not.
Most of them know all the children they gave birth to, na even the mothers go dey bring the children closer to their dad, even women wey he toast, knack but dem no produce children together go still wan claim inheritance. Children wey go dey wayward go dey wayward no be about who raise am.
Maybe you don't like polygamy.

A dysfunctional family is what GehGeh, Nick Cannon, and Andrew Tate create when they impregnate multiple women without being present for the day-to-day nurturing of those kids by multiple women.

Where they know their fathers are their fathers but their mothers bring multiple men home who sleep with them.

Where there's no firm figure of authority and the kids were raised to accept dysfunctionality as the norm.

Where studies have shown kids from dysfunctional homes are 2x - 3x more likely to end up in such dysfunctional relationships.

Where the figures perpetuate themselves and kids from dysfunctional homes have to work more times to break away from that circle and cycle.

Where a girl from a dysfunctional family setting is more likely to be abusing and finds it more difficult to pair bond with a man because that's not what she was raised in.

If financial provision is all there is then child support and gifts would have been the cure for such in the Black American community which I had earlier typified with.

iamoyindamola:
Reno is a disgrace

https://www.nairaland.com/8572609/how-did-reno-omokri-tinubus

He's not - he's just the stereotypical Nigerian politician who can't survive long enough without personal political patronage and goodwill.

The same thing is playing out at state level if you are involved in such things.

Any politician or activist who has no veritable source of income which can survive without political patronage is a commodity trumpeting himself/herself enough for attention to be bought. The meet at events every weekend and embrace.

It's the rest of us who are naive cursing out ourselves and burning bridges for them, ignoring the issues which matter.

You and I can't swear Obi, Tinubu, Atiku, Kwankwaso, and Emir Sanusi haven't spoken to each other this year; even more than once since that Trump declaration in October.

OkpaNsukkaisBae:
There's nothing wrong in having children from multiple women. Whether true marriage, friendship or one night stand.
The most important thing is for the man to have the resources & finance to take care of his family.

There's everything wrong with spurning dysfunctional families.

Have you read about the research between the correlation of dysfunctional family units and crime amongst the Black American community?

Kids from such units are more likely to dô drûgs, commit (violent) crîmes, and perform poorer academically. Teenage pregnancy is higher in that demography and juvenile delinquency.

There's everything wrong with birthing kids by multiple men or women with no fealty to the men/women the kids are had with. Kids in two-parent households from infancy do better. This is proven to be so, backed up by decades of research. Exceptions do not negate the general outcomes.

semid4lyfe:
TikTok is the new frontier for gender wars and na there the feminism and manosphere community advocates dey ply their trade now.

It's all content for most parts, and it will get worse with how the GehGeh guy became an internet sensation almost overnight and amassed wealth in a short period of time.

Scandals and controversies involving these hardcore gender warriors have shown they don't believe or practice what they preach. It's just part of being a tribe.

Ozzy Etomi, Mochievious, GehGeh (a serial baby father who brags about children with multiple 4 women who also funds the women's lifestyles now), Solomon Buchi, and so on on X.

The scandals on Facebook and more.

You have to be logical in love and marriage, but to the point where you treat a good woman or man like trash to prove you're the prize or something?

If they knew all the answers, how come they aren't in loving relationships/marriages?

Scandals have shown the feminists groveling at the feet of men, and the hardcore 'manists' actually tolerating the excesses of their women.

Best thing is to change Twitter location and mute certain words and people. There's too much gender toxicity going on on X Nigeria, and everyone who gets too involved gets torched eventually. Everyone.

Ibime:
I done tire for Burna and Afrobeats in general TBH, nobody dey sing betta ting for long time. Even Asake fail me

You've seen the light finally.

Try Tems, Bez Idakula, Nonso Amadi, and Blessing Tangban.

That's your Stage 1 detox programme to step into a better realm of music.

Ibunkun1:
mad people. Na them dey give other genuine people bad reputation

this yahoo and fraud thing na menace honestly. To see a young person with legit hustle now na by connection. Na now we go see say a lot of Americans dey Naija

These people don't know what they have done to us.

Now is the worst time to try to connect or get gigs on X. Everyone is super suspicious of a Nigerian account.

We are many who have never done fraud or broached the idea. Many.

These crooks just worsened an already bad situation.

Now watch as all those Indeed, X, and LinkedIn cold DMs and emails to founders, coys, and VCs will get increasingly bounced soon as you are noticed to be in the +234 area code.

If LinkedIn introduces it, it will be a tsunami.

Anonymity is an illusion anyway; a myth.

Queenslander:
Ugm in the east, is none existent right now.. they're a thing of the past.. look for some other group to blame,.

https://thesun.ng/insecurity-how-gunmen-left-sorrow-trauma-hunger-in-south-east/#:~:text=Anambra,Anambra%20communities%20and%20Imo%20communities.

October 31, 2025. You'll see reports of recent activities of UGM in the South East.

Sun Newspaper is owned by a Southeasterner.

For rap heads, this guy explains the Nigerian situation in less than 2 minutes: https://www.facebook.com/reel/1562919977941475/ .

Nezzjnr:
I don kuku delete my X app

I can’t stand watching all these

Seeing that Old woman running is really heartbreaking.

Don't. You'll miss out on too much.

Change your content location to somewhere like Texas or Florida.

Mute certain words.

Untick "Personalize content".

Unfollow or mute people who retweet those gory videos.

Follow certain groups/hashtags; maybe in tech, startup, philosophy...

You'll see global and regional trends, then interact.

X Nigeria will drive you mád. There are always gory details, trending scandals of politicians' sordid dids, misandrists wrecking the lives of men... controversies that will mess up your day.

I still haven't watched the said Kwara video or that of the Army officer assassinated. Still not on my timeline.

It's the only way to stay sane.

Emaprince:
Guy you never know women and their tricks. Even as you wish to talk face to face. There are things she will stylishly evade discussing with you, and would rather put it on chat.

No go lose guard o.

I was exactly like what Diss.troy siad too. I no dey screnshot chats..but I no dey delete chats. No matter how we separated. Our chat history go stay untouched. You never know when it will save you from wrong accusatiins.

I remember the story of neymar, where chat history saved him from being canceled as a molester.

He'll never know until the day he becomes a public figure of note or his social profile rises enough to get media attention.

That's when he'll know that ex from 10 years ago still has his phone number.

If it's Messenger, screenshot. Facebook accounts get deactivated and hacked everyday.

Years ago, a certain female had reached out when my comments on a popular blogger account gained traction. She was out-and-out and very forward with experiencing her desire. But she wasn't attractive enough and too faraway to make it worth exploring so I left her on Read. You know spam messages do not indicate if messages are read or not.

Months later, she ambushed me on the same Facebook page, terming me arrogant and all. Next, she said I was stalking her when I hit back with a scathing response. The women were already supporting her because the post I had made initially was redpilled and they hàted my guts.

What saved me was digging downing into my archives in the spam messages to prove with evidence she was indeed stalking me and was bitter I didn't give in to what she wanted.

If I had no evidence, those misandrists would have screenshotted her allegations to troll me and maybe I'd have gone viral and ridiculed.

Have you gone through a chat to see a female delete an apology or admission of guilt she made to you 24 hours or 3 days earlier? I have.

It's better to prepare for war and experience peace than prepare for peace experiencing war.

Don't and you are the next cautionary tale waiting to be debated on this thread and the wider Internet.

TemporaryHansel:
. There’s already a problem when you’re screenshotting conversations with your own partner. It means you’re anticipating failure before the relationship even breathes. If you need receipts to feel safe, that’s your sign, you two were never meant to be together in the first place. These red flags aren’t exactly advanced calculus.

For some of us, once we start dating someone, we stop chatting with them online oh. Anything we want to say, we say it face-to-face or on a call.

If you’re with someone you constantly have to monitor, screenshot, and stay on guard with, you already know you shouldn’t be with them. But people force what shouldn’t be forced, all because they lack proper vetting instincts.

Even the most docile woman will torch you if she is scorned.

A year ago, with how Ned pampered and platformed Regina, would you have suspected she would try to ruin him like she's doing today? He gave her everything: money, power...

The smart man saved evidence to prove she wasn't a minor, kept evidence of her family being unruly but never acted on it.

You are a man. The world has already designated you guilty until proven otherwise. Regina didn't need to provide any evidence to prove guilt - it's Ned doing so to prove innocence.

You are slightly older than your lady. She's beautiful. She can cry. And she has a significant social media following and the de facto support of a horde of sexist women trying by all means to justify their victim's card.

Nothing on Earth will save you except hard evidence. You are most vulnerable at your happiest.

Stay alert!

The scorned female in this story is heavy on social media with a lot of following. Outwardly religious too. Got a lot of traction on all posts.

She tried to pull the victim card. Screenshots and other digital evidence I had saved, and quickly presenting those facts to a federal MDA were my saving grace. I got a proper apology.

I'd have been a hashtag.

Last month, I checked Instagram spam messages on my account I haven't visited all year - I saw a message from the same person trying to reconnect and admitting certain things.

You better control your narrative. At all points even when you chat, ask yourself, "If things go south, and this chat goes public, how will I be portrayed?" When you know this, even a simple, "Babe, you hurt me today" must be addressed.

A woman scorned is unpredictable.

DissTroy:
Years ago I got involved with a certain female. Fairskinned and pretty. We met at a 3-day conference where I was in charge of media and PR. After we kept stealing glances at each other, we eventually talked and, well, you know... It led to us being intimate and going steady.

I found out she was in her finals and seeking a high-ranking position in an inter-school Student Union. She won sweepingly. She confided in me some of her opponents would get disqualified and it played out so.

Months later whenever she visited me or during WhatsApp chats, she'd complain about a certain "Doctor" who was head of student affairs frustrating her and not allowing them have events in one of the schools while they had it easier in other schools.

I told her to confront him. She said she would; no change. I asked that she writes to the VC and a certain female Commissioner. She mentioned I was taking it too far and she knows how to deal with him. Then when he restricted her union access to dues, she revolted against him. I saw text messages. I helped her draft the letter to some bodies. Beautifully written.

The man and I became acquainted somewhat at the same event I met her without knowing I went on to have anything with her later. One day he invited me to a lounge so we could talk more about digitisation of his academic research and how he could diversify with online courses.

I told this lady and she went,"Babe, it's not far. Easy to locate. It's even close to his house" while she was doing her beauty routine so we'd retire for the night.

"Even close to his house." Then it clicked! They have a history before she met me! How else would she have known his house?

We had each other's phone passwords as she managed social media pages too for some brands so I helped her with PR-speak. I searched the man's name in her Messenger app. Checked their chats from a year before we met. They had a thing before she broke it off months before she met me! It made sense then!

Basically, he did her favours even after meeting me while making herself seem available to continuing it until she won the election. I not knowing thought she was genuinely being persecuted.


Last month, at a meeting with some elites, I reconnected with the man. He's become a professor. About 50 years old now or so. We talked a while and resumed chatting online. He still doesn't know how connected a web we both were asides the digitisation of his works; that we had a thing for the same girl. Thank goodness the coochie didn't blind me.



By everything sacred in the universe, I swear this story is true. I only did not mention exact places and dates to protect the identity of the man.

Connect the dots with the recounts and exchanges with KingTom this morning then come to your own conclusions.