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When dealing with women, the BEST approach (besides not dealing with them in the first place) is to "keep your foot on their neck" to keep them in check. But this is far easier said than done.
A woman's chaotic nature will, naturally, bred chaos in lives of men associated with them.

Imagine a floodgate holding back a dam of water (chaos). Once you get involved with her, you are "hired" as a "staff member" in charge of maintaining that flood gate. The more you get involved with her, the higher your "promotion" as a staff member. When promoted to the highest level (marriage) it becomes your job to singlehandedly maintain those mighty floodgates. The other "staff" members [male friends, orbiters, friendzone employees, etc.] may stick around but the vast majority of workload is now on your shoulders (those staff members will often attend to the floodgates when 'it' feels you're not doing a great job).

But you're a strong man, right? Surely you could do a great job perpetually..
Yes... if you, as a human, had NO limits.
You see, the floodgates are never satisfied so any great job done on it will be the gold standard, or perhaps the bare minimum. How long will you keep outdoing yourself?
With all this going on, the floodgates also prod and shit test him constantly to see if he can keep the dam of water (her chaos) back.

QUICK SIDETRACK: She will hate a man who is too weak to keep her in check but when met with a man strong enough to do so, she will shit test him indefinitely because she is insecure*, hence; she is never 'satisfied' with his (initial) proof of strength.
* As stated previously, if a woman, by her own hand, cannot be happy/fulfilled then no one can make her such. Accordingly, if she cannot make herself feel secure then no one truly can. Even "God helps those who help THEMSELVES."
Back to the topic...

Her selfish constant prods and shit tests will deprive him of peace of mind whenever it's within reach, which will take a toll on his mind, mentally weakening him in the process. Though, she causes most of the deterioration of his strength she does not see that. Instead, she simply sees a man becoming too weak to make her feel secure.
The floodgates are weakening. With each confirmation of a weak "engineer" the bolts come unloose, the hinges come apart, the water can't be held back. He tries his best to 'fix' the floodgates but he knows not what he deals with. The flood is inevitable. It will come. All the other "staff members" can do is stand at a safe distance and watch.
As he stands before the gates, he is (instinctively) aware of what's about to come. There's no manner of regret that doesn't flow through his mind at that moment. As the floodgates violently swing open the connatural chaos of woman is let loose on him. He might have been given advice on not becoming a floodgate engineer, or perhaps, he had a bad feeling in his gut, maybe he thought he was the best possible engineer, more skilled than whoever came before---whatever the case may be, he now fully understands female nature.. the hard way.

"Smart men learn from their mistakes. Wise men learn from the mistakes of others."

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atheistandproud:
I don't women necessarily or strictly dislike men that they can manipulate per sé. They actually do like them to large extent, but only as far as they can use them to fulfill their needs.

As soon as he's no longer useful, they dump his ass. If he later becomes useful and is still a simp, they pick up right where they left off.

They don't like him, they like what they get from him. They like his resources (so they stay); they dislike him as a person (for his weakness/gullibility) so they exit with ease when time comes.

A woman's success (manipulation) with a man is strictly dependent on his ignorance. A man well-equiped with knowledge on her or her nature will always be on guard. This, obviously, hinders her inherent method of interacting with him.
Pretty basic stuff.. but here's the chaotic aspect of it:

Women hate logical men because these men are likely to see through their ploys (this might even pique their vindictive tendencies). Women hate weak (foolish) men who they can easily manipulate and exploit. So in essence, they dislike men they can't manipulate and dislike men they can manipulate (though, the latter is met with a large dose of disrespect).
This is one of the main reasons they are often referred to as the "confused gender" because, as a certain individual phrased it, women want fried ice.

Their hunt for fried ice is one of the many ways they instill chaos into the lives of the men (romantically) involved with them.

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@OP It will be tough to hear it but:

https://www.nairaland.com/7166252/wahala-chaos-female-nature#up

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An interesting comment:

Women don't leave unless you're crushed. They'll leave u if you're feeling worse than they are(crushed in spirit) Whether life has u down & depressed or they themselves have torn you down,(a fight for example) they will leave once they have brought u lower than them. Like a finishing move, witnessing her enemies'  complete destruction.
Psychotic, yes. But it's how emotional they are. If ur not strong enough to deal with them (& their crap) then ur not strong enough to keep them and make them look up to ur as "their man." Put it this way: "Women don't leave UNTIL you're crushed."

Women's minds are wired differently than ours & they have certain perceptions about men, and if we break those perceptions then we break whatever makes them want to be with us.
If a woman thinks a guy doesn't need her, then she is more likely to stick around. But if you ever say something to a woman like "I can't live without you", then that is the beginning of the end and she'll eventually leave. They always have to think that you can live without them. Women will forgive a guy that hits them, long before they forgive a guy who is weak.

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You should probably check this out:

https://www.nairaland.com/7166252/wahala-chaos-female-nature

dhiqson:
We the taliban arm of this movement affirm this thread and blesses it

Taliban comrade, I hope these blessings are not vawulent o

Women are powered by a deep cycle battery consisting of solipsism and egocentrism. In other words, every single thing a woman does is for her benefit. Unlike man that would sacrifice himself financially, emotionally or even physically for a woman--a woman only acts on what will benefit her in the short or long term.

If one were to keep this in mind, one would see that whatever a woman does is for her gain in some shape or form. For example, if a man needs a job/loses his job she will actively push him to seek work or she'll find and seek out work for him---to the average person she might seem 'supportive', a 'wife material' of sorts but in reality she does this because she lives off his livelihood, and if not currently (dating) then later (marriage).

Another example, the friendship between a male and female---whereas a male would befriend a female for the sake of friendship, a female will befriend a male for money/gifts, favors or free attention (their sustenance). "If we're friends I have to be getting something na" she thinks to herself.
If a female gives a gift or money to a male, she doesn't do it out of the kindness of her heart... it serves as ownership over the male (one of the reasons they'll be quick to bring it up during a disagreement) or as an investment; with this selective generosity she plants the single seed of a gift in the mind of the oblivious male, which will yield the fruit of ten gifts (in the long run) for her.

During a stroll I walked past a lady and two guys having a discussion. The lady exclaimed to the effect of "Yes nau, is that not what a relationship is for? A relationship is for two people to be 'using' each other.." By convincing herself with that, she can now rationalise her exploitation and manipulation... smh.. at least she was honest...

Another common example is the employment of chameleon tactics---e.g. cooking for him, cleaning for him, arranging his home etc.; as established earlier, these 'good' deeds serve as her investment goal (marriage), in which, like a chameleon, she will (slowly) revert to her true colours after getting her "ROI."
These chameleon tactics can also be seen with "pickmes" and "men's rights advocates"---who do not really care for whatever struggles a man goes through, but rather "support" and "advocate" for men so men perceive them as "caring" and "empathetic" women worthy of having a protector and provider.

Remember: A woman's self-serving interests will ALWAYS be her number one priority, it will always be in the forefront of her actions and words whilst it lies under the guise of "love," "concern" and "empathy"---only visible to those aware of her nature.

Another easy to spot example is with the way or manner women give relationship advice to men. They will project themselves onto the female and the advice will almost always benefit that female in the relationship (often to the disadvantage of the male). E.g.
"Your girlfriend cheated on you? Please forgive her, she won't do it again"---Translation---"Because your girlfriend slept with someone you want to deprive her of your resources? Please stop being wicked."

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"A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle" - interesting saying, no doubt originating from a woman..

A host can survive without parasite; a parasite cannot survive without host.
A man can live without woman; a woman cannot live without man.
The host might think it can live 'healthily' with parasite, but in actuality, the host would be better off without parasite.
The parasite might think it can live without host---a self destructive thought---interestingly, its very means of survival involves slowly stripping the host of its life force (its 'life' comes at the cost of host's).
A parasite cannot feed off another parasite. It may share a host but that is unlikely because that means less 'nutrients' for it.

To emphasise on this, here's an old saying about women:
"Women understand women, and they can't stand each other." To further emphasise this, here's a guest appearance from MNDY:
For you to know how terrible they are, they don't like themselves because they know and understand their own ways. Hence they want to avoid suffering problems and troubles they can cause for each other. So they hate each other and would rather make friends with men.

Very mischievous and in recent times, they have become very shameless too. They are adult-children. The Bible groups them with children so the best way to be dealing with them is to play with them and be stern with them respectively.

Wahala for who no sabi female nature:

https://www.nairaland.com/7166252/wahala-chaos-women#113559648

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Cc johnycastro18 littlechild shegzy8 sweetvibe kokomilala

Virtue, honor, integrity---traits a woman wants in a man but deems foolish for her to possess. There's a saying along the lines of "Whatever a man finds honorable, a woman finds disgusting."
What a woman lacks in brute strength and rationality she---naturally---makes up for with cunning and manipulation...

The issue now is, she can't effectively utilise her 'cunning and manipulativeness' if she's being held back by pesky attributes like 'ego, shame and conscience'. In order to fully reach the potential of her 'attack and defence' bestowed upon her by nature, she must suppress the previously mentioned attributes and aforementioned traits of virtue, honor and integrity---these are the traits and attributes of "fools."
Virtue, honor, integrity---traits a woman wants in a man but deems foolish for her to possess.


The Dark Triad: Narcissism, Machiavellianism and Psychopathy.

A while ago, while contemplating the chaotic female nature I made the assumption that women possess at least one of the Dark Triads; Narcissism---this narcissism is bred in them by society pampering and pleasing women like they would children, which I later confirmed after reading The Anatomy of Female Power.

Then, as I remembered a quote from Arthur Schopenhauer and came to the conclusion that women possess at least two of the dark triads; Narcissism and Machiavellianism;
      The fundamental defect of the female character is a lack of a sense of justice. This originates first and foremost in their want of rationality and capacity for reflexion but it is strengthened by the fact that, as the weaker sex, they are driven to rely not on force but on cunning: hence their instinctive subtlety and their ineradicable tendency to tell lies: for, as nature has equipped the lion with claws and teeth, the elephant with tusks, the wild boar with fangs, the bull with horns and the cuttlefish with ink, so it has equipped woman with the power of dissimulation as her means of attack and defence, and has transformed into this gift all the strength it has bestowed on man in the form of physical strength and the power of reasoning. Dissimulation is thus inborn in her and consequently to be found in the stupid woman almost as often as in the clever one. To make use of it at every opportunity is as natural to her as it is for an animal to employ its means of defence whenever it is attacked, and when she does so she feels that to some extent she is only exercising her rights. A completely truthful woman who does not practice dissimulation is perhaps an impossibility, which is why women see through the dissimulation of others so easily it is inadvisable to attempt it with them. – But this fundamental defect which I have said they possess, together with all that is associated with it, gives rise to falsity, unfaithfulness, treachery, ingratitude, etc. Women are guilty of perjury far more often than men. It is questionable whether they ought to be allowed to take an oath at all.
- Arthur Schopenhauer

So, women possess Female Narcissism (signified by their entitlement, lack of empathy [towards men], self-aggrandising, lack of self awareness, self-esteem chiefly dependent on male validation, etc.) from society and Machiavellianism from nature.

And then, funnily enough, I came to the conclusion that.. since each woman is crazy (to varying degrees) then it's pretty much a gamble as to whether a woman possesses just two or all three of the Dark Triads.

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Women and children want freedom but they can't control themselves (chaotic). They'll simply hurt themselves and others in the process.

Adam wandered peacefully in the GARDEN (peace of mind) until Eve came, though, he didn't leave the GARDEN immediately.. Eve wanting freedom (chaos) ate the forbidden fruit and hurt herself. She had now acquired knowledge from the fruit and had become fully aware of what she's doing---but despite this, she then decided to hurt Adam in the process by feeding him the fruit (chaos), which in turn drove BOTH parties from the garden (peace of mind).

A majority of hardships women face in their lives is self-inflicted by their chaotic nature.
But of course, like children, they'll much rather blame others for their problems even going so far as to blame society--patriarchy, even though the patriarchy is there to keep them in line and protect them from themselves.

Because women lack proper adversities they are almost always unhappy since they don't get a sense of fulfillment from conquering said adversities. What 'joy' they interpret as 'happiness' is attained from devious antics such as, successfully manipulating someone, reaping what they did not sow and perceiving themselves as better than other (women) people i.e. schadenfreude.

"A woman's 'happiness' comes at the cost of someone else's."
- Rosemund P. Cherubin

A woman doesn't want to 'win', she only wants a winner---she is content with being a loser while being with a winner. Her idea of making it in life is being with someone who has made it in life.
One might reason that.. if they're unhappy then surely they'd find happiness in a relationship, right? No. If a person is unhappy and unfulfilled when single they'll remain unhappy in a relationship, except now, BOTH parties will be unhappy. If a person cannot make themselves happy and fulfilled then no one can.

"Avoid the unhappy and the unfortunate... Most important of all, do not take pity. Do not enmesh yourself in trying to help. The infector (unhappy/unfortunate) will remain unchanged and you will be unhinged." - Robert Greene

RAGGA40:
To my Redpill brothers, today is my birthday, celebrate with me, may we all continue to get unplugged from the simping disorder

Happy birthday bro

smat101:
She didn't tell you people the full story, They were having sex at a time.

How'd you figure?

Blueelf:
See the ugly thing sef

E sure me say that man just wan Bleep am make him cum for her face



Ain't no way any man in his right senses would be attracted to her

DC's Catwoman

seanwilliam:
Hmm. Well no one is perfect including MEN , but anything you know you can’t put up with as a man or woman , that’s red flag.

So if I were in his shoes, honestly I can’t marry her. She’s disrespectful and not submissive.


Those are the biggest flaws/flags I can’t over look no matter how you put it…



But if she’s making effort to change for real , I can still manage. Mind you , there’s different between pretending to change and changing for real . I can figure the bolded out easily .. but to be frank, some characters no fit change ..

I have anger issues too, and I’ve been making efforts day and night to change for better , so marrying a woman who gets sharp mouth might send me to jail .

Cos I will be tempted to uproot her 36 teeth..

I'm really curious.. please what are ways you personally use to identify the bolded?

Godoverevery:
And if i decide to grow old single or die single how is that any of your life business

Be sorry for yourself because that chances of me getting married is more higher than you complaining slowpoke.

Na their format be that. Shame tactics is their immediate go-to when they encounter any opinion or suggestion that even hints at affecting their benefits (in this case; marriage). Sometimes I think it's like a reflex action for them, like a defence mechanism they're often not conscious of.

On the bright side, it makes it very easy to spot their self-serving interests, because a woman would never genuinely defend or advocate for anything that doesn't benefit her (in the long run).

@ nazgul godoverevery May I recommend you gents a short book titled The Predatory Female by Lawrence Shannon.. I think it might answer some of your questions on marriage.

Ballzproblemm:
when we keep telling people there's no benefits in marriage they'll start to call us small boys, do not be deceived by anyone telling marriage is blissful ,is not.

P.S:- only people advocating for marriage are single women and trapped men

But why those trapped men dey advocate for marriage? Is it a 'misery loves company' type of thing?

ProphetofOdin:
When a man doesn't want sex it does not always mean he is cheating, I have seen a lot of women make this rash conclusions-which are completely wrong. A man refusing sex could be psychological and emotional too. The question should be what has been their marriage history and the role the wife has played in all of this? How has he been doing in his career, work or business and how is the wife trying to support him?
Trust me "most men" don't think of sex when they are feeling inadequate.

Women are raised with the notion that men want sex anyhow anyhow, so when they encounter a man that doesn't see sex as gold it throws them into a fit of confusion. Naturally, the next thing to do is to make irrational conclusions.

There's also the very likely factor that she's not mentioning her hand (fault[s]) in this situation.

Also also, judging by the title phrasing of the thread---she's merely interested in the attention she gets when he asks (begs) for sex (which 'affects' her confidence) or she's actually bothered by him not being susceptible to one of women's most effective tool of manipulation.