₦airaland Forum

This is not men vs women, una nor reach!

This is reality!

cococandy:
Speak for the women in your circle only.

And while you’re at it, never again in your life call any woman a gold digger or mock her for being dependent. Because it seems wavering between different levels of illogic is now a pastime to you guys

Are they trying to use this one to change the narrative of the previous bomb explosion dubbed a gas explosion?

Why do we have to live life on the extreme? Highly career focused on one side and house wife on the other side. Can't we balance it so its a win-win for all parties?

How about a little career and a little house wife? We said we would take care of you, just be a submissive wife and we will love you to the moon. How's that not a win?

pocohantas:
You have to pick one. There are many jobless women in Nigeria. Date and marry them. When you do, sub for them every day without complaining or calling them liabilities. Admit they are helping something your very existence thrives on- YOUR EGO.

I am not fighting anything. I am actually looking for a man that would be giving me plenty money monthly without fight or plenty talk.

We're saying the same thing Poco

That's the reason many men would want a job that gives a woman more time for what's important to the man and still make enough money for her expenses. The man would still support her financially ontop her income.

Before you say 'whats important to man' , yes the man marries the wiman and not the other way round. The human male is actually generous and benevolent. the human male is the weakest among the make species of most living things . Flow with nature, dont fight it...God made it so!

pocohantas:
If your side-chicks had jobs or worked as hard as your wives to support your dreams, I doubt they would have the time and energy to fix eyelashes or do backflip on your prick.

If your wife dashes you to that side-chick for one week, I am sure she would run.

Osinbajo is good but Nigeria needs Peter Obi at a time like this!

Obi-diently waiting for APC primaries outcome

Yes because the career woman will be too busy to nurture both the children and the husband, too tired for great sex, too tired to take care of the kids or cook but delegate to house helps. And to make it worse, contribute disproportionately vs her income to running the home.

If a married can cannot get good sex, good food and still poor financial support...whats the point?

pocohantas:
We understand actually. We understand that men love broke women. How else do we explain men marrying career women and cheating on her with a Chidinma Ojukwu in a shortlet apartment?

Trust me we understand.

The challenge with many women is that they never try to understand men. They can take the few exceptions as the normal male behavior and even when you try to explain to them, they'd think you're against women.

Anyways, her guy did not fight her...he politely said he is no longer interested. Abi na by force?

pocohantas:
May I never be attractive to a man for my brokeness.

Most men won't tell you this in public but the higher a woman earns, the lesser her attraction to men.

pocohantas:
So you are saying that the mind of most NIGERIAN men is to ensure their wives never succeed. Nice to hear/read this from a man.

The mind of most men worldwide is a woman thats submissive vs a woman that earns more but not submissive. Its not only Nigerian men,trust me...its natural male behavior.

Success for a woman from a male's point of view is not necessarily financial but a woman that can take care and nurture the home, keep the family together and support financially but the financial support is not the main goal. Whether we like it or not, men will continue to determine the direction of the human race

pocohantas:
So you are saying that the mind of most NIGERIAN men is to ensure their wives never succeed. Nice to hear/read this from a man.

At the end of the day its her decision.

I just told her the mind of most men though many would pretend in public. This cuts across all countries including the West.

Women do not contribute much anyways towards the finance of the home irrespective of what they earn, so how can that be a priority to men? A man prioritizes your ability to follow his leadership!

pocohantas:
Are you listening to yourself? She should have rejected a well-paying job because that would rank her as a submissive woman before a Nigerian boyfriend that can break up with her tomorrow or turn community prick in Owerri?

Do you by any means realize she is someone’s daughter? That she was sent to school by her parents, not the coconut-headed bf?

That her parents would age and she would have to take care of them? Would this bf send them money without people like you telling him to dump her?

The Nigerian man’s definition of submissive sure stems from a place of gross wickedness and anything evil you can think of.

You could have taken the one that he suggested if you really wanted the relationship to continue. You just showed him you cannot listen to him so he wants out. Most men prefer a lady that earns low but submissive to a lady that earns high but not submissive.

People can say all they like but at the end of the day, you know what you gained or lost

julie90:
I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.

Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.

Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.

I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.

I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.

This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.

Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?

While you're right that the Igbos and the Yorubas have been politically useless, your language is too harsh. Be guided

RevDesm0ndJuju:
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“I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself.”

Quote by D.H. Lawrence:

The above quote epitomizes the foolishness of Ibadan and Enugu politics that has continued to only benefit Sawkata at the expense of the south .

It is high time to retire these willing slaves as front liners to a southern agenda. After all, the Fulani being a minority dictates northern hegemony . It is time the ND rise up and displace the yamri and Yaribanza self serving and shorting political apparatchik.


These two big for nothing nationals will not miss an opportunity in being subservient cucklords to northern Fulani interests and damn be it to any southern interests.

He is trying to build bridges

Newton2024:
Why is Orji Kalu campaigning for a northerner instead of his fellow Igbos among APC presidential aspirants? Is it better for North to continue if he cannot be picked for presidency? I wish to know the reason why he chickened out before the game began. I believe Igbos are not cowards.

Have you been doing fair primaries in Lagos? You cant choose in Lagos and expect contest at national.

Philipponzaghi:
No shock anywhere.

What we want is a fair primaries, if they win us, we will go back home to Lagos.

—When Buhari lost multiple times and failed, who did he look up to for help? Jagaban

Jagaban need him to reciprocate the effort now, we are not saying Buhari must support Jagaban but at least allow fair primaries and let the party delegates decide their man.

If Buhari cannot do that simple thing, then he is a big BETRAYER!

Asiwaju should rise up, he is a lion, he is Jagaban and a fighter, he fought OBJ and won, he fought the machinery of the PDP through the court and election ground; He should rise up and live up to the hype; We need his leadership and we need him to roar like the LION OF BOURDILLON!

Bubu can choose APC candidate but certainly not his successor!

redPUSSY:
He Who Goes To Equity Must Go To Equity With Clean Hands



This is Why Buhari Must Choose his successor!!!

For the record, Okocha and myself are from Anioma so it has nothing to do with hate. Salah is better and rated more than Okocha in world football!

Uzoisaga:
Bitterness and hat are poisonous to the carrier. How the heck was it only legendary JJ Okocha that you swam your pendulum to cast aspersion on?? They send U??
Even where football matters Okocha is massively celebrated by other legends.
Grow up lad

I mentioned only Salah...not those.

When fifa or any institution rates players in world football in 20yra time...Salah will be placed ahead of Okocha

Mumusaphire:
your opinion, you are correct. But verily I say onto u, in the next 20 years, if they are rating Africa best in history, jj okocha will always be ahead of those people u mentioned. Even go check facts, upon he doesn't won trophies, they still rating him ahead of kanu and mikel. Okocha is a skillful player, natural footballer.

You pick only one part of my logic to justify your response. I said trophies won and contribution towards winning those trophies is how players are rated. Key word is AND meaning you cant take one and leave the other.

Again, Salah is greater than Okocha!

damosky12:
With this logic, Obi Mikel is greater than Gerard. He has more trophies than him. Or Samuel Eto is greater than De Lima Ronaldo in club football. Or Giroud is greater than Harry Kane.

Trophies are won by teams. Individual skills, stats, abilities are how you rate individual players.

Salah and co are skillful anyway. I just said this to correct that error of rating individual players by team's trophies...

Salah is greater than Okocha.

Sentiments means nothing in this case, trophies and contribution to getting those trophies matters!

So why did she win the first time? Because she's a woman!

She should actually be convicted for perjury!

Ishilove:
He had a better team of lawyers this time, that's why he won.

Men, in trying to be fair, made laws that put them in a disadvantaged position rather than a position of equity. Africa, Asia and South America must uphold the masculinity of men else the future becomes female!

But why are you running away from technology? Its only in Nigeria that population decreases as you approach the ocean!

Frigga13:
South and their useless population propaganda

Oga even if UN commonwealth, unicef,, who.. conduct census today

The north population is way up above the south..

Stop deceiving yourself and spreading local propaganda

Where is the population in the south

Lagos and where ?

Una go dey one place dey manufacture stale propaganda

Look for another

Foolish elders fighting at a time like this!

Divorce her already! How did men became SIMPS? The human males are the weakest on all male species!

Rubbish, he almost laid curses on the journalist

Because Igbos are ok with Osinbajo. They always go opposite Igbos

Themainboy22:
Despite the fact they are both yoruba, Osibanjo being younger, healthier, more educated and would possibly do better than the former?.

Tinubu couldn't deliver in 2015 and even worse in 2019. If not rigging, Bubu would have lost in Lagos in 2019!

Dont be a joker, you cannot do it! No law supercedes the constitution if the federal republic of Nigeria.

I'm also sure you're not from Lagos!

TheNiceGuy:
So you're not well dominated a ward in Abuja to have started from counselorship post?


No problem.

The next constitution of Lagos should bar ANY Igbo from contesting an election in Lagos.

We've gave you an inch you're already taking kilometers coupled with your HATE.

It depends on where you have population to win. Nobody allows anybody! If you have enough of your people in a place to vote and win, why not?

TheNiceGuy:
You never answer my question.

Have you ever been allowed to contest ORDINARY counselor post in Abuja and Calabar municipal?

Every inch of Nigeria belongs to all Nigerians equally!

TheNiceGuy:
Abuja is Federal Capital Territory now, why has your people Never been allowed to contest ORDINARY counselor?

Every inch of Nigeria belongs to all Nigerians!

seguntijan:
Hope you have this mindset on Cross River State also as former capital of Nigeria?

Obi should not pick Sanusi, I don't trust him!