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Lifeisnotfair:
I hope everyone is having a good day. Here's my story and I'd try to be brief as much as I can.

About four months ago I met this white girl on Instagram and since then we've been talking day in day out. I'm surprised af how quick we both connected in a very short time and to be honest I can tell that she's crazy about me and I'm as well. As a matter of fact she broke up with her ex boyfriend so she could focus on our relationship because according to her she hasn't met someone as sweet as me and I was actually cool with it since no girl has shown me such love in my entire life.

We are both in our early 20s (24 years old) and we 've both promised each other a lot, we plan on seeing for the first time in Nigeria very soon but after last night's conversation, I actually don't feel the same way I felt for her when we started talking.

She confessed to have been with 8 guys after I asked her how many guys she's dated in the past, then she said 9 and later 10 and said she has lost count of how many times she's had sexx. And oh I haven't asked her to be my girlfriend yet though but last night I was about to and after hearing all of her confessions I had to go offline and she's been begging me for forgiveness but I've been ignoring her.

I'm confused and I don't know what to do. I'm deeply in love with her and I see a future with her as well but her past disgusts me so much and I don't feel sexx with her would be something special when we finally decide to get married in the future. Should I continue to lead her on till when I get a green card and just ditch her afterwards or should I just cut ties with her now that I have the opportunity to?

Ps: She's based in America while I'm in Nigeria and for those that would say I'm not a saint, oh well I'm sorry to burst your bubble but I'm still a virgin and haven't had sex in my entire life. I'm not saying she should be a virgin but I feel like 10 guys in the past is a bit on the high side. Please NL members, I need advice on what to do. Thank you in advance.

Update:
I've been reading all of the comments and I appreciate everyone of you that took out time to advice me on what to do.

First I'd like to say that my intentions of talking to her was pure and genuine. I wasn't thinking of using her to get a green card. And second I didn't say I was looking for a virgin but it's all good now.

I actually did followed my heart like most persons here suggested and we are both cool now. We hope to see where this leads us in the future. Thank you again.

u could be the one that will change her,if u will not eat the meat, please don't share it with teeth.

Mutemenot:
Even Nigerian Army will be confused on where to start from.... Naija is gone, time to clean my passport

Rollins of GH don die,we no dey do history again for school.i say make them go see am or go to the nearest secondary schools

UDOKABESTLUV:
Update From . COM

A young girl identified as Sesuur Ternege who was brought to Abuja from Benue State is seeking for help to return to her family, Reports.

According to Abuja based Facebook user, Emmanuel Kanyi Who Notify News Desk, the girl left her boss' home for some undisclosed reason and wants to go back to her parents.

Kanyi wrote As Obtained By ;

"This girl said, she is from Buruku LGA BENUE state, the story is too long. she is with me. please anybody reading this post and know Rev Father Emmauel Jor, of queen of the Rosary catholic parish, her church is called ST John de baptist church Iyoogh, her mother's name is called Evelyn ANHWANGE, she is the chairlady of the church CW0 do contact him and inform him that this girl know him as her parish priest and want to go home.

"She left her madam for some reason. Agwabi community IN BURUKU LGA, AFTER CROSSING RIVER BURUKU TO UGBA help share this post. Her name is: SESUUR TERNEGE OR SABINA ANHWANGE my phone number is 07039028074. She want to go home please"

See Photos As Obtained By Below:

Source: Facebook User

all need to do is to train her.you don get wife be that o!

xpressionx:
I have a friend who is a ship captain that was been disturbing me to come and join him in his ship,This one of the reasons I bluntly refused.
May there souls RIP.

I beg connect me naw.

ScamHunter:
This is war...
IPOB 1 - Fulani 1 Isa Mohd - Ikonso

Ipswich 1-fullham1

EFULEFU1:
Have been dating this lady for about two weeks now, however I have noticed a few strange things about her:

1. In the evening when she walks through light, u don't see her shadow. No shadow at all when my shadow will be bold on the wall

2. Nobody ever Calls her phone and she calls no one

3. She does all the spending and never takes a dime from me though she doesn't work

4. She is not ready to show me her house

5. When she farts it smells like roasted fish

Please, is she a ghost?

mammy water.

phylshan:
As Benue State Governor, Dr Samuel Ortom celebrates his 60th birthday with the less privileged, his childhood photo surfaced on the Social media, which shows him wearing a cap and looking composed.

very handsome,he was looking at his future not the camera.

saphiere:
It is so common over here. My brothers here would justify their infidelity by saying men are polygamous in nature.

here the reverse is the case, them get different names and birthdays.they will say they're runs girls not ashi.
what a lazy yong man .

Tajbol4splend:
Petty things break union when there is no love

na so the Bobo no like the babe o!wetin him dey fear?ABI him carry something?

BeautyO:
I'm not sure if other Ladies feel the same but i detest a man who thinks showing off money is the only way to get a woman's attention..

This particular man is a Nairalander who specializes is creating contentious posts about women , hes always in the habit of painting women bad , I actually thought he was one of the Team Redpilllars but his Private messages to me proved otherwise .

He is the definition of pathetic to say the least and I hope he sees this and get the message that I'm not interested in his friendship , but since he acts like he got enough cash to throw around I'll be keeping the 50k..




Modified
I tried reaching back to give him his money due to some comments i got here but he's acting like a jellyfish .. pics below

pay am for this account 3031390850 you are bless.

purehearttt:
If I die just remember no one was There for me
If I die young just remember sickness killed me
If I die young just remember I couldn't pay to live
If I die you just remember I was in pain for 8 years alone.
After so many attempt to get help and save my life I fail and it cost me my life.

believe me if u die u will go to hell.and forgotten.look 4 small things and be doing.if you can't go home and farm.

theNOISEmaker:
I heard Every participant will be paid 20,000 for three months.
I just received payment for the first month this evening. Oh boy.. Just in time for Sallah

how and when u apply?

Enoch07:
no worries!! pregnancy will calm them down

pregnanter spotted

grandlexuz:
Two weeks before the President of Tanzania died I told a friend the death of the Tanzanian president was in the air. He laughed and called me a prophet of Doom . That was before his rumoured diagnosis for covid-19 . Now I see the president of an African country starting with N not making it too.

Niger, Nigeria, Namibia which one of u? show yourself.

thebosstrevor1:
In 20 years, most of you IPOB supporters on nairaland will be 38, some of you will 48 and still living in Nigeria or Abroad with a Nigerian passport, Nnamdi Kanu will be 74 years and living in a very nice mansion in the poshest part of London while you will still be struggling to get a better life.

You and I know that Biafra will never be achieved no matter the agitations, Nigeria will still be in existence, rather than be overly idealistic, why don't you take the opportunity to try to join the Nigerian police and the Nigeria military plus civil services, try to join Ebube Agu, this group might be integrated eventually as state police.

In 20 years from Now, when the agitations has lost the energy and reality set in, you have wife and kids to take care of, no job, i hope you wont be shouting another round of igbo people are Marginalized in Nigeria. When the opportunity was there, your leader said don't join the zoo army, police, Ebube Agu and everything that has to do with Nigeria, believe me, when reality sets in, you don't want to be left behind.

Life is about pragmatism, be wise and smart, dem no dey carry IDEALISM and ideology for head forever, at the end, a man must retire, he must relax and see his children grow in peace.

then another will come up,we don tear eye o!

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Psoul:
I saw this Interview Questions on Glassdoor and I just felt it might be very useful to some of us given that most companies especially in Nigeria like copying these big tech guys. We all know that Apple is one of the biggest Tech companies in the World and to get a job there wouldn’t be so easy.

Glassdoor decided to make this easy by providing some questions Apple Inc uses to select their employees – I would be revealing 3 questions here that I feel are more brain tasking and require more brain knowledge. Is your brain equipped to answer these Apple’s Job Interview Questions? If Yes? Let’s do this smiley

1. How many children are born every day?

2. If you have 2 eggs, and you want to figure out what’s the highest floor from which you can drop the egg without breaking it, how would you do it? What’s the optimal solution?

3.You have 100 coins laying flat on a table, each with a head side and a tail side. 10 of them are heads up, 90 are tails up. You can’t feel, see or in any other way find out which side is up. Split the coins into two piles such that there are the same number of heads in each pile.”

4. There are three boxes, one contains only apples, one contains only oranges, and one contains both apples and oranges. The boxes have been incorrectly labeled such that no label identifies the actual contents of the box it labels. Opening just one box, and without looking in the box, you take out one piece of fruit. By looking at the fruit, how can you immediately label all of the boxes correctly?

So who can answer any?

very wiked people, person wey the so you these questions no want give you the job

telkevog:
Na for night e carry am?

Meanwhile he enjoyed the show alone, let him also bear the brunt alone.
Did he not consider the risk before going for a prostitute? He should have known that they are criminals.

supported

creolehunt:
Sometime last year, I met a lady. At the time I met her things were not working for me the way I had expected. In fact, my career had somehow stagnated even though I was in a new job then.

Prior to meeting her, I was seeing someone who I once overheard complaining to a friemd of having sex with someone in her dreams and in that dream, she already has a family with this strange person in that dream. This coupled with other negative feelings i had made me leave the relationship.

Now comes this new girl. Within 2 months of meeting her (5months into the job), my employment was confirmed with a promotion to booth. I must say that this confirmation typically takes 1yr to 18months. 4 months later (totalling 9months on the job), I was promoted again to a mid level managerial position. Again, this typically takes around 3yrs for others. My company cited "exceptional service delivery", but deep down I know it's not just that, I'm that instinctive. Now, I'm not the type of person to easily find favor in people's eyes or the type people just wants to stick out for. But since I met her, even at my workplace, my superiors have taken special interest in me, I just can't do any wrong.

Now, deep down, I know some things have changed. Even mentally, i have become more purposeful as she is a very driven person. I've never mentioned to her about these changes I've noticed in my life.
The thing is that when we talk, albeit jokingly she always say that she came into my life and everything changed, that the day I will try nonsense with her (cheat or breakup), my life will just scatter. Even today she said it that the "spirit" (context is important here) working for her had to smoothen my life when she came into it, lest I infect her with my troubles, I jokingly replied that my mother's prayers are working wonders in my lofe, and she said that I should be happy she is in my life. A lot of the time, she has made such comments. There was a day she said that if I keep her happy, that I will keep enjoying. She says God answers her prayers and honestly, her life is good. It just feels like she has everything all figured out.

Honestly, everything feels better around me since I met her and i also believe in the notion that some people can pull good fortune to you, but I'm also apprehensive. What if i cheat on her, what if i break up with her?

Has anyone had this type.of encounter? Please, she is not a bad person. I'm just wondering if there are truly people like this.

yes the reverse is my case.i don suffer,4 12 years now no promotion."if u leave me u go suffer,them go sack u,u go die"u r dam lucky

Miracle4all:
God bless you all niaraland members.

For a little now I have been privileged to serve God as a pastor in a newly planted church, to the Glory of God. There is no great building yet, just a temporary structure made with wood. I am not bothered about that, because humans are the church and not the building.

Now my experience is this, I have come to realize that many of us are going through economical problem, rather than spiritual problem. Anyday I am sitting in church for counseling purpose, majority of people that comes for counseling are those looking for what to eat, you will hear things pls pastor whatever you have give me to eat.

One day I shed tears, because I could not have anything to help some persons. My conclusion is this, churches should help each other. I am setting up a day for compassion purpose, even though we are not much in number yet, members we be encouraged to bring what they have to help others.

God is going to bless you don't miss use it.ask him 4 what to do.

Benard5050:
Just decided to free myself from the emotional abuse I've been passing through for over 3 weeks now.

We've been together for four years but we started having issues when she started copying her friends and when I say anything she'll take it with anger and starts acting funny, no calling, no texting, and lots of dehumanizing words via WhatsApp status.....I called her and have a robust conversation with her but yet nothing change...Ive decided to call it quit so i can regain my sanity back cos d emotional abuse is making me unhappy and going crazy.

This hurt cos I dnt know where to start from again after four good year's but at d same time I need my sanity back..

Pls, I need cool words or advice at this time, thank u.

it only hurts when u are breathing,so hold ur breath to forget,you are free again.

AGNESikpuNNU:
The Soldiers will first be deployed in your mother's smelly Toto and shred it like suya meat on sticks b4 grilling.

na wa u o!

mekaboy:
This thread it to hail the imaginary Biafra that Nnamdi Kanu is selling to Igbo's. The Biafra that will be heaven on earth. No corruption, perfect infrastructure and flowing with milk and honey.

He is counting on touts and criminals to get this Biafra. Kanu said as long as fulani herdsmen, bokoharam and bandits are released and rewarded, no soul should be in prision in Nigeria.

So the attack on the prison in imo and release of inmates is fully supported.

So lets have a little look at this Biafran nation.

A group of guys in igboland, grab someone's daughter, gang-rape her to death. They are caught and imprisoned.

Another group kidnaps and kills an igbo man that returned from abroad, after collecting ransom. Caught and imprisoned.

This group trail a man from the bank, shoot him dead and take the money. Caught and imprisoned.

This other group robbed a fuel station in igboland, kill attendants and customers. Take money and run away.

This group are hired by an igboman to kill another igboman over land or business. They carry out the attack.

They also kill a lady doing POS business.

Many different groups who have done several unthinkable things in igboland and imprisoned. They now have to released into the society in igboland because bokoharam and fulani bandits are released.

These people now join the ESN and are given AK47. So kanu's Biafra comes and they are rewarded with various juicy positions (governors, ministers, IGP, DPO etc).

They move around in Biafra with their army tormenting the families of the victims of the crimes that took them to prison.

Imagine the police and army in Biafra made up of rapists, kidnappers, armed robbers, assasins and bloodsuckers.

Just picture Nnamdi Kanu's promise land. Won't reasonable igbo run away from igboland to become slaves in other regions?

This Biafra that has not come and all the criminals are released from prison, police and army killed. Imagine when it finally comes.

yes he is right,those criminals should be killed not imprisoned.

ThisisBuhari:
The advantages are numerous.

your are too!we don't dey there since,the rail ways go come meet us,na him we go follow come back.that one there na my neighbor,na her sister the carry come back o!

Divanona:
Eight years ago, with tears in my eye, I held his hand, begged him to stay with me that we will struggle together and succeed, but he refused. He walked away living me pregnant. Now, he's back without anything.

We were friends from the University, I graduated before him because I was studying a 4years course. The very first time, we tried to take our relationship serious was after my graduation. We had s.e.-x for the very first time and I became pregnant.
The truth is, the guy have always been good to me throughout my stays in school.
I remembered that day he sacrificed his school fees for mine so I could be able to do my final clearance. But when I became pregnant, he walked away after convincing me to keep our baby.
I went through everything all by myself.
Since last year, he has been apologizing on phone, so last week, I asked him to come. He traveled down to my place. Without being afraid of anyone harming him from my family, he believed in me and came. He's around in my family house, staying in my brother's room for the past 3days.
He has opened up everything to me, my family members and have apologized.

now, I'm so confused with my life.

He couldn't graduate, he had problem in school after I left and all this years, he has been struggling, but now he wants to take responsibility and be with us, but he had nothing. No certificate, except diploma which he later did from another school, no job, no place of his own to stay. He had nothing. He wants us to get married and have a family.


I feel I'm about to add more burden to my already stressed life.
The only positive thing here now, is the excitement my son is having seeing his father and the relationship they're building.

A part of me wants to see this guy have a great life and have direction and not see him live like this, even if I don't settle down with him. because when I meant him, he was kind, a good person, he had dreams, vision and good plans.
But living us alone all this years, with all his explanations, I'm not contented.

Another part of me is confused, afraid and I feel ishould push him away and let him go back to his life and keep moving with my son because I don't have the strength to shoulder all these.

Please matured mind in the house, what do you have to say? This is my life and it's getting more confused.
What would you advise? What should I do?
I don't want to make more mistakes.

Sorry for my lengthy write-up

how does he looks,hungry or well fed?that could be a test to see if u really and still love him.my dear no fear e be like say money dey o!

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no cash today!wat about tomorrow?

was he the one that burned his certificates?if no then let him do that now now!!!

HumphreyGspot:
https://hgsmediaplus.com.ng/2020/09/lady-turns-deaf-after-meeting-with-a-yahoo-boy-in-delta-photos/

Lalasticlala
Mynd44

this girl resemble Uzu on of my distance cousins.but why all the boys the hold they paynice?

Adekunle813:
Must You quote the post before you reply?!

me:na true say Nigerians the use questions answer questions?
you:na who told you that?
and u sefl come quote me.

saphiere:
https://www.thecable.ng/jail-me-but-set-him-free-foreign-activist-writes-buhari-over-teenager-sentenced-for-blasphemy

na favoured be that o!.see as person dey favour come find am.that boy don go yanky be that o! I swear if I see Allah,I go slap am.