JovialJune:


And not once was there misunderstandings and arguements?

Ok.

Misunderstanding, yes, arguments, none. Infact my closest friend and I had to separate cause the mum was suspecting us to be gay when she noticed in months staying together, we never ever argued or quarreled. Yes, he was leaving in the apartment cut out from the min building, so she could always eavesdrop/intrude on us. Such relationships do exist. I have many of such friendships.


Anyway, this lady here has seen it all in the relationship and the marriage now feels like a prison for her, they both need counselling and heraphy sessions

Klass99:
The title of your thread and subsequent comments is a narrative I have encountered, with women who married really early and didn't get a chance to live their lives, independently and on their own terms.

They moved straight from daddy's house to hubby's house, which is not a terrible thing. But from conversations, more and more women seem to feel tired, dissatisfied and unfulfilled in their lives at some point and they just want out.

It may be a temporary feeling for some, which passes, for others it becomes an all consuming fire within, leading to something. A former colleague is on this table, married with 3 kids, her speech can be alarming and behaviour sometimes unsettling.

Can young women just be allowed to live a little, broaden their horizons, explore possibilities after school/graduation, to discover themselves and what they can do for work and a career, without being unduly pressured to marry so early? It is not always about wanting to sleep around or explore different diicks, the things I mentioned helps in building well grounded adjusted adults, who have life skills to cope with life's challenges.

or explore different diicks

JovialJune:


We are talking of people that live together, see each other everyday, not once in a blue moon calling or reaching out like yours.

We stayed together in some years before marriage. Saw ourselves daily. How about my blood relations who stayed together two decades plus before marriage?

Ramanto:
No matter how rich one is, one must still possess a certain level of rationality. There are some spendings that one must consider unnecessary.
For me, I'm yet to get used to cutting my hair 1000 naira every week. I don't cut any fanciful style, just a normal low cut which I may not even carve. I'm new in this state. In my previous place, I was cutting for 300 which was reasonable to me. Anytime I pay 1k here, I feel cheated. I can easily afford the money, but I find it more rewarding to give out the excess to a beggar instead of paying it to barbers. I have my own clipper now. Only that I can't cut myself.
Which bills do you really hate paying?

Hair. I had to get my own clipper

JovialJune:



Why the hell will you believe such a lie? Use your common sense na,, siblings argue, colleagues argue, friends argue, didn't you see your parents argue at a point? Once you're staying with a person for a long period of time, there is no way there won't be misunderstanding now, haba

You are very delusional babe, because your reason for leaving your marriage is very silly, you are simply tired of being married because you never experienced single life, you married at age 19, so I understand your mid life crisis.

I have friends and family members that we've all never argued. over 20-25 years of relationship

candidbabe:
Hahahaha
Another one

You think there are issues online? If you visit the nearest high courts close to you, you will lose faith in marriages. Case everywhere

janejjjjj5000:
I am tired. I have a better view of marriage. He is not meeting up. My children are saying that the way he talks when upsets affects them. The children cry and he apologizes to all of us. I know I sound confused but I am just tired. I feel that my children will not be seeing this when we divorce. That is why I don't want the marriage anymore. I just want all round peace. I am tired.

You're also toxic. You just want to be single and free Welcome to marriage. You just started

Not over-delivering. Over-delivering on projects induces clients to assume they're paying less for more. This psychological hack ahs always proven to be the backbone of many business enthusiast.

Go the extra mile and see clients doing all they can not to lose your services. Unfortunately this can never happen when we're laid-back.

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

You're both only dealing with familiarity issues that begins to rear its heads up in the second decade of marriage


It's not a big deal. This concerns only proves you both do not have an authority you submit to. A spiritual headship/counsellor can help mediate areas of concerns to help you both navigate this second half of your marriage

I know you won't divorce or separate, so i'm wishing you safe trip in this phase of your marriage. Seek a counsellor, find a couple activity that you both can enjoy together, be more involved together and nothing can stop you both

Good Luck !


Btw when men burst open this way in marriages, it is most times traced to idleness, lack of real work that challenges both mentally and psychologically, hence the need to find an outlet to pour open/burst unto, in this case, you and your kids. Try to pursue means for him to get more engaged with work activities, where he sweats it out morning till eve, when he comes home, he'll be begging for peace and not strife

Rage = Idleness, Almost always

And btw, I'm hardly wrong on issues. Ask around



I also recommend you both go on separate vacation. Like Shiloh where you stay the full week without returning home, or church activities as such where you'll spend 2-3 days there. or a couple vacation today, not expensive, but where you can both be out of home.

You're both choked, bored and need some new experiences/some fresh air !

Cutehector:
is that not equal to a plate of food?

Smh

Cutehector:
una go just dey talk as if sardine na 50naira..do you know how much sardine is?

Almost 600 Naira. I'm aware. Even Starkist nor cheap

Naomi. Werey

You already identified the problem yourself. Now, fix it !

Soludo can't perfom with how he has started unless he changes direction

Wahala

He can't win Wike. The same way Atiku can not win Wike. But Orji Uzor Kalu will clinch it for APC next year. This will make Soludo bitter as he subtly desires to be the first Ndigbo president of Nigeria

E don be

Demolakay:

U beta leave d slum ur living ND go to where u will get d information ur life desperately needs! report as at dis morning states 40sailiors died including d chief sailor, over 200 were wounded wit various degrees of injuries,ND being treated,more Dan 118 survived wit no injury at all.pls if u av data go online ND do more research.And Where in d discussion did I state dat 45 sailors drived d submarine? pls change dat ur moniker to "Doctor of stupidity" mtchewww!!

I'm busy with work abeg you.

Demolakay:

Soo if 500 sailors sail a submarine,Dere is a law dat states when d submarine sinks,almost or more Dan half of d crew can't survive? pls who gave birth to u? ND u came to dis world wit sense? Soo to ur theory d submarine sinks almost all d sailors died.Am even giving u evidence u can check up online,but ur here drolling in d mouth.Ur a scum,a God forsaking son of a leper! infact u should b used ND studied as a reference point for wat stupidity actually meant.Go ND get proper education,ur brain would av been better used in scavenging site.

You are a fool sey. Go and read the report released by both Turkey and Romania on the issue. I'm done trying to educate you. You obviously don't know what a submarine is hence you imagine 45 sailors can successfully sail a big submarine. You're a buffon

Demolakay:

D Western media has turned u into a simpleton! Even d Western media are still guessing,Dere how many died,ND how many survived.check d news outlet u rely on,aljazeera,CNN,BBC,fox,etc all of Dem do not possess d right information on d number of death in d sinking of d ship.All of Dem also uploaded a video where d Rear Admiral of d Russian navy was addressing d survivors at Sevastopol.More Dan 100sailors were shown dere.when u won't read,u don't even have data,u rely on mtn 10mb.Jambito everywhere!

Ode, so 45 persons can sail a world class submarine. You're a bog fool. Money wasted on your education should have been invested in a cocoa farm. Ode Oponu !

Demolakay:

Big lie! many of d sailors survived.Infact dey were addressed by d Rear Admiral of d Russian navy in Sevastopol on Saturday, infact d video is online.D west is only trying to increase d crescendo of deir propaganda machinery.

45 survivied out of 455. Oponu

winterfell007:


Who told you Igbos hate criticism? Who told you Obi cannot win primaries? You and your folks have damned it in your heart not let him win because of a different enthic stock. Anyway Bishop Oyedepo has already observed bigots like you that before he passed that verdict of Nigeria with short memory
It’s pitiable that Nigeria is already doomed with folks like you in the numbers. Oyedepo has seen that already

Thrash. You can't even debate me intellectually. Side raise your game then try again


Good day

Simple. Find an accommodation that can fit into your current finances. Or a place that can accept monthly payment. Next time, never invest more than 30% of your entire portfolio. Try fair money app on google play store for loans. They give up to 500k

winterfell007:


Later you go around insulting Peter Obi because he’s from the Igbo enthic stock. I’ve noted you already

Igbo's hate criticism. Continue to pat Peter obi at the back as he continues his nonsensical exercise. Obi can't win primaries let alone presidency. Also, there's nothing special about Igbo worth insulting. E no dey

mpire:


Really, impressive, but you almost ran mad just last month for losing a mere $5k/year job though you have 10 digits revenue abi? Let me guess, so you made $1,215 from romance fraud? Congrats.

Are you always this du.mb or this is a special occasion for you?

$5k per week kist a single project. Imagine having 23 clientele and constantly in search of additionals. Envy will consume you


I'm busy. I won't reply you any longer

Toks2008:


We don't vite for parties but individuals. You need to understand this fact.

PDP and APC are the same.

You don't know Nigeria bro. PDP is on a higher league than APC

mpire:


Alakori fraudster, you live in Nigeria scamming people. I'm in God's own country. Pls go ahead how much are we paying your stinking asss per hour again for your consultancy?

How much have you made your entire yahoo yahoo career. Convert it all to $ and tell me.

I actually have a physical business on over 500 plots of land with an estimated ten digits revenue earnings annually commencing December 2022. You go cry tire

Hahahaha

xristos:

they wont give the amount i need..

Try. They give as High as 500k some tines even for starters. Do you have a new car ? There's a site that can give you loans with just your car documents. I.e if your car is worth say 5M, they can give you up to 2m loan