Nova1982:
Well according to the bible in Deuteronomy 22:28-29 the easiest way to get a virgin wife is to rape any hot virgin girl you see then you should give her father money(like she's an object) then you can marry her, easy as ABC.

isn't the bible just beautiful? look at how easy it is to get yourself a beautiful virgin wife!

Christianity is the best!

Lol

Chief GOAT

ALARAPE22:


May you receive the sense you needed..... To read the whole story na wahala just come here to write rubbish.....

Barman give me water please.......

Full.

baralatie:

Means a sub culture of sexual expression exists in the school unsupervised
School was aware but chose to ignore

Now, his is someone that knows, sees and understands


I's a sub culture and the school needs to be shut down for at least one full calendar year. I don't know how people aren't see this

bukatyne:


Is the school lax in supervision?

Yes!

Then they get the flak for it: suspend the chaperones, create a SOP that all boarding schools MUST adhere to; get the school to sponsor all their teachers for a training/course; do spot checks to ensure compliance of SOP etc.

The school however should not pay for the parents' uselessness.

The school is responsible for giving the children space to exhibit; the parents & children are responsible for their actions during the space gotten.

Those children could have dared themselves to do something else.

If you are not bothered about the girl's actions, why are you bothered about the students' level of comfort?

Chai. This one doesn't see at all. Bye

bukatyne:


The genders were seperated.

From the school's version, they took 76 students to Dubai and put boy & girls on separate floors.

I agree. How about supervision? Did you not see online another girl came up in the same school sleeping with boys. Since there are multiple incidences then it means supervision is lacking. I wasn't bothered about the girl in the sexual act. I am shocked by the level of comfort of their peers during the act, meaning this is a recurring thing for them to express that level of comfort.

womenareapess:
some people have brain but can't use it

You should have removed that doctor on your moniker because you got no sense at all

What a shame. No problem Continue the way you are !

Wrong move. The school ought to be sanctioned. I wonder how no one is talking about both genders ought to have been seperated. This points to gross misconduct

All this is sickening. How many years would it take global economy to recover from this maddening events?

The war is creating opportunities for opportunistic firms to take advantage of decades long engagements other businesses have created...long before. Damn !

JovialJune:



Is the bolded supposed to be moi-moi? Lmao

I'm working jare. My mind dey everywhere

janejjjjj5000:
Hello everyone,

Here is my post from yesterday.

https://www.nairaland.com/7090858/tired-marriage

I thank you all for the feedback - the kind words, chastisements, and even insults. I see them all as help. For the first time in being married for14 years, I spoke about my marriage and I am glad I did. I feel very relieved.

My husband is very sorry and has decided that we will seek family therapy. He told me he does not want our home to break and that he is willing that we work together to fix this. What I like the most is that he also agrees that he needs to work on himself. I have my faults too and I am also willing to work on myself. We have found an experienced therapist that we believe will be a good fit to help us.

Even though some of the comments yesterday were harsh, I learnt from them. I had no boyfriend before marriage. My husband and I got married to each other as virgins and there is no ex boyfriend anywhere telling me anything. I am not a cheat. We have been born-again from our youth. I am not a promiscuous person. I was just feeling down yesterday and decided to pour our my heart. I was tired of bottling up my emotions because I have the habit of not discussing my home. I got tired and was feeling very confused yesterday but I am much better now. Still, I don't regret putting up that post. God used everybody who commented to point me in the right direction.

I am grateful to those who suggested therapy. I was not thinking in that direction at all but you gave me the idea. I thank everybody who got involved. May God bless you all.

Amen.

You both don't have anything doing outside family and kids this is your core challenge.

Start filling your lives with :

1. Short vacations. Even if it's just a Saturday, find a place he and the kids or you and the kids would go and spend the entire day. Not an expensive vacation. Even if it's going for a Saturday bible class with the family far away from the usual surroundings you share



2. Get involved in family time. Like make moyin moyin and everyone must be involved including dad


Develop activities that will create the atmosphere for bonding and expression

Stop staying at home morning till night doing nothing. That's what's creating the crises. If you're all engaged and distracted the same time, they won't be time to fight and argue

Prechgold1180:
Hello good morning all
Don’t know why this is bothering me
But I have a friend who always make video of girls whenever he is having sex with them unknown to the girls

Just last week he opened up to me
Like we were discussing and he said he had slept with a particular girl in our hood I did not believe him
Because the girl in question is all this mind my business girl

To further proof he was not lieing he opened is phone entered one calculator app where he normally save the videos ( if you are good with iPhone you will know about the calculator app)
He gave me the phone behold he filmed himself having sex with the said girl

I exited the video went to others behold I saw more than 50 sex videos of girls he had sex with both far and near
I asked what was his reasons for recording he gave a silly reply

I was able to recognize like 6 girls
I just see the act as wicked

I still don’t know why he is bent on keeping the videos

Could it be for future blackmail or
Should I tell the girls I know or I should just mind my business

To me this is not fair

You've learnt secret that will steal peace from your mind. The phone has to be stolen or hijacked and destroyed somehow

Iku baba yeye o

Where's the fighting spirit ?

This table

DWJOBScom:


This is positive and am glad you got help over here.
Sometimes it is okay to put the story out here and hope for the best
The insane ones are here but the sane crew comes in later,
At some point you may need to go back and review all the contributions am sure you missed out some.
God bless you both and i pray you find the love back and rekindle the admiration and friendship
Stay strong

The insane ones are here but the sane crew comes in later

NoToPile:


Same thing running through my mind.

She needs someone to talk to about what she sees as a problem, is that supposed to be a bad thing?

It's our society for you

Foolish people. Make una push her to depression and suicide na. Cause una want project una marital fears to her. illiterates

Nigerians can be very biased and very unbalanced in their judgements with their stereotypical prejudiced misinterpretations.

Eleven pages of people judging a woman who speaks up about her situationship. If it were a case where one committed suicide out of depression, the same people would say why did she or him not speak up.. The comments of 95% of people on this thread is sick and troubling and imagine the set of humans condemning another.

However wrong of flawed we may consider people's actions and decisions, can we not have a civil way of expressing our views and ideas about issues? Na wa. No wonder the nation is in a quagmire, a nation of stirk illiterates posing as elites


See condemnation and judgement everywhere like the woman doesn't have legit concerns that could/would have rather be counselled the right way !


Madam Op, you're both just stuck cause you've spent so much time together doing sam ol every day. I highly recommend 2 or 3 days vacation you both will consensually agree to, and take in turns, so you both can expreience some newness, fresh air and push out the negative energy in your relationship.

May the Lord help you heal. I am willing to speak with you if you like someone to talk with.
There are issues in this relationship that needs speaking to someone to help you get better and come out of the loop

Cute family

johnnywalker131:
Wickedness also lies in the hearts of little children, you would be surprised what these kids are capable of doing

This just brings back memories of an ugly incident that happened many many years ago when I went for holidays at my aunts place , there was this little girl who happened to be the daughter to my aunt’s friend , can’t even remember her name …she was so playful and outspoken for her age and everybody commended that , she would say things you would never expect her to say being the little girl that she is and everybody liked her. On this fateful day, this girl had tried being playful around me and I really was in a bad mood at the time so I shunned her. Out of the blues, My aunt and this girl’s mother summoned me for a talk, I got in the room and the girl was there, my aunt asked "what have you been doing with her(the girl)"

I was taken aback by the question cause it didn’t make sense to me ..I answered and said , "I don’t understand Ma", then she asked the little girl to repeat what she just told them and when she started talking, I just stared In disbelief cause I couldn’t wrap my head around what I was hearing and immediately I knew I was in trouble …her words “this uncle came into our room and locked the door, he pushed me on the bed and started touching me and told me not to tell anybody that he likes me" Haaaaaa!!! was the only thing I could say because I was dumbfounded and scared at the same time, I almost burst into tears �, they thought I wanted to cry because I was guilty… I was teary because how on earth was I going to convince anybody that this little girl was lying. She gave such specific and exact details that I was almost doubting myself, if I were a random person listening to this , I would 100% believe this girl, I just went on my knees and I was swearing by everything I believed in but I could see from their faces that nobody believed me.

Till date I’ve not yet figured if someone put her up to it or she came up with that herself , that was the last time I saw my aunt, the little girl and her mom , I never visited again…she’s dead now, she died of cancer …May her soul Rest In Peace ….it’s sad that she died having it at the back of her mind that I was that kind of person, pretty sure that little girl would be way grown up probably in the university by now, a lil note if she ever comes across this story which she probably wouldn’t remember, “you almost ruined my life“ From that day to this day, little kids scare me more than adults …the devil lives in little children!!!! Never forget!

source: Twitter @InvestorKpk

I've been there. A 16 year old house help went on ranting rampage to the police station. I slept in the cell self. We must grant people the opportunity to defend themselves regardless of the info about them

Winneygirl:


This is your main issue.
You married too young. Probably at 18. You had not lived life, and now you think that if your eyes were more open when you got married, you probably would not have chosen him as a husband.
You want to do in your 30s what you should have done in your 20s.
You sound like Your life revolves around your children and husband. You want to break free.
I will advise that you and your husband see a family therapist. A counselor to help you navigate your marriage(not a pastor or religious figure oo).
Then set aside a day or two monthly when you can have alone time. Take some space, go to a beach, go relax and just see the world.
Your husband needs the same thing.
Then set aside a day or two to go somewhere with your hubby alone. Spend time together away from your kids and rekindle your love.
Also learn to have your kids spend some time with inlaws etc so you can have a quiet house.
Let me warn you...The "freedom" you are looking for outside your marriage is not worth the trouble. Beta people no pass 2 again for this Nigeria.

Na so e bad reach @ Beta people no pass 2 again for this Nigeria.

candidbabe:


I am just there for now thinking of which church to change to...
I have not been to church for the past 8 months.
For now I worship the Almighty God in my house.

You're a case babe

JovialJune:



Lol what is the difference between misunderstanding and arguements? The fact is you can't be in agreement with them all the time so there will definitely be exchange of words, that's why we are humans, cos it is bound to happen?

There is. Wow.

Klass99:


Like I said rest.

Pele o. LovePeddler

candidbabe:


I am also a living faith member but, don't be deceived about most pastors testimonies all are lies.

Oyedepo said for fifty years now he has not visited hospital
But he secretly goes to the US for medical checkup.

When do you remain under the ministry of a man you consider a liar?

Klass99:
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Please rest.

Does your comment make sense to you?

candidbabe:


To think that she is comparing her marriage to that of oyedepo baffles me..

Majority of Nigerian pastors are liars and rogues.

Majority of Nigerian pastors are liars and rogues.. Well, when there's money, arguments becomes lesser. Majority of arguments in marriages is directly linked with being broke

Kobojunkie:
Stop deceiving yourself!

When humans are in relationship, one aspect of achieving closeness has to do with ironing out of differences between the individuals in the relationship. If you have never had to argue with someone you claim to be in relationship with, it means your relationship isn't even an intimate one to begin with.

You that have nothing to do with your life besides endless arguements. I won't indulge you

Good day