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::Andrew:::
But ma question is yet to be answered, i was asking if its possible to just date and marry within 3 months?

Personally, this sounds like a recipe for disaster.
There has to be some contact, physical, over the phone, internet.

This is not say it can't happen and you guys go on to have a healthy marriage, but its often not the norm.
I'm concerned that you're in such a hurry, ...........
Marriage no be yam, or baby-producing factory either.

I wonder as to your complement of social skills
That's by the way.
Why can't you find a suitable lady in your domain that you can engage in a relationship, with the hopes of marriage?
I can concur if time restrictions due to work or other commitments are in effect... but do remember this may have a negative effect in your marriage.

Necessary ingredients will be
Deep investigation into each other's background
Laying bare to one another
Taking it a day at a time, though long term plans are for M!!

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Quite concise....
Hopefully. Clears the air about do's and don'ts.

Q1:
With Regards to annulment, what time periods are in place??

Q2:
A woman initially coerced, unaware of pre-existing children 2yrs into the marriage... will fall into which category??


Thanks

With Dubai round thé corner, duty-free, few visa restrictions, Don't see the need for the rush to the UK.

Quite a few products in the top shops are sourced from ..... yep, you guessed right.... China.

Only high end or luxury brands may not be as affected.

Time to let our feet do the "speaking".

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Mynd_44: Ma'am, so fiery.

Chill a bit

Hey, hope you're good.

Irritated after reading some gob
KK, ......I'll take my claws back in

apologies to Op.

There's a difference.......

Degree of situational awareness is less.
You meet a person physically, there are things you pick up instantaneously, speech, body language, composure, sometimes aura.

You don't have that opportunity online.
Having to dig through the presented personality takes some time... particularly where it's a two-faced person.
However, its a 2-edged sword as reserved pple are often tagged alongside as having skeletons in their closets.


Keeping an open mind and being alert, I think is key!!!!
God continues to protect us well.
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@ Op

Though I agree with most of your deliberations....
There are many exceptions to the case.

I feel these are the people who did their homework before delving in.
Overall, a thorough assessment and pro-active planning needs to be done.
It goes... Those who fail to plan, plan to fail. !!!!

Delicate questions need to be asked of self.... and the other.

"Why", "what", "where" and "how"

You can then personally assess where this relationship is headed.....
Saves untold hardship later.
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Stop alluding to generalizations
And hiding behind cliches

Be a man and go for the woman you want
Rather than hibernating on NL
Making untoward baseless arguments!!!

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^^^^^
You never fail to amuse!!

If she can't love you in penury,
How can you believe she's in love with you in riches!!

Money rituals don't come without great sacrifices and are not always successful.

You stand to lose your soul, maybe health or other unit of exchange just to please a human being who may still leave you for a richer guy!!!

Come on man,
Fear God,
work on yourself and upgrade

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Just accept that's girly behaviour.
I regularly call my female clients, sweetie, dearie, cupcakes, honey .......
to get them cooperating.
Just sth widely done in my profession!!!!

Sometimes I ask permission from the husbands if there's a quizzical look....
But once other members of the team (almost always female) continue using such words....
They quickly realise, its to put the women at ease during a time that's so harrowing and life changing!!

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It's not the religion per se
It's the degree of honesty or openness in your relationship..

If everytime you meet, the award of the ability to quote the most bible verses is what you're after, then you're probably not open to one another!!!!!

There are pretenders irregardless of religion..

You're not without blame in this scenario.....
You couldn't talk sex with your GF but can do so with another girl.......
Hmmmm!!!!!

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As alien as it may sound to you.
Women are full of endearments whilst addressing pple.
It's a girly thing, something some male cerebella may find difficult comprehending!!

It's not a lesbo thing to hold hands or speak words of endearment to another sister. It's being sisterly in a 9ja way.

On the streets in a developed world, this may be viewed differently and participants viewed with derision.

Hope u understand, Tingz!

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It's Halloween?? Right

What's Batman n the girl in the night shirt n shorts thinking

Don't, won't celebrate H...... give me a good reason
Agree wt Sagamite.... these guys will promptly say no to an African diety worship which is similar to the ethos behind H.

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Goes without saying


CHARACTER!

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Well said.....
She did mention the guy treated her right!

Can understand the issue of shame with regards to his physical disability, given today's undue focus on cosmesis....

But there are ways to overcome that, I should think.

FortuneTeller: My friend has met a handsome man with a great job, home, car, no children, and according to her he has a large koboko stick. however he was in an accident many years ago that injured his legs. he is unable to walk, but he is completely independent. he is now telling her that he wants to marry and have children. she says she cares for him and is pleased that he treats her like a queen, but she is unsure if she would be happy being married to him because of his handicap. i have been silent on this because i do not want to sway her decision in any direction. does anyone here have any experience with this type of relationship? if so, please give your input on this matter.

He's relatively independent....
His character speaks for itself....
He likes n treasures her...
No issues of subfertility

What does she want

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^^^^^^

Now you're sooo funny.....
'"Keep sharp things away.."

Hope you're good!

Genius100: Are you really this stupid? Even if your people are ignorant, how about you that has been dealing with the girl? You are in the best position to evaluate the girl. All yoruba girls are not the same. All Igbo girls are not the same. All South South girls are not the same. YOu have to know the individual you intend to marry and make the necessary decisions.

on point!!!

samfibby: Guys just want to play around b4 finally settling down. Is there anything wrong with dat

There's a lot wrong with playing around with girls hearts and bragging about your victories....
The girl(s) liked/loved you at the time and gave you her all, after all your promises....... only to be dumped by the wayside.

You want to play.......ko
Play with another player....
Like for like, no be so?
It's only a bully that picks on a weaker child!!!!!

Not a vulnerable young thing who simply craves love, sometimes from the wrong places.

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Mynd_44: So you actually gave a girl you don't itenf to marry you FB username and password?

I won't be suprised if she sends invitations to your wedding without your knowledge

Ha ha...

Op. Need to sit her down and firmly reign her in!!!! Otherwise, she faces the consequences.

In the absence of change then.....

Rhymes!!!!!!!!!

Going by that, few men have actually ever been in love!!!

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onila: he feels more proud 2 have a pretty nigerian girl as his girlfriend or wife abroad

marry a naija man abroad-u wont regret it

Truth be told....
You may be wife no 2/3, if you're lucky.
Do your research.

Caveat Emptor!!!!

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Discombobulated!!!!!!

apologies to SK if wrongly spelt.....

Grass is not always greener on the other side, midear!!!

Each area has its territorial issues. Some of which are

Naija.... poverty, in-laws/ out-laws, aristos, patriarchal mentality.....

??benefit: tribal inclusion: family involvement to help sort things out at times

UK.... poverty, men living off women, club girls/ "chavs", prevalent "easy virtues attitude", system excessively in support of women conferring no long term solution....

??benefit: national inclusion... the Diasporan elders, sometimes church leaders in the absence of family and relatives may help out.

US ..... competition from the "once you go black, you never come back" chicks prevalently around the successful, savvy men; and other African and Afrocarribean sisters, men with wives in different states or countries, broke-ass thinking.......

international inclusion..... left to your own devices... no strong support network, prevalent in cities or towns with low levels of Naija migration

Won't go into Europe or SE Asia

Sis, look at the picture again
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sexkillz: [color=#000030]"Honey, this is the lady i told you about, my ex. If she hadn't left me, i wouldn't have had the pleasure of meeting you, my true love". . . Simple!
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Exactement!!!!!

You have nothing to hide, why not!!

FB'd

Hallo
Thanks for the blessing
God bless you too.

dmcdad: Plain and simple... Because they go into relationships for the wrong reasons. And if you dont have the right reasons for going into a relationship, how do you expect to find the right person for it..? If you dont know where you are going, people will lead you to where they are going. They also look at the wrong places.

Secondly, most of them just choose to be plain dummies and no matter what happens to them, they will always fall prey to these guyz. Every gurl needs to spell out what they want out of a relationship, and wait for the guyz with such attributes or whatever it is they crave for in a guy.

Matter of fact, alot of gurls will keep crying from time to time cos they just won't learn with their FISHBRAINS... I just wish say most gurlz get sense pass as them get now cuz boiz wont stop splattering their hearts...

I don't think that's a fair assessment.
Yes some girls should choose better mates...
But guys do them little favour ....by pretending and telling lies all the way.....

If every chap that came along was treated with disbelief or disdain.....
You guys will say...."she too dey form"....

Let's play by the rules .......

Don't like the girl... don't tell her you "love" her, the first week you met!!!
Be gentlemanly enough to keep your zips up ....and not think with your 3rd leg!!!!



Remember Karma can be a biatch.

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Exasperated!!!

he hasn't come after u all these years, maybe its time to change strategy!!!



I said,

Get an anonymous name and follow the guy...
U git!!!!
Then drop the onions and see if he gets it.
Keep it anonymous cos onions stink!!!!

U git ??

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Baseless reasoning

Didn't some of the gay chaps not feed off their mothers' bosoms?


Deliberate on proper reasons behind the trend in 9ja. Not bringing some 1/20th baked reason here.

This lack of critical reasoning (if quite generalized) shows a potential reason for girls sticking to their kind..... at least one can hope to have some reasonable conversation!!!!

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Haba why not me

Nothing against God blessing my papa sha!

Sweetie, that's a cliche.......

It's like .....

can't be bothered to figure out or tell the shortcomings that led to the breakup!!!

Reasons are varied and are made right! ..... jointly by the parties involved.

gorgeousity: Still too shy to tell him. That's why I am saying it on a faceless forum. At least the burden is off my chest. Its left for Universe to cause him to know or not.

This is Ms Universe speaking.......

"Eehmm.
Best get off your horse
Check if he's got a significant other
If yes.... nil point!!!!

If no, follow him on Twitter / Facebook
Anonymously let him onto the fact, you've always fancied him
And await events.....
Then you have allowed the universe to work for you.

Till then, the universe awaits your contribution."



****** silly twerp, don't you realise how busy I am*************

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