AGREE wt Idowuogbo.

Stringing the girls along is unfair to both the girls and you.
Confusion remains the order of the day. And opens up the possibility of making poor decisions
based on temporary circumstances.
Need to decide who you'll stick to irregardless of projected lost benefits n work on that.

Nice one, Killz.
   

Tedp was only asking questions.
Not appropriate to label him as a psycho in the making.


What's wrong wt 50yrs?
U gave no age restrictions. 50 still dey young in todays world.

Need a few details more to aid your " fishing"

Interesting!!

Anyone( single professional Europe-based male) interested in Renaissance art.??

Let's chat.

@ Naijasexy,
His monitoring is primarily for his selfish interests.
Indecision as a factor is not plausible.
He's had 10 yrs to come to a decision, = not committing to Op.

Difficult as it maybe, she needs to move on.
In the event, he changes his mind on realizing her decision,
She has changed the dynamics of the relationship in her favour but importantly, It's healthier.

Otherwise, despite 1-2 marriages to other women, ( likely as he's got issues wt permanence ),
She will always be the woman on the side for the extra loving, food, organizing his weddings or naming ceremonies or other events but never the main or recognized wifey.

A glorified mistress reaffirming his poor esteem.

GIRL! Smell the coffee or ogi, MOVE on by cutting him off n dating other guys.

Age is nothing but a number. Enjoy jhor!!!

Kudos to Innoson Motors,
Creating jobs, making technological advances,
hopefully be able to fully bring about a 100% made in 9ja car.

It's commendable that early warning systems are put in place.
But that delivers little in the absence of resources to cater for the affected individuals,
resources or legislation to prevent or reduce the destructive effects of climate change.

Long term plans must be initiated and put into place to limit deleterious effects of climate change.

Don't understand the bit bout ur bestfriend's mum thing

However, simply BLANK him out. Persist and he wl get the message eventually.

Husbands come and go; if divorce rates are anything to go by (not being frivolous)
Sisterhood is something to hold and cherish.

A brother sleeps with a sibling's wife, the wife gets booted out immediately,
the other partner in crime may be admonished
but jungle justice is administered immediately to the wife.

In a patriarchal society such as ours, women are always to blame. Therefore, a sister who is comfortable
having an affair with her siblings' husband knowingly, is worse than a lovepeddler.
No sense of propriety, boundaries, shame is evident here: little will deter her from organizing harmful attacks on her sibling.

Willing consensual affair is ALL WRONG.

.@ op.

Different pieces of advice re: abort or not to. Chances are you are inclined not to.
Excuse my presumptions, a discuss on NL is not a way to confirm or refute your intending actions.

What's more of concern to me is the likelihood of having a STI onboard. That should be checked out asap.

Thx

Yeah, yeah.

She can't do the following:
cook meals,
clean the house,
be beautiful and partake smartly in conversation whilst at your beck n call particularly at company meetings, family gatherings
offer advice,
bear you the proverbial heir(ess) and spares.

Most importantly, she can't slap those silly ideas out of your head,



By the way, remember she needs to be cleaned out after every encounter, otherwise
heaven forbid the emanating STENCH after a few sessions.
Uuugh! Perish the thought!!! Uuugh.
 


Wifey lasts way longer than 2 years

costs you $6000: (She (a real wifey) most probably would spend that on your sorry butt.)

   

Coming from a chap who is not clued up bout the workings of
a female mind, but more worryingly, not even making an effort.

Leave Killz alone.

There is a difference between extensive pre-intimacy and the penetrative act be it
the use of a finger, penis, tongue, s, ex object.

At this point,  a rape has been committed if the lady was hesitant to continue from extensive pre-intimacy to the penetrative act. Particularly if there has been vocalization to that effect.

Unfortunately, a lot of women have been raped, but have been brainwashed into believing otherwise. African societal prejudice makes criminalization of this impossible. Have u observed that African men who mistake a little forceful manner during intercourse as being normal, are sometimes accused of statutory rape when dealing with women from a western culture.

Other than a girl willingly seeking and vocalizing a need to be disvirgined, a woman moaning during pre-intimacy but resistant at the moment of penetration should be considered as not giving consent to penetrative s, ex.


Hence women crying foul afterwards as a result of the violation.

As the above has said, what are the factors determining the score or ratings.

An effective relational attribute is to pitch at people's innate level.
This has nothing to do with the FEMALE sex.

Relationships should be symbiotic in nature. A dysfunction arises when
one partner feels overburdened if trying to pull up his or her unwilling partner.
These disparities should've been examined prior to starting the affair or in the early days at least.
Effective strategies to tackle this, should be sought and implemented rather than PARTNER bashing.

A relationship fails, its the fault of both parties.

@ op,

I support your sister's actions.
She obviously has been observant of your mother's actions, probably made comments in the past
with no changes evident.

Using this opportunity as It's her money maybe her chance to right a wrong.
Your mother's wrong on several counts.
On this matter, obtaining money by deception from you, collecting a gift your sister had given to you,.likewise your brother is ALL WRONG.

More kudos to ur sis, as this will get worse. The reason behind the favoritism needs to be explored.

I'm glad that there's love abounding btw the three of you. There appears to be no hesitation to helping each other out even when 1 sibling appears to be doing better than the other.

It's the modus operandi exhibited by the mum here that's under question.

To the contributor (Vikin) going on , about being the chief cornerstone. It's only for a short period of time whilst they are living off your money.
The minute that stops, they revert back to type.
Parental love should never be available for sale as it is in the above example.
The minute that becomes an overwhelming factor, the bond in that family is gone.



I have seen people who have fallen for this, being burnt at the end, sometimes creating havoc in the family tree for generations now and in the future.


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What a shame n waste of a young life.

I hope the GF is happy, her vals gift was this young man's life.

This hopefully will address the excesses of a heavily materialistic society to some degree.

Under the influence of radio, Tv programmes, corrupt leaders who worship at the feet of excessive display of ill-gotten wealth with no apparent recompense for their negative actions, peer pressure with little or no moral support from parents or spiritual mentors, this societal decay will only get worse.

God help us all.




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@ op,

Still young,
As the above threads have advised:
1) don't be desperate
2) don't determine ur beauty by praise or hate comments:
3) increase ur inner beauty, develop your character
4) get a good job following ur service year, to make u financially independent
5) try mixing in social circles where u can avail urself of the opportunity of meeting pple/ guys of similar interest. Religious settings,work dos, cinemas, functions at local charities etc
NL on the off chance provides stimulating conversation sometimes.

Enjoy, start freaking if after all the above, u find no takers (,  me finks another 2-4 yrs)

If I had to choose, as unaware of their characters:

Van Vickers, clean skin
Not an over tattooed freak-looking moneyed arse.

Money ain't everything, u know.

Forgive, if that was upsetting.

Boobsie look definitely enhanced.

Beats me, everytime guys can't identify a  plastic-surgerized woman.

Reflects the type of magazines they've been gawking at.

Moral: want ur wife that way after kids,

,  abdominoplasty + perk-up boobsie job as Valentine present

   

@Tisabone,

Simply reiterating some of the above comments.

Try to hang about with girls n guys ur age.
I strongly suspect, you might find them  ( behavior, conversation, mindsets) boring.

In the area of love, don't be prescriptive: enjoy the moments n life in general wt the one u love.
You are mature enough to know that age is simply a number.
You get wt a 30+ man, enjoy. Don't fret about the age difference except you two simply are not compatible.

Relax, chill n embrace life.

Last word on the church chap, having been warned by not 1 but 3 pple and noticing certain
untoward issues, thread down that path very carefully if u must.

NJH stands for ? ? ?

What a voice n  such huge talent.

RIP Ms Houston

May God continue to comfort her family, Amen

Ooops,

My mistake assuming u to be a JB prototype.

My apologies.

^^^^^^

several threads on NL, have u implying this school of thought, albeit in a temporal manner.

There is evidence u were involved in some e-cheating ( a certain sisterwoman, I do stand to be corrected, if I'm wrong)

Not just drinks, but the finest champagne and caviar on this side of the Atlantic.

Merci.

Your stats (statistics) pls.

What incredulous nonsense.

Patched up womanliness = born-again virgin

SMH.

What r ur stats pls??

The gals need to know what they r potentially looking to take on.

All's fair in love and ,  oops,   war.

Where in Togo r u at??