Jullima:



She married very young, I don’t think she’s even 25 yet.

How old was she in the Wizkid vid??
if she's not yet 25.



Might appear it was a "gatecrash/shotgun wedding" to hide the pregnancy.




Shame if these stories are true.
Reminds me of the Dakore episodes

It paints her in a very bad light...
But hanging out with certain people will only give you a bad name

Hope Wale takes stock and recoup, if true.




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Hate to say this
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Looks so unhealthy...

Skinny, ugly tattoos

Is she on drugs or something


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Listened to few of her songs recently.

Got reminded why I like her voice, dancing, zany outfits and ....... hairdos simply kalakuta!!!

felzylix:


You people be shouting mind your business mind your business upandan..

Stop it!!!

She is on the internet, she is our business. If she had done thesame privately in her room for the viewing pleasure of her husband then it wouldn't be our business.

Now you don't know how much of distraction she causing with a body that is supposed to be tagged with viewers discretion.

Totally agree....

The minute you put a private video online for public consumption ....

You become fodder for analysis whether good or bad....

Justin should know that instead of vexing upandan....


Mchewwwww....

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Buffalowings10:
She no carry meat jor.

See that thigh gap

My thoughts .

Looked a little too thin


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Is this a bid to create a vaccine of sorts

Or a biofuel?!

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DonroxyII:
Some girls are like that especially all these lack of exposure girls ..... immediately you teach her something or correct her assertions , she will feel worthless , in secured and insulted ... GBAM, Malice has started until you reexplain yourself again via apology ...

The thing is that , her attitude ain't enough to dump her especially if she has other areas/aspects she excels like :

Career/Professional/Academic oriented,
Home management skills ,
Financial management skills,
Social skills,
Kid raising skills,
Bedmatics,
Level of Spirituality etc

There is no perfect person anywhere but you need to confirm the key indices you want in a woman .....
and her ability to learn .... The above yardstick are mine .....

My first gf/fiancee was a Medical student now a medical doc with poor family/social skills but averaged and aced some other yardsticks .... she fights over little and most stewpid things if not with Okada rider, it may be a taxi driver , her colleagues at school or her nuclear/extended family member, If it were me she's having issues with, She will rake, rake while I will just be smiling and telling her how beautiful she is when she is angry ...... If she was reporting any incident to me, I dare not blame her nor question her judgment else, she will transfer all aggression to me ....

So, anytime she was reporting anyone to me , I dey follow her insult that person ooo .... (Na psychology), at that moment of reporting (Chai, thunder fire me if I don't , else she will tagged me as aiding and abetting that person )

Then, after a day or two that sweet nonsense would have happened between us like outing, movies, lovey-dovey (Like immediately after some Sxx) ..... I would now revisit the issue and sternly recommend appropriate course of action she should have taken in that scenario and avoid any such occurrence in the future.......
I'd let her realised how much she embarrassed herself even her profession simply because of lack of patience or for as low as "I'm sorry" or #50 disagreement .... you would hear :
"yes sir, yessur " .... she tend to listen better at that moment .....

Since we broke up in 2013 , she still ain't find a man to manage her and me too on relationship holiday since then (Book ti take over)

Now that's a matured reply...

Agree wt his premise...
If this is the only slur in her character, help work on it.. Get mentors, books, counseling tips..
No one's perfect
2 imperfect people trying for a perfect union.

If looking for the perfect person, the search never ends or you end up picking a fake who reveals their true colours once married!!!

Ask the bros who are perenially lamenting on social media.


Good luck!!!!

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Charity begins at home, Lia



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Haaaa

So he's popping the big Q àt dinner
Arrrwwww, the romantic teddy-b!!!
O dearie me.. What shall I wear........


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Wakes up to reality. Alas twas a dream.





I wonder what 3 things he would deem necessary in the wife though



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Good stuff!!

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This should be thoroughly investigated.

She's the second girl in recent times with s suicide verdict.. Her case looks very suspicious.

1) why did she go to Cardiff, .....a hotel in Cardiff to commit the act and not somewhere closer,eg that famous suicide bridge in Bristol ,--- a "runs" event gone bad??
2) why is only 1 not several people aware of the "depression"?
3) why didn't the said person raise an alarm, as we Naija people do because of our tatafo!!
4) where are GP records or other eye witness accounts of her depressive episodes??
5) she left no notes, instead visited her family just days to the event...,.naaa..... She was killed


The family better get a PI to dig in and expose the people behind their daughter's death.. Or at least the significant events preceding it.



Be careful of the friends you keep...


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Organism000:


Your bad breath at this stage is symptomatic of a larger dysfunction like liver issues.

I have a solution for you that will be a wholesome treatment.

Buy baking soda and Apple cider vinegar (with the mother) and mix a teaspoonful of baking soda in a litre of warm water and drink it first thing in the morning. Then through out the day drink at least 5 litres of water daily for 1 week. The alternate with a cap full of Apple cider vinegar in a litre of warm water followed by 5 litres of water for another 1 week.

The third week, do lemon or lime in a glass of warm water followed by 5 litres.

Note that during the first week the bad breath will be gone. The entire treatment is for your liver and kidney.

You are actually dehydrated and the purine might make your joint painful.

Follow through and thank me later

Like seriously


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ChiefAzubuike:
Count this as a blessing in disguise. With that bad breath, you have no chance of getting a burden in your life in the name of girlfriend. You don't have to worry about making friends who would end up backstabbing you and you don't have to worry about provoking someone in public with your statement.

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Now that's what is called a silver lining in the clouds .....



To op, a similar thread is somewhere on NL.


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Thanks for this piece of opportunistic journalism..


But erhmmm.....
There is a reason why phone usage isn't allowed in petrol stations.

The risk of fire due to the flammability of petrol.

Taking these pictures, I feel, could have put you at significant risk!!

I have often wondered if the Otedola bridge tragedy was not aided by several phones in use in close proximity, given the weather conditions..

Engineers in the house, pls answer



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Why the surprise....
Pioneers of mail-order brides..
Exposure to decent courting/ wooing..as the lady said


Its all fun n games


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Looks like a clean up exercise to me..
So much national angst, international attention brimming, no need for the boys..

Hey what do I know...

Watched too many films.,.



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kimbraa:
It's outright childishness cum foolishness for any woman or man to draw a comparison between his wife and mother or herself and mother in-law. Any woman who does this has got serious issues as I don't get why one would think her husband loves his mother more than her. If a man loves you, he loves you. Dragging love with his mother means you're not even sure of your place in the man's life. Both are your family, treat them right. None comes before the other and none should be displeased for the other when there can always be a balance.

Well said..
Stay ur lane, I stay mine...

Need I say more??

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Oh my...

May the souls of the departed rest in peace.

Ambode's program of creating bus termini, with strict enforcement, may help prevent what set off a series of events with devastating results.


Mmmmm.

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Only1mi:


I kinda agree with you. Thankfully the rules around renting out flats, houses or rooms are being tightened to avoid these situations. But the truth of the matter is that if someone is illegal or on a very tight budget they'll often avoid the overly legalistic process as it'll cost too much and it could potentially be out of reach as well.

But your observations are spot on.

Grazia!!

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Only1mi:


But if he had the evidence you think he wouldn't have provided it? Some people enter into consensual agreements to stay rent free for sexual pleasure, but the majority of the time people legally rent with people of the opposite gender.

I agree that should have been his prerogative.

However these agreements are oftentimes verbal or quite suggestive but open to interpretation, with no records.

I will be surprised if she made any payment, either by way of a deposit prior to the tenancy starting or afterwards. In addition, she slept there all night, only to report at the police station the next day, when you have a phone at hand to call for help and possibly sleep on the benches or pay handsomely at a motel / inn. There was cold-blooded calculation on her part.

You also have to factor in certain generational or cultural slants. With the older generation Africans, your intense flirting with a heterosexual man is often considered an open invitation and not harmless as seen by today's millennials. This ?derogatory patriarchal attitude is often criticized by the younger ones. Its not an excuse but just providing a backdrop. I'm not describing molestation or other deviant behaviour in my generalization, BTW.

Its all about being aware and protecting one's self at the end of the day.


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Lexusgs430:


' She rented a room off him online' Did he provide any rental agreement stating all she needed to do was sexual favours?

Come to think of it, I watched an investigation on BBC Iplayer, I think it was called 'sex for rent'. Would dig it up...

That's what he should have provided..evidence of prior communication that collaborated that narrative.

Bear in mind, I do not support molestation or soft-prostitution which I consider this to be..



But it happens all the time on different e-platforms and social media handles - sugar babies etc

, at a time, teeendr and some other gay website, was the usual way to pick up gay partners for the night which sometimes panned out into some rent for sex arrangement till one of the individuals opted out.

It was the serial killer in NE London that opened the lid on that informal arrangement. As a lot of his victims were sourced that way.



I emphasize that I'm not suggesting he's been framed but I observe that a lot of people tend to make out they are victims when they knew the score all along. As the law is out to make an example, the often clueless "perpetrator" becomes a scapegoat, whilst the "victim" walks off to create another crime scene --


If this man was of a certain ethnicity, had a QC to defend his case, a totally different outcome would have been arrived at.


From the dynamics and timing as depicted in the report, he appeared not to have a decent legal representative. Yes it costs money. But reputation, livelihood and in this case jail time is at stake here.


I feel strongly about this having read several cases where our young black men have been stereotyped and jailed with that bias in mind on the back of allegations from less-than-savoury sources in addition to poor evidence.

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Lexusgs430:
She is paying him rent and he was still expecting extra reward in the oza room?

Serves him right.......

I doubt it..
Rent for sex was a popular thing in most UK cities last year... Male/female.... Male/ male... Some allege its an import from EE climes?? It was further glamorized on tval as an urban trend. What was not robustly discussed was the jail term it could carry..

In this case, the lady described it as harassment not a rape.
What he should have provided was some evidence of prior convo to indicate the girl had s foreknowledge of what she was getting into as opposed to being a victim of opportunistic crime as made out on the public gallery.

Interesting

Didn't realise there were convictions for perpetrators of the Rent for sex scandal.. Quite prominent in major cities.

I accept the victims are vulnerable but jail terms up to 7 years for what is a consensual arrangement is ??- leave that to anyone's imagination!!

Hmmm



Re: these cases, It seems a legally tight document needs to be signed before the "3rd leg" does any thinking!!!

The ways young men, particularly black, have been labelled on the back of poorly constructed accusations, when a recurrent pattern of ill-behaviour on the part of the accuser is known.

Vulnerability from the victim should not equate to total lack of responsibility, more so when there are other reasonable but unattractive alternatives.
So every case judged on its merit-- not a blanket approach..




Guys, abeg use sense..
The hips, boobbbs and seductive eyes beckoning at you, may be destiny destroyers to bring not only you but your family pain and untold torment..


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Interesting

Would like to get more details before commenting further


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What's his Contact

Would like to discuss some opportunities with him !??



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Congrats on your success so far
Ms Bam bam... Do us a great favour

Pick up one theme to run with- that develops our social consciousness..

That way you stay relevant, years after BBN has produced several other young ladies who may be prettier or happy to do crazier things...

Na beg I beg ....,..before we are confronted brashly by pictures of nudity, fallen plastic heroes........... as is always the way, when there is no "market".


Respect!!!



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KenOne:
Not that IGP Idris don't know what to do to bring these fulani herdsmen to justice from Benue, Taraba and to Plateau. Buhari is yet to show him he's determined to deal with these fulani herdsmen, how can over 200 persons killed and no marching order to the police to fish out those behind the killings dead or alive.

If not that allowing another candidate other than Buhari in 2019 will mean short changing the South in 2023, and another Hausa-Fulani from PDP is a no no for me, Buhari wouldn't have had support in 2019. From 2023 no Fulani man showed be allowed to rule Nigeria again, because of these killings by Fulani herdsmen, funny enough they don't have the strength in terms of numbers to sway election results in their favour if not for the support of the native Hausas.

So it is acceptable to have more more killings in order to achieve your 2023 ambitions??

When its as clear as night from day, there is little the incumbent can or will do to stop these widespread level of depravity!!

I shake my head...


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columbus007:
wow,this is so nice then, can't wait for her to die then,so what's she waiting for?.

Realllyyyy...
What you wrote is so horrible!!!

It takes nothing from you to be humane in these circumstances!

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NOETHNICITY:
Our very compromised media has been very silent about this style of killings in which Christians take over the roads and start killing ppl on suspicion that they are Fulani or Muslims.

Nairaland ops quickly tagged it 'reprisal attack'.

Fulanis have been raising alarms about their cattles being rustled and their pple targeted at will.
Nobody ever listen's to them.

This is the reason I keep saying that the pple of middle belt aren't ready for peace and there is little security agents can do in such situation.

But you have to wonder as to why little has been said of the rustlers

Yes, There may be poor media coverage of the attacks on the Fulani's but where is the evidence, pictures, credible eye witness accounts?? It's largely hearsay with no significant collaboration. In today's social media-crazed world, pictures would have been on all platforms available, after all there's no govt censorship regarding that narrative!!

However, it is apparent for all observers that the marauders have attacked disproportionately a greater number of people- entire villages, men, women, children, even unborn children been torn out of their mothers' bellies: communities have been decimated, wiped out, totally eliminated: that is totally gruesome.!

Different groups accepting responsibility for these horrid atrocities whether rightfully so or not have not been warned to desist from their criminal acts or even brought to justice. That in itself gives a wrong signal: that some people are above the law despite attesting to committing wanton criminality descending to harrowing depths of depravity??

There are pictures, eye witness accounts, incessant calls to authorities and the powers that be, to speedily intervene under the cloak of our collective humanity!!! But

NOTHING credible appears to have been done till close relatives are affected....

The narrative of poorly constructed confabulations continue from the government..

Why must more blood be shed before the government or those in authority do what's right and humane

Why ??

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luvmijeje:
This is what happened when a leader failed to lead. People start taking laws into their hands. I hate saying may his or her soul in perfect peace. This could all be avoided when a leader leads.

Totally agree..

To all the victims, I pray all their souls rest in peace..

Hopefully something definitively can be done about this menace!!


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Well said Sir!!

They need our prayers as they go through their darkest day!!!

I pray God's comfort and guidance will be with them all!!




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