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Romance / Re: Is Marrying A Female Practicing Lawyer A Recipe For Everlasting Marital Doom? by doeeyed: 9:11pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
Character character character. Main defining factor... not profession!!! Can marry a pharmacist who could slowly poison you... Or an accountant who cleans you out systematically with no recourse to legal aid Or an engineer who can stage lethal "home accidents".... Or a mechanic who messes up your brakes Need I go on!!! Character character character!! |
Romance / Re: How Do I Become Friends With Benefit With My Ex? by doeeyed: 9:01pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
Nextworldnx: I know I'm gonna be insulted here, but no problem, as I am seriously in dire need of a solution to my predicament. Simply show her this thread...... Hopefully she realizes that she's been played and shouldn't waste her time servicing your canal desires only to be invited to your wedding as a guest!!! Silliness at its peak. . |
Romance / Re: Wat Ve U Reserved For Ur Life Partner Only by doeeyed: 8:53pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
deshclones: Thanks for not spreading any disease!!!! |
Romance / Re: Who Do U Think Really Owns D Man? The Mother Or The Daughter Inlaw? Pls Reply by doeeyed: 8:48pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
What utter nonsense!!!! No one.... He owns himself..... Before wifey starts to shoot her mouth off, your bosoms aren't the only ones he may have laid claim to exclusively in those years. And if you cared to know, you may be one of several women carrying his weight regularly. And other things you may wish to add on a later date... So GET a life and stop WHINING!!!! For Mama, its a case of .... once upon a time..... Yes you provided, guided, taught,....... most times selflessly..... It's time to focus on other projects and give him space to prove that the training you put in place has borne fruit. Support can still be offered, only if requested!! Answer again: No one but himself Geeeez |
Romance / Re: How Much Info About Your Partner, Can You Share With Your Family? by doeeyed: 8:30pm On Nov 05, 2012 |
freecocoa: I think you should tell them important things. I agree with you on the above points, a few nuggets are outlined below. Maturity has to be displayed by both parties. Some things are best left within the relationship, however news still have a way of getting round. Mistakes in the past nonetheless can be used against one, sometimes leading to blackmail. A multifaceted analysis is needed. Assessing the family and what can be tolerated. Degree of closeness and inter relationship will help in information dissemination True portrayal of a change from previous deviant ways, for those with a PAST. Self reliance, financially, definitely is a must. For most things hidden from the family, there are tell tale signs evident prior to the presence of talebearers.... It becomes baffling and appears deceitful to onlookers when you want to hide things away. These are the cases where in the event of the relationship falling apart, family members are very antagonistic to remediation efforts, leaving scars on future generations. There has to be a commitment to the relationship even in the face of opposition.... this only comes from being convinced about it...... not in the early stage of lust. Family involvement is useful, when done on the portals of equity and justice not out of personal bias or vendettas. This is where self awareness comes in before dishing out information. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Does Chauvinism Generate Successful And Happy Relationships? by doeeyed: 9:29pm On Nov 04, 2012 |
claremont: Reasonable argument..... However, that may stand true in the yester-years. Not so NOW, given recent changes in gender role in matrimony, African society as a whole, and the responsibilities therein. . |
Romance / Re: Ur Opinion Is Needed Plssss by doeeyed: 12:04pm On Nov 04, 2012 |
If you're so upset about her presumed 2-facedness, You need to sit her down + discuss issues with her. She's bankrolling the occasion n has chosen to settle down with you..... That says a lot, ........ there's more in your favour. . |
Romance / Re: How Does Aging Affect Your Love Life? by doeeyed: 11:55am On Nov 04, 2012 |
Me thinks beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Fading beauty only emphasizes one thing...... What's more important is not the physique ......... but the content therein. No excuse to let go and look less charming but neither a reason to overdo things and look downright weird!!! . 2 Likes |
Family / Re: Sleeping In Seperate Rooms While Married? by doeeyed: 2:33am On Jul 21, 2012 |
Wetin Prince, As long as its consensual.... no hala. It's not everyday u wan do the do.... reasons being: fasting, finishing an assignment or completing a project and not wanting to disturb the partner. So let her be.... Absence makes the heart grow fonder.... no be so. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: My Fiancee Told Me Were Incompatible When I Pretended To Be Bankrupt by doeeyed: 2:25am On Jul 21, 2012 |
@ tobechi74: Even after 2-3, another man fit collect am for ur hand. Basically, marriage n children are not strong reasons for a woman not to Walk, if the tendencies r present. What u need is to shine ya eyes well... work at ur relationship n hope for the best. Hmm |
Family / Re: Sleeping In Seperate Rooms While Married? by doeeyed: 2:07am On Jul 21, 2012 |
Yep... can have separate rooms. Suppose if snoring was an issue, beats trying to grumble my way thru the night. My room for the clothes, shoes, whatnots... Closets aren't large enough. Trust me Me a permanent resident of his bedroom. And occupier of his closet too. Hmm. |
Romance / Re: The Longest Married Couple In The World Gives Relationship Advice by doeeyed: 8:33pm On Jul 20, 2012 |
Inspiring..... Particularly at this present time. Hmmmmmmmmmm. . |
Romance / Re: Marry Her Like That! by doeeyed: 9:04am On Jul 20, 2012 |
Hahaha!! On point!!! Afam Really on point!! . |
Romance / Re: Whats Your Idea Of A Good Relationship? by doeeyed: 9:15pm On Jul 17, 2012 |
You feel ........"at one" with the person. Loyalty, trust, respect, commitment, forbearance, selflessness, differing to the other are tools utilized at different times along the way. . |
Sports / Re: Nigerian Premier League Rated Best In Africa For 2012 by doeeyed: 7:40pm On Jul 17, 2012 |
Kudos to the present ? Management.... Despite corruption, poor infrastructure, limited funding.... Topping the list is a great achievement.... More vaseline to your elbows.. Pls keep the flag flying high, building on your strengths, Whilst minimizing weaknesses. . |
Romance / Re: Is Seun Dating Mukina?? by doeeyed: 3:26am On Jul 17, 2012 |
Thought they were siblings!! Any news on the West African business sector?? . |
Romance / Re: Can You Love Someone Without Checking On Or Calling The Person? by doeeyed: 3:41am On Jul 16, 2012 |
Thanks. Sent u 1. . |
Romance / Re: My Newly Married Neighbors Scare Me by doeeyed: 3:30am On Jul 16, 2012 |
Gdluck dear @ Bennyraz..... She-goat or She-sheep..... That gives u no right to turn her into a punching bag. If her wahala was too much, leave am je je: and face una corner. Shikena. . |
Romance / Re: Can You Love Someone Without Checking On Or Calling The Person? by doeeyed: 3:12am On Jul 16, 2012 |
Im good, and you? What u doing up .... NBA ?? Been awhile.. D proj... How is that panning out . |
Romance / Re: My Newly Married Neighbors Scare Me by doeeyed: 2:59am On Jul 16, 2012 |
@ Bennyraz: There are ways of dealing with difficult situations.... wacking her face is not an ideal one. It shows an inherent lack of communication skills. Throwing your fist is less cerebral than employing mental faculties to bring about desired change. The essence here is not .......... Accepting her disobedience (if that was the case) ...... but having an effective means of correcting it!!!! . |
Romance / Re: Can You Love Someone Without Checking On Or Calling The Person? by doeeyed: 2:44am On Jul 16, 2012 |
Have u relayed to her that her telephone "apathy" is affecting ur feelings? Are there other reasons for these.... ie financial: as she is not asking for money?? She may simply be BUSY and just settling into the relationship. Give her a little more time. . |
Romance / Re: My Newly Married Neighbors Scare Me by doeeyed: 6:07pm On Jul 15, 2012 |
Childluck has said it all. @ Bennyraz: the definition of a true man is not the brute force he exhibits either as a form of mental or physical abuse, but his ability to communicate effectively without the use of force. The only "Epic" thing re: this story is his "Epic" lack of respect for himself, womanhood, the families and friends present on the day and the authority of the officiating religious organisation. . |
Romance / Re: Answer Me This! by doeeyed: 1:36am On Jul 08, 2012 |
Save the big heart theory....... Soldiers are trained to kill. Finito. For some or hopefully most, the job has its boundaries..... for a few the killing spree continues... See behaviour of soldiers with PTSD or psychopathic tendencies in the civilian arena. It may initially start with an inert inability to empathize. This will be new to those closest to them... Ok, I'll stop the psycho-analyzing........ Btw, r u the person in question?? . |
Romance / Re: Answer Me This! by doeeyed: 8:23pm On Jul 07, 2012 |
Humanized by whose standards A leopard cant change its spots..... On a serious note, a lot of soldiers are in loving relationships.. Yes, they may need to work harder at it due to long periods of separation and traumas from war. Are there concerns re: Post traumatic stress disorder and other "deeper" concerns here? . |
Romance / Re: You Can Always Have Anotrher Girlfriend And Wife, But Only One Mother For Life by doeeyed: 8:13pm On Jul 07, 2012 |
Hmm *clears the throat* Understand the need to l.o.v.e your mamma, but please love the wife too. Its all about creating a balance to things. Put in the boundaries and make sure they are respected by all concerned. As there exists immature, self-centered gf or wifeys, needy and meddlesome mothers also abound. Its your role to create a harmonious balance. . 1 Like |
Romance / Re: You Don't Need Trust To Love Anyone by doeeyed: 8:04pm On Jul 07, 2012 |
@ op: There is a need to define the type of love you are describing here. Is it Eros love? self-explanatory. Love between 2 friends... David + Jonathan in the bible Love between a parent and child or ward Love from a Supreme Being to his followers i.e. Jehovah They have different rules of engagement, midear!! Best not to confuse them!! . |
Romance / Re: Pls Rate This Newly Wedded Couple by doeeyed: 7:54pm On Jul 07, 2012 |
What r they doing in separate cars?? ?Rate them....... as in . |
Family / Re: Why Are Women Always Having Problems With Their Mother-in-law by doeeyed: 3:01pm On Jul 07, 2012 |
Lack of tolerance and maturity, short-sightedness on the part of the wife and a meddlesome set of in-laws. Overall encroaching into poorly-defined boundaries always result in conflict. The above-mentioned are commonly exhibited by women not men: explaining why men seem to have less trouble with in-laws. . 1 Like 1 Share |
Romance / Re: A Relationship With Dual Control by doeeyed: 2:37pm On Jul 07, 2012 |
Seems like a fwb scenario to me. Walk in and Walk out as suits either person. Definitely not co-habitation or contract marriage. Out of ur fugue state? |
Family / Re: Sad Facts About Modern Family Life by doeeyed: 2:29pm On Jul 07, 2012 |
@ jp phillips.. kudos to your parents "and supporting staff" on a job well done. I believe the intention of the original post was not to simply identify these distractions but to also place emphasis on the lack of balance being observed. Different reasons have been postulated here: from lack of good upbringing, poor parental supervision and decaying societal moral fibre. You attested to the fact that these games or privileges were given as presents not as a way of life as seen in some parts,....for academic brilliance. So you all, had to apply yourselves. But that attitude is slowly being eroded by a " work little or not at all but achieve great things" mentality. As identified in an earlier post, the hard skills are being thrown out with the bath water whilst the soft skills are over-celebrated. I read some comments made by the youth with awe..... Why work hard if I can get a rich man to pay for my needs and possibly my entire village!! at that. Focus is on the superficial, not on developing the innerman.. Getting latest designer clothes and Brazilian hair ... not acquiring life skills to improve employment or entrepreneurial opportunities!! Of course, I concur not everyone falls into this remit. . |
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