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JuanDeDios:
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Its called a Vertical Bar

I am an introvert as well.
I am assuming you don't know the meaning of Bipolar, please be sure of the meaning and don't curse yourself. If indeed you are convinced you are bipolar, you need to see a medical professional.

There is one thing introverts need to understand, people don't have to understand you, people don't have to like you as long as you are doing no wrong or committing no crime. But guess what, you have many secrete admirers .A few real people would come into your life to like and love you unconditionally for who you truly are. Don't force it

But I would be very honest that you still need to gradually build your confidence, its very important if you want to build meaningful relationships, especially business relationships.

Don't try to be someone else. Being an introvert has so many advantages, more than you can imagine. One of the most important is avoiding fake people and choosing your right circle/people.

As for romantic relationships, you don't have to be an extrovert to get a meaningful partner, you don't have to go partying or clubbing to get a partner.


I never changed who I am , I didn't need to conform to people's definition of what I should be. All I did was to constantly be the best version of myself everyday, I improved and I am still improving everyday. Most importantly I am still me.

Don't let people's definition of what an "ideal" person should be, define you. Be yourself, as long as you are doing no wrong, or committing no sin or crime.

Being an introvert is a gift, our minds operate on a different level, we think differently, we see differently, we have enough time to think logically and analytically, put all that together and you have the potential to create things beyond human comprehension, stop seeing it as a challenge, its an unfathomable gift and blessing.


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AntiIncognito:
Whats the risk of using without stabilizer cos i cant afford one for now..

If you are in Lagos, go to Oshodi Arena and buy a second-hand UPS with or without battery.It doubles as a stabilizer . 650va costs 2-2.5k, 1200va cost around 3-5k.

deyink1:
help.
I need zinox driver
Google isn't helpful

if any please contact:

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Install "driver booster" from IOBIT , it would automatically scan and install outdated or absent drivers

Mike559:
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How much would you charge to print 100 copies of business card(back and front). I have the designs ready.

MadCow1:
Hi......

I am in search of a good web designer.

I will be needing proof of previous works done by whoever applies for this job.

If interested, do send me a private message with your contact information and any other details I might need to know and also indicate here (On Nairaland) that you have done same and I will reach out to you.

Thanks & Best Regards..

M.C

I've sent you a DM

Why !!!

yeyeosoronga:
Personally, I find it easier to make money than to do chores.
I rather outsource a lot of things. She was probably tired after the packing/moving house and washing curtains. Curtains!!! I jump and pass.
Perhaps even in her father's house, she doesn't do as much chores and washing clothes. Its allowed to be tired and to rest o.

Yes its allowed to be tired, but not in the manner in which she did it. She should have conveyed her message properly, if indeed she was tired. There is nothing wrong in saying "Hubby I am tired, please let's do this later", from the way the man is described, he most likely would have told her to go and rest and he would handle it.

Mode and manner of communication is very important.

Women can be very "wonderful" , if she is not always like that, he should find out what is eating her up.

You mentioned that they are staying in his families house, its possible she is not comfortable with the idea.
Let him vex small, but not try to exchange words, when he has finished vexing, he should swallow his pride, go to her and tell her he does not like what she did and ask her what warranted her disrespect .

I always say this, even though its a wrong attitude, women tend to be more emotional than logical, they prefer sometimes to use "attitude" to communicate than actually being vocal.

They should both communicate

Still not an excuse for her behavior though.

Some women here sha, how can you say she is allergic to washing, imagine a man saying he is allergic to making money, Nairaland would not rest that day.

Noblefirstlady:
But what stopped him from marrying a slay mama. She has always been timid and all

Well, you are right. That's why I said her "upgrade" might still not work.
Many people get married thinking they can "handle it" then they later discover that they want something more. Oga wanted to marry a good, timid geh, now he is ashamed of her, because she is not slaying.

Has he even attempted to help her "slay". The thing is its almost impossible to fix a relationship where one partner is not fully committed.

The thing is, people who would cheat would cheat, some people marry beauty queens that slay more than slay queens and still cheat.
The problem ? Their moral/value system, and lack of contentment and commitment.

People nowadays do not understand why they get married, they don't deeply understand the sacredness of marriage, they don't understand the FACT that marriage is letting go off your selfish and guilty pleasures just to fixate your eyes on your spouse alone, they are not contented. They want everything. This reminds me of the 80/20 rule (From the movie Why Did I Get Married- you should see all the parts, so much to learn !).

But again, I don't blame some men, its a foundational problem, parents spend all their time training the female folk to be prepared for marriage, teach them how to cook, respect and care for their home, and they neglect the very males their daughters and other people's daughters would get married to, making statements like "he is a man, he would marry a woman, leave him alone", whenever he makes errors that need to be corrected.

I have being doing this "research" on men/guys/boys. This care-free attitude and propensity to cheat is as a result of parent's negligence in inculcating values and the need to be accountable and treat people around them with respect.Men from a very little age are made to think they are boys and they can do anything they like and get away with it. That's how boys do . They become care-free at a little age and as expected transfer it into their adult lives by being philanders, as long as it pleases them, they do not care how the other party feels. Its the same reason for other things like domestic and emotional violence, its the same reason why many Nigerian men would NEVER help their wives with domestic chores. They can do as they like, its ingrained in their psyche .


Am I saying women don't cheat or misbehave too ?, they do, but most don't with the impunity with which men do.

Some guys make the fallacious assumptions that they can lay with as many women as they want simultaneously before getting married, and remain faithful to their wives when they eventually do get married. Sorry to burst your bubble bro, its almost impossible. Learn to keep your "johnny" in your pants, learn self control.Self control practiced before marriage, becomes very easy to execute when married.

Today, its Funke, tomorrow Chidinma, next tomorrow its Hauwa , most guys lose count of how many people they have slept with before they turn 25 .How then do you remain faithful when you get married. Its HARD . You have learnt to think with your "johnny" instead of with your head overtime. We have a problem on our hands. Parents need to do better.

I know I may have deviated from the subject matter, but I just felt that it was important for me to dissect this.....

I don dey talk too much, the thing dey pepper me for body, but make I .....

Noblefirstlady:
Yeah she is this typical traditional woman. She always say she will be there for her kids so divorce is out of the picture.
And the man will be very happy if she ask for divorce because he is ashamed of her. He prefers his side chick with all the slay qualities.

There is no justification for cheating, but she should also "upgrade" and "slay". I am not justifying the man's actions, but many married women get too relaxed, whether you are educated or not, look good for your husband, wear bum shorts around the house .

Many Nigerian women always go from hot looking divas to wrapper tying, dull-looking, women . They get too relaxed and complacent. This goes for men as well. Be in shape for your spouse, look good, smell nice even if you are more than 50 years old. Don't stop looking and smelling appealing.

Since she wants to keep her marriage, she should make some personal "upgrade". There is still no guarantee however that he would change, but she should give it a shot.

She probably already knows. She just chose to feign ignorance, the classic Nigerian woman's tale of " he would change", "I am here for my children", "what more can I do" .

Most times any man/woman who is bold enough to inflict physical injury/violence continuously on their spouse without any form of remorse, is also cheating/inflicting emotional injury without remorse(ladies take note of this).

This man has gotten the point where I call point of no return.Anybody who can cheat without remorse(publicly), can kill you if given the chance.

The real question is, if you tell her, what happens next ?

As I always say, its better to treat the root cause of problems than treating the symptoms of the problem.
Oga has no respect for her, simple. So she has to gain some back.
I usually do not encourage divorce, but I would gladly back it when physical violence comes into play, what if she falls and die one day ?

Since you are educated you can help her.
1. I am glad she has something doing already. She should start saving massively.
2. Help her get a lawyer, save all these Facebook posts(screenshot them), have recordings if you can audio/video evidence of all his misbehavior.Get neighbors and people who care about her to testify in court against him.
3. She should file for divorce, for Oga to still be collecting money from her, that means she is not doing badly in business and she can stand on her own with her kids. Let him go and be with his side chick, since he wants her so much that he shamelessly brought her to their matrimonial home !.

I am not encouraging cheating, but when a partner cheats without remorse and does not even attempt to hide it, they are telling you to your face that you are irrelevant in the equation.So do them a favor by taking yourself out of the equation.

People should stop getting married if they can't be faithful to their partners, its nauseating ! .

We need more details.

Una go just dey oppress person for auto section
Dear God, please give me money, bless my hustle.

Cool

I understand the the business climate is not "smiling" at entrepreneurs. But we still do it anyway.
A true entrepreneur does not dwell on excuses, he sees through all the problems and creates a SOLUTION.
Its a good thing Nigeria is filled with problems (I say this without meaning to sound like a prophet of doom).
Where problems abound, money making becomes easier.

He himself said the middle class spend mostly on food. What stops an entrepreneur from venturing into food business at any of the levels . There are MANY levels in food production !.

As I always tell people, these things would always remain relevant; Agriculture/Food, Healthcare, Transportation, Electricity, Education/Knowledge acquisition/Training, Technology/Internet Solutions - In that order . They are the basic things man cannot do without, no matter how poor or disorganized the country or state is. Find a way to key into these areas directly or indirectly, from the source or at the finished product and you would never be poor.

Be innovative, be smart, creatively solve a problem.
Make these solutions affordable and easily reproduce-able and sell-able.
Entrepreneurship truly isn't for everybody, its for those who don't let failure, disadvantages and unfavorable conditions weigh them down.
Its for those who see things differently, because those who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, and Nigeria in this context are the ones that actually do.


Stop giving excuses and take ACTION !

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ejosh4:
Thank you for sharing.... My dog is now pregnant

This is the major reason why so many marriages fail.
People attribute roles and cliches so much and are so strict with it that they forget the sole aim of getting married.
They forget that they are a unit, a team.

There is nothing wrong in having roles, but the primary focus is to collectively move the family forward as a team in all areas.
Carry each others weights and carry each others loads, try and balance things up.

I was reading the advice of a couple that have being married for 80+ years, they shared their major secret and it was as simple as "we were just kind to each other". As I always tell bae, whatever you can do for me, I can do for you, and I expect the favor to be returned.

Constant positive reciprocity is the best way to keep a marriage strong.

Men have being taught to place their egos before anything else, even before their own faults and weaknesses. Same reason why most fathers never apologize to their wives or kids when they wrong them.

Men, you won't die if you do it, it won't reduce your position in the house(as long as its done for someone who understands that you are a team), it won't take anything out from you.


Selflessness from both parties is the best way.It shouldn't be all about "me" and "my ego" all the time.
We really need to revamp our thought process.