₦airaland Forum

Freestainworld:
At such an age, a man is always thinking about legacy, I have loads of young girls even below 20s that comes around, but I just look at them like, wetin this one get wey I never see before.

Or like, this girl is yet to see Life. I bet she no understand Inflation or the global impact of Russia, Ukraine and Nato War

lecturer50:
I have observed that males in their late thirties and early forties can easily say NO to sex.

As in, they may interact with females and do not think of sleeping with her.

Even if the lady is very beautiful and wants sex with the man, he can easily refuse or delay it. And the surprising thing is that they have more opportunities to sleep with women,


unlike the males in their twenties and early thirties who are always looking for sex which they won't even find. Such an irony!



People in late thirties and early forties tends to be more focused and self fulfilled, and tend to discover that Sex is not that important.


I don't mean those who are chronic sex addict. I am talking about a normal somebody.

(As in, those males who are chronic sex addict, even if they are 100 years, they can still rape their great grand daughters to satisfy themselves. So I am not talking about those kind of males.)


My observation though.

A serious Man in 30s would have seen Life and Earth finished that Sex is only meant for relaxation not a Job. 30s and 40s is the Era of Consolidating ones Life and Preparation of Generational Successes or Failure. The Brain is fully Matured at that Age and Testosterone can be Managed fully by the Brain.

When Your Di.ck is rising Non-stop, You understand that's just some chemical reactions in your body which will subsides with time maybe due to what you just eat, drink or Others but John Thomas will calm down Verily.

But in 20s and 10s, Once Di.ck is jacking the next is where is the next available vagi.na or Soap to blow the nonsense comot the body.

40yo is Playtime is Over, You meet Women for Serious Business and not mere chooking inside each other's Body. At the end, sex is just sex without any Gain except with the one Your Heart and Brain Resonates with and Great Applications are churning from such mental cohabitation.

If not, sex with just any Person Leads to Regrets during mental review in the Long-run.

Datboredberri:
Honestly, men are of little value...

Which kain Depression is this Your Definition of Men is exactly who you are and the kinda men you either attract, Role with or your environment.

Nonetheless, Men will treat you to who you are even any Human for that matter ...

If Men are of little value, that's because you don't seem valued by the kinda men you attract.

teegurl2:
I like your post. Weldone. But can we not always mention big breast and big hips women as wrong choices in marriage? Are people implying that women with these features don't make good wives or what?

Someone come to complain about his wife and everyone goes "Ha when you were going after pretty women, you did not know. Now see where it has gotten you"

Not so attractive women without curves make better wives then?

Aswear, I liked and share the post but deep down me, I felt talking down on endowed girls is getting too much as if marrying them will lead to wreckage. It's just that endowment comes with some pressures from other males/females but with commitments and God, Humanities even Sent Rovers to Mars and Probed the Deep Space to Interstellar..

Marriage shouldn't be a rocket Science once both of you are committed and Godly.

Nonetheless, Most guys only go for the Curves and once Brain see finish in a matter of few months Yawa go Gas.

To Your Profile, God sef can't do without us, we are the beloved even Angels tend to us. God doesn't just like us being Stubborn, that's Satanic and Satan gets Punished

pansophist:
Me too. I left the rat race in my mid 20's, and my life has been much happier. Like I said before, people are always blinded by their desires, without thinking of what they are giving up in exchange for their desires. How can another man like me control the best of human happiness which is my freedom, just for something that has a low value such as money? Of course, I love money, but I will earn it in another way even if little, but I need my freedom. You see animals get depressed and die when they are caged, even if the zoo provides food for them 24/7. Humans should be free, I can imagine all my knowledge, growth, experience and sophistication restricted to a paycheck.

If I have to go to the village to visit grandma, I must wait for a few months when I will have a break, and take permission from a man like me, to engage in something that makes my life fulfilling? No job ever care that I was sick, but my family does, but somehow, the job expects me to be grateful even if to them I am disposable? I like to be free as a bird, not to be controlled by another man, to be territorial like a lion with my own huge space, and not play office politics of promotions, increase in salary, sucking a boss ass to be liked, and playing office politics, its hell for me. People that do it are tough, in that area, I am very weak. I am super solitary in nature, and it's just not my cup of tea.

This is what Everyone should strive for "Freedom" ... My Present Journey, the Journey to Freedom, no more Shackles.

pansophist:
Its a combination of geography, being an immigrant, climate, and culture. I'll break each down.

Canada is a country that is x10 bigger than Nigeria but has only the population of Lagos and Kaduna spread all over its vast territories. Only the province of Ontario (Toronto) alone is far bigger than Nigeria, with about half the Lagos population. Imagine the distance it takes to visit your family or friends in the other part of your province, talk less of the other side of the country. And as an immigrant, you do not have the advantage of an integrated social group, so you're building from the bottom up, with other immigrants like you, creating an artificial friendship that you all understand to lack any meaningful depth, which just makes you stick to yourself. You might experience been cut off when you asked for help from friends, yes, ghosting within the immigrant communities is a thing. Everyone has their cross to carry.

It's also cold, as in, freezing cold. For example, the freezing point from liquid to ice is -1, then imagine when the weather drops to -20, and even lower, for about six months in a year. Also, cold climate and darkness go hand in hand, so from 4 pm where the sun is still burning hard in Lagos, it's already darker than night. Harmattan is not cold. If harmattan is cold, then winter is the Arctic. When you consider the weather, distance, cold, and darkness, with a pile of bills you must sacrifice lots of work hours to cover, your life may revolve around work. Welcome to the rat race, and yes, you are now officially a rat.

The cultural aspect can be funny. Imagine receiving an invitation for a birthday and you are told to bring your own food and drink. Coming late frowned upon, and due to the multi-ethnicity of Canada, the audience fragmented into groups. Blacks stick to themselves and within the blacks, Nigerians can stick to themselves due to simialr culture and can enjoy their company better than with others groups.

E worse like this: And they all like it like that :

Why can't Canadians just come to Ghana or Nigeria to Enjoy the Sun ...

prince985:
I am 2 weeks in, for the past few days I have been peaking at indecency because all I can think about is sex but I resist the urge to fap..I really feel like going crazy.. please advice

Only if you add God to the mix but left for you alone traaa, you will soon fap

How could a human with Eggs be an empty Vessels

There is definitely many loads inside the Woman than a man can imagine ... Ubunja goofed !

The Human sperm can't actually fertilized itself, nigga needs to travel far, wide and fast or get killed by the Vag.ina Soldiers.

There are great deals of Lessons to be Learnt no doubt but for God's sake why should:

Sexual Intercourse and Relationship with the Opposite Gender leads to same Mental Drilling as Quantum Physics and Quantum Mechanics ....

No carry wetin Pass you, you go drop am or get Hurt!

Liyastitches:
From my point of view, it is because they are gullible most of the time,they tend to trust easily and overlook the hand writing on the wall.

It's also a test from God to know if your 'good heart' can stand the test of time, because good
attitude attract both good and bad, but never give up doing good, if those you are doing good to does not deserve it.

There is different between Good Heart and Emotional Stupidity.

People with Good Heart are always Lucky in a relationship

People with emotional Stupidity are always unlucky in a relationship

leody:
Abeg no vex say I post am here but the thing deh sometimes baffle me say despite all the suffering,pain ,agony,poverty,and all sort of bad bad things say man go still die kon still go chop round 2 of another suffering.

if you are Passing through all those presently. That's just a flash of What Hellfire looks like. Almighty God shall guide us towards Eternal Blissfulness and solidify our Heart in the Journey to Blissfulness, Amen.

Once you are mentally compatible, You will be sexually compatible.

The same way the Mouth is a means of getting food into the Intestine where Digestion takes place

Is

The same way, Va.gina/Pen. is are means of getting Sexual satisfaction into the Brain.


Shagging each other in a Premarital relationship is absolutely not necessary for those who cares not to ......

Once you speak to each others Brain, You will easily speak to each other's body and fill the Loopholes overtime ....

The same way you can't have enough of each other's brain is the same way you won't have enough of each other's body and learn overtime bearing in mind not health issues !

Proudlyomonna:
Leave the house for them before them kill you with frustration �.
Who never ready for mother in law wahala make he rest for marriage oo.
I don already tell my wife to be se I no get strength for stress,if you carry your family member come stress me I go leave house for una two�
I don't joke with my Mental health at all
I don't play with my peace of mind �

Aswear2God ... But Mama house for villa should also be equipped with State of Arts Digital sets at that she can watch what she wants !

megatran:
I can relate. I had to get on with the Metaverse vibe with the aim of meeting more intelligent people. I have met a number of them on there. They are always suprised when I tell them I am a Nigerian. Apparently, Nigerians and Africans as a whole have not started porting to the new world.
The difficult part for me is that I am looking for that intelligence and smart in ladies mostly. Probably, because I am getting older and the innate need for "settlement" bugs on me. It's difficult I tell you.

, A lady you are looking for is gonna be an extrovert if not both of you will recoil to each other's shell and that's also draining. Say, You need someone to help you against yourself because You are eating you (Draining).

You have to climb down from your high horse first. There is nothing in the sky but clouds, You can go high up as you like just like an aeroplane but come down to Your people to Play.

If you marry with this IQ of higher quotient, Your wife will be smelling to you in no time because even the most intellectual endowed woman at some point just wants to be a woman but a man is always mentally charged and if you are demanding such level of IQ from your wife, you will just drain her blood.

megatran:
I have noticed that for the past two years I have been gradually finding myself disassociating with people. I leave alone and sometimes I try to go online hopefully to meet people. When I meet people I over listen and chip in questions here and there to understand them and it mostly always ends up in misunderstanding. Its almost like I expect them to act in a particular way.
I have tried indulging in men's toys cars, bikes quads, tech and I haven't really had long excitement.
When I heard of the Metaverse and the ability to leave the real world and go anywhere I was excited to get in there. Probably with the idea that I may find like minds on there. However, for some reason I got bored and rarely go in there except for some light gaming.

In summary, I will like to know if anyone shares these experiences and if you were able to find a cure or solution, I would love to hear it.

Metaverse ....
I think we are pushing our Brain too Far and the Consequential effect is Zombie apocalypse.

The Brain is not biologically equipped to be establishing worlds within itself and relating within itself.

That's how Schizophrenia and Hallucinations begins as well as withdrawal symptoms from your immediate Environment because they are not replica of MetaVerse.

Attimes, the trophy is not upstairs but downstairs. climb down from your fictitious horse and come Home to God, come home to your people

fineboynl:
Introvert are nairalanders. They spend time online more than offline. They comment and have all the time.

Introvert can cause depression for lack of money or other vice especially when there is no one to talk to.

Introverts are mostly depressed people. There is no introverts actually, we just have people that ain't comfortable with the world around them.

But once they see their Kind of mindset, they become obsessed because they know the fear of letting Go. Being alone is quite Dark ....

Majority of social media rats are introverts and most of them are managing, micromanaging or macromanaging some level of Depression.

.

.

.

helinues:
The husband could actually be right considering her parents, a lady that's ready to pick up a fight with his husband even after having no idea why the husband came home late..The parents could be as toxic

Ntor, May God help us.

Stevenson1:
I once saw my elder sisters DM on Facebook. Omo, I can't differenciate between Nigerian guys and Indian guys who worst pass for woman matter.
This guy was practically begging my sister for a phone number from 2017 till date. Nawa oo
The thing tire me.
One was also begging her for relationship and on top of it cursing himself to accident if he ever breaks my sister's heart.
It's funny and not funny at the same time cos the way we Nigerian guys brag online ehn, one would think we are just a country full of alpha males who understands the ethics of getting them ladies.
Please fell free to share yours....

Depression fuelled by Obsessions.
That's Sickness.

.

Na so. Make Jah make am possible and easy. From there something like blind touches and unintentional obvious Trespassing just to make everywhere chechereche and Soaked

Kraik:
It isn't about money or material things, but I'm certainly depressed\

I have no friend, I'm misunderstood and thought strange by my family\\.

Even with life in general, I don't get along again, most times I feel alone, empty and lost.

The word "Earth" is becoming more and more strange to me as each day passes by, why am I here? Why so alone? Why do I see, perceived, and know what others don't? It's all weighing on me. I'm loosing it.

I tried to relate with people but it ain't working. I might just be off the radar soon.

See a Psychologist then Go and make up with God. Shun all Sins even as simple as Masturbation and Nutritious Diets helps Brain to Navigate Earth.

Bring yourself down to Your family/Friend levels and Never-Ever Endeavour to force them to subscribe to your World-view ...

They are not where You are and If you are alone where You are, You better leave because World is very Scary right there in a lonely World

There are Monsters in Solitary and Once Your Brain can't Cope with them, they will eat You(I.e. Your Brain will collapse on itself) .....

This is where the Generation need God in order to Withstand Earth no matter Your Strata, There is Need for "Maturity" and that's what God offers not Church nor Mosque but God.

Nebutaman:
Oftentimes we here people say "this life no balance" when things go awry in their lives, especially, when it comes to relationships. But, is it really true that this life is not balanced? What if you are the one that is making the wrong moves and expecting right results? You can't be wearing sun glasses in a dimly lit room and expect to see clearly.

Life is all about balance so when we are over balanced at any end, life adjusts itself and take us to the other end to gain balance. So to avoid unnecessary pains, we must learn to stand in the middle at all times.

This life balance, my brother

The Middle is where the Balance is : God bless all Sigmas out there !

When it throws you up, carry yourself come middle, when it drops you down, carry yourself go middle.

When it throws you to the extreme right, drag yourself come middle and Las, when it Drags you go extreme left, drag yourself come middle .....

The speed of Earth no be here, always Maintain middle make this huge Balls of elements no throway You comot oooo ....

Life is balance to the extent of Your balance with other people.

What You throw to Earth is what Earth throws Back to You no matter how much you tryna bypass and cheat Life System, She will still treat Your fvck Ups, you will still Pay ...

No escape in this Pandoraa Box but Death !

Be Emotionless But Reasonable: Your Life go Balance atleast in Your Brain because even if e no balance, You wouldn't care.

Say Today, America and Russia should go Atomic, Life no go balance but while Everyone is running helter and shelter, those who Sabi go just dey Sip Wine, Come what May

donbachi:
100% correct.

Guys fvcks who they can and girls fvcks whi they want.

not all girls.

Stephen0mozzy:
"The bigger they are, the harder they fall".

This seems to be a very common among people today esp celebrities/young adults, one minute you're seeing their pictures flooding internet looking all lovely and cute together....you repeatedly see them flaunting loved-up moments on their statuses and all.

And then one thing or the other happens; and these two people who once had the most intimate of moments, shared their deepest secrets together, start fighting DIRTY! Hurling curses on each other and seeking the best way to bring the other person's downfall.

1. What do you think really happens?
2. What will your partner do that will make you so much hate them?
3. Does this kind of prove that, "there's no love, we're just in a symbiotic relationship and when it becomes unprofitable, the bond breaks faster than Van Der Waals forces

Any Relationship that is Devoid of Godly Philosophies and Principles is Bound to Be "Hell" for either Patner.

The earlier we understand we can't navigate earth by ourselves the better for us all.

Everyone should find the real Essence of existence and cohabitation within the real essence of Life not showbiz.

morinto:
Yesterday in the church in the U. K we where arguing if ghost existed then a nurse told us his story of what he experience in the hospital of hearing footstep and not seeing anybody then he said when he told his colleagues his colleagues begin to tell their story of similar spiritual things that there have witnesses in this hospital and mind u it happen in the U. K and his colleagues are white people and I have heard similar stories happening in Nigeria but not in U. K. then I begin to ask my self if all thses stories about ghost are real

Human mind is very Vast. Everybody can be Having same feeling of depression due to loneliness, Sacredness or fear especially in a secluded place.

It doesn't mean Ghost will pop up but their Brains has been preset to what should be happening and constant saying same thing to the mind will lead to mental picture if Care is not taking, will lead to physical picture aka Hallucinations...

officialwdhtv:
What is the food you can eat everyday and never get tired of?

Catfish, Pounded Yam with Oha Soup....

pansophist:
Which one be fornication here? you catch me for ashawo house? Take your time bros, make I no go invoke amadioha. I dont do those stuff. I don grow far above hedonism, I am motivated with far far more deeper stuff that nourishes the soul, not the flesh. Man shall not live by bread alone na my life principle. Na only a foolish man de come nairaland come find woman lol. Good women full everywhere, na naija passport just fork naija mehn up, so dem get limited options if wetin dem de see around no too de good for them.

Relationship for naija de heavily monetized, it is honestly not my cup of tea. As per good women, dem no de find them. if I want one now, I know where to go, stay for like few months and I go meet one wey set. So no worry about me, ayam very alright. Anyways I no be bricklayer, so I no know how to build. A man strategy suppose to de with a woman wey go meet him half way, not to go carry an unrefined adult, then believe foolishly say na him job to build. Suffer no de tired you? Self-development na individual journey, just like salvation, you cant do it for someone, unless you want be a victim. Why go cary raw material when a lot of finished products full outside?

You don talk am Finish na ... I just dey throw banters...

Nonetheless, there will still be work to be done as far as Woman specie is concern.

Different Hormones Triggers different Behaviours leading to Behavioural shifts from established principles even between both of You. People Change Bro !

Same goes for Man but with bigger brain and lesser neurons, man have little to worry and can easily fix himself via Reset ceteris paribus

So in one way or the other, You have bricklayer work to do....You also have Electrical Engineering, Chemical and Mechanical work to do. The saner they come, the More the work ... You are the Rock that Hold her water steady.

Anyway, I ain't actually worried about You ...

Suffer no tire me for wetin, Depressed Soul everywhere ... You wake them up finished next you have to battle with is Obsessions and Superglue effect ...

Anyway, I still love Nigerian Girls, Don't blame them for the Money aspect, e get how poverty go hold you as well as fear of the unknown that you really want to secure 95% of your life at a Go starting from now. The beginning for most Nigerian girls is finding a good Husband as a Deliverance from Poverty. Guys are also super hustling so the pandoraa box is long.

Money is everywhere in Nigeria but quite Scarce to the Behold by the general populace.

Everywhere there are Goodly and the Jezebels. Your magnetic field(Brain) attracts exactly it's replica not its Thought-Processes. Everyone wants Honey but many will drink Water laslas till time passed.

May God Bless our Hustles, Amen.

Nairalandhotboy:
His media boys are doing a good job... But I don't see osinbajo as someone who can lead Nigeria. Maybe just as a minister. Ntin to show as a VP. Well what do I know Am just a damn nigga looking for a good life




Modified: to those quoting me and saying trash- Osibanjo will be never make a good president. He is weak.. If you are been paid to support him online. No problem, do your job, I understand, malami self understands.. I don't have time to argue. I gat chase this paper

He's the sanest vice president in Nigeria. A vice president is the Number One Civil servant in the cabinet of his Principal(The President), He can only be seen and Never-Ever to be heard.

But Once Osibanjo gets Power transmission, Nigeria becomes the sanest Country in Africa ....

Someone that Removes Head of DSS is not one to be toyed with ...

Osinbajo is Nigerians Prayers about to be answered only if Political gladiators shall be overwhelmed.

I think Osinbajo is our next President on God!