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Mayflowa:
Nothing like business. Imagine she sells 60 plates a day, which is an easy do. She will have a revenue of £600 per day multiply by say 20 days in a month is £12000. Her cost of operation without utilities cannot be up to £4000.
So she can take home £8000 in a month, something doctors and IT won’t have. She will most likely do 60 plates in 1hrs during business boom.

Let the tax man hear this nonsense! My friend she’ll be closed down by day 2 and fined greatly by the council. You can’t just start selling food from a car park. These pictures are for show. These people want to bring law suits on themselves. One person gets food poisoning and she’s looking at charges akin to assault. This is a one off situation probably doctored story even.

You’ve documented this relationship from dating stage until divorce. It’s so weird. I hope you’re able to move on now and make better choices going forward. All you did was complain about this man and his family for the last 11 years on nairaland. I hope you’re not addicted to drama!

This account has been dead for 2 years and you resurrected it today to beg. Very unlikely scenario.

pocohantas:
Well, with traffic Lagosians get home late - 7,8,9pm, 11pm on some bad days. You know how the whole 9to5 and business thing is irrespective of location. It is rarely before 7pm for the majority. If you have a shop in a residential area, you will sell more in the evening when people close from work. So some of them will be open until 10pm. The one on my street, her kids would be there doing homework, wash uniform, have lunch, dinner. Omo, I dey pity them o.

Lol! Don't mind the guy in the OP.

Okay, so a maid is needed for the technicality of the job rather than the strain of the job. I stick to 50k because if you’re worth your weight in wages then you should have everything done by the time I get home. I don’t know who could afford those wages(50k) considering what you’ve just described, then 30k should be enough because I ain’t having an easy time so why should you 😂😂😂

pocohantas:
No, it is not nonsensical.

In states like Lagos where parents do not get home early enough, live-in maids ensure there is an adult in the home until they get back.

50k seems fair enough. 🙂

When do they get back?! That’s what I mean about context because it sounds like a maid/nanny role and I guess it’s dependent on the social norms of that community! Now I understand why the op is offering extra services for 30k!. It’s a sad condition all around.

I’m short on context but a live in maid is nonsensical because house chores finish after dinner and dishes so the maid works from dawn to dusk. There’s no need to “live in “ but if they want to offer accommodation then that would be considered in the payment package. I would offer 50k in this situation.

This is to every idiot that quoted ops book just to comment! Thunder fire your thumb 🖕🖕🖕🖕

Rajahbite:
Start with subtle gestures like buying deodorants for the person

That’s condescending because if the person could afford deodorant they could buy it themselves and if they can’t then smell is the least of their concerns. It’s better to just tell the person they need deodorant

Oluwamuyiwa32:
How do you tell someone they have body odor without sounding rude

Babe, bro, sis, you are smelling strong today! You need to put on some deodorant. Honesty is the best policy! It’s not what you say but how you say it. Otherwise just be a coward like most people and mind your business.

I wonder if he’d do the same for a poor widow?

DevilsEqual:
She does need the Sex Education but your comment wouldn't have made any difference if u never dropped it


Enough of all this castigation abeg


Be civil in your next reply to me....I no curse u o

Do you know how to kick rocks?

* condom
* pull out
* emergency pill
* whatever acid

WTF!


Are you a child?

Am I misunderstanding your post?

You need sex education before you kill your self 😂

2braithe:
Average size globally doesn't matter if you live in one corner of the world.
The average size of your country is what you should be concerned with.

Global average size is considered big in China but considered small in Congo!

Soooo, hear me out 🫣

ruggedboy01:
This olodo fake Londoner even mentioned himself on his own thread oooo

You’re fuckkking crazy 😒

Why did this tickle me so much 😂! He tagged himself 🤣🤣🤣

Sapasenator:
My dear, our parents are only doing their duties. I know there are irresponsible parents out there who neglect their children but we are not to use them as yardstick.
Having kids is a big responsibility everyone should take seriously. The father decides to have se*x with his wife unprotected leading to pregnancy and somehow he is supposedly doing the child favours.

Remember the child never asked to be born in the first place and because we do not think properly in Nigeria and Africa, we tend to mix these things up.
I bought a car and built a house for for father before I was 26, found schools and paid for university tuition for my siblings. I was carrying a heavy burden in my early 20ies which did not belong to me but my father.
You see where I am coming from. It is morally wrong for a man to burden the children with his responsibilities.

You’re really condescending! You’re not teaching anything new. Your parents didn’t ask to be born, Adam didn’t ask to be created so that argument is silly to make. Nobody asked to be born! You call it duties and responsibilities, I call it love and sacrifice. To each their own but you don’t have some superior knowledge so cut it out!

Sapasenator:
I am not mocking or trying to put you down but merely an attempt at education. When a father takes care of his children, he is not sacrificing anything by doing what was his duty in the first place.

Kudos to your dad for being hardworking and taking care of his family, that was the minimum expectation from him as a father.

It is a very hard job to be an adult and particularly harder when we have to bring children into this world. The kids were never involved in the decision to have sex, get pregnant and bring them into the world and the minimum expectation of every father is to take care of their responsibilities. When your father feed you, put clothes on your back, roof on your head and sends you to school, he is not sacrificing anything but the basic responsibilities required of him as a birth giver. He could simply avoid such responsibilities by refraining from having kids.

I know this sound wierd to us in Africa and particularly in Nigeria but we have to cha ge the way we think about adulthood and responsibilities.

Do you know how entitled you sound?

So a parent taking responsibility for a child isn’t sacrifice?

Do you know that some fathers abandon their pregnant partners and never take responsibility?

Some Mothers throw their children in the bush and never look back?

If there’s no sacrifice required then why would anyone bother to recreate?

How would humanity move forward if people had your warped “woke” mentality.

What our parents did for us is a sacrifice and in time we all dream of being there for them in their time of need even though we could never pay them back for their sacrifices.

That’s why we become parents to give back to our children what our parents gave us. It’s a beautiful cycle.

The story you have made up in your mind isn’t the true story. You want to punish yourself so you’ve distorted reality. Maybe the injustice of life is harder to stomach so you’ve decided that you have some blame in order to control the narrative.

It feels easier to grasp for some order when life gets messy but in the long run this narrative you’ve created may cause you more damage than accepting that life is unfair, good people die, and dreams go unfulfilled.

Morn your loss but don’t centre yourself in the story. None of us are that important! In the kindest way possible; get over yourself. You have no real impact in the grand scheme of things.

We are all destined to die. We dream of having some grand peaceful ending where we are comfortable in our beds surrounded by all our loved ones with all our affair’s tied up but many people don’t get that happy ending.

I’m sorry for your loss and in time the pain will subside. Just take each day as it comes and get to the end of the day.

Be very clean, stay quiet, wear red pant and bra to bed and satisfy him very well! You have a good man and good men are scarce nowadays so hold on tight to your good man. Continue to endure and one day you will be rewarded with a long marriage, your own family and the glorious title of Mrs so and so! Just hold on!

MrCork:

Geraaaaaaa raaaaaaa here mennnn.....YOU LAZZZZZZZZZZZZY BUHARI YOUTH!...go n find job!!!!((no oofencse))

🤣🤣🤣

Nairaland is now full of zesty lil boys who want attention 🤢

Tobichima:
Dont mind her. Her sarcasm level is way beyond yours

Another online beggar (or ops alternate) vindicating his beggars belief!

Opanka44:
I don't know how some of you think honestly. How do u tell students to pay in advance for what they haven't started yet? Can you do that if u were in my position? Pls if u have nothing good to contribute here, just not comment. It appears that until you insult people, u lots can never be satisfied on nairaland. Pls I don't need negative energy right now. You act as if you have never in your life sought for help before. Well done.

What insult? Why not ask for advance payment? Do you not work for yourself? You can do whatever you want to do but you want to beg so go ahead! Instead thinking critically and proactively you are comfortable begging strangers on the internet.

You can also write your lesson out in advance and give your students handouts which contain the information you want to teach them. You can also ask for payment in advance so you could source your tools and explain this to your students and guardians. There’s a hundred and one ways to bypass this problem. You shouldn’t go to begging first unless this is your job! Create different monikers and different problems as a means to make an income which is the current situation on nairaland atm!

tnerro1:
Tribalism will kill the protest, just like every thing in Nigeria,

So they can’t even agree on hunger? 😂😂😂

I want to protest virtually, send me the link 🫶

Exceptional300:
I am not in any gamble with her! I told her I will mobilize my family to go see her parents in 3 weeks afterwards we do a courthouse wedding. She is big on having a big ceremony, I told her we can do that after she gives birth. I even told her to come up with any suggestion that doesn’t involve abortion but she is adamant on taking it out. I have decided to waste her time for a couple of years before I kick her out if she goes ahead with the abortion

Why not just be a mature adult and walk away from this relationship if she has an abortion that you are not happy about ? Why waste anybody’s time? Stop being toxic and just live your life peacefully!

Exceptional300:
What do you mean?

You feared her fertility and now she’s planning on further stressing her reproductive health. Karma because this pregnancy could be a test from God and terminating it could lead to years of suffering and searching for the fruits of the womb. It could also all be okay but that’s a gamble you guys have to take.

The baby may not be yours. Also, this woman is living life “per-formatively” and you don’t want to be married to people like that!

Every decision they make will be based on how they look in public which means their private persona is horrible!

She makes dangerous decisions and childish choices! You’re seeing all these before marriage but you will ignore it and complain about it when it becomes your reality when married.

You’ve said that you have your own home so just tell your wife to accept the gift from her father and put it in her name. She can rent it out or sell it or keep it as inheritance. Her family obviously have money and she’s likely to inherit from her parents. You can continue with your plans for your family. I don’t think you should stand in the way of her father’s gift or live in the property. Don’t insult her father and don’t dictate her relationship with her father. Just let peace rain and follow your own path with your family.

Angelfrost:
Everything is concluded on site and on social media...

No Autopsy! No Further investigations!


SMH!!!

Right! Do you know how easy it must be to kill someone (strangulation, poisoning, drug overdose) and then just hang them from a tree and social media will conclude the case for you. They haven’t even identified him before they concluded on his cause of death. Shocking .