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PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 8:44pm On Feb 03, 2016
doskie:
women behave foolishly the moment they are given small power. if a girl tells a soldier he is handsome he wont act wild.
Are you a goat? undecided

What do women in power have to with this scenario?

A soldier is not going to be pissed when you call him handsome but he could get angry if you pass him without a simple greeting


Different scenarios- same trigger undecided
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 6:44pm On Feb 03, 2016
chukstel:
@doveda, did you watch the video? the army lady was asked by her colleagues that what did the guy do? and her answer was that " he said I am beautiful"

so she never said the guy was in the wrong place"army ground". and you also hear when the guy say I work here. please watch the video maybe I heard the wrong words.
I do not understand what you are trying to say undecided
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 6:39pm On Feb 03, 2016
sukkot:
are you even sure that you are a lawyer ? because your analytical and deductive thinking skills is not being engaged. several links have been provided to show you that in the west- complimenting a woman about anything to do with her appearance is an offence that will be aggressively pursued . the brother timbuctu has supplied you with several links and i have supplied one link. DO YOU REALLY NEED TO SEE A CASE AFTER THAT ? WHAT DOES IT MATTER IF HE PROVIDES A CASE OR NOT ? THE LAW IS THERE FOR YOU TO SEE. use your reasoning skills to figure out the rest. POINT IS - THERE IS A LAW PROHIBITING THIS TYPE OF SPEECH PATTERN TOWARDS WOMEN OR EVEN TOWARDS MEN. this shows you they take this type of thing seriously. you dont need to see a case after that.
Do you even have common sense?

Those links did not prove anything. I asked you to give me a proof of a man whose employment has been terminated for calling a co-worker 'beautiful?'. Why should that be difficult? Stop regurgitating what I know already, the law might be an ass but it is not that stupid- calling a woman 'sexy' or hot legs will highly likely get you fired but 'beautiful', I am still waiting undecided.
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 4:07pm On Feb 03, 2016
Timbuktou:
For someone who claims to be lettered in the law, you don't sound very bright. The law specifically states that verbal expressions of a certain nature will b considered harassment, the punishment of which would range from mild disciplinary action to termination of employment. I provide a link showing the reluctance of men to even have any innocuous dealings with women, let alone speak to them and youre asking for case files? Hold on, I've petitioned the Attorney-General for the files. I'll mail them to you once in my possession. I'm sure Sukkot will be willing to help you out if my documents come late.
I didn't ask you for explanation. I asked you to provide proof of how ‘beautiful' have amounted to termination of employment.
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 3:14pm On Feb 03, 2016
Timbuktou:
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/relationships/11904203/Well-done-feminism.-Now-man-are-afraid-to-help-women-at-work.html

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/men/relationships/11854660/How-to-compliment-a-woman-on-her-appearance-without-being-offensive.html

www.safeworkers.co.uk/SexualHarassmentWork.html

I've tried for you. Search Mir if uure not satisfied.
You really need to be smarter

1) I couldn't find a proof of a man who lost his job because he complimented his colleague. I didn't say I do not understand what is going with sexual harassment, I asked you to give a case

2) The second news is a different story entirely. The circumstance of that was based on a moral ground not legal ground. A married man sent a private message to a strange woman on a professional website!!! It was not enough to fire him and if he wanted to fight his employees he would have done so and won!

I don't think you read the article and the email he sent, if you did you would not have included it

3) I know what sexual harassment or harassment is. I know what type of behaviours and compliments that would be lead to termination of employment and what notundecided
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 2:59pm On Feb 03, 2016
UjSizzle:
I've had loads of experience with humans smiley
They are no longer humanssmiley

Well, that is true for most of themsad
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 2:46pm On Feb 03, 2016
Absoj:
sorry bro, u didnt get my point. i condemned the act. but as sensitive beings there is a limit to our patience. u could get enraged with a driver who decides to buy somtin in a snailed paced traffic and so on. but if u encounter some male hawkers in traffic/ almajiris and their conduct walahi u'll react. Anywhere in the world, encroaching on military grds is never taken lightly.u dont sneak in get shot and expect the law to act for u cos its a defined area with outcome of violations spelt out. i still agree the reaction was bad but could av bin avoided if he didnt cross the line. They dont look for trouble but will not sit and let u put ur fingers in their eyes in the name of 'law'. honestly we dont expect to stubbornly do some things and get away with it even under ideal conditions where the rule of law is firing from all four cylinders. As for the issue of leadership, i reserved my comments bros cos its not of man to judge. Let his perfect will be done.
You love to argue blindly. They have no right to react except within the law and rules of their professional ethics. That is the price they pay for choosing a career with uniform.
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 2:36pm On Feb 03, 2016
UjSizzle:
I believe otherwise.
Have you had loads of experience with military personnels?smiley
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 2:36pm On Feb 03, 2016
Absoj:
. source pls? Honestly, Its touching seeing all dis, but we ought to ask the Op where he got his own version of the story. Admiring a military personnel wldnt cause dis rather I'll advise u shd kindly see the truth behind the video and not judge based on one OPs title. we shd ask : 'WETIN this young northern guy go find inside their DEN?' that ground ure seeing is not a public place. its right in their DEN...and of course he shdnt expect a romance when he crosses the linegrin. Those girls are ur sisters and friends who've left everything to serve our country.they are the best gifts parents have issued the military; and imagine d challenging environment of core and rigid military training theyre subjected to with ocassional taunts and insults from riff raffs hawking sugar cane and even dare encroach their territory grin ...theyre harmless on a good day but dont test their flanks cos u'll testify to d fact that a Lioness could be more lethal in disposition than a lion. It may not be 'abuse' as deduced, its a natural reaction to an affront and arrogant encroachment of a territory...and they are trained to be 'territorial'. As for marriage, I think female soldiers/airwomen have the most practical marriage compared to their counterparts elsewhere. How a woman handles her marriage depends on a lot of factor ranging frm upbringing, sense of commitment, Submission, and the personality of the man.
Bla bla bla bla bla

Even if it was a crime he committed, they have no right to treat him that way. By the way, did you watch the video sefundecided
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 2:32pm On Feb 03, 2016
HaneefahRN:
Pple can lie for Africa ehn, and they actually think everyone is a dummy. How will someone be fired or lose his job for giving a compliment. Hw does calling some1 beautiful relate to sexual harassment? I really dnt want to live tht was what brought abt this scenario even if what they did can't be justified.

The woman is just a sadistic animal and I pray she meets her match, where she'll be beaten up to a pulp. The wicked entities will nt display brute force wt BH, it's on unarmed civilians they can display. God help Nigeria
LMFAO!

I am actually laughing really hard heresmiley

cc Timbouktu cheesy
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 1:52pm On Feb 03, 2016
Frankiss44:
To me this is not about not being in touch with their femininity... this is just a case of uniform officers abusing power just because we find ourselves in a lawless society.
smiley
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 1:42pm On Feb 03, 2016
UjSizzle:
You do realise i'm less concerned about brutality, and more on the cause of such brutality, right?
Why did the word "beautiful" trigger it?
I know and I believe that the word 'beautiful' has little or nothing to do with what happened. The woman is a monster. She enjoys torturing and abusing those who she believes she supercedes. Her career path makes it easy for her to use her position to abuse other people. She is not a civilian because most civilians will not rect the way she reacted, she is a soldier in Nigeria and she reacted the way an average soldier react in Nigeria.
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 1:33pm On Feb 03, 2016
Frankiss44:
Well, i do give compliments to smartly dressed male officers... i do all the time when i was staying in the barrack and they then to enjoy it. I carried it on to my service days in abakaliki. I dont see anything wrong with this. I even told one jokingly that Oga the way this your uniform fit you all our female corpers go die for you... dude just smiled and i left him.
From your experience, would you say that female soldiers are not in touch with their femininity?
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 1:29pm On Feb 03, 2016
BabaO2:
Fully. That guy and his likes are unserious minded that should be treated like animals. can he say it to handsome and smartly dressed male officers? don't tell me yes. It is unnecessary distractions..., the guy should be sent to 1 week guardroom, next time he will know how to keep his mouth shut
Women hardly tell a guy that he is handsome but they do flirt overtly with soldiers in uniform.

Trust me, I would know undecided
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 1:26pm On Feb 03, 2016
Timbuktou:
No, it isn't in civilised countries, but it I in most countries no the west. Tell a woman she's beautiful andnlose your job or face a lawsuit if you own the company. Google is your friend. A woman can call the police if you compliment her on the road in the UK or US and you could be arrested. It is termed harassment. Why do you think feminism is receiving such hatred? It is because of silly laws like this.
Google is your friend. You should really start using it. How about give me a case of how a man or an employee was fired or arrested for calling a woman 'beautiful'?

I know you very well. You are a misogynist. You have already disqualified yourself from this argument.
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 1:23pm On Feb 03, 2016
UjSizzle:
And your point is?
And my point is you should not have brought her femininity into this

I don't see where people scream masculinity when soldiers brutalise civilians. Regardless of the gender or the scenarios, the crux of the matter iis such brutality comes from abuse of power!!!.
Jobs/VacanciesRe: How Lil Kesh's Song, "Efejoku" Made Me Lose A Job Offer by doveda: 12:29pm On Feb 03, 2016
Dear onismate,

Write a letter to the HR of the company and tell them what transpired. Whether Mabel likes it or not, it is within your right to listen to any sing no matter how offensive it may be.

If that doesn't work, sue themsmiley
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 12:17pm On Feb 03, 2016
sukkot:
charge and bail nigga grin
They can come to the UK and earn higher than you could. They have many career paths they can delve in. They also have a higher social standing regardless of where they earned their degree.
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 12:00pm On Feb 03, 2016
sukkot:
please. nigerian law is a joke. charge and bail
Please, you are a joke.
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 12:00pm On Feb 03, 2016
UjSizzle:
That was difficult to watch. This is what happens when you beat all the femininity out of female soldiers in training.
Is she less a woman because she's in the military?
Does she feel the need to be seen as masculine to carry out her duties?
Did she feel slighted at being called beautiful... even though that's an adjective ascribed to the feminine gender?

There's a fundamental problem here and it's bigger than watching military officers torture civilians.

All our NL and Beyond feminism activist have a big job on their hands. You're either terrible noisemakers or you have no idea what you should be fighting for. THIS is your primary assignment: Getting women to see themselves as they are while carrying out their duties.



grin grin Define "waste" biko cheesy
What has feminism got to do with this? Violence is gender-neutral. It is common sense not a factundecided

I hope you intend to table these questions when another video of military man suffice?

In other words, you would ask:

Is he less a man because he is in the military?

Does he feel the need to be seen as masculine to carry out his duties?

Did he feel slighted at being called handsome.. even though that's an adjective ascribed to the masculine gender?


I went to Command for six good years and you cannot come up with sexist questions because of a woman is the one involved in an Army brutality. Being in the army, does not make a woman less of a woman. IMO, feminity is a subjective topic. There are many women who have undergone worse situations in the Army and are still considered ‘feminine' (according to the society). You should be careful of how you interpret scenarios.


This woman is obviously MAD. This scenario is no different from any other army brutality I have witnessed.
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 11:48am On Feb 03, 2016
sukkot:
studying law in the zoo where you cannot secure a single conviction against criminals. your criminals have to come to britain to receive justice like IBORI. stop wasting your life with that useless course in the zoo
Assuming that I was studying law in Nigeria, do you think you still could stand shoulder to shoulder with me or even with any Nigerian law students?undecided.
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 11:36am On Feb 03, 2016
sukkot:
studying law in the zoo where you cannot secure a single conviction against criminals. your criminals have to come to britain to receive justice like IBORI. stop wasting your life with that useless course in the zoo
Actually I live in Scotlandundecided
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 11:32am On Feb 03, 2016
sukkot:
nonsense. GET CIVILIZED. ITS 2016. STOP HARRASSING STRANGERS ON THE STREET
Nonsense! I I am studying law. I may be confused when it comes to most legal issues and but I am 100% certain of this one.

Stop spreading liestongue
PoliticsRe: Female Army Cadet Tortures A Man For Calling Her "Beautiful" by doveda: 11:09am On Feb 03, 2016
sukkot:
are you for real ? many have gotten fired for less in USA and england. http://www.safeworkers.co.uk/SexualHarassmentWork.html

What Constitutes Sexual Harassment?
Sexual harassment constitutes any unwelcome behaviour of a sexual nature. It's not about fun or friendship but about the abuse of power. It is also worth bearing in mind that many people respond to situations in different ways. What may seem like an innocent action or remark to one person may be deemed offensive by another and the law sides with the 'victim' not the 'perpetrator' <<< IN THE LINK I POSTED
1) the word ‘beautiful' does not connote anything sexual

2) it is not enough to make her feel uneasy

3) She could have told him off verbally without violence

4) You do not know what you are saying.

5) Show me an example of a case where a stranger had been sued because he carried someone ‘beautiful' or ‘sexy'

6) It could be lead to a suit if it is continuous however in a situation like this, it can't!

7) Sexual harassment is a term that is mainly used in work and school environment.
FamilyRe: Should I Continue With The Relationship? (25+ Only) by doveda: 10:06pm On Feb 02, 2016
@ marxxx

You do not have good rasons to leave her

If you want her to act classy, you have to take the lead and learn to be firm with her

If you asked her not to do something and she doesn't listen, call her out undecided. Disregard her cries and explain how she makes you feel inferior.

It doesn't seem like you have actually communicated with her on this issue, you have to tell her that your taste has changed and you need her to be on par if not you might look outside for another alternative.

Start by buying her clothes with warnings to wear them and never to give them out. Do the same to other stuffs you buy her. Take her to the salon to get her hair nicely done. When she cooks an undesirable food, do not eat the food and convey your disappointment to her.

Learn to reward her good and desirable behaviour and complain or punish or nag her when she acts otherwise




Your next woman might end up making your life a living hell. You have no idea how terrible some partners can be. Choose wisely.
RomanceRe: 8 Things Guys Do That Make Ladies To Loose Respect For Them by doveda: 9:27pm On Feb 02, 2016
tosyne2much:
You have spoken well bro cheesy
I am a lady undecided

daretodiffer tongue
RomanceRe: 8 Things Guys Do That Make Ladies To Loose Respect For Them by doveda: 8:59pm On Feb 02, 2016
tosyne2much:
This one na male bashing thread, the ladies no talk ooooo; if na female bashing thread now, dem go tag OP misogynist cheesy
Of course we wouldundecided

Have you forgotten so soon ‘boys will be boys'undecided

No one really take that to heart when considering a guy because he is a guysad
RomanceRe: Nominate Atleast 3 Romanceland Queens by doveda: 8:49pm On Feb 02, 2016
flokii:
nawa o..

tho. Ion think I like you that much (or mayb it's ur attitude)

I can't deny d fact that you're bold.. most likely a beauty queen

so you made my list.
Thankssmiley
PoliticsRe: #OgunAt40: Buhari, Obasanjo Cut Cake (photos) by doveda: 8:48pm On Feb 02, 2016
gcode123:
U cant be yoruba. Enu e doti
E wo eni to o n soroundecided

You better wake up
PoliticsRe: #OgunAt40: Buhari, Obasanjo Cut Cake (photos) by doveda: 8:38pm On Feb 02, 2016
gcode123:
You are quick to call em fools but ur ignorant about the commissioned projects, 40 projects that i as an ogun indegene can attest to.

If you mentioned human development as a need u would have made sense....

Ogun is 40, any nation in d world would celebrate, anout how prices were inflated u need to bring forth figures first or even efcc would call you a fool.
Are you a goat?

What is the big deal in 40 projects?

Good for you for being an Ogun indigene, it might interest you to know that part of my toot is in Ohug state and well versatile with how things work in Nigeria.

You should told me initially thatbhe is the reason you able to afford mb to browse. I don't have your problem, if you have common typhoid today, you can die of it. As you see me so, Scotland has more than enough resources to treat me.


40 projects is now a big deal. In case you do not know, it is your money and his fvking responsibility.
PoliticsRe: #OgunAt40: Buhari, Obasanjo Cut Cake (photos) by doveda: 8:15pm On Feb 02, 2016
gcode123:
Well i guess the defination of expensive is relative...
I still think if its been commissioned for the peoples use then its worth it.
It is not relative.

The country has no money. It is certain that they would have inflated the cost of the stupid celebration. The money could have gone to provide basic equipments or infrastructures in one the state hospitals etc etc. Who needs a stupid celebration when people are dyingundecided


Bunch of fo.olsundecided
RomanceRe: Nominate Atleast 3 Romanceland Queens by doveda: 8:12pm On Feb 02, 2016
flokii:
are you for real?..

no wonder you dey carry person matter for head use hand hold ur own d other day..

dem use am do you abi wetin... I wan know
You don answer your own question

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