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Beautiful. Well done

There would always a more successful woman than you who is still willing to be submissive and support you. Always.
Only a fool would say that good women are scarce.

You must move on.

He is trying to tell you this with his silence. You would be in denial at first and make excuses in your mind but with time, all would be clear to you.

He may not be distancing himself for selfish reasons though but the message is clear that it is over between you.

You must move on completely and not be expecting anything from him and be dating someone else.

Do not go to see his sister since you have not done a traditional introduction of the families.

The friend can not show you proof if he is a mature and responsible person but he has told you the truth.

Hello nairalnaders.
While courting a lady, she tells you that her father is absent in her life but he is alive, would you still go ahead to marry her without her father's blessings? Or would you insist on meeting him despite many lies she may speak of her father?
Is it not a taboo to marry without a father's blessings as long as he is alive? No matter what must have transpired between a man and his wife, in my culture the children belong to the father.

Believe it or not.
When a man is financially responsible for his wife"a sanitary pads then he is being played. There is nothing responsible about that.

Even billionaires do not but their wives sanitary pads. You thought that you were pleasing her but you actually taught her how to treat you. Even if she is earning 50,000, she should be accountable for it and man her contribution to the family.
How can a woman be earning 50k and can not buy sanitary pad?
She would ask you for money for matches and salt and you would give her believing that you are showing yourself responsible. It is a big lie and you have been brainwashed.
How did all her projects go unnoticed for this long time? That means she could be cheating and you would claim to have no hint.
Sorry for what you realize now but I know you are still hooked on her and she would play you again in the near future.

I have not been on speaking terms with the mother of my children for many years.
Whenever I try to see my children or speak to them on phone, she would frustrate my efforts.
All she wants is for me to be sending money and I can't do that without seeing my children and knowing what exactly she needs it for.
I decided last month to text her to send me the bill of their school fees in the last 5 years thinking this would make her respond but she did not. I called her phone to see if it going through and it rang.
Since she has always claimed it is because I did not give her money that she keeps them from me, then now that I said I want to pay, why did she not reply?
What do you think is her problem? I dont know any woman that would reject such an offer. She is a civil servant and has a business so I know she can not be a rich to reject the offer. Even if she has a man in her life, can money ever be too much?
Is it that she never wants me to see my children again or an has lied to them that I'm dead?
Is it a man that said she must never pick my call even to speak to my own children?
Is her business so rosy that she thinks she can continue to survive with their expenses? Is it her family giving her money or are my children suffering because she is stubborn and proud? Does she know if I have my own millions now or she thinks I am like before?
I don't understand at all I I would like anyone to help me solve the riddle.
It has been long since I saw them and it is not fair on my part and people would be wondering if I have children at all. She does not even upload their pictures on social media again. I hope nothing bad has happened to them. I can't call anyone in her family because I dont know what she may have told them and they may side with her and ridicule me.

I know she is not dead if you are wondering.

I have not been on speaking terms with the mother of my children for many years.
Whenever I try to see my children or speak to them on phone, she would frustrate my efforts.
All she wants is for me to be sending money and I can't do that without seeing my children and knowing what exactly she needs it for.
I decided last month to text her to send me the bill of their school fees in the last 5 years thinking this would make her respond but she did not. I called her phone to see if it going through and it rang.
Since she has always claimed it is because I did not give her money that she keeps them from me, then now that I said I want to pay, why did she not reply?
What do you think is her problem? I dont know any woman that would reject such an offer. She is a civil servant and has a business so I know she can not be so rich to reject the offer. Even if she has a man in her life, can money ever be too much?
Is it that she never wants me to see my children again or she has lied to them that I'm dead?
Is it a man that said she must never pick my call even to speak to my own children?
Is her business so rosy that she thinks she can continue to survive with their expenses? Is it her family giving her money or are my children suffering because she is stubborn and proud? Does she know if I have my own millions now or she thinks I am like before?
I don't understand at all. I would like anyone to help me solve the riddle.
It has been long since I saw them and it is not fair on my part and people would be wondering if I have children at all. She does not even upload their pictures on social media again. I hope nothing bad has happened to them. I can't call anyone in her family because I dont know what she may have told them and they may side with her and ridicule me.
I know she is not dead because she picks calls when I use unknown number.

I've not been on speaking terms with the mother of my children for many years.
Whenever I try to see my children or speak to them on phone, she would frustrate my efforts.
All she wants is for me to be sending money and I can't do that without seeing my children and knowing what exactly she needs it for.
I decided last month to text her to send me the bill of their school fees in the last 5 years thinking this would make her respond but she did not. I called her phone to see if it going through and it rang.
Since she has always claimed it is because I did not give her money that she keeps them from me, then now that I said I want to pay, why did she not reply?
What do you think is her problem? I dont know any woman that would reject such an offer. She is a civil servant and has a business so I know she can not be a rich to reject the offer. Even if she has a man in her life, can money ever be too much?
Is it that she never wants me to see my children again or an has lied to them that I'm dead?
Is it a man that said she must never pick my call even to speak to my own children?
Is her business so rosy that she thinks she can continue to survive with their expenses? Is it her family giving her money or are my children suffering because she is stubborn and proud? Does she know if I have my own millions now or she thinks I am like before?
I don't understand at all I I would like anyone to help me solve the riddle.
It has been long since I saw them and it is not fair on my part and people would be wondering if I have children at all. She does not even upload their pictures on social media again. I hope nothing bad has happened to them. I can't call anyone in her family because I dont know what she may have told them and they may side with her and ridicule me.

James, you're funny

Since they have been feeding you, it might be necessary to forget about the money for now and go to your own house in another state. Universities may not resume this year again. You should have been more diplomatic in the way that you relayed the message to your uncle. How else did you think that it would end? Apologise to the woman when you are alone with her but let her know that you both know what she said however you are sorry for relaying it that way. This also serves as an example and lesson to my fellow guys that marry women who can not or will not support them in their time of need. After solely providing for the house all the years when business was good...common airtime for business, she can not support her husband. Such woman would leave my house that day !

To even ask this question shows how uintelligent you are. What are you benefiting from the relationship? Why do you think that she would leave you if you stop sending on her? And most importantly, why do you care? You can do better bro, if you know how to play your cards, girls would spend on you. The money that you can spend on orphans, and God would be happy with you, you are spending on a parasite at your obvious detriment...

If you love a full time house wife, she would sell your property when you die or follow men for money and your children would suffer.

If you love a full time house wife, she would sell your property when you DIE or follow men for money and your children would suffer.

Na wa for you. How did you allow yourself to be brain washed like this? Why did you open a business for her if you want to continue giving her pocket money ? I can never give a woman pocket money after giving her money for upkeep of the house. Honestly, I'm not even the type to be with a jobless woman. You have married a woman who would control you

Share your story. Don't die now

Good one...

There is no such thing as being bi. If you are attracted to the opposite sex, you are straight. Just be as normal as possible instead of searching for same sex who have till this day been unable to turn you on.

The reality of it is that a woman carries it and bears the risk of childbirth complications. Any woman that gets pregnant is responsible for her decision except she is genuinely raped. Getting pregnant by an irresponsible man is a choice and not a mistake. Some women are shallow. Stay there blaming men instead of getting your act together. Even as a married woman, don't sit down and bear children every year and say that's what Oga wants. Especially those who are unable to take care of their children financially. A child's care is primarily a mother's responsibility. If the man assists, then she is lucky or a woman of worth.

Cursing

You have spoken well. Still, I blame the guys that allow themselves to be milked by these uncultured and unskilled dullards. Many ladies need sex even more than we men so why would I pay for your wig or credit your account just to sleep with you? it is even women that should credit my own account . A woman needs a man more than a man needs a woman. I have written a similar write up recently but I know it is dumb guys that allow themselves to be patronized in this way. A lady should be ashamed to tell a man that she has no food at home or has no money for data. Even handicapped people earn a living. Those girls would end up being used as rituals and their parents who didn't raise them right would bury them. Beggars with a B. I have female friends that lost their jobs and I sent money to them without them asking. Successful ladies that have also been there for me. Don't get me wrong.

They are many and they are all baseless

I've read too many stories online and heard too many in real life of men enabling women by being their financial providers. How did you all get here ? How can you try to date a woman and not even going steady yet and she is asking you for money? How do you not know that you are being used ? Money for what? Transportation ? There are so many hard working women out there so I don't understand how we men would go for the one that can not even afford transport fare. Had she not been using data before meeting you? Has she not been eating before meeting you? Some would go to the extent of asking you for her school fees. How can you not know that they are in it only for survival or convenience? You can never find true love if you date women that depend on you for survival. Is she not even ashamed to ask? If she wants money in exchange for a relationship then let her admit that she is a runs girl or prostitute and not a lady in love. Dont get me wrong. You can take a real woman out and spend lavishly on her or buy her expensive gifts of she deserves it but not that she feels entitled. Some even ask men to help pay the house rent of their parents and the guy would be blackmailed into feeling less of a man because he can't pay all. Some and up marrying women that their whole family are leeches. Imagine a woman imposing it on a man that he would but I pay for the attire that her parents would wear on their wedding day. Be upset with the man that he can not give her brother a tangible amount to start business with. Are you all so daft that you don't know your own self worth ? Are women that scarce ? They are not scarce, it is even working class men that are scarce compared to women. One of my friends was so worried that his mother in law visited and would be going back soon and had not enough money to give her. How would a mother in law come empty handed to visit her daughter that is unemployed and stay for months ? Don't get me wrong please but we must all know what is expected of us. I can not even visit an older uncle empty handed without taking something for his wife or kids. A man should never date a jobless woman let alone marry one. If she is so good, she would find a source of income and if her family is in their right senses, they would encourage their daughter to have a source of income and not depend on any man. It is not a taboo for a woman to build a house for her parents or cough up money to support her younger siblings endeavours. If you have been saying while students and been through a lot together, that is different from a stranger and another stranger in the adult world of relationship dynamics. If you date a woman who depends on you for money, she would surely cheat on you because it is a means for survival. If you give her a lot of money and she cooks a good meal for you then it is a marketing strategy and not love per se. How would I be saying a girl and I can't expect to eat a meal at her house unless I give her money first? It doesn't make sense to me. Don't get me wrong. If she is broke at a point or not, you may give her airtime as a feature but never as a duty. You can support her projects of she has a viable one. You can do many things to show love but all as a gesture and never as a duty. If she is in a tight situation, you can help if you have been through thick and thin and not that she expects dating equals to being her parent even as an adult. The day an asks for 2k urgently or money for hair just know you are being played. Before the stupid ladies start bashing me first tell me if you know any successful or powerful lady that asks for money from her man. Is there any of your mentors that asks a man for money or doesn't have theirs. Some women are so shallow that they expect you to pay their shop rent .Do they even understand business at all ? You but then a car and they expect you to fuel it. I don't blame them but I blame the gullible brainwashed guys that bought an unproductive woman a car. They would marry a housewife and still pay for her maid. I reject this for myself and all men. I have been married twice and no instance did I marry a liability. Even if a guy asks a babe for money, he is using her except if they have genuinely been through shit together. Did her family not ask where she is getting the money? When they know she has no job? And that I the family that you want to marry as a man ? You feel big because you give her money for everything is a fake feeling. You have been brainwashed by women to suit their needs and if you for your child's would suffer and your property would be sold.

When you sleep with a woman unprotected, it would lead to pregnancy. If you can not afford to care for a baby then why not take precautions. The girl did not love him before. She used the pregnancy to the him down. This would not and well at all. Why does he want to spend his life with a person that can be seated by a game pastor ? The pastor is right though to insist on a traditional form of marriage which is indeed the biblical way. Young men should learn and stop impregnating women with no plan

Force your father to work. When your father lost his job, why did your mother continue to have children ? Tell your dad that this month would be the last time that you would give him money. You can not stop after marriage because they would blackmail you and your wife. This is the time to stop so that you can begin to save and acquire stuff. If your siblings are doing well in school, continue to sponsor them partly but encourage them to find a side hustle or learn a trade alongside. If they are not doing well in school, then don't bother to sponsor them. Start ignoring them and give them a lecture on reality. This night even make it hard to find a good wife when she sees how they suck you dry. They would attempt to make you feel bad but don't worry about it. It is a desperate move to cause you to continue.

Maybe it is her upbringing..She may not feel proper initiating the move. It is still good that she doesn't deny you when you ask but asking all the time isn't right either. Make sure that you take your birth regularly and brush your teeth. There might be something putting her off but when you start, she can't stop just like how some rape victims enjoy it despite not wanting it.

No right to demand but if you take care of your children, they should morally take care of you. Except they have a stupid mother that prevents you from taking care of them. Once they are adults, they would understand and take care of the parent that truly lives them.

You are supposed to tell him at least two weeks after meeting him. You don't love him. You love the money he gives you. You have four children and still looking to remarry. You are selfish.

Two months after but the woman delivered through C.S.

As you lay your bed, so shall you lay on it. You have over pampered your wife and your in-laws have no regard for you. Is it that you don't communicate everyday? Have you done a very bad thing recently that makes your wife and your family to punish you this way? No matter what has happened in the past, you must put your foot down henceforth. First of all, ask your wife for her reasons and then make sure you ask her immediate family why you were not informed and if they think it is right for your wife to travel without your consent. You have been too soft and you have gotten what you deserve.

four children? four children?

He does not love you.