NnaaGuy:


He may not be rich, but as long as he has something doing appreciate him and give him a chance. Look for ways to support him. That's how many families are surviving now.

And one doesn't need to financially sufficient before starting a family.

And as for leaving you later, that depends on the kind of PERSON he is, not his FINANCIAL STATUS.

Lmao. I'm sure you haven't been living under a rock bruv, so definitely you must have seen several cases of men dumping or cheating on these so called loyal women once they become financially buoyant. Every one should build themselves. If a job opportunity comes up and I know mr or miss so and so will fit here, there's nothing wrong with me informing them, I don't have to date them first. If a man does not have the means to cater for a family, let him work on himself, don't go and emotionally blackmail a woman to start a family with you then start crying when the bills start coming

NnaaGuy:


This is quite sad. Since UK and Nigeria are not the same maybe you should stop expecting Nigerian men, in this our economy to be as rich as the ones over there.

You should understand that economic circumstances differ. Those hardworking men you denigrate as poor and unambitious are just trying to survive under the circumstances they find themselves. They didn't choose to be 'poor'.

I do not expect men here to be as rich as those in Uk. Didn't you read the part where I said I don't know when sane people will stop comparing citizens in first and third world countries with each other??
Yea people don't choose to be poor. We are in a country where capitalism is embraced though. Everyone, both men and women should better themselves, instead of a financially deficient man to approach a lady in her 20s with marriage and emotionally blackmail her into staying with him during his hard times...then leaving her later. Makes no sense

FROGMAN101:


Why shouldn’t the same women get a job and make their life easy? I don’t understand the madness with nigerian women and “rich boys”

It’s a farce. You lots are lazy. Actual reason why I stopped relating with you guys when I am the country.

You have this utopia in your head to do nothing and settle with a rich man. But you don’t actually have plans to improve your own life? Blimey.

I have dreams oga otherwise I wouldn't be bothered about getting an education. Ofcourse I'm going to work for my own money instead of depending on a man. You lot who even keep talking of wanting an independent woman as a wife still feel emasculated and less manly when she earns as much and even more than you. You lot will still come and be wailing that she's forming feminist when she talks about her opinions and wants you to help out more at home. You lot claim you want beauty and brains yet it was the same Ubun.ja and his loyal sheep who said over intelligent women should keep their brains to themselves. You men are like babies who don't even know what you want

spits.

op women should say yes to any tom dick or harry cos he mentioned marriage abi

Treash:
There is no single lady above thirty (30) who has not been approached by a serious man when they were between 18-24 years.

FROGMAN101:


No not really. Over here in the UK, its quite different. There isnt really so much emphasis on money like Nigerian ladies always do. Its just that women are never satisfied. They always want more. Its expensive business and not valuable. Time is valuable and should NOT be wasted.

I wish men know the truth. Breaks my heart when i see young men wasting their time impressing ladies over valuable things.

I have no problem with women, i just understand them better.

Oga Uk and Nigeria are not the same. If the women here decide to settle for poor unambitious men what will marriages here be like with this our economy especially when she falls pregnant?

I don't know when sane people Will stop comparing first world country citizens with third world country citizens

papyskinsy:
this same lady might end up graduating wt a 2.2 in OAU.. inside life

Oau lecturers purposely make life more difficult for students...inside life

Akinbahm:

Sorry, go and sort ur post utme first b4 embarking on Relationship issues my dear...

I'm already in uni oga

ubunja:
will he stay a boyfriend for ever?

You don't seem to get my question. I mean what quality or usefulness will he serve as a boyfriend that will make a woman want to marry him?

ubunja:
well if you gonna pay bride price, provide accommodation, buy the car, and the food and pay the rent then you have no use for a man. Why are you even looking for one? Go to the Boy Toy section

A boyfriend does none of that though. So what is his usefulness?

Martinez39:
Lol. I am not the type that does "all are like that expect my mother, sister, auntie's, female friends..." yen yen yen neither do I do the "all men are scums except my father, bothers, male friends..." yen yen yen. What is so special about anyone that their own cannot be like that? Please don't be silly.

@bold
You this woman, you need to realise that shaming language and tactics are outdated. Men like ubunja and myself don't fall for such cheap tricks. They are the stuffs of gullible children. I believe you can try something better. Is that all you've got?

NB : this is another stray bimbo. Pay her no attention. She is here to derail and divert attention to herself. Boys please, let's ignore.

Exactly. Boys forming "alpha"

reservd:

Come to think of it, does this apply the other way round? that is what's a girl's usefulness in a relationship if all she brings to the table is her p***y?

Answer mine first, then I'll answer yours.

SaucyBenks:
I have this young guy who's from a wealthy home, he loves to hang out with me a lot, his dad sends him 150k monthly in school aside his fees and the rest necessary school payments he needs do.. As in, the 150k is just for upkeep/pocket money. I get 20k from that every month as well talk about the ps4 and the disks, he buys them all the guy trusts me with his life. He lives the life of a star in school honestly.

But ever since he came across codedruns eeh... This boy has shifted attention from school and its activities, this guy bleeps ladies old enough to be his mom and aunties in fact, hardly attends lectures too. He doesn't go for the cheaper deals oo, he doesn't even bargain I don't do runs girls and that's what's causing issues between us currently. His friend in school introduced him to codedruns site and he told me about it and asked we bring a lady for a party, I was shocked honestly, I refused and told him to forget women, especially those typa women but he refused and said he wanted fleshy women... Women way older than he is... He spends all his upkeep money on those women and the worst part is, even if he asks, his parents send him more.. I don't even know if he's an only child. He just completed 1st level studying MLS in one of the private universities in the country but he's starting in the wrong note and I can't even talk to him cos he sees it as a bad vibe as he'll call it...

Lmao. Be honest bruv. You're worried that if he keeps spending on dem hoes, your 20k might stop coming

Martinez39:
You all are like that. Stop pretending. We are not fooled. "some of us are real".... You mean some of you, somewhere somewhere, even though not you.

Trash! Offpoint! Illogical!

NB : guys please, let's ignore this b*t*h. She's just here to derail and gather attention away from the topic to herself. Na their way.

Lmao. You couldn't even provide an answer cos you know you serve no usefulness apart from sex. Real women don't need to manipulate their men into caring for them

So in your mind, all women are gold diggers and manipulators?
Why generalising stuff like that? Some of us are real.

From all these threads you post, some questions come to mind: what's a guy's usefulness in a relationship if all he brings to the table is his dick? Why should a woman want to move from girlfriend to wife when she sees you serve no usefulness apart from bedmantics?

1x2x3:


So of all things I wrote there about my own person this is what you came up with?


In this time and age women are trooping into churches to find husbands you came up with a conclusion that a single Aunty can buy and wear a wedding ring in her 4th finger then suddenly remove it just about entering a city?

Even when I said she could be married to 3 men still you came up with this? Okay let's just assume she married 3 men with one ring

I minded my business Mr man and I never took her phone from her or requested her password so explain how I invaded her privacy.

Las Las you be broda wey mumu, broda wey no wise.

If the lady was sitting in the front seat, how did you even manage to see her chats? Mind your damn business ok

Lmao. It's amazing, the kind of topics that reach front page sometimes. Cute kids though

Dlionsheart:


Totoandprikologist!
well done oo

It's not my fault you chose to be ignorant about the human body.

Looks like she accepted out of pity

PUSSYHOE:
haba having sex does now which you explained earlier but not all in cases.

Yea not in all cases.

Please do well to also highlight the values Nigerian men are losing and have already lost. Don't shame one gender alone.

PUSSYHOE:
I know of this which are rare cases.

The weight lifting one is rare. Constipation on the other hand, isn't. Students usually have limited financial resourses and as a result have very poor diets which causes irregular bowel movements and puts strain on the abdominal muscles...which in turn weakens the pelvic muscles. People need to be educated on the fact that having sex alone doesn't make women loose down there.

respect80:


There's really no pleasure in that but believe me, I have heard some men say they prefer it tight even if it's dry than having it wet and loosed.

I have also heard guys say they enjoy sex when they notice their partner feels a small sensation of pain as they thrust inward and outward rather than when going in and coming out is as easy as Man-City beating Arsenal

As for me, I love it tight and a little bit lubricated so that me and my partner would enjoy every bit of it

To each their own mehn. Any man who bleeps a dry or not-well-lubricated pussy is a bad lover though. Might be pleasurable for the man, it isn't same for the girl

respect80:


Are you also aware that in some cases, older women vulva gets tighter especially after menopause due to a decline in the secretion of estrogen which aids the contraction and lubrication of the vagina/vulva?

I already stated that sex and pelvic floor exercises help the muscles down there to tighten. So yea, an older woman could be tight. An older vjay can also appear tight without lubrication like you said. But where's the pleasure in that?

PUSSYHOE:
This explanation still revolves around sex. No sex no harm. i thought you are gonna give a reason outside sex.

Iit's really important to understand that it is not just women who are having babies that are at risk. Other things such as constipation, years of straining on the loo, and poor technique during heavy weight lifting can also lead to pelvic floor weakness. This is because there can be a great deal of pressure inside the abdomen during these activities which can lead to weakening of the muscles over time

Got this from a health website

Lolz. How many people would have cooked soup with it?

PUSSYHOE:
by that you mean sex does the loosening?

I mean having regular sex does not 'loosen' the vjay. The only time a man's organ can cause harm is when he does forceful penetration especially without pre-intimacy. That act weakens the pelvic muscles.

PUSSYHOE:
As she gets older with sex or without sex? no wonder men go for younger girls.

On the contrary, sex serves as a good workout for the pelvic muscles. As well as pelvic exercises. Google it.

PUSSYHOE:
Almost every guy have experience loose pussy from gfs, fvck mates even wives, what cause a tight hole from birth to be loosen? too many dicks or just one monster one?

As a woman gets older, the pelvic muscles get weaker...plus lack of pre-intimacy and just forcefully thrusting into a woman's vjay tends to weaken the pelvic muscles even more

Officialgarri:

And which of the modern churches have u seen guys sit separate and ladies sit separately?
Or I'd just walk up to someone humbly stand up so I could take his/her seat... Interesting

Lolz...in my church, groups of the same sex usually sit together. It's all good anyway

Officialgarri:

An angle where you do not have to see the pastor I guess, or an angle where there are no ill dressed people, which would be in my room.

Sit around the guys and pay attention to the preacher

TSRC:

He is a man.

A lady in front is wearing tight fitted skirt showing the size and colour of her pant, while another one beside him is wearing a dress where the breastts wants to jump out due to excessive cleavage, and you say he should not look?

How can he not look?

Lolz. Stand up and sit somewhere else

Officialgarri:
The church has been abused thoroughly because pastors have diluted the bible and make christianity look so easy.
They would say we are under the grace so we are saved from sin......

It's not my business to argue it but next time I see these things in a church, I will walk out dragging my feet

1. If a woman must be our pastor, she must be wearing a flay gown that extends down to her feet.
If it's a skirt, it must be wide around buttocks

How will I be in a church and I'm seeing the pant mark through her skirt. She has a big buttocks and she wore a tight skirt that I could see her pant.
I'm sure I wasn't the only person that was distracted.
I always like it when she faces the choir and turns her back on us

2. The altar that was supposed to be for God has been turned to a hip-hop stage. See boys wearing cap on the altar and jumping up and down like Davido. I was almost rocking a girl beside me because I almost thought we were in a club.

3. Christianity has been handled with levity that boys plait hair in the church, they can even sing on the altar. Some don't even stop at wearing ear ring on a single ear, they fix it on both ears.. Haaaaa!!!
Many and guys and girls tint their hair brown like it was public show.

4. LADIES!!! So I was sitting quietly when a lady walked the aisle. I'm not complaining about the heavy makeup, perhaps, she might be ugly without it.
Her gown was long enough, but I think the designer made a mistake. Instead of the cloth to sweep the floor, the designer should have made the cloth come to the top over her shoulder so her boobs will be covered.
We prefer to see her legs than see her boobs.

Well, I'm standing by the gate sha waiting for her. I must shoot my shot since that's what she came to do. Na play we come play for church.

5. Never ever speak in tongues beside me when you are dressed like a hoe or a gigolo!!!!
The bible said 'the disciples were 'filled with the holy spirit and the spake in diverse tongues'' they were unconscious. Don't shibaraba shatabosh beside me or else I'll embarrass you before leaving.



Lalasticlala mynd44 Dominique

but wait o. To dey focus on other people's dressing and habits for inside church na wetin you suppose dey do?