Omega30:
Now, you are talking baby.That's the truth I wanna hear. But, it sucks every body misuses the word LOVE.We all lying, guys say, “I love you” to Bleep, girls say, “I love you” to get money. We are all players till we are ready to hang boots.

Lolz...most guys never hang their boots though. They get married and continue...even when the wife is faithful

Omega30:
Hmm, partly true. Y'all girls often have needs: financial ,emotional, security, advice.If u always, ask for the pre-mentioned apart from the first need.We will gladly help, but based on experiential knowledge, you girls always tilt towards the first need ( financial) of which u girls seldom offer nothing in return.The only one we assume will not cost you anything and you can give easily is the one we normally ask you, others you won't or CAN'T even offer them.

Peeps don't believe in love anymore I guess. We're in the era of "use what you have to get what you want". Guys use their money to get sex. Girls use their bodies to get money...
Sucks, but that's how it is. For some people anyway

Omega30:
2 things:you guys take our help for granted.Secondly, If it were us, you guys will not help.

Not true. Depends on the closeness between the two people involved. If you've known each other for a while and relate well, what's wrong with helping the one in need

dogtails:
It is ur type that wreck men IDIOT

Lolz. Fool. I don't depend on any pathetic entitled man for money okay. Keep spending your change on oloshos

dogtails:
Just look at what this fool is saying

Mumu. its a simple question.Carry your stupidity and face someone else.

MJBOLT:

at the end of the day everybody is happy

At the end of the day, someone will be asking why some Nigerian women see men as walking atm machines

MJBOLT:

i did not say he should rape the girl na

No...only to fvck her cos of 2k

why is it that guys hate helping out their female friends in need without bedding them first? Just curious


Imagine you a guy asking another guy for help...and he says you should blow him first

kalufelix:
you mean physical attraction ?? Me think the guy that truely loves and cares may not be much fun and romantic if he happens to be then he'd probably be broke.

You see why the guy is only good for cheating purposes

well...personally I like being with someone who likes me. The only problem is if I'm unable to develop feelings for him, I get bored...then I have to go through the unpleasantness of telling him. Solution: remain single

BlissB:
I can't change my SIM card because of other important stuffs connected to it.....for sometime have been out of work but am resuming July so i will inform security but this part will be difficult because [b]different police officers comes daily [/b]and my job has to do with dealing with customers/patients

If you can get his picture, print out a coloured copy with a 'no entry' caption and paste it at the security post...might help

BlissB:

October 2015 when i started working, i met this guy at my place of work and he kept on coming everyday for like 4 days for my num of which i gave him with the mind of blocking him when he calls....initially i was listening to him and he started asking me out and i refused....he kept on pleading and i kept on refusing.....At a point i eventually blocked his num because the calls were becoming irritating even on whatsapp incase he locates me there....i had peace of mind for sometime till my phone was stolen and i got a new phone and he started again and i blocked him. After a while the new phone was stolen and this devil started again .....then he started using other nums to call me but when i hear his voice i always end the calls and block him..... After a while, since he cant reach me, he comes to my place of work unannounced ........
Na so we don day turn around since that 2015 day come till last year Oct i got another phone and since i make use of the internet alot i got a torchlite so i can put my active line thereby not disturbing my internet work, na there the major wahala of since 2015 start because I can't block him again....every blessed day is now a nightmare, if to say e go call like 2 or 3 times then he go rest I for nor day disturb myself but how can a person in his right senses keeps calling over 20 to 30 times a day Some will say i ate his money thats why but before God and man nothing like that.....i never see he one naira so what have i done to deserve this....i picked his call one day and asked him what he wants, he said he is alone and he wants a friend, i said i cant be your friend, he said then i won't have peace. Am saying my existence is threatened because he knows where i work and he knows i close at night so this guy fit do anything and he stalks me once in a while. I have called mtn to know how i can block or bar this particular num they are not giving me any resonable answer. I just can't fathom why a person in his right senses will do something like this. To think MTN can't even help me to regain my peace, taya me. How do I go about this, I nor get connection......telling my dad will be a threat to his health. Pls advice me on what to do please

This one has passed stalking o. Have you tried changing your sim card? Or reporting him to the security at your workplace so that they don't let him in? Three years is a long time to stay hung up on someone

MobilityExpress:


Not true. Do you know how many guys reject girls everyday? Why do you think many girls have turned themselves to community Olosho. It is because many of them couldn't handle the rejection they experienced from the guy they were crushing on. So they turn themselves to public utilities to make themselves feel wanted. You might think it's easy to seduce a man, but such man is only fooling around and wants to chop and clean mouth. Once he gets the sex, he disappears

keep telling yourself that so you can feel better. I see it happen all the time. It doesn't take much to make a guy succumb to a woman's wishes...have even experienced it myself so go and argue with the wall

MobilityExpress:


No guy drops his pants because of a smile from a female stranger, this your lie no enter . But we have seen countless women jump inside the cars of male strangers and straight to the sex slaughter slab, just because of one wink. And don't dare shake this table of cheapness, because 90% of females are standing on it.

Lolz. The meaning of what I said is that IT TAKES VERY VERY LITTLE EFFORT TO MAKE A GUY FALL FOR A GIRL.

MobilityExpress:


She did a lot, sending half nude pictures with full boobs on display etc who knows what else she sent. The guy just wants to chop and clean mouth obviously. He didn't deny he had a gf, even sent her pix of him and his gf together. So stop this nonsense talk that men are cheapest. I don't see men standing on the roads from 11am to 5pm in surulere, lekki, obalende, opebi, and all over Nigeria sef, looking for girls to pick them up. But you see girls doing it like this was what they came to the world to do. If you're not happy being a man, then go for a sex change, instead of thrash talking about men and licking female feet just for cheap worthless likes on Nairaland. Rubbish!

When you go to market, you notice that the cheap goods attract 'cheap money'. Those girls you referred to as cheap are sought after by equally cheap guys. Even if you say you can get a girl with something as ridiculous as indomie and egg to get her to drop her pants, all you have to do is smile for some guys and they start dropping their pants like the cheap creatures they are

Vega100:

Aunty, nothing like cheap there, the guy just want use diick stab her, continue him journey, nothing dey there.

Lolz Continue deceiving yourself there. Guys are fvcking cheap. Just smile and give them attention and they start doing foolish things. In the end, did he "stab her with his d1ck"?

elninosft:

Is he the husband or the wife in the marriage?

"...paid his groom price "

All these guys saying women usually friendzone the guy who loves and cares for them....most times those caring guys are not attractive

elmagnifico411:
Adopt this method; when u get back from work, Greer them, shower, eat, change your clothes, and hit out . If you got a relaxing spot or guys u can chill out with while Ike flies, just spend your time outside the house. He little time you spend in the house, after greetings don’t gist or bring up any conversation with them. Just leave them with their sister in the house. Trust me your wife would do everything to have you back in the house.

I don't really think that will work. When some women are surrounded by their family members, they might not really notice their husband's absence or attribute the cause of his absence to the ever present inlaws

Op be honest. You are the man's friend

Marriages nowadays

Mamatoppy:
Here is the dude. His name is Treasure and he is Environmental Sanitation Officer at Lagos State Government. His personal business is ARS Travels and Tours and he lives in Ikorodu.He impregnated me last year and abandoned me afterwards.He has refused to answer my calls and that of my family members.He blocked all my numbers on Whatsapp and refused to see me. He is 40 years old,single and does not care if I am alive or not.My EDD is next month and I want to sue him for child support.Please where can I report this case

Here are few details of what happened
1.He is not married. He was 39 when we met.
2. He lied to me when I told him about the pregnancy. He told me he was not responsible for it cos he was on an injection which hasn't failed him since university days. I asked to see the doctor but he refused to take me to him.
3. He told my best friend when she called him his celestial church pastor told him the pregnancy was not his. I challenged him on that and asked to be taken there but he refused.
4.He told my elder sister he cannot impregnate a lady cos doctor told him so. He's got low sperm count and on medication. I asked to be taken to this doctor but he did not take me to see them.
5. He told my mum he was not ready for marriage and no one has ever gotten pregnant for him before. He also told her what we had was just flings and he gave me money to take care of myself but I came back pregnant.
6. He also told my friend he was told I dated two guys in the area but when I asked for the names of the guys,he refused to disclose them. He was living with a lady before we started talking. The lady moved out. He jumps from club to club and ladies to ladies.Caught him more than 3 times. I told my friend all these and the reply he gave her when she queried him was that the lady cheated on him and he told her to go.
7. This is not about money. It is about him doing what is right. I am ready for any test or DNA just to prove to the fool that he baby is his.
8. I need a good lawyer who can take up this case or details of where this case can be reported in Lagos and not judgements and castigations. We are all humans and no one is perfect. We all make mistakes.
9. His full names Treasure Akolawole Abass and you can reach him on 09060086008.He lives at A plus, Selewu, Igbogbo, Ikorodu,Lagos.
10. I know he is gonna lie to save his ass.Call my sister on 08121821959 to confirm this story before you jump to conclusions.
11. The bastard hacked my account and deleted the pictures. I did not remove them.
12. He just told me this morning that he is married. I never knew. That is to confirm the lying bastard that he is.

Op your situation is quite unfortunate. If you can't afford to raise the child or you aren't ready for a child maybe you should consider putting the baby up for adoption. Many childless couples out there. My opinion though

calgaryFriend:

If you know the person you are discussing with, you will apologise and withdraw that statement.
This internet sha, you get to meet a lot of specimen, and everyone believes they can address you anyhow because of the annonymity of the internet.

Well, I will advise you to learn to be more couth while addressing people especially strangers, you never know whom you are talking to.

Lolz. Sorry. Whoever you are, some of your points are kind of silly though Didn't answer the question

calgaryFriend:
@Op you need to first acknowledge the fact that he worked for his money and he has every right to decide how to spend it.

He does not have to listen to you , majority of the people here advising you are kids . Your husband is someone majority of the ladies will be praying for. And you sound a little more entitled and ungrateful than you should.

That man is not wasting money on alcohol, drugs or women, he is spending money to do a masters degree which can help him to upgrade.

Instead of wasting money on a car, a liability why not allow him educate himself so that he can start looking for better opportunities. I am disappointed that you will advise your husband to buy a car rather than fund his own education, what is in a car.
Are you going to die if you dont have a car ?

You need to start thinking of the future and not just the present. Thant man is a hero and he is thinking and acting with the future in mind, you are too short sighted and unfortunately you have started frustrating him with your increased demand for money.

You appear to have a beautiful and peaceful home, something most people on this forum do not have so dont allow any toxic person here poison your mind against your husband.

You dont have to always have your way, trust your husbands decision making and respect them.

Lastly, you are angry and bitter with your husband that he went into debt for marrying you ? This is just a terrible thing on your path, you do not know the kind of burden men carry and I love that your husband had a plan and now he has paid the debt why are you still agonisiing over that.

You sound like someone who is very lazy and ungrateful, if you make your own money then you can say how you want to spend it, but as far as that man is working hard and planning you have to respect him.

Yes I spanked you and drew you close and spanked you again, thats how to talk to people like you, cos you are almost loosing your sense of reasoning.

What is this one saying?
A husband doesn't have to listen to his wife or take her opinion into consideration before making a big decision? Are you married? Ever gotten a woman pregnant? If you have, then you'd know that a car is necessary in this situation. She clearly stated that there is nothing wrong with him going for his masters degree. The timing is simply wrong. What happens when he is in the lecture hall and she goes into labour and there's no car axailable?

Sellfish:
Billionaire that cannot spell 'nurture'

Quota System Billionaire

Mtchewwww

Yeeèeèeeeeeeeeeeeeee


Who slapped me

You wey sabi spell am, how much dey your account?

Lmao. Girls can't hold smart convos? Most guys can't hold smart convos either
That's how I asked one what he enjoys doing and all he could say was "watching football and playing football".Couldn't raise any topic of interest. most guys online chats are always sex related. Is that the only thing in your head?

Only a foolish man is unable to see the value of a good woman.
Birds of the same feathers flock together afterall. When you're empty, you attract empty people to yourself.

Lonelypacifist6:
people always call me selfish when I say this.

Lolz. Let them be 'selfless' and enjoy their 'happy' married lives

ashewoboy:
really! there are ladies who don't want kids and they don't want to get married? na wa oh.



what could be their reason?

we simply want peace of mind

Greatzeus:

Just proved my point,your parents failed woefully or is it you who didn't take corrections
I used that analogy cos you attacked the guy like a prostitute who got used and was not paid.

Mumu. Just cos I used the word "mofo"? the point I made sounds like something a prostitute would say abi?
'Mofo' isn't even an insult

Greatzeus:

Just proved my point,your parents failed woefully or is it you who didn't take corrections

You who goes around making erroneous comments about women was raised right abi? What exactly did your mother teach you?

Greatzeus:

You are so rude and lacks home training. Or did you pick your no good attitude from one of them at home?
Calling someone a mofo,for what? Airing his simple opinion
Even if a customer used you anyhow and refused to pay after the act,must you transfer your aggression to an innocent guy

Look at this ignorant mofo
Better carry your poverty stricken self and face someone else. Typical Nigerian fool who can't make a reasonable comment without accusing women of prostitution.