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Dear God,

Please remove any form of jealousy or enviness from me, let me be genuinely happy and clap those who are winning because I know with You my own turn will come.

This is my sincere prayer and one with you is always the majority-Amen!

I was waiting for the confirmation from Guinness World Records before i clap you.
Felicitations Hilda Effiong Bassey (Hilda Baci) for breaking the record for the longest cooking marathon (individual), with a time of 93 hours 11 minutes.

I am proud of you for putting Akwa Ibom State and Nigerian cuisine on the map and I salute you for inspiring young African women to chase their dreams.

I am also excited because you break this record to truly push your limits and test your abilities.

Please accept my felicitations!

It is a mistake to think time is going..

Time is not going.

Time is here until the world ends. It is you that is going.

You don’t waste time. Time is infinite.

You waste yourself.

You are finite. It is you that grows old and die.

Time doesn’t.

So make better use of yourself before you expire.

And one of the worst things to do with time is comparing yourself to others.

A cow eats grass and gets fat but if dog eats grass, it will die.

Never compare yourself with others.

Run your race!

What works for one person may be that which will kill you.

Focus on the gifts and talents God gave you and don’t be envious of the blessings He gave another.

You have a unique potential, build on it.

Both Lion and Shark are professional hunters, BUT:

A Lion cannot hunt in the Ocean and a Shark cannot hunt in the jungle.

That a Lion cannot hunt in the ocean doesn't make him useless and that a Shark cannot hunt in the jungle doesn't also make him useless both have their own territory where they can do well.

If a rose smells better than tomatoes, It doesn't mean the rose can make a better stew.

Don't try to compare yourself to others!

You also have your own strength, look for it and build on it.

All animals that exist, were in Noah's ark.

A snail is one of those animals.

If God could wait long enough for snails to enter Noah's ark; His door of Grace won't close till you reach your expected position in life.

Never look down on yourself, keep looking up!

Remember that Broken crayons still colour.

Keep on pushing, you never can tell how close you are to your goal...!

God bless you and I!

Once upon a time, the Lion became hungry and He said to the Fox "Bring me something to eat or I will eat you."
The Fox went to a Donkey and said "The Lion wants to make you King. Come with me."

When the Lion saw the Donkey, it attacked her cutting off its ears. But the Donkey managed to escape. The Donkey said to the Fox "You tricked me! The Lion tried to kill me." The Fox said "Don't be silly, He removed your ears to place the crown on your head. Let's go back."

It made sense to the Donkey so it went back. The Lion attacked the Donkey again. This time cutting off its tail. The Donkey escaped again saying to the Fox. "You were lying! The Lion cut off my tail." The Fox said "He only removed your tail so you can sit comfortably on the throne. Come back with me. The Fox convinced the Donkey to return again.

This time the Lion caught the Donkey and killed it. The Lion said to the Fox, "Well done for bringing back the Donkey. Now go skin it for me and bring to me its Brains, Lung, Liver and Heart.

The Fox skinned the Donkey and ate the Donkey's brain but brought back its lung, liver and heart to the Lion. The Lion asked, "Where its brain?"
The Fox replied, "It had no brains my King. If it had any brains it would not have returned to you after you cut its ears and tail." The Lion said, "That is very true."

#GreatTalks #EdetEdemAkpan

Here is my Certificate of Survival, I thank God for making me sail through...
To the incoming administration, Dear Bola Ahmed Tinubu you are a technocrat and a democrat our expectations are very high.
Please do better.

#CertificateOfSurvival
#May29th

The Real Cost of Success:

- Late nights
- Early mornings
- Limited free time
- Failing lots of times
- Learning new habits
- Dropping bad habits
- Leaving toxic friends
- Investing in yourself
- Investing your money
- Developing new skills
- Getting rejected dozens of times

MatrixReloaded:
You are picker of problem. Does it matter what advancement he/she have attained.

HWD old 🧓

Thanks

IyaebeTheGreat:
How advanced are you?

Academically and other wise...

Today my siblings and I have advanced so much in life, we have come this far because you never compromised your hard work, your diligence and resilient effort in the state civil service will not be in vain.

I wish you long life with good health, significantly this is your last May Day as you are preparing for your retirement in the coming months, our prayers will always be that you live and enjoy your retirement benefits because you have been so productive and your contributions has made the state civil service attain greatest height.

Congratulation and Happy Worker's Day Dad!

#WorkersDay
#LabourDay
#MayDay

The Old Man And Young Man Story:

An old man asked a young man to sell his rooster for him at ₦2500. The young man was able to sell the rooster at ₦5000 and he came back to tell the old man that he sold it at ₦2000.

The old man gave him ₦500 as appreciation and began to pray for him thus: "Everything you have done for me today, God will repay you a hundredfold, even your children and grandchildren will reap the fruits of your wonderful deeds. In all your life, you will meet people who will help you the same way you have helped me and do to you, even more than you have done for me today. I am short of more words, but only God can, and will surely repay and reward you."

When the old man finished praying, the young man gave him back his ₦500 plus the ₦2500 he had gained without his knowledge.
The young man knew the implication if he had cheated the old man, he would have incur curse to himself, his family and his generation.

Let us be honest in all that we do.
Remember, honesty is the best policy in any organisation.

Chef work hard in the kitchen to cook delicious meal.
Chef sacrifice to give us healthy food.
Please don't shout at chef if he is a little late to serve you.
Be kind and show some respect to a chef because it cost nothing...

#Chef
#ValeryKazlitsinau

Change Your Name Or Change Your Way:

Dear friends, it about time we do a sincere evaluation and a deep sober reflection about who we are and how we live.
There is nothing as ironic as boldly answering a name we are unable to live up to.

The ancient Greek Emperor, Alexander the great was said to have been furious with one of his soldiers, a young Macedonian fighter who became afraid and ran away from the battlefront.
He was found crying behind a tree after the battle had been won.

This was treasonable and attracted a death sentence in the days of Alexander.
The Emperor decided however to show mercy and allow the young soldier go free. Upon asking, it was discovered the young soldier's name was also Alexander just like the Greek Emperor's own name.

Being a fearless warlord himself, Alexander angrily told the coward soldier, you either change your name or you change your ways.
In today's world, it is not uncommon to see bearers of names identifications and classifications living the direct opposite of their tags.

When I worked as an attendant in the library years ago, one of my routine duties was checking for books placed wrongly in book shelves by visitors and returning them to their right shelves.
This was necessary to avoid confusing subsequent visitors, it is considered a failure on the attendant's part if a biographical book was kept in the shelf for encyclopedias.

You are a witch doctor, but you are called a prophet.
You are a fraudster, but you are know as a pastor.
You are an armed robber, but you work as a policeman.
You work for the government and sponsor terrorists at the same time.
A pharmacist selling fake drugs.
You sing in night clubs on friday nights and also lead worship in church on sunday mornings.

This music album is gospel, the next will be for your party and night clubs fans. Before you pray, they must pay, I am not judging you, but please bear your real name as a prayer merchant or a prayer contractor not an intercessor or a pastor. If we are ashamed to bear the true tag for what we do then we must change what we do.

A witch should be bold to answer a witch and stop answering a prophet. Why is a fraudster answering the name pastor?
My friend, you are an entertainer not a gospel artist, correct your label.
Mr. Armed robber is your proper name, not the policeman you presently answer.
A killer selling fake drugs but answering a pharmacist.

A joke was told of a pick pocket targeting a potential victim at the popular Enerhen Junction in Warri, a city in Delta State of Nigeria.
The potential victim noticed the pick pocket gazing at the pocket he had his money.

The man quickly removed the money to the other pocket, the desperate pick pocket changed direction to the side the money had been moved to.
The man noticed and moved his money once again.
The pick pocket also changed his direction again, the man moved his money to the other pocket and the pick pocket again changed his direction to the side of the pocket the money had been moved to.

The drama continued for a while and finally the pick pocket became tired because he was using more energy walking around the man over and over again.
He then humbly approached the man and said please leave the money in one pocket, you are making the work difficult for me.
Let me understand which pocket to concentrate on.

Dear friends, we really need to stop stressing people and making it difficult for them to understand what make of our identities. We either change our names or change our ways.

#ChangeYourNameOrChangeYourWay
#EtinOgbeide

Lizard And Concept Of Life: A Message From An Elderly Woman.

Hi, did you know that a lizard can grow a new tail but a tail cannot grow a new lizard?
This concept of life form which God created, we still talking about lizard, this ordinary lizard that you see running around your garden.
At a point in his life it losses it tail and then it goes on, it has not live out his life without a tail.

A new tail eventually grows, but where the tail fell off the tail does not grow a new lizard.
So there are two concept of life here: Let's look at the tail been lost, when the tail is lost it jumps around like it has life for a few, maybe a few minutes and then it dies off and become soil from soil it came.
How does that apply to our lives?
There are many times when maybe in relationships, in families, in a job you think you are indispensable.

They can't do without me, you know this family without me, in this company without me they will be nothing and then they lose you or something happens and you are out of the company and then you think now they will be misery, now they will not prosper, now they will not be and you will be surprised that, that company will have a new person who will do even better than you did.

So never think you are indispensable in a relationship, in a family. Appreciate what God has given you and do your best to give the best contributions that you can, this could be at the church, this could be in a relationship, this could be anywhere, where you find yourself involve because we are social beings.

Wherever you are give the best that you can, because once you are cut off from whatever you think they can't do without you, my friend they will do even better without you. If you don't believe me, try dying, we will bury you, we will give you the same grave and we will forget about you and if you see the company where you work they will replace you and so then there's least on ease do your best at any given circumstance forget about the lizard.

If you lose the tail, if you lose the tail, and you are the lizard don't mourn, even where you find the lizard never goes back to mourn the tail. It continue running with life and eventually a new tail grows and life goes on.
And so then, there's least on ease whatever you lose can be replace, whatever you think you will not do without, let me tell you, you can do without it and so again the thing is never mourn over past mistakes, never mourn over past relationships, never mourn over things that are death, never mourn over your past because you can never improve on your past.

You can only look forward to a future which you can improve, so today whether you are the tail that has been lost or the lizard that is moving on in life. Be the best that you can be. God bless you!

Tips For Guys:

✒️Don't study under pressure of being a guy. Study to become independent, to have a career, to fulfil your dreams. Study for yourself, to gain knowledge.

✒️Never be insecure about your sexual abilities, in the influence of wrong company or the internet. You are what you are, and that's enough.

✒️Your height, weight, skin colour, and looks, don't define you. Your self-control, maturity, and compassion define you, and those who define you, especially girls, because of physical traits, are immature people, you are better off without them.

✒️You must know life and living skills like cooking, ironing, driving so that if ever you live alone, like during lockdowns or in transferable jobs, you survive with pride. Also you stay independent of others.

✒️Always maintain a balance between infatuation and practically. Learn to recognise abnormal, mean or doubtful behaviour.

✒️Even if the whole universe pressurizes you to earn as soon as possible, still be calm and composed and acquire as much knowledge and skills as possible before you start earning. You will get a better push in your career, don't be fast, be prepared.

✒️Stress is the biggest cause of lifestyle diseases as well as sexual issues. Your primary goal in life must be to stay away from stress, by feeling happy and satisfied in life and respecting failures.

✒️Aggression and intensity produced by your hormones, if channelised through self-control, vision and efforts, can take you places in life, if ignored or not channelised they may ruin your life through unnecessary fights, accidents and lust.

✒️Choose your friends with wisdom and maturity, ones who make you happy and not addicted to pleasure. Ones who facilitate your knowledge and growth and not push you down through show-off or bullying.

✒️Casual relationships are easy to start but generally end on a very bad note and leave you emotionally hurt and make you vulnerable and weak. Make relations for life and not for desires, or better stay alone.

#TipsForGuys
#AnubhavJain
#EdetEdemAkpan

otipoju:
One more: Be ruthless when necessary.

Haha haha haha haha haha haha

10 Important Values To Teach Your Male Child:

1. Be A Good Sport: Teach your male child to be humble when he wins and graceful in defeat. Encourage him to perform to the best of his ability and also motivate others to do the same. Playing with your child is one of the best ways of instilling this quality in him.

2. Take Responsibility For Actions: A good man is quick to admit when he is wrong and face the consequences of his actions. So, teach your male child to act only after careful consideration. And if things go wrong, to accept the responsibility and try to set the situation right. Also, make him understand that blaming others for his misfortunes isn't the right thing to do.

3. Be Charitable: The ability to give is one of the greatest spiritual assets. According to Mahatma Gandhi, "The simplest acts of kindness are by far more powerful than a thousand heads bowing in prayer." By modeling generosity, teach your male child the importance of being generous and caring. Make him understand that to give is much more fulfilling and satisfying than to simply receive.

4. Work Hard: The ability to work hard and give the best in every situation is a trait that is admired by one and all. Making your child learn the importance of hard work will not only help him excel in academics but will also serve him well in his career later. So, always encourage him to toil relentlessly without worrying about success or failure. This will help your male child learn to focus on the effort and not the outcome.

5. Express Emotions: "Crying is only for girls", "Take it like a man", "Big boys don't cry", are some of the phrases boys often hear while growing up. As a result, most men never feel comfortable expressing their emotions. Withholding emotions can lead to serious problems later, such as the inability to build and sustain meaningful personal and work relationships. Therefore, develop emotional literacy in your male child and teach him that a man's real strength comes from accepting and expressing his emotions, not from repressing them.

6. Show Respect For Others: Showing respect for others is a virtue every individual must possess. From a young age, help your male child learn how to be respectful of others. If he ever asks you why that is so important, remind him of the golden rule 'Do unto others as you would have them do unto you'. Your son must see you model respectful behavior towards everyone, irrespective of their gender, age, social status, race, or sexual orientation.

7. Be Honest: We all know the adage 'Honesty is the best policy'. An honest individual is not only considered righteous but also trustworthy. So, appreciate your son whenever he displays honesty. Explain to your male child that although a lie may save him from getting into trouble at the moment it is always the truth that prevails.

8. Show Tolerance And Appreciation: Being judgmental or critical of others makes a person unapproachable. Therefore, help your male child learn to be kind and forgiving when others make mistakes, and to show his appreciation when someone puts in sincere effort even if the result is not to his liking.

9. Stay True To Yourself: Nowadays it is not uncommon to want to be popular or in an advantageous position. And for this, some are even willing to sacrifice their values and principles. Help your male child learn how to listen to his conscience and make choices that resonate with his values, irrespective of what others around him are doing.

10. Prayer And Scripture: Teach your male child how to pray and study the Scripture with him. Proverbs 22:6 "Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it."

#ImportantValues
#MaleChild
#ParentCircle
#EdetEdemAkpan

CHECK OUT ADVICE YOU MUST GIVE TO YOUR FEMALE CHILD:

•Teach her to be with you in the kitchen when you cook. Knowing how to cook ought to make her proud and it is one of the secret keys she will use to keep her husband at home.

•Teach her how to bathe and wash the sensitive parts of her body alone when she is still very young. Allowing a corrupt housemaid the responsibility of bathing your female child may corrupt your child.

•Teach her how to sit both in the public and at home. Sitting with open legs (even if she wears trousers) is an uncultured sitting pattern for a girl.

•Teach her early enough to know how to wash her underwear alone. It's not everything she must give to her housemaid to do when she becomes a woman. There are some ugly things that must not be seen by others.

•Teach her how to greet people respectfully, irrespective of the class of the persons. Many have gotten married because they are respectful.

•Teach her that her sensitive private needs must be provided by you (parents) and you must ensure you do it. If you refuse to do it, a man out there will take the responsibility and take her flower along with it.

•Teach her to account for everything she has. That will instil fear in her not to collect something from a man she will not be able to explain if she is asked.

•Don't fail to inform her that all her friends must be known to you. This will guide her on how to choose friends that are befitting of being friends to a child whose parents are well mannered.

•Tell her not to sit on any man's legs, including the uncles. Remember, to avoid sin, you must avoid the occasion of sin.

•Tell her not to go into a neighbor's room alone or with any man, no matter the reason. Prevention they say, "is better than cure".

•Teach her how to pray and request something from God by herself, else, when she grows she may likely go to where she shouldn't have gone in search for solutions to her problems.

•Teach her that it's better to beg than to steal. It's a double embarrassment for a woman to steal.

•Don't teach her that she must marry, but teach her how to become useful to herself and society.

•Let her know that marriage is good, but that living a fulfilled life and having peace of mind is the best.

•Let her understand that if marriage was to be the greatest achievement in life, women wouldn't divorce their husbands. But don't forget to emphasize to her that, there's honor in marriage.

•Make her understand that what her hands can do is more honorable than what her body can do. Therefore, she should be trained on how to use her hands instead of her body.

•Don't forget to tell her that the real beauty of a woman is in her character and not on her face. She should understand that the beautiful face will fade, but the beautiful character will endure.

•Inform her that no matter her wealth; she should know that she is a woman. She should be submissive to her husband in the sense of wife-husband relationship, and not as a slave or inferior being, but as a wife who must respect a LOVING husband.

•Make her understand that marriage is to expand relationships and not to cut her off from her biological family; that she will only be given for marriage and not sold.

•Let her understand that a married woman who takes a divorcee as a role model will not stay long in her marital home.

•You should not forget to let her know that women hair dressing salon is where a woman goes with unkept hair and comes back with beautiful hair. But goes in with a beautiful soul and comes back with poisoned spirit.

•In the course of teaching her how to live a godly life, ensure you tell her that choir group is where the most wonderful songs of praise are song to the glory of God, but that, it is in the same group that Lucifer selects the expert in gossip.

•Tell them that there's nothing actually wrong with having a male teacher for a home lesson for her, but that when the teacher begins to come too early and go very late, the lesson has become "Extra Home Lesson", and that, when it gets to that, it is the time for the teacher to go.

•You must teach her to be humble in all her dealings. Educate her on the need to love everyone irrespective of where they come from. And that, she should know that "if she destroys any human being by any means whatsoever, she has destroyed the whole of humanity, on the premise that "a destruction of a part, is a destruction of the whole".

•Finally, make her understand that after all her toil to acquire all the wealth she could, get the highest educational degree, marry the richest man in town, wear the most expensive dresses, drive all kinds of luxury cars, travel all round the world; that a time shall come where she would be no more on earth. Therefore, she should be nice to everyone she comes across on her journey from the earth to the unknown. Knowing that when she finally go, her memory will remain with those still alive.

#Advice #FemaleChild #EdetEdemAkpan

A good apology has 3 parts:

1) I'm sorry.
2) It's my fault.
3) What can I do to make it right?

Most people forget the third part.

Do not judge anyone ridiculously, open up your mind and listen to other people's opinion because throughout our lives we believe many things.

We hold dear, we think it right, it true but at time there'll be others who disagree with us.
But we believe a 100% right, they believe the opposite just as strongly. How can that be, can't they see.

We can become frustrated, we might grow a distance. We may even separate relationships entirely.
Slow down. Breathe. Step into the other person's shoes and make all the difference.

#InspirationPill

13 Inspiring Traits Of Exceptional Leaders:

1. They trust you to do the job you have been hired to do.

2. They seek your advice and input.

3. They find opportunities to let you shine.

4. They recognise your contributions.

5. They have your back during tough times.

6. They are master storytellers.

7. They challenge you to do bigger and better things.

8. They express appreciation.

9. They are responsive.

10. They know when to apologise.

11. They give credit where credit is due.

12. They treat others with dignity and respect.

13. They care.

#GlennLeibowitz #EdetEdemAkpan

Alearna:
You're not ready

I am

Pause for a minute to see 7 rules of life. Interesting perspective.

7RULES OF LIFE

1. Make peace with your past so it won't disturb your present.

2. What other people think of you is non of your business.

3. Time heals almost everything. Give time.

4. No one is in charge of your happiness, except you.

5. Don’t compare your life to others and don't judge them, you have no idea what their journey is all about.

6. Stop thinking too much. It's alright not to know the answer.

7. Smile. You don't own all the problems in the world.

#7RulesOfLife
#SatyenKumar
#EdetEdemAkpan

LikeAking:
Simp!

Abi

RedChiefPriest:
Lol
My dad once got transferred to another state entirely when I was young and my mum was a government worker then.
She will prepare us for school,prepare food before going to work and that does not stop the chores until we were of age.

When you were in school and you had classes back to back,did you left all the chores till you graduated?
Lol funny people.


Should chores be left alone for women? No
Should you help in house chores as a man? Yes
But should working be an excuse for not doing chores? NO.

You are entitle to your opinion.

peter0071:
Greetings to you! i think you are been abit one-sided. Most men work and still have more time to manage the home( Do housechores etc) . for me, i do advice that both couples should have a balance in managing the home and working for a better future of the same home.

my humble addition

Absolutely and thanks for your quote...

A MESSAGE TO MEN

When choosing a woman who works, you have to accept that she can't handle the house.
If you have chosen a housewife who can take care of you and fully manage your household, you have to accept that she is not earning money.

If you choose an obedient woman, you must accept that she depends on you and you must ensure her life.
If you decide to be with a strong woman, you have to accept that she is tough and she has her own opinion.
If you choose a beautiful woman, then you will have to accept big expenses.

If you decide to be with a successful woman, you must understand that she has character and has her own goals and ambitions.
There are no such things as perfect. Everyone has their own riddle, which makes us unique!

Beautiful Photo Collage I Have Ever Seen, my siblings and I have served Nigeria.
Can you spot me on the photo collage?

Everyone should watch out for Blessing Udoeze she's an upcoming gospel music artist, she has the anointing just like Mrs Mercy Chinwo Blessed and Judikay.
Her hit track "Iyi Eri Oba" has been trending on Tiktok and other platforms since last year.

If you understand Igbo language and also love Igbo Gospel Songs, I recommend Blessing Udoeze songs to you, her music is inspirational and spirit lifted.

I am pleading with Eezee Conceptz to sign her immediately because she is going to be a blessing to the record labell.
God is indeed filling the vacuum Osinachi Nwachukwu left and I will like to thank Mummy Chioma Jesus for being a mother and role model to all the gospel music artists especially the females.

What are you waiting for? Kindly Google her songs: Iyi Eri Oba, Dike N'agha, Chim Oma, God of wisdom(Chukwu Amamihe), Testify, Obata Obie and many more...