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|Family / Re: , by Eketem: 4:49am On Mar 13|
Follow the welfare route.
I believe you are looking for closure.
It is not juju, he made his decision as much as it hurts realize that it is on him not you, let his reason be his problem not yours.
Most importantly free your mind, love yourself and your son. Life is too short to dwell on what ifs, If you have the gift of life make it a quality life
|Politics / Video Of President Defending Post Election Violence 2011 by Eketem: 3:32pm On Feb 18|
For those who forget, here is a video of the President defending murder of people from post election violence in 2011.
Today he calls for extra judicial killings so when members of the opposition are shot and killed he can defend and justify it.
God help us
|Politics / Video Of The President Calling For Electoral Violence by Eketem: 8:52pm On Feb 11|
The president in his reelection campaign in Taraba is heard saying in Hausa " Everybody should be ready if there will be trouble so be it"
|Family / Re: I Need Advise On Best Way To Handle My In-laws by Eketem: 11:57pm On Jan 06|
First of all, you need to stop with the need to want to please everybody.
Secondly I hope the house papers are in your name or kids name, this isn't about fake submission, God forbid he dies the next day they are probably kicking you out because a husband like yours will leave his family as next of kin.
Thirdly, share bills and responsibilities. Sit with him, have a clear and concise monthly household running budget including fees, water, food, light gen etc. Pick the ones you will do let him pick his own. If for example he picks light, water and food the day food finishes and he gives excuses buy for your kids and shut down, you enable this behavior by taking all the responsibilities and he is also setting you up to look like the devil while he pleases his unsatisfied family.
Then stop with the people pleasing. If they don't like you relax and enjoy your life and stop trying to force it.
Meanwhile I hope you have a savings, if you don't please check with all these banks that give interest for savings and start, those asset management accounts where you put money and cannot take out anyhow, save your money and watch it grow, the job won't be there forever and when money no dey you will see full scale hatred by his family and even your husband.
Time to start planning your future and kids future .
Single women stop doing audition during dating use the time to discuss these things, family finance and role of inlaws in your life
|Politics / Re: Farooq Kperogi: "Amina Zakari Is Lying About Her Relationship With Buhari" by Eketem: 6:34am On Jan 06|
|Politics / Farooq Kperogi: "Amina Zakari Is Lying About Her Relationship With Buhari" by Eketem: 6:07am On Jan 06|
Amina Zakari is Lying About her Relationship with Buhari
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|Family / Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Eketem: 6:55am On Jan 02|
I hope you read that she stabbed him
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|Family / Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Eketem: 6:54am On Jan 02|
Please if your partner violently attacks you like she did with a knife male or female please report to the police for documentation even if you plan to settle it at home, documentation is good for times like this and God forbid if the spouse kills you or you resort to self defence.
Please leave the house first, Separate first then start the proceedings.
|Family / Re: How Can I Divorce Expressly? See My Reasons by Eketem: 8:32pm On Jan 01|
What kind of marriage did you have?
If it was only traditional, return bride price or go to a customary court representing yourself and that's all, If it was a registry wedding you need to get a lawyer . There is no fast divorce, the court will ask you to try counseling first. However if she doesn't object it makes it easier
|Family / Re: Children Sitting In Front Seat Of A Car by Eketem: 1:39pm On Dec 22, 2018|
Kindly understand that the reason why your 9 year old should sit in front is for her own safety, If God forbid there is an accident her lungs are not strong enough for the airbag.
She stays behind till 12
|Family / Re: No Privacy In My Home by Eketem: 2:56am On Dec 22, 2018|
Kick them out
|Family / Re: No Privacy In My Home by Eketem: 9:17pm On Dec 21, 2018|
Tell your wife it's time they leave, let her get a maid. If they refuse report to your father in law
|Family / Re: My Sister Is Crying Inconsolably After Giving Birth. Please Help! by Eketem: 3:33pm On Dec 16, 2018|
Your sister may be facing depression, she needs to be taken to a hospital and receive counseling alongside her husband.
Please you guys need to call a family meeting and ensure she gets help IMMEDIATELY, God forbid she hurts herself and the baby
|Family / Re: Everyone Blames Me by Eketem: 7:53pm On Dec 14, 2018|
That sorry is mostly in the far future when she is old and needs you
|Politics / Re: 2019 Election: Vice Presidential Debate (Live Updates) by Eketem: 7:51pm On Dec 14, 2018|
That's the truth. Most of the contracts, trains debts etc are serviced from our income from oil
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|Family / Re: Everyone Blames Me by Eketem: 3:21am On Dec 14, 2018|
You have to understand that your mother has issues not you, mentally remove yourself from that situation.
As for the abuse by your principal google project alert and send them a message reporting it, they will take it up and believe me your principal will be stopped from abusing others too.
Your mother like so many others get away with abuse because people wrongly believe a mother is always right and perfect plus being a widow makes her an extra victim. Some of us faced worse, remove yourself emotionally from her grip stop expecting love or anything and stand up for yourself, when you get older she will use tears to be manipulating you reporting you everywhere don't fall for it, if she is serious she will apologise for the trauma she put you through before you genuinely forgive her
|Family / Re: My Girl Mother Is Frustrating Me. by Eketem: 2:10pm On Dec 13, 2018|
Fool at 40
|Family / Re: Help!! I'm Going Crazy!! by Eketem: 2:10pm On Dec 13, 2018|
You are already a single mother just make it formal and move on, you are not married in any way, he just has a wife to come give him sex and go home.
|Family / Re: My Girl Mother Is Frustrating Me. by Eketem: 5:32am On Dec 12, 2018|
First problem here is you are not smart, you think having AC and washing machine means you are ready for marriage.
Second thing is you are a hypocrite, you want to be close to your mom marry a woman that will become her househelp, weekend she is supposed to be resting like a human being she will go and be slaving for your mom but you don't want her own mother to protected her, so you sef weekend go and be cutting grass in her mother's compound and cleaning gutter.
Last thing is you are abusive, go and get help, violence is not the best way to resolve conflicts there will be more conflicts after marriage. You are almost 40 I hope you don't enter your 40s with foolishness
|Family / Re: Advice A Sister by Eketem: 9:23pm On Dec 09, 2018|
Check reliance HMO, prohealth, prepaidmedicare google them
|Family / Re: Malice Keeping Between Couples by Eketem: 11:34am On Dec 08, 2018|
Beating you pulling out your hair but you are concerned about malice smh.
Go and beg as usual, weak annoying women when he kills you tomorrow people will be demanding empathy
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|Family / Re: Should I Continue Giving Money To My Friend's Wife? by Eketem: 3:48pm On Dec 07, 2018|
Sit with your friend and inform him of the constant requests. You have your own issues, people and health insurance
|Family / Re: Family Planning Methods. by Eketem: 9:42pm On Dec 06, 2018|
Go to a family Planning clinic, there are several options apart from injectables
You can also consider using a condom, condoms are a means of family planning too
|Family / Re: Please Advice Me,how Can I Seek Custody Of My Child by Eketem: 12:57pm On Dec 06, 2018|
You made a serious mistake, you should have sent through her account because now she will deny that you have not supported the child from birth and it will seriously count against you.
If you have pictures of you and the child it can help.
Every man who has a baby out of wedlock should be smart enough to document contributions, these things can get messy.
They can deny and now give a heavy bill for pregnancy, birth and post birth to discourage you
|Family / Re: Please Advice Me,how Can I Seek Custody Of My Child by Eketem: 10:29am On Dec 06, 2018|
1. Do you have records of your financial contributions?
2. Before now have you been physically present in the child's life?
If Yes, you can start from social welfare, make a report in the social welfare secretariat of your local government secretariat.
Note that you won't get full custody of a child under 7 except the mother is incompetent.
You are however entitled to visitations and even part custody.
If social welfare mediation doesn't work you can approach family court.
|Family / Re: Advice A Sister by Eketem: 8:44pm On Dec 05, 2018|
I am not favored or lucky neither did I call you lazy I only gave advise that will help with medical bills and prevent a situation where you will be needing donations for bills. An insurance policy of 43, 000 saved me all this stress, it paid for antenatal and birth and visits after birth, it really helped me have peace in that area.
Insurance really helps if you calmly select a good policy and clear all blurred lines.
We all go through hard times but plans like this really help, at least if you had insurance you will not be worried about money for hospital bills.
These countries have health insurance Sir
|Family / Re: Advice A Sister by Eketem: 5:41pm On Dec 05, 2018|
Madam cursing at me will not solve the issue, why is it harder to plan and then late emotionally blackmailing people by shouting God.
Life happens to everybody but some plans in place can help cushion the effects.
I am sorry for the challenges you have gone through
I hope things go well
|Family / Re: Advice A Sister by Eketem: 5:38pm On Dec 05, 2018|
There is no free health care anywhere, somebody somewhere is paying for it. It doesn't cost much to have insurance and avoid these embarrassing issues
|Family / Re: Advice A Sister by Eketem: 2:56pm On Dec 05, 2018|
Why do Nigerians not do health insurance? With 20k - 50k insurance you are covered from antenatal to birth and even 6 weeks after in a standard hospital.
You cannot feed now, you will not be able to pay bills God forbid it is CS nko?
These marital counseling classes should guide intending couples on how to really plan and prepare for their future even on small income.
As for the current issue, I don't know.
I am guessing the aim is for people to feel empathy and contribute money, I expect resident investigators to come and dig in, my own is just to advise on getting insurance so people won't be begging for hospital bills
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|Politics / Ganduje Donates N10 Million To EFCC And ICPC Event by Eketem: 6:41pm On Nov 26, 2018|
The Kano State governor, Abdullahi Ganduje, has donated N10 million to the organizers of the National Anti-Corruption Marathon.
The Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, EFCC, Independent Corrupt Practices and other Related Crimes, ICPC, Athletic Federation of Nigeria, AFN and other stakeholders organized the first National Anti-Corruption Marathon, in honour of President Muhammadu Buhari, for his fight against corruption.
Announcing the donation when he received members of the main organizing committee in Abuja, Mr Ganduje promised that the Kano State Public Complaints and Anti Corruption Commission would collaborate with the organizers, as an official partner, to ensure success of the event.
He said his administration not only engaged in sensitizing the citizenry on the evils of corruption but also reorganized and strengthened its anti-corruption agency to offer optimal professional services.
“Before now, people find it difficult to access the services of the agency but we established offices across the 44 local government areas so that the services can be available to the common man”, the governor stressed.
“We also facilitated the recruitment of additional personnel and subjected them to training by professional agencies like EFCC and ICPC so that they can deliver.
“We also ensured cooperation with these agencies and that attracted international organizations to support us in reinforcing our anti-corruption system.”
The governor stated that as a result of the renewed professional and vigour of the state anti-corruption agency, highly placed individuals such as Permanent Secretaries in the state civil service and a commissioner were removed and prosecuted for involvement in corrupt practices.
Earlier, the leader of the delegation, Jacob Onu, told the governor that the organizers intend to “use the image and popularity of marathon races to create massive awareness and bring together all segments of the Nigerian population in support of Mr. President’s fight on corruption in all facets of national life”.
“This will strengthen unity among the citizens of this country and also satisfy the desire to exploit and harness the abundant talent in our youth for national integration,” Mr Onu said.
He added that the campaign was aimed raising national consciousness on the scourge and danger of corruption to the country and humanity in general.
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