thorpido:
Maybe if the parents are summoned,they will produce her.

She is an adult, her parents cannot be held liable for her actions

thorpido:
Have you tried the court?

He has to find her first to serve her

Hire a private investigator to trace your wife. Till then not much can be done. Nobody will give you full custody of your daughter, you can get visitation and shared custody

Try Justice Court instead, I think Judging Matters have already been recorded and their means of getting clients limited

Justice Court has a website you can report your case to

obiekunie01:


oga pls answer one important question.

HOW THIS MATTER TAKE CONCERN YOU??

ARE YOU HER BROTHER, UNCLE, NIECE OR WHAT?


IF YOU ARE NOT ANY OF THE ABOVE, PLS LEARN TO MIND YOUR BUSINESS SO U DONT END UP LOOKING FOR YOUR HEAD ON TOP MATTER WEY NO CONCERN YOU.

The girl is 18 yrs old - an adult under the law. At that age, she is expected to take care of any situation she finds herself.





Considering how our girls are so good at twisting facts, what prove do you have that the girl is telling you the whole truth?

SIMPle guys everywhere looking for who to dash their life to.

AT THE SPEED WEY UNA DEY TAKE HEAD INTO TROUBLE OVER GIRLS, ALL OF UNA WEY BE SIMPS GO SOON DIE FINISH!

He is a father. He used his authority over her. Consent gotten from using any sort of force is rape.

mabeni:
This 18years old who is supposed to be seating for her waec next is pregnant. Finding shows her father has been sleeping with her for years and he's responsible fir for the pregnancy.
He poposely didn't register her for waec claiming the teachers wrongly entered her name.

The man his currently in rivers state while the girl in question is in Lagos.

Crime was committed in Lagos.

Where should I report this case and what happens to this girl and the pregnancy when her father is taken in?

Lastly, I want to be anonymous in this matter too

She should call this number and complain in Lagos. They will provide her guidance and counsel her properly

0800 033 3333

Somebody must have put the idea in her head.

1. Bride price; it conotes ownership, till women stand against bride price they will be under a man in marriage.

2. Financial responsibility: Women will be the first to shout how finances are a man's responsibility, reject Financial equality in marriage.

You knew his history yet let him take the children to a state where laws are harder to implement.

Get a Lawyer, long tough battle ahead.

When she says no and you " struggle your way through " that is rape.
Get professional counselling and find out the issues or walk away before you land yourself In jail

You will not leave her. Rest. It is Easter we don't have energy.

He is all that yet you are still birthing babies.

The implication is your brother committed bigamy and may go to jail.

It seems your family is neck deep into your brother's marriage, just pray she doesn't bring I'm parts of the VAPP law into the case because family members who aid and abiet in harassing a spouse will also go to jail.

Next time let a couple sit and reason together for a way forward instead or divorce if they can't agree.

ellaV:
all my effort , he crumbled them..the option is for me to have money and start a business or learn an IT skill and work remotely

So you send CV according to you he will send a counter mail because you claim he bought you the phone and has your email pass words but you can't simply change the password or open a new email address?



Recap:
You are entitled to his money , you declare he has millions hidden

His mother is a marine spirit

He is gay

He doesn't want to give you the money

It is a spiritual problem

You are a strong woman who will collect the money by fire by force

You are a victim


All of us who saw through your bull are narcissists?

Have I left anything out

ellaV:
feel sorry for yourself my dear...and pls marry a broke guy, build with him, let him block you from growing while not giving you cash then come back and let's talk..its easy to talk from the other side world people...no wonder women prefare to die in their pain than speak up..no be me una go kill, I will speak up,if it's not appealing to you, try be in my shoes and teach me better

We should support your entitlement, obvious narcissistic behavior, disrespect for a man and his family because you are a woman.

You have abused everybody who gave you practical advise here, shamed those who you conclude are single yet you are a victim because you are a woman.

I blame this silliness on social media, it is building sociopaths.

ellaV:
I have a well to do husband and he will set up that business for me..whether you narcissist men like it or not..and you better establish your women else they will leave you at your lowest point in life....I came for advise I got the advise...build my morale and am back.. being broken for a while is human is your comeback it's what matters and am happy I brought it here...my ego is boosted...you know what I mean

I am a woman. You are the narcissist here, one who will blame everybody else for her inactions, declare her mother in law a winch and be planning to kill her husband whole declaring herself the victim.


I feel sorry for that man

ellaV:
I wish my people had the money to give me..if i was single only one olosho sugar daddy would have run it for me..but once married it's your husband you look at but when you have the irresponsible one that don't know their responsibility...its usually end up in a pity for the family at the long run

ellaV:
narcissist men are much here on nairaland...who don't see the need to empower their wives when they obviously have the means to...you prefare to enslave her,block her means and monitor her when she tries to help herself..selfish and wicked set...no wonder a sect in the south east kill their husbands when he is not adding value to their wife's and a torn on their flesh as well....I am in a financially abused marriage and i have woken up from my slumber...90% of Nigerian men are narcissist,selfish,wicked and don't wish their wife to grow but we meuuuuuuv....God pass una

You have kuku unraveled as you didn't get the pity party you planned to get.

See the bike you are spewing at strangers,one can only imagine what that man goes through.

You think being a woman makes you an automatic victim.

Stay here and be cursing strangers and planning to kill your husband after calling his mother a winch while seeking spiritual solutions for your obvious laziness and entitlement

Petition the Netherlands embassy, present the documents and evidence to show they were married. He is committing bigamy by marrying another woman without divorcing her


Divorce in Nigeria is not done in absentia or via signing of documents. If he wants a Divorce he should do it the right way

Well since people will not listen and follow the right procedures to do things criminals will take advantage.


How do you think you can adopt a baby over social media with a midwife doing the process online?

Read, research, ask questions people will be choosing " it worked for a sister's cousin "

ellaV:
I will deal with it spiritually thank you

Good luck

ellaV:
I decided to be a good girl, love one man and marry that man and stick with him till the end , I don't think am doing wrong for someone to want me not to be happy not like I married him for money I met him when he didn't have a dine, I build with him , bore him kids all I want is to be set up financially or allow me set myself that's where the problems comes and you say it's normal eye..its not..Nigeria society is part of the reason osinachi did not leave her marriage and is also part of the reason why am not leaving mine...its a spiritual matter , I have decided to follow it spiritually...meanwhile I have registered to learn software development so I can work remotely independently,cos I can't continue suffering and smilling..thank you

More emotional blackmail, there is no medical report or autopsy to confirm what killed Osinachi till then I won't comment on that , I wonder how that is relevant to your issue.


You have blamed your husband
Blamed his mother
Blamed unmarried people on this post
Now Blamed society, all because you do not want to do a proper self reflection.

Good for you to decide it is spiritual and follow it spiritually, good luck with that.


You decided to be a good girl and for whose benefit is that? Is it not for your own benefit? Do you want an award for that?

You want him to set you up in business, have you considered that what you assume he has he may not have? If he doesn't set you up, you wont grow?

The problem with this victim mentality growing on social media is that people believe they can make bad choices and blame it on others especially society.

Who is society?

Again his mom who you have declared a witch is she not a victim? Are you not also society ?

ellaV:


I will take the good part of your advise..but for you to experience this to your understanding,you will marry someone that behaves exactly like my husband.. this is why women don't speak up its because of people like you who will judge their pain instead of ease it[b][/b].

Curse from today till next year I think before I act and take responsibility for my actions.

I don't go looking for who to blame abuse or curse.

Another victim mentality, always looking to hold on to victim Hood. We must swallow your story hook, line and sinker no questions asked else you resort to emotional blackmail.

The mother in law you tagged a marine spirit, is she not a woman and victim of yours? You are moving from church to shrine to declare her a winch instead of rolling up your sleeves and making a comprehensive plan for your life.

What exactly do you want?

Names of churches and shrines to go and fight them or the truth of your situation.

If you like stay here and hold on to the victimhood, you will waste all your money from church to shrine and still be back to the same issue.

See how easy it is for you to shame and curse out those who don't agree with you, one can only wonder what vile things you have said to your spouse.

So in summary:

1. You claim your husband has millions in savings
2. He doesn't want to open a business for you or pay for your masters
3. He sends email when you apply for jobs to sabotage your efforts.
4. His mother is infected by a marine spirit
5. He pays all current bills and buys even your phones
6. You suspect he is gay
7. You don't want to leave the marriage
8. You marriage shame those who have tried to advise you
9. You want to go to a Church and also a Juju place for solutions.


So this is my own summary even without hearing from your husband.

You have a victim complex and listen to So many tales from the many people you have gone to wail about your situation so you will never sit a reflect on your own actions and inactions that have led to your failures, somebody else must always be blamed. If he opens a business for you and it fails you will probably accuse him of using ritual money to do so.

If I reading without bias can be so tired of the several spins you have come up with I wonder what your husband goes through.

Even if the man works himself to death for you it will never be enough there will be always something to blame him for .

I blame him for marrying a child who has not fully developed to understand actions, consequences and personal responsibility.

Keep running from pillar to post, I am sure the reason for all this drama is you are comparing your life and status to other friends and want to be in the positions they are and as you are not it is easy to blame your husband who married you out of school for that.

I will take a wild guess you have bought and used kayanmata from those online vendors on him and it hasnt worked yet. Gen Z things.


If all you said is true then walk away, for the sale of that man walk away before you nag and frustrate him to death.

The truth is nobody can help you till you help yourself, sit down and tell yourself the truth, what are your expectations and what is reality? How do you work to meet your expectations? How can you start a zero capital business and stay focused on it?

Use this time you use gossiping and looking for church and juju to research, read and have a sober reflection on your choices. Learn and research before starting any business, you are not in competition with anybody.

RichGal:


Awww, I wish there was a hug emoji.

Thank you for the love.

God bless you.

Good morning RichGal, one thing I notice is you if ignore all suggestions of professional marriage counseling which Kobojunkie has been stating consistently.

Why do you not want to speak to a professional as a family and see if this can work?

If you do not get a professional involved you will keep moving in circles believe me. Marriage counseling is not for pastor's. There are professional counselor's if you need reference you can ask for.

Your relationship has issues you may need an unbiased partner to review and guide you through.

I hope the family reported this to the police or welfare. Tomorrow if this turns nobody will remember they were helping.

Why a lawyer will bring a matter that should be in court to social media is probably because his client may not be fully right and this is possibly a bargaining chip to make the Parents settle out of court.

However in this case I doubt it will work. The only reason I may blame the parents is using a relative instead of professional services with water tight contract.

This one just seems to be making up demands as she goes, how much are they meant to spend on all these items listed? Can they even assure her of a visa? It is a relative like this that will get abroad and start writing petitions against the couple.

I think this matter should go to court so both sides can state their case with evidence.

This attempt to shame the parents into settling may be counter productive.

With years of experience I can categorically say this story is a lie.

1. Single people under 35 cannot adopt this is because some get married and their spouse may not want the child and you have some wanting to return the child. At 35 it is assumed that they will not be impressionable who want to please a spouse at all cost.

2. Single people who adopt must adopt a child of same gender. So a male under 35 adopting a female child is false.

DevGuru:
I'm still alive o my broda... I've been following everyone's thoughts and resisting the temptation to respond to individual posts until the time I am able to give further update. With what I've read so far, I think I'll have to include more background information in the next update.

I don't know if I can say I am happy reading how it was settled, so what if you didn't have a call recorder?

Anyway I am glad you all have made peace. Me sha I won't be able to trust a family who came up with such a wicked plan

See people saying she should have been killed now that the news is fake how would you have felt being part of an innocent woman's death?

Fake news is a pandemic

Why exactly are you itching to slap a child who you know has learning challenges?


You changed his school without considering the impact and yet want to beat him and shout on him for what reason exactly?

Don't listen to people who have been damaged by excess violence, think SMART.
Talk to him about the lunch box and ask him to decide a punishment next time he does that, tell him it is his personal responsibility.

Amazing news. Congratulations to your family

6 days now. Sigh