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I'm watching as events unfold.

Certainly not good.

You have to loosen up a bit and try to see the world from his own perspective. Since you love him, I believe you'll work at it no matter how difficult it may seem. Your different natures have their peculiarities but a balance between the two is needed and that may involve doing things that both of you are not naturally inclined to do.

Watching events unfold.

EdCure:
Rejoice not, oh PDP. Cos this will in no way work in your benefit.

Why should they rejoice over the death or misfortune of someone even if he is from the opposition? I don't understand this crab mentality that the supporters of both parties have. I thought they said that they are all working towards the good of the country?
If PDP or APC is in power, the opposition should not pray for things to spoil in their hands just to prove how incapable they are.
This is our country for God's sake and the failures of the government affects us all.
We ought to hope for things to get better even if it is our enemy that is in power because whatever he does affects us and those close to us.

The hard truth is that nobody will come and solve our problems for us. We need to wake up and handle our own challenges rather than expecting help from people who also have their own issues.
Africa is no longer a baby (that is if it ever was)

Reference:
Started well but like everything Nigerian crashed at the end. You just confirmed that the will all, in all, for all, by all is money and riches. There is a better and higher purpose to life and living. I certainly won't do that if the only promise and reward was money.

There is more to life than money but in the present case (of this man) under consideration, it certainly isn't about a higher purpose. The man looks to me like someone who is trying to earn some money. That is why I referred to money.
I understand that you are looking at it from a broader perspective. Sure, money isn't everything in life but money is necessary considering the way society is structured.

And by the way, that last statement is for people (especially the youth) who just sit down and complain that they don't have money to do one thing or the other but they look down on those who struggle to make ends meet.
I hope you get my point now.

Not even a photocopy can be found?
If he had it before but can't find it now, it only shows carelessness.

No need to quarrel over the figures. The main issue is, HOW will they do that?
Is there a feasible plan for that or is it just election promises?

Don't laugh o. He is very hardworking.
By the time he sells all the fowls (or the meat) and buys a car (probably) or becomes rich, nobody will remember that there was a time like this in his life.

So get busy with something that will earn you money/income too.

krystal101:
I cherish my childhood friends, nothing or no one like them

Yeah. Nothing like good childhood friends with whom you've done a lot of things together.

This is serious

After the elections, we will know. Let's watch how things unfold.

What did he say?

If only grammar could command votes, this guy would have been the biggest political success in Nigeria.

Mynd44:
I think we can also call people who are not good friends friends. Reason being that I have a friend who goes against everything I stand for and is not really the type of person I will call a friend but I choose to be around the person not because I try to change the person or try to learn the person's ways but because through the person I can learn how not to treat friends who deserve it.

Sure the person does not deserve the friendship I give but I give it anyway because in showing the person a new level of friendship, I also show myself

That's a unique perspective. People with bad attitudes/values show us the kind of persons we should not be.

I think Nigerians should be able to choose whoever they want to vote for regardless of endorsements from certain individuals.

People endorse candidates based on their own personal opinion of the candidate (which may or may not be correct)

Let no one be swayed by endorsements. Everyone has a mind of his own so let everyone make his choice.

tdayof:
What has that changed?
Jonathan visited Bornu in 2013

Visit or not

It has changed something. It has corrected the facts. It means that the lies that some people are trying to spread has been stopped in it's tracks.
Come on, is this all we can get from the progressives? Just propaganda? People are not that dumb, not anymore.

mutter:
it is such a shame. When I moved to Europe I imagined I would meet loads of wonderful nigerians and africans. I came to discover that even the nigerians in the most interior part of Nigeria or in the wildest joints are more cultivated than many africans you meet here.
This never ceases to amaze me.

Hmmm...that doesn't speak well of them at all. It's very bad.

mutter:
At a CWO seminar the women were advising each other to just make friends that bring you forward. I had to ask them what they had to offer if they only wanted to take.
Those friends i did so much for were the one`s that turned round to stab me.
My friends from childhood are the one`s I treasure the most.

Sorry about your unpleasant experience with the so-called friends.
Most (out of the few) friends I have are my friends from childhood with whom I've done a lot of things together and they've been of great help. I've made a few new ones along the line and the basis is mutual benefit - you help me to grow and I also help you to grow. Thus we contribute positively to each other's lives.

Introverts...the most misunderstood beings on the planet even though they have contributed immensely to the progress of mankind (great scientists, musicians, inventors etc).
If you need someone who will think outside the box by reflex, you'll most likely find that among the introverts.

Nothing wrong with being an introvert.

It is your nature and you did not choose to be made that way. But the problem is that the world prefers and celebrates extroversion.

One thing however is that both are needed to create balance in the human society.
Look at a picture of both personalities.

The extrovert is an outgoing person who is excited by being among/around people, he/she is easily bored when there is no activity to engage in. Yeah, he's got lots of energy to spare. He has no difficulty expressing his feelings. When he's angry, you know and when he's happy, it's also very obvious ('cos he can just throw a party to show his happiness). He may not be so much interested in deep intellectual talk (not in all cases though) but he likes small talks like discussing about the weather and things like that.

But the introvert is different. He is the quiet type who does most of his talking in his head. Yeah, he thinks a lot and likes to engage in deep and intellectual conversations. He can stay alone for days and not get bored. He is not so easy to 'read' when compared with the extrovert. You may not know when he's happy or sad because his default expression is
'blank'. He could be experiencing intense joy on the inside but the best he may do to show it would just be a smile (no, he won't go jumping up and down, screaming in excitement). He likes depth in whatever he does and as such prefers quality to quantity. He may be slow in doing stuff but when he is done, you would appreciate his work because of the quality of it.
He is very good at understanding people but unfortunately for him, the gesture is not reciprocated as he is often misunderstood by many.
He doesn't make friends and get attached to people easily but once he considers you his friend, you are most likely going be his friend for life. You can now see why he has to keep someone on his 'probation' list for some time before admitting that person into his circle of friends (which is usually small).
He likes to work from the background, away from the spotlight. He hates noise!
Cool music playing in the background and a book in hand is a perfect way for him to spend the day.
When he loves, he is usually very committed to the one he loves...

#my fingers are already getting numb from typing... #

Hence, you see that both are needed to complement each other so don't ever entertain the thought that something is wrong with you because you're an introvert.
However, you can try making friends with a moderate extrovert and you will see how it will help you open up a little, just the same way an extrovert's excesses are curbed when she has an introverted friend. I say moderate extrovert because a highly extroverted friend can drive you nuts with too much stimulation (from talking and other activities peculiar to her nature).

Pardon my long epistle

These prophesies are not devoid of influence from their own personal opinions and perceptions.

Whether the majority are in APC or PDP, how does that help the life of the common man?
After all, what most of them do is sit down in the chambers and say 'aye' or 'nay/no' without moving a single profitable motion.

Their lack of initiative and ability to think strategically is part of what is keeping the country in this state.

An0nimus:
I try to relate with so many people because its a small world and you never know where you'll be tomorrow and who'll you meet on your way there. Doesn't hurt to give people warm handshakes and chat a little when you meet . Close friends are on another level and know you deeper than others.

It hurts more when a close friend betrays the trust.

You are right.

This is a deviation from the usual APC and PDP rally threads.

I don't even know why people think that it has to be either APC or PDP.

Chiefpriest1:
But they say he's an extremist

Not in desperate times as this. A politician will pose with anything if it will earn him support from people.
This is what is called a political pose.

It is a pity that able-bodied youths have decided to engage their time and energy in something as unproductive as this.

Why waste your time and energy on politicians who don't really care about you?
They should have learnt by now that they are been used (as always) only to be dumped later.

Smh for the leaders of tomorrow.

hydeka:
Having good close friends is very important.

A friend of mine was relating the story of one guy from his town to me recently.

The guy was not wise and he allowed so called friends to ruin him.

The young man was not wise indeed. It was foolishness on his part to have allowed himself to be influenced by his friends. He learnt his lesson the hard way. Hope he gets back on his feet soon.

7. Don't marry due to pressure.
There is a lot of pressure on young people to get married. These pressures can make someone marry a person who is not meant for him/her thereby marrying someone they don't really like and with whom they are not comfortable.

When issues arise, he/she will be saying within himself/herself 'if I had my way, I wouldn't have married you in the first place!.'

Don't allow people to push you into something that you'll later regret.
Because when the relationship begins to have problems, it is this same people who will begin to run their mouth and say things that will surprise you.
They'll say things like
''if you didn't really love him/her and you knew you wouldn't be able to live with him/her, why then did you marry him/her?"

That's why it's good to always take actions that you can be responsible for and not because people expect you to. This is because when things start going the way you did not expect, you begin to look for who to blame but alas, everyone denies responsibility. You finally end up blaming yourself for allowing others make your decisions for you.

The definition of a 'real man' is subjective because everyone has their own version/opinion.

An0nimus:
My 'friends' ranking...

Homies
Close Friends
Normal Friends
Acquaintances
The rest.

The first two categories are not up to 5 people.

In most cases close friends are usually few. It is necessary to have good inter-personal skills and be able to relate well with different kinds of people. One should not live an isolated life. But when it comes to close friends, it's better to have a few who will contribute meaningfully to your life.

For me, it takes time before someone enters my 'close friends' list.
One way to know who my close friends are is by looking through my phone call records. If you pick up my phone and see that the call duration for a particular person/number reaches and exceeds 5-10 minutes consistently, it is most likely that they are those in my inner circle. My call/discussion time with acquaintances is usually less.

I think they should focus more on the election because nothing reasonable may come out of this. You know how our courts adjourn cases and dwell on them for a long time. There is little time left till the election.