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Sad incident.

The first poster made a valid point.

Enemies from within have made this war rather tough.
Efforts against these insurgents have suffered a lot of sabotage by sympathizers/sponsors in that region.
These fighters are just the leaves.
To take care of the leaves we need to cut down the tree from its roots.

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These days it is hard to sell the idea of "slow and steady" to people because everyone is in the "fast and furious" mode. We all know what happens to a car without brakes.

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vikel2104: An elderly person once said: No one on their death bed will ever say " I wish I had worked more , or I had done this course or that or bring me my certificates so that I can see how many degrees I have or bring my bank statements I want to see how much I have in my accounts before I die" On your death bed you regret not spending more time with loved ones and not doing other things outside of work that you always wanted to do but because you were so consumed with working, life just passed you by. Life is a journey not a race . . . We shouldn ' t get caught up in the rat race . Saying no to some things does us good.
Good one eleojo23

you are correct

Child marriage has adverse effects on the victims. Let me share a story I read online.

Alemtsahye Gebrekidan of Ethiopia can
remember the exact moment her childhood came to end. It was at the age of 10 when her mother interrupted her play to announce, “You’re going to marry.”
Two months later, she was married to a boy of 16. She gave birth to a son at the age of 13 and was widowed a year later.

To this day, she still feels angry with her parents for ruining her life by forcing her
to marry so young.
“My parents and his parents decided
[on the marriage],” she told the Daily Mail . “I didn’t choose.”
Before that traumatic event, she remembers life in Ethiopia’s northern Tigris province as being happy and healthy.
“I was in school, although I stopped the school when I was married. I do have happy memories of childhood – it was just eat and play.”

Childhood as she knew it came to an end the day she married her husband, a boy she met for the first time on her wedding day.
“I didn’t know him,” she said. “I was OK when I saw him – he was a child like me. He was upset as well, the same like me… he was 16 years old.”

Alemtsahye was lucky to have been given a husband near her own age because most child brides are forced to marry much older men. But she was still forced to leave home and school and begin to live as a traditional Ethiopian wife.

She was 13 when her son, Tefsalen, was born, and remembers the pregnancy and childbirth to have been particularly painful because of the
immaturity of her body.
“When I was pregnant, it was painful and I cried. And also when the baby was delivered it was so painful because I was a child,” she said.

Marrying at such an early age can be devastating for these children. Girls younger than 15 are five times more likely to die in childbirth than women in their 20′s. This is why pregnancy remains the leading cause of death
worldwide for girls ages 15 to 19. Child brides also face a higher risk of contracting HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases because they tend to marry older men who have had more intimate partners.

I think the reason why Cameroon can deal with them easily is because they have little or no sympathizers there. But in Nigeria, you can't tell who and who is sabotaging efforts against them. It's usually hard to deal with enemies from within.

Pushing people to the wall...

Quite true.

Thank goodness it's not ebola

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This is a huge project. Nigeria's infrastructural development is very low. This is what we should have started long ago. Anyway, better late than never.

Double post

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Thank you. Check back on the previous post. I've added a few more lines to that effect. It's in-exhaustive though 'cos I do not want to start another thread here.

We need strong and properly functioning institutions. We need to work towards self sustenance by diversifying. We need to increase local production and produce things of quality that we ourselves can trust so that we can easily sell them to others.

8. The hidden treasure within you.
Buried on the inside of you right now are hidden treasures. You have gifts and talents that you’ve not yet tapped into. There is potential that is waiting to be released. You possess the skill, wisdom, creativity; everything you need to be a success. If you’re going to reach your highest potential, you have to tap into that hidden treasure. You are full of resources; there are books, songs, ideas, inventions, businesses, put in you by your Creator. You have something to offer this world that nobody else can offer. You are unique, one of a kind. Don’t die with the treasure still on the inside. Begin today to dig it out. Try writing that book or song, try learning to play that musical instrument, try starting that business, try painting etc. When you do this, you may just discover a talent/treasure that has been hidden in you all these years.

Forgot to add this to the original post.

'I do not fear failure. What I fear is succeeding at something beyond my wildest dream only to find out that it did not matter' - Francis Chan

The human mind can conceive anything. Don't be so surprised. Yeah, tradition they call it.

This is serious.

Science keeps discovering more and more. Methinks there are still many things science doesn't know yet. There is definitely a creator somewhere who masterfully designed the universe.

Valid point.

Ok.

It is sensible idea but it may not be that easy to implement. Wouldn't that involve providing more personal info? It may bring unnecessary lobbying and squabbles. You know Nigerians. People will suspect and accuse mods of conniving with certain persons to constantly move those person's posts to Fp so that they can share the dividends (even if that's not the case). Also consider a Mods-topics-only-on-Fp scenario. You know what that means, right? The point is, if proper checks and procedures are not put in place, it could adversely affect the site. Let's see how far this suggestion goes...

Good development. Now to the main part: Proceed to completion.

Good

The alarm rings and you hop out of bed. Another day is off and running. A quick shower. Wake the kids and hasten to get them ready for school so they won’t be late. Eat a quick breakfast. Hurry out to the car and off you go to work, making a mental note to remember the appointment/meeting you have later in the evening. You weave back and forth looking for the fastest lane while the radio DJ barks out the minutes — 7:33, 7:41, quarter to. Reaching work, you sprint into the building and leap up the stairs three at a time, arriving at your desk with seconds to spare. You take a couple of deep breaths, then remember that the project you didn’t finish last night must be sent to your boss’ desk by 10:00. Meanwhile, you’ve got another load of work also demanding your urgent attention.

If you are a student, you wake up with a start after studying late into the night, take a quick shower and grab anything you can eat to at least keep your stomach from protesting then you dash out for that 7am lecture. As you get to class you remember that the assignment given two days earlier is already due for submission and you have not finished it yet. Before you're done thinking about that, your lecturer comes in and tells you ‘we just have a few weeks left in this semester so we must move at a very fast pace to do all we have to do within this short period’ The race starts. A fixed class by 5pm, a weekend lecture, multiple assignments, etc and soon everybody begins the usual song ‘No time!’

Kids are not left out. They are forced to grow up too quickly, to get into the best schools and get perfect grades and extremely high GPA's so they can go to top level universities! No time to enjoy their childhood.

More and more it feels like our lives have turned into a grueling race toward a finish line we never reach. No matter how fast we go, no matter how many comforts we forgo in order to quicken our pace, there never seems to be enough time. Even when we are taking a break, our minds are turning over on the next task to be accomplished and as such we are stressed out. Many relationships (family and friends) have been sacrificed on the altar of busy schedules. Many people are down with stress-induced illnesses and some have even died.

It wasn’t supposed to be this way. Jay Walljasper said ‘As a kid in the 1960s, I remember hearing that one of the biggest challenges of the future would be what to do with all our time. Amazing inventions were going to free up great stretches of our days for what really matters: friends, family, fun. But just the opposite has happened. We’ve witnessed a proliferation of dazzling time-saving innovations — jet travel, personal computers, cellphones, microwaves, fast foods, the World Wide Web — yet the pace of life has been cranked to a level that would have been unimaginable three decades ago...

All in the name of productivity, of having more, of appearing busy, to ourselves and to others.
But life doesn’t have to be this way. In fact, it’s counterproductive.
If our goal is to create, to produce amazing things, to go for quality over quantity, then rushing is not the most effective way to work.
Slowing down and focusing is always more effective.
Rushing produces errors. It’s distracting to flit from one thing to the next, with our attention never on one thing long enough to give it any thought or create anything of worth. Hurrying produces too much noise to be able to find the quiet the mind needs for true creativity and profound thinking.

So yes, moving quickly will get more done. But it won’t get the right things done.

There is no rigid step-by-step guide to moving slower, but here are some things to consider and perhaps adopt, if they work for your life. Some things might require you to make major changes, but they can be done over time.
1. Do less. Cut back on your projects, on your task list, on how much you try to do each day. Focus not on quantity but quality. Pick 2-3 important things — or even just one important thing — and work on those first. Save smaller, routine tasks for later in the day, but give yourself time to focus.

2. Have fewer meetings. Some meetings are usually a big waste of time. And they eat into your day, forcing you to squeeze the things you really need to do into small windows, and making you rush. Try to have blocks of time with no interruptions, so you don’t have to rush from one meeting to another.

3. Practice disconnecting. Have times when you turn off your devices and your email and chat notifications. Time with no phone calls, when you’re just creating, or when you’re just spending time with someone, or just reading a book, or just taking a walk, or just eating mindfully. You can even disconnect for (gasp!) an entire day, and you won’t be hurt.

4. Give yourself time to get ready and get there. If you’re constantly rushing to appointments or other places you have to be, it’s because you don’t allot enough time in your schedule for preparing and for traveling. Pad your schedule to allow time for this stuff. If you think it only takes you 10 minutes to get ready for work or a date, perhaps give yourself 30-45 minutes so you don’t have to shave in a rush or put on makeup in the car. If you think you can get there in 10 minutes, perhaps give yourself 2-3 times that amount so you can go at a leisurely pace and maybe even get there early.

5. Start to eliminate the unnecessary. Some things may appear urgent but they are not really important. When you do the important things with focus, without rush, there will be things that get pushed back, that don’t get done. And you need to ask yourself: how necessary are these things? What would happen if I stopped doing them? How can I eliminate them, delegate them?

6. Practice mindfulness. Simply learn to live in the present, rather than thinking so much about the future or the past. When you eat, fully appreciate your food. When you’re with someone, be with them fully. When you’re walking, appreciate your surroundings, no matter where you are.
7. Slowly eliminate commitments. We’re over-commitment, which is why we’re rushing around so much. I don’t just mean with work — projects and meetings and the like. Parents have tons of things to do with and for their kids, and we over-commit our kids as well. Many of us have busy social lives, or civic commitments. But in trying to cram so much into our lives, we’re actually deteriorating the quality of those lives. Slowly eliminate commitments — pick 4-5 essential ones, and realize that the rest, while nice or important, just don’t fit right now. Politely inform people, over time, that you don’t have time to stick to those commitments.

The most important thing in all these is a realization that life is better when you move at a slower, more relaxed pace, instead of hurrying and rushing and trying to cram too much into every day. Instead, get the most out of every moment. Life is better when unrushed. And given the fleeting nature of this life, why waste even a moment by rushing through it? Moving at a slower pace in this context doesn't mean that you are unserious, it means that you want to get the most out of everything you do.

The real test of a successful life is how you experience the journey. It’s about how you live each day, how you treat the people who are close to you, whether at home or at work or at play. It’s how you feel about yourself and what you are doing with your time. Are you happy and enjoying yourself? Are you working towards your dreams at your own pace and not at someone else’s? Are you being kind enough, loving enough, tolerant enough? Are you working hard enough but in a consistent, steady kind of way rather than in a tearing haste?

Let me close with this statement from Gandhi ‘There is more to life than increasing its speed.’

Don't be so busy making a living that you forget to make a life

Your feedback...

How is your daily schedule and how have you managed to stay in control despite the rush everywhere?

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