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10. The Nigerian problem. Many citizens have come to believe that Nigeria's problems are beyond solution hence the best explanation is that they were possibly created by aliens from another planet. If not, how can a country (of humans) not be able to tackle her problems? Definiteltly, aliens must be involved.

Never heard of the site. Some things only become popular after they die.

I'm touched. Op, it is encouraging to know that you have used your past unfortunate experience as a motivation to help those who are currently facing similar situations. There is no better voice against divorce than that of someone who has experienced it's effects firsthand. God bless your efforts.

No matter how the world changes, certain values will continue to retain their importance and respect. It is still respectable to be a virgin. It's just that people have structured society to think little of virginity. Truth is, most people who aren't virgins anymore wish they still were.(unless they're already married).

She needs to have her head examined...but that would be done in the prison of course.

Will this help to tackle the insurgency in that part of the country? Trying to connect the dots...

AnanseK: The reason in one word - "INCOMPETENCE" .

The six years he spent so far as president is enough for all.

But they did not state that as the reason. I take it as your own opinion (which you are entitled to anyway).

prinznazzy: N u'll claim u ve been in dis country? Smh

What has this got to do with being in the country? I live in this country if you care to know.

The point is, let them state their reasons. They should not assume that we know it already. If you are proposing/opposing a motion, it is only reasonable that you present your reasons.

People should learn to present their arguments/views clearly. All that they said is 'don't contest' but no reason was given. If they have a case let them present it.

If it was suicide, then his last joke wasn't funny at all. Life is vanity.

If this is true, then we can do better. Nigeria has always had a lot of potential. It's time to turn that potential energy to kinetic energy that will propel and bring about visible change.

Good. Only let the funds be used appropriately.

Good. We just need to focus on how to tackle this problem. We don't have to run to another country for help at every slight problem we encounter. We can tackle our problems if we eliminate this common thought that we always have to seek help from others.

If problems could be solved by giving ultimatum then Nigeria would have progressed to a very great extent considering the fact that many ultimata have been given on different issues in the past.

It is more honorable to accept defeat when it's obvious. Somebody was bound to loose. If politicians really seek for the good of the people (as they always say), then they should know that they can contribute to progress without necessarily being on the 'throne'..

Bringing back to life for those who have not seen this yet...

Don't let failure weigh you down. Life is not a competition. Let the success of others be a source of inspiration rather than a ground for competition. You define your life your own way, one step at a time..

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The problem with cramming is that the knowledge does not stick to your brain. Also when an applied question is posed, the 'crammer' becomes stranded. But I think cramming is being encouraged by this our system where the lecturers are interested in getting their notes/textbooks reproduced for them on the exam answer sheets rather than applied knowledge.

Having an autistic child can be very challenging

RIP.

I recommend a visit to a specialist in brain and nervous system diseases (a neurologist). This specialist has the expertise to diagnose the cause of his seizure and recommend the most appropriate treatment, if any. If a specific cause is identified, treatment may help to control the risk of future occurence.

Treatment will likely include anticonvulsant drugs like Tegretol (carbamazepine), Phenytoin, etc. The choice of medication has to be discussed with the doctor to prevent adverse effects that could worsen the situation.

Good luck.

Descartes: This you statement get as e be o o,
Note, for a Candidate vying for any political office to be assured victory,
There must be Necessary and Sufficient conditions to be met,
The necessity been that he must belong to a political party, and the party provides some assistance both financially, strategically, etc
While the sufficient condition is that he must be sellable to the electorates
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You have a point. But what I meant is the belief in some quarters that being in APC or PDP guarantees victory. Like you said, if the candidate is not 'sellable' he will not win no matter which party he belongs to. (that is if people vote objectively)

On a general note, it is political immaturity to think that belonging to a particular party will ensure victory. We need to put aside that mentality and think and vote objectively based on the leadership potential of the candidates and their ability to bring about the much needed change for good.

GboyegaD: I have a problem with you saying I shouldn't expect to be paid back if I am lending a family member money as what that suggest is I shouldn't lend. I think the situation should depend on who I am lending money to and what I think of the person's credibility and ability to pay back.

I think the reason why they don't pay back is because they think that since you're family, you should be able to help without expecting anything in return but they forget that everyone has needs and that one works for the money. I think one should spell out the terms and conditions before giving out the money if you expect to be paid back. If it is not made clear that the money is a loan, you're most likely not going to be paid back. There are however some people that you give money and you know that they cannot pay back, so in such cases, it would have to come from you as a gift..

According to a health article on the New York Times website, Depo-Provera is very effective in preventing pregnancies. About 3 in 100 women who use it become pregnant. Because of the long lag time between ending treatments and restoration of fertility, Depo-Provera is not recommended for women who are thinking of becoming pregnant within 2 years. Most users of Depo-Provera stop menstruating altogether after a year. Depo can cause persistent infertility for up to 22 months after the last injection, although the average is 10 months.

Long-term (more than 2 years) use of Depo-Provera can cause loss of bone density. Depo-Provera’s label warns that the decline in bone density increases with duration of use and may not be completely reversible even after the drug is discontinued. It is recommended that Depo-Provera should not be used for longer than 2 years unless other birth control methods are inadequate.

NB: She still needs to see a doctor for proper advice.

Desxter: Read..read...! Dos we no no d kind books tu read_ atleast una 4mention _ meaningful books wey una don read ..

The idea is to read meaningful books that will add value to you. Regardless of what you read, make sure it contains useful and meaningful information from which you can benefit from in the long run. You can go to any good bookshop and ask for books on any subject that interests you. Books on business, money management, family, economics, health or books in your chosen career. There are a lot of good books out there. You're the one to decide on your area of interest and then choose the books accordingly.

hydeka: A good evening read@op People of value cannot be ignored or treated anyhow. I have had to compete with some people for certain things and most times when I loose out, I discover that the other guys were better and when I get what I want, it meant I had an edge over the others. I read books a lot but i've not created much time for that recently but I think I need to get back to it.

Yeah, you sure need to create more time to read. It broadens one's horizon. You gain exposure from reading about different subjects. I have had my power of imagination sharpened by reading some books. And one good thing is, if you really got the message of the book, you unconsciously find yourself acting it out. Books shape peoples lives.

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The world has high regard for value. Nobody gives attention to things that are of little or no value.
Value here is " the quality that renders something/someone desirable or useful"
As humans, we are more valuable than any other thing on this planet. But even among us, there are people who have distinguished themselves by adding more value to themselves. They went ahead to do certain things that everyone else has refused to do.

Why are some people thriving in spite of the bad economy?
Why are businesses holding unto certain individuals and refusing to let them go?
Why are some people still holding on to their spouses even in the face of challenges?
Why would people prefer to listen to Mr. A and not Mr. B?

The common answer to these questions is that these people have made themselves indispensable by adding more value to their lives.
In this post, I will try to give tips on how to add more value to yourself and ultimately become useful to your world. I will be specific to different groups of individuals in order to drive the point nearer home.
I have tried to be as brief as possible. Please stay with me.

To the graduates, sadly, it's no longer a big deal that you're a graduate. Nigeria already has many and many more are still coming. What will distinguish you from the others is your worth, that is, what you can offer-that extra thing that every other person lacks. This calls for diversity. There are many persons seeking for limited job opportunities these days. All of them present their certificates, but the guys who have added more value to themselves by learning an additional skill and gaining experience while in search of a job will most likely get the job. People are looking for assets not liabilities. There are many graduates today who are sitting at home and waiting to be called up for a job. The question is, what can you offer now? It is adviceable that instead of wasting your time sitting around, get busy with something productive. Read books that will give you exposure, books on how businesses operate, self improvement books that will improve your communication skills etc. Also learn a skill whether or not it's related to your field. If it's related to field, good, but if not, still keep yourself busy because no knowledge or experience is a waste.

The world is dynamic and things change. Gone are the days when people only knew things in their field with little or no knowledge about any other. There is now an inter-mingling of disciplines. These days, just a degree in your course will not do. For instance, you have to be computer literate. Don't tell me 'I know how to boot the computer' that is not enough! I mean, apart from the basic computer operations, you have to know how the computer is applied in your field.
Before now, artists only concerned themselves with brush, pencil and paint but now there's Photoshop, Cinema 4D, etc. It means that only your brush and paint won't do anymore. The engineers and architects also have their own software, so do musicians. So, get busy and add more value to what you already know. There is so much information these days for you to remain ignorant.
I personally can play the piano and wish to own a recording studio someday. But just knowing how to play the piano is not enough to run my studio. It may have been possible some years back but now if I must have a successful studio, I need to learn how to use my piano skills with the various music production softwares such as Fl Studio, Nuendo or Magix etc to create and mix my sounds. I know a little about that already but it's not good enough because when compared to professional sound producers, I'm an amateur! So I need to improve if I really want to achieve my goal. Oh, I forgot to mention this earlier - I'm not a graduate of music! In fact, I'm in the science field.

So as you add more value to yourself you'll discover that you don't have to wait for anybody to employ you - you can become the employer of labour.

For the single lady, while you're looking forward to getting married, engage yourself with things that will make you a good wife when it finally happens. You can learn skills that will earn you an income if you've not found a job yet. Learn how to cook if you’ve not. You may say “No need, I’ll simply get a maid or a cook’’ Of course the maid can do the cooking but fact is, your future husband would so much love to eat meals prepared by his wife.

For the single man, prepare and equip yourself to be a good husband. Don't go into anything blindly especially if you have the opportunity of learning a thing or two about it beforehand. It gives you an edge over everyone else. Learn and apply ways to earn and manage money.

Now to married men. There are educated married men who have little or no knowledge about how to handle a home/family. Their finances are scattered, no definite goal for the family etc. It should not be. There are a lot of families who are doing well and it would not do you any harm to seek advice from them. You can also buy and read books on how to run a home. Read a thing or two about women to help you understand your wife, read on how to raise kids, how to handle teenagers etc. Also find time to help around the house. By doing this, you're making yourself a home management 'expert' and with time, someone is going to be knocking on your door for some advice. That's value. Try as much as possible to be the best husband and father that you can be to your family.

To the wives. Some wives don't know how to cook certain dishes that their husbands like but rather than learning it, they make the man to eat whatever they can prepare. The man may not complain but he will appreciate you more if you take that extra step to learn to prepare the meal he likes. There are also wives who don't have any business/job and don't intent to engage in any. This is not a safe ground to thread. I know that people have different opinions on this but the thing is, no one knows tommorrow. Your husband may be happy providing all the money but he'll be more happy to know that he has a wife who can survive without him. You may not necessarily have to run a business that will always require your presence and as such distract you from your family. You can also get into a business that you can do from home. There are a lot of them, find out. Your husband can also setup a business in your name. The bottom line is, be enterprising.
I remember during the long ASUU strike of 2013, some wives of lecturers had to take up a greater part of supporting the family when their husbands' savings started running out. Some baked wedding cakes while others engaged one form of little business or the other. That's resourcefulness.
Also, find time to read books about important things concerning family. You can learn in a few days what it took someone 30 years to learn by reading a book. This makes you a better partner than the average woman who does none of these things. Strive to the best mum to your kids.

There are many people who support and hold on to their spouses and would not trade them for anything even in troubled times because they know that he/she is worth more than any other man/woman. That inspite of the present challenge, they will get back on their feet because they have within them what it takes to be successful. But when the reverse is the case, the future of the family becomes endangered because both lack what it takes to face the challenge at hand.

To the worker/employee, make yourself valuable at work. Try to improve your skills. Continually read books and attend seminars to keep you informed on the current trends in your career. Upgrade your knowledge and experience in your career. This makes you better than the other workers who are stuck in their old knowledge and ways of doing things. This is called developing your human capital. There are some persons who cannot be unemployed for more than a week because they have so much value that everyone wants to have them in their work force. They have made themselves relevant in their field and with time they become employers of labour too. Strive to be that kind of person. Be committed to giving your best to your job and learning all there is to learn about your job.

To everyone in general especially young people (who make up a greater percentage of members on this forum).
Learn to develop your skills by utilizing every available training. Expand your knowledge by reading books, articles and anything related to your talent or the skill you want to work on. There is a lot of information available on any subject you can think of, therefore, avail yourself of the opportunity. Be current about latest trends and advancements.

Explore your creative side. There is a fountain of creativity within most of us that has never been tapped or never been used to its highest potential. Try writing that book, try learning to play that musical instrument, try making that jewelry, try painting etc. When you do this, you may just discover a talent that has been hidden in you all these years.

Nurture your mind. Gain more knowledge. Grow your mental ability. Read, read, read. Don't just watch TV and movies. Virtually all highly successful people do some form of daily educational reading. Regardless of what they read, they make sure it contains useful and meaningful information from which they can benefit from in the long run. Statistics show that the average person reads less than 1 book per year. If you could read 1 book per week, that would mean about 52 books per year. Now imagine what an advantage that will give you over everyone else.

Always be open to learn. There is an old saying which goes thus 'the more you know, the more you realize you don't know' Only foolish people say they know everything. Have an open mind and learn. Never be afraid to ask for help from those who are ahead of you on your path.


The points raised in this post may seem a little difficult to accomplish but as long as you set your mind to do them, you will. Please note that these points are inexhaustive as I do not have the luxury of time and space to go into more detailed explanations.

Finally, for emphasis sake, let me cap it up by saying that if you must be the indispensable graduate, spouse or worker, strive to add more value to yourself. It places you above everyone else and it makes you more useful to others. It is only a person who has value that can add value to others. So, from today, make yourself an asset.

Phew! Quite a long post, huh? Thank you for not falling asleep!

Now your feedback...

What have you done to add more value to yourself? Please share with us. Your contributions are welcome.

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It is our desire that it be peaceful. Everyone should work towards that. If it turns violent, everyone will be on the edge irrespective of your political affiliations. Let's all work together for peace. Young men and women, don't waste your lives for these politicians who don't even know your names.