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Mmm it's a tough challenge, I understand to you really something that ur not used to, but I really feel that u should have been attending his church before marriage and should have easily detected the issue, but never the less, u should have a heart to heart talk with ur husband, if u don't want to follow him to his church u are an adult let him know that , he doesn't have right to stop u from any church u wish to attend, but u should also consider that ur family might break if u take that stance, so I think it's better if u get elderly people to reason with him, let him know that I could still work, u have seen families with different religion entirely talk less of just different churches, if u really want to save ur marriage just let him understand with love and not by force.[color=#000000][/color][color=#000099][/color]

doggedfighter:
Do cultists live long enough to graduate?

Plenty, who do u think those things in political offices are... Some of them no dey follow dey fight again... Na the foolish ones dey die now adays...

Naijayouth:
I simply know that secession is not the solution to Nigeria's problem.
But what is really the solution?


The Solution to our Problem is SIMPLE.

The Solution to Our Problem is UNDERSTANDING, UNIONISM and UTILIZATION of Our Human and Natural Resources.


It is the Responsibility of the Youths of Nigeria to Redirect Their Energies and Focus to being USEFUL For Themselves and The Society rather than Engage in AGITATIONS.


Why FIGHT AND PROTEST When You can ALIGN And PROPOSE

We should be writing and submitting SENSITIZATION PROPOSALS To People in Government Positions... That's How To Eat from The National Cake.

You don't EAT From The National Cake by PROTESTING. This way, the cake would get messed up.

Do u know how many letters have been written Do u know how many proposals have been submitted Do u think this men care Let me tell u just for get all these things that u are saying...

How fa abeg where una dey see oyinbo marry na...

The same way I was against chidimma ... So am I against this man let him face the full wrath of the law... There is no excuse for murder... If u kill... i understand that u'll rot in jail...

takimsipho:
YOU'RE A FOOL. Show me the section of the law that states that the punishment of cheating is death. When that Ghanaian pastor killed his wife in Texas USA, shey everybody was calling the man all sorts of names and saying even if the wife was cheating she didn't deserve to die. So a woman that cheats doesn't deserve to die but a man who cheats should die abi. Let me inform you, culpable homicide is not beans, and your sentiments will have no effects whatsoever on the police investigation or court proceedings

U dey mind am... Just ignore them jare ...

hammer3x:
U CANNOT TELL ME A 50 YEAR OLD MARRIED MAN, WENT AND CARRIED A 21 YEAR OLD GIRL.


THEN LOCK THE ROOM, WHERE SHE IS STAYING WITH YOU AND HIDING THE KEY.


ORDERING DRUGZ, TAKING AND SMOKING WITH HER.


RAPING AND BEATING HER UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF DRUGZ.



NIGERIANS CAN DO BETTER THAN IGNORE ALL THE AFOREMENTIONED FACTOR THAT ACTUALLY KILLED HIM.


I INSIST THAT CHIDINMA WITHOUT THE INFLUENCE OF DRUGZ WOULD NOT HAVE KILLED HIM.

She said she went to buy food and drugs... So he didn't lock the door... And she was the person that chose the flat they rented so she should have felt safe or that was her usual place of work... The girl no get defense na just nonsense she dey talk... Person wey u had sex with wan come rape u Like how And how was she able to stab the man not once, twice, but four to five times and u say it's self defense ... No meaningful court would accept that...

Exodora:
She didn't kill him for not paying him , she only killed him in self defense .
She wanted out but he wouldn't let her and he held her that she was almost choking all she could lay hand on was a knife in defence.
Don't know why people always hide away from the truth .

She never said anything about choking ooo... Make una no dey lie dey add Jara... So because am a girl I should stab a man abi Because am 18 years I should murder a man in cold blood If she wasn't with the man for sex what was she dere for

[quote author=BarrSly post=103120574]No geeee you getting it all wrong. It’s toxic when you are being aggressive about it all. Our brother here showed some love but apparently isn’t getting same back.

What I simply encourage and advocate for is the principle of “You give me shit I give you shit”.

Please help me ask him what toxic male masculinity is all about... it's when the guy gets heart broken , commits suicide that he would now prove to be humane This world is cold hearted ... Sometimes u just have to be too... Just ignore her bro... When u see a better person don't even tell her let her find out by her self and don't ever let her into ur life again...

SpringofLife:
Thank God you refrained from concluding yet. And of course, nobody ties me to the job but reading through it, you should understand I'm very far from happiness seeing myself where I am. Comprehensibly, the post is actually not aimed at generating the 50k as mentioned but rather a better employment opportunity. As for the teaching job, schools were among the places I applied but never got the job. Thank you for your concern.

But how would u graduate with 2:1 and not get a teaching job... There is something wrong... Don't u have family members... Don't u have village people...

mrfreestuff:
You didn't grow up amongst academically strong company. UNILAG has the best Engineering school and that remains the only Engineering school that will never accept you without 6 credits which must include minimum of credit in Further Maths. I particularly know that the dream of every academically strong student, especially those who grew up in Lagos, is to work very hard to secure admission placement in Engineering.
Every UNILAG student gets admission with a result above the minimum requirements of all Nigerian schools and most people hating on UNILAG don't even merit the admission or the pride of the University of Lagos, university of first choice

I'd rather rather go to UI, UNIZIK, UNN. thanks unilag...

NwaAmaikpe:




Unilag must be commended for refusing to be politically correct because Chidinma is innocent until proven guilty.

She's the victim here.
A naive young girl, tricked, bullied, drugged and sexually exploited by a man old enough to be her father.

Considering she was under the influence of drugs when the murder took place, it becomes a case of involuntary manslaughter bordering on self-defense amidst a moment of temporary insanity.

So why didn't she meet an elderly person for advice since she's a baby... She 21 a legal adult and should be made to face the wrath of the law... If u think the man is wrong too when u get to where ever the man is u can prosecute the man... The law/ morality is for/against the living and not the dead...

Calitoscassius:
Thank you! Anything else reasonable you would like to add? Fool!

What you think doesn't count.

No it does count so that I would know the animals around me... that u are an adult doesn't qualify for sense... In other words u are saying we should allow her to go on the basis that she may have been raped? But what about his family? Where then should the justice be delivered? Na wow for una sha...

PinkHealthGroup:
As much as people want to demonize this girl, Ataga was a married man with children who was doing drugs and having sex with a 21 year old girl you ger than his daughter. 21 year olds are very volatile and if he had raped her, he got what was coming to him. I feel bad for the young lady.

He got what he deserved and she too would get hers... What was she doing in a flat with a man at that age... She even confessed to having sex with him... And moreover what was her intent with having sex with a married man...

DonroxyII:
She doesn't seem like a pro of course ... a Pro may skip town and possibly skip country ... she stays and confessed ...... she said everything ... that girl is long gone dude .... Drug is mad !!
That dude just destroyed her life and his life in the process ..... He could have helped her better ... The sex is not my problem but the drug ...

Dude, please, can you be 50 and drugging-romping a 20 ... Satan really excelled in damning the two of them at once !

you should counsel her and help her not fvcking-drugging her ...

This is not rape this is a murder case... I don't think u understand the gravity of this offence she ended a man's life...nobody should counsel her ... She's an adult... U heard her father was even protecting her when they went to arrest her... You could then see why she went home But then only what do we know

Iceyjayz:
Nigga the only lunatic here is you simp! you must be a deranged lunatic by supporting a murderer, don't worry karma will visit you soon, whatever you wish others will come to you in million folds

Sometimes u really don't need to engage these people in war of words... Just leave them... He/she doesn't really have a point and they know it...

Calitoscassius:
I am not surprised you are a mysogynistic lunatic. Start with murdering the females in your own family

I actually think u don't have sense... Sha it's not free... It's for those who really need and deserve it...

[quote author=DonroxyII post=103106754]She never says she is holy-holy or a Saint ... She never says she ain't a smoker or Alcoholic..... She mentioned everything they smoked together and the alcohol too in case you see another video where she is doing shekpe.. and confessed he killed him after she was attacked by him ...
This is not news of course ...!!

Most Holy-Holy among you will deny and lie ...

She killed him and stand by herself ... she narrated how many times she stabbed him and where, where and where .... She even went home after all ...She wasn't running ... She wasn't crying ... She went home and was arrested at Home !!

Nigerians will leave that 50yo Ashawo and be crucifying her ... She will definitely get Manslaughter nor Murder !![/quote

She defended her self and took 380k for transport to go home ba Let's pray for sense for this efulefu...

pepetua:
Nigeria is a terrorist,

Am afraid of visiting Nigeria,

I'm planning to take my aged parents out of Nigeria,

I'm considering to disown Nigeria,

Nigeria has failed me.

How fa na abeg make I follow u la... I fit enter inside Ghana must go bag...

Rissimenky:
Dumbo, the herdsman crisis is a West Africa wide issue, caused by the intensifying desertification of the Sahara caused by climate change, forcing herders to migrate ever further southwards to graze their cattle.

In Nigeria, it is also exacerbated by the movement of SOUTHERN Nigerians NORTHWARDS in search of business opportunities/trade etc, meaning LESS land available for grazing there.

So YOU, southerner, are partly to blame for the land crisis in the north leading to herdsmen migrating southwards.

Tell your millions of Igbo brothers up north to return home to their Dot.com republic and free up the land up north for grazing!

And ur brothers don't do business here in the south...

Righteousness2:
Preparations in high places for the Mob system.
One world Religion
One world government
One world currency

Folks, we are the Generation that will see JESUS Christ.
The Rapture is on us!
The Signs of the times are hitting the roof.
JESUS Christ is the Only way to Eternal life
JESUS Christ is the Only way to be Saved.
There is no deputy/ Assistant Way!
There is no short cut
There is no other way!

If there fight una go say na end time ... Now they are advocating for peace u are saying end time ... Sometimes una suppose shut up... Just live yr life instead of making noise...

womenareapess:
Sure this kid must be from the tribe of Y
Those people can do anything for Toto.

But why? Better to go to those ashawo house and pay 500 naira than to date useless Naija girls

The ashawo house no be for naija e dey

ShobayoEmma:
We will not rest until Southwest becomes foremost nation in the world. So help us God.

Ode so na rail way line be technology Go Japan see bullet train make u close mouth...

mrkels:
I don’t know why they don’t want to install CCTV cameras across nigeria .

Once you do that all these nonsense would reduce .

With which light No b light Dem use dey watch CCTV Abi Dem go dey use gen

Adakintroy:
Abeg shoot them die ooo.

Them say Jonathan na the worst president since human history but now eye de turn them.

Buhari must stay. And must complete his tenure. Suffer go kill una. One Nigeria.


Anyone weh no want this great man. Shoot am die and step over him corspe.

Na corpse of ur family members Dem go step on...

Rozcol:
You still don't get it,there are certain things any lady should not overlook in a relationship, a man who doesn't priotize your needs clearly shows you are not part of his life and if you eventually marry such man he won't care about your needs and that of the kids and besides my friend is not materialistic but a reasonable man should know what to do.There was a day they went out together and he stopped to buy some banana and my friend wanted some as well,he bought his own and paid and stretch forth his stingy hands to collect money from my friend to pay for her own,who does that?stop taking sides and hit the nail on the head

What if that guy doesn't have money
What if that money is his last change
What if after paying the money he will trek home
What if that money is all he has home and abroad

See all these babes stop being witches ... Stop seeing mehn as tool for milking money... Yesterday I saw some guys clearing gutter and they were inside the gutter ooo... Something that was smelling I couldn't even pass there self ... That was what my fellow men were inside clearing... And one babe go dey complain say him collect all him money... Sha I Neva jam any babe like that and I dey seriously avoid them...

ClitRaider:
Baba cow,
Cow baba,
baba mumu,
mumu baba

hehehe bihari don suffer...


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*Twitter Ban: Evading the Law of Unintended Consequences with Systems Thinking*
Twitter was trending with multiple terms related to the state of affairs in Nigeria.
Twitter is used more as a listening tool, to keep one's finger on the pulse of things.
One look at the trending topics, and you could have a summary of current affairs for the day.
In multiple Nigerian terms on the trending section, one thought the app was experiencing a glitch, showing him trending topics.
After a few seconds, one can realised what the real situation was. There was no glitch after all.
Here’s the breakdown of what happened.
Whenever something tragic or contentious occurred in Nigeria, the citizens would tweet about it, and the topic would trend - TO NIGERIANS.
This meant that even though the complaints and agitations of the citizens were being posted to the public social media platform, the issues seldom ever registered as the trending topics of other countries.
However, there was a twist here which leads us to the Law of Unintended Consequences.
The Nigerian Government banned twitter and this led the mammoth Nigerian youth population to download VPNs to bypass the ban.
On most VPNs, the United States is the default or preferred location.
And so millions of Nigerians who would normally tweet and register their discontent as the trending topics of Nigeria, were now registering the issues on the trend list of the United States.
Americans woke up today confused by terms such as ‘IPOB’, ‘Buhari’ and ‘Malami’.
If the Nigerian government had not banned Twitter, the displeasure of Nigerians would have been localised.
In the wake of the ban, the displeasure of Nigerians was being broadcast to the centre of the world through VPNs, creating global awareness for a matter that would have otherwise remained local.
Most Nigerian VPN users didn’t plan for this effect. It was just an unintended consequence of using VPNs, albeit a welcome one.
Another unintended consequence here is that Nigerians may have now learned how to ensure that topics of agitation are registered on the trends lists of the United States - by mobilizing Nigerians to tweet via VPNs with the US as their virtual location.
The Law of Unintended Consequences can be avoided by utilizing a thinking tool called Second Order Thinking.
*Second Order* *Thinking* posits that there is more than meets the eye when solving problems, and that by solving one problem, we may inadvertently create another problem.
We must therefore rigorously apply Second Order Thinking and even Third Order Thinking in order to arrive at an Ecological solution.
I’ll explain this using another lesson from history.
Back when the British ruled India, thus faced a problem with a rising population of venomous cobras in Delhi.
To solve this problem, the British colonialists launched a bounty program, offering a cash prize for every cobra that was killed.
All the residents had to do, was to kill a cobra and present its body to the British government and claim the reward.
However, the business-minded Indians devised a plan to ‘optimise’ their rewards - they would breed cobras privately, kill them, present the dead cobras to the British and collect the cash reward.
The British were initially delighted to see that cobras were being killed in large numbers.
On the surface, the bounty programme appeared to be a raving success - 1ST ORDER THINKING.
The British soon found out about the breeding operations and terminated the bounty programme - 2ND ORDER EFFECTS.
This now meant that the Indian snake breeders were left with many snakes that could not be sold, and so they set them all free.
There were now more cobras all over Delhi after the bounty programme than when it was first started - 3RD ORDER EFFECTS.
What does this mean for you?
As with the stories of the Twitter ban and the British bounty programme, we must seek to solve problems by seeing the whole landscape rather than what is readily apparent.
We must consider not only the First Order Effects of our decisions, but also their Second and even Third Order Effects.
This overarching strategy is called SYSTEMS THINKING, and Second Order thinking is just one component of it.
Let’s look at another hypothetical application of this powerful thinking tool.
Say you were the Founder/CEO of a Billion Dollar corporation and one of your founding executives was found to be engaged in fraudulent activity.
What would you do?
Well, a First Order approach to this problem would be to simply fire this individual.
Second Order thinking would examine any potential consequences of dismissing this person.
On further investigation, you may then realize that this person may choose to express their disgruntlement by joining a competing organization and use company secrets to strengthen your opposition.
Of course you could go to court, but your lawyers graduated from Harvard Law and would charge millions of dollars to duel with your adversary over the coming months and years.
Considering the cost of the Second Order effects of a straight dismissal, you may wish to act ignorant of the act of fraud and do something else instead.
Create a small office in a far away country which is inconsequential to overall brand image and profitability.
Puff up his ego by offering him the role of Country Manager or ‘General Manager - Diaspora Relations’.
This fraudster would feel valued and stay on your side, while being tactically stripped of the ability to continually perpetrate fraud.
You solved the First Order problem of fraud, cancelled out the chances of future fraud and potentially saved the company millions of dollars in legal fees.
This strategy is used at the highest levels of power - across politics, organized crime organizations, business and even organized religion.
Read this a couple of times over and make your notes on how this can offer solutions past and future obstacles in your life.
As Solomon famously wrote,
"For wisdom is a defence, and money is a defence: but the excellency of knowledge is, that wisdom giveth life to them that have it.----Ecclesiastes 7:12
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Re: Twitter Ban Has Made Nigerians Realised That VPN Makes Topic Trend Easier In Us
by Eyesage : 11:39am
Super ordinary thinking!!
Just reading this left me with numerous lessons.
Thanks.
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Re: Twitter Ban Has Made Nigerians Realised That VPN Makes Topic Trend Easier In Us
by Penguin2 : 11:42am
In other words, Buhari shot himself in the anus
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Re: Twitter Ban Has Made Nigerians Realised That VPN Makes Topic Trend Easier In Us
by Olavic7 ( m): 11:48am
When you want to plan a journey, don't just plan the going and coming, also ensure planning the masceleaneous that may occur during the journey so that you will not eventually be redicule. Likewise, when you want to take a decision. Study both the negative and positive outcome of it before implementing it orelse may latter bomerang. Such is the case of the federal government who allowed their emotion to control their decision, forgotten that emotionalism can eliminate behaviouralism.
#OLAVIC7

Nice... Action and effect...

UrVillagePpl:
Thanks a million Sir. I appreciate

Please how do I get ur number so that we would communicate... I want to do my masters there to...

I think 25 is ok for me sha... But before 27 I should have gotten a kid at least...