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I feel much ‘safer’ talking about this now.

I am so sick of the constant bickering between Yorubas and Igbos.

I am sick of you all coming for each other’s throat non stop.

Where does it end? Do you all actually have the interest of this country at heart because you do NOT.

You are playing to the gallery of the ruling class. Playing exactly what they cooked for you.

I am extremely disappointed in millennials and Gen Z’s especially.

I thought we were different? I thought we were better? instead we have successfully shown again and again that we can be manipulated and played like football.

Why can’t you people take a fuxxing second and take a few steps back to actually understand your differences?

Yorubas and Igbos are NOT the same and will never be the same. Not in this generation or the next.

The way we raise our children are very different. Our culture is very different, our religion, our way of life.

We have very little that is cross dimensional between us. But somehow we have managed to make it work till now.

Yorubas consistently accuse Igbos of being rude. Not just on social media but in real life. But if you take a few seconds to actually understand how Igbos were brought up and raised, you will understand that they do not have a culture where they defer to authority. They do not have a culture of silence in the face of wrongdoing or persecution. The way they will talk to you a yoruba person is the exact way they will talk to an Igbo or Hausa person. It has NOTHING to do with you and you need to take your head out of your ass.

Igbos consistently accuse Yorubas of being cowards. This narrative needs to end now. Because if you take a second to understand yoruba culture, you will understand that we DEFER to authority. We have obas, kings, community leaders whose opinions ‘matter’ than ours. It is how we were ‘raised’. I once saw a comment that said we had few yoruba feminists because Yorubas were raised in communities where equality existed. It is very untrue. We have a culture where we are not allowed to question anything. Sure women can be family leaders, but you can not challenge authority and get away with it. We are so hell bent on what ‘respect’ means that many of us get angry when we don’t see it in others.

I will give you a personal example. Growing up, everytime I introduced my friends to my uncle he said in yoruba (you are always moving with omo Igbo, don’t you have yoruba friends?).

As I grew older, I realized why he raised that point. Because I became very different from the typical yoruba girl child. I will not respect any elder who doesn’t respect himself or herself. Respect has always been reciprocal to me even as a teenager. So if you disrespect me in anyway, you are getting it right back. And I know now that he thought I was being influenced by ‘Omo Igbo’.

I am even way worse now as an adult. I respect everyone who comes my way. But if you bring any disrespect close to me, doesn’t matter if you are 19 or 79, you will receive it in equal dose and measure pressed down, shaken together and running over. AKA, you will collect and you won’t do it again.

If you compare me to all the yoruba girlfriends I have had in my entire life, I am an anomaly and different.

If you compare me to all the Igbo girlfriends I have had in my life, we are extremely similar in character and personality.

You need to consider how people were raised when you are dealing with them. Because despite the initial gragra a lot of the Gen Z and millennial Igbos exhibit on social media, a lot of them only want what’s best for Nigeria. Not what’s best for Anambra or Enugu. They are wholly and fully Nigeria centric when it comes to politics and growth. As much as it sucks for you to admit, they will vote a very competent Yoruba person or a competent Hausa person over an incompetent Igbo person. And it all boils down to their upbringing. They do not defer to authority no matter who you are.

Yorubas are very welcoming. One of the most welcoming if not the most in Nigeria. A yoruba person will open their one bedroom house to 5 other people. Take it or leave it, I genuinely believe we are the most welcoming ethnic group in Nigeria. I also know we are not the most industrious neither are we pace setters. And right after the north east, we are next in line to choose tribe over competence.

You all need to stop insulting your cultures, traditions, religion, food and everything else in between.

So many times I have read on Facebook how yorubas cook terrible food. It’s extremely rude and insensitive when you post stupid things like how can anyone use tomato in egusi.
Sure you don’t use it in yours and if you wanted to learn, you will actually post and ask a reasonable question.

It doesn’t matter if Yorubas use a gallon of palm oil to cook their soup, it’s none of your business. If you don’t want to eat it, walk away. You can call out bullshit and still respect other people’s culture. You can banter with your friends offline but don’t get it twisted, Nigeria is not developed enough for us to have more than jollof wars. Any slurs against another tribe’s food or culture will automatically send signals up their spine.

There is a subset of each tribe that hates each other. But you better believe when I tell you that it’s a very small subset. Because once we step outside Nigeria, we automatically forget our tribes.

There are so many differences that we have and you need to take it into account when dealing with each other. The way that Mary expresses her anger with me is different from the way Tana expresses her anger with me and the way Toyo expresses her anger with me and the way Kate expresses her anger with me.

These are 4 different girls from 4 different cultures. But the way that Mary handles issues is the way most of my Igbo girlfriends handle issues. The way that Toyo handle issues is the way most of my yoruba friends handle issues. The way that Kate handle things is the way that most of my white friends including my ex’s handle issues.
Because despite the fact that each individual is different, we are all shaped by our cultures and traditions. And while cultures can sometimes be stereotypical, this is where individual differences comes into play.

And if you want to learn how to handle people, you need to first learn their culture and respect it.

A typical Indian person at work will most likely use sir or ma to address you. They will respect you but you bet your ass they won’t stand up for you. They will protect their own over you. A white person won’t use sir or ma for you, but the non racist one will protect you over their own. And once you understand these cultural differences, you learn how to better navigate relationships.

Instead of spending all your time on social media bickering and cursing each other out, learn each other’s culture and learn how to communicate with each other.
--- Omotoyosi Ogunbanwo (copied)

Elnora D. Daniel was born in Oxford, North Carolina, on November 19, 1941, the eldest daughter of a butcher and a mechanic. After graduating from high school in 1959, Daniel went to North Carolina A&T University, earning her B.S. degree in 1964. Following her graduation, Daniel relocated to New York and began attending Columbia University, where she earned her M.Ed. degree in 1968. Daniel continued her studies at William and Mary in Williamsburg, Virginia, in 1972, before returning to Columbia for her Ed.D. degree in 1975.

Daniel began her career working as a nurse at the New York Medical Center following her graduation from North Carolina A&T. Once she returned to school, Daniel worked as a teaching assistant at Columbia until 1976. In 1980, Daniel became dean of Hampton University, in addition to working as an instructor. Daniel became the administrator for the Interdisciplinary Nursing Center for Health and Wellness at Hampton in 1985, and the vice president of academic affairs in 1991. In 1995, Daniel became provost of the university, a position she retained for three years. Chicago State University offered Daniel the presidency in 1998, and she accepted; she went on to serve as both the president and the CEO of CSU. Under Daniel's leadership, CSU constructed a number of new facilities; balanced budgets; and saw significant increases in gifts received. Daniel was also appointed by the W.K. Kellogg Foundation to serve as a healthcare consultant for several African nations, including Zimbabwe and Swaziland.

In addition to her scholastic endeavors, Daniel earned the rank of colonel in the U.S. Army Reserve Nurse Corps in 1991; was been active with the Stillwater Institute for Social Justice; and served as a consulting editor for the Journal of the National Black Nurses' Association. Daniel also served on the boards of numerous museums and several philanthropic foundations. In 2003, Miller Brewing Company recognized Daniel on the 2003 Gallery of Greats Calendar, honoring "academic dream weavers." Daniel and her husband, Herman, raised one child.

marvellous2222:
tinubu can't have mercy on this man, until he vomit the last kono

Temporary on aso seat

Did this slowpoke thought about the amount of crude oil deposits in Nigeria. That bad governments policies brought up these sufferings.

"If i'm sleeping and wake up to hear Yorubas beating the drum of war, i'll go back to sleep" - IBB, 1993.

Bola Tinubu fortunately in this circumstances is a Yoruba, so Nigeria is not going to war in Niger Republic. Go back to sleep is the instruction.
It takes two to tango. Tinubu is standing alone in this regard. The north have disappointed him.
Illegality is embodiment of lies, Lies does last.

Odin13:
Only Yoruba people are supporting their god on this Niger matter ..

But for them to face the north and their elders that has been loud against their god.. na haram to Yoruba ..

But to others .. it’s wisdom..

They will abuse and curse any other going against their almight useless drug imp.

Yoruba guess northern elders are Ipob and bitter obidients?

Tinubu the imp must invade Niger .. otherwise he remain a useless god .. and the greatest of all Yoruba god .. dead and alive ..

Naturally Yoruba and garagara are interrelated. They talk Jinja without throwing one punch.

Angelfrost:
Pump prices should hit #900 per liter by December...!

If they like sell it #1,500 like dollar speculations Igbos must travel for Xmas. Government should also spread cement licence than to continue with Dangote Monopoly.

There comes in every man's life when you must speak the truth no matter what, no matter who is involved.
Regardless of tribe, ethnicity, gender, social statues, party affiliations or political interests, personal emotions and related sentiments.
My prime point; Is Bola Ahmed Tinubu the best thing happening in the country Nigeria today?
What is the economic benefits of exchange rate 1$ for #950? Turning around to pay #90,000 for 45mins local flights. Petrol between #590-650 per litre depending the petrol station or the location. No price control!!
Food and other essentials are nolonger affordable.
My next question is; what have APC government done good that may motivate a sane mind to give them votes to continue for another 4years or possible 8yrs?
To Agbadorians who are wishfully waiting for Tinubu's victory in the tribunal, I humbly recommend psychological counseling and psychiatric care for you because in all these high cost of living salaries and wages remains the same. No upgrades for salaries/wages structures or sign or intention to add values to workers hence crime rate keep escalating to heights.
Who cause these incalculable situations? Goodluck Jonathan or PDP i think ?
My Olaniyi brothers, sisters, friends and fanatical supporters of APC have lost strength for arguments. Slowly they are vanishing from social media as usual. Acting before thinking is represented in their DNA... Packing my bags.

onuman:
Like others of APC stock.
As if roads are all govs were elected to build.
APC governments don't understand that supply of treated portable water is the number one obligation of government to citizens.

How do you transfer equipment for construction? One step at a time.

IconicR:
We have our eyes on him. We expect wonders from him as a reverend father. By the way where is Obi? There's this sudden silence vibes I'm getting from him recently, has he conceded to defeat or what could he be up to?

Emancipation from mental stupidity is ideal.

Ikaeniyan0:
Tinubu is right

The Nigerian president argued his academic records should not be released because they fell under a 1974 privacy law for American students.

Tinubu is protected by the 1974 privacy law for students who schooled in the USA.
Why is he fighting to hide his credentials? Are they not meant for public scrutiny?

Chicago state university confirmed the president of Nigeria attended and graduated with distinction and he also presented his BSc to INEC as his highest qualification while obi presented a GCE result as his highest qualification.

Atiku is scrutinizing Tinubu's acedemic records and not Obi. GCE met INEC stipulations and requirements. Obi wouldn't have stop any kind of verification about is CVs. What is Tinubu hiding?

Sonnobax15:

How some people see people sent on a peace-makiing mission as an embarrassment still baffles me....

They are national disgrace as the person who sent them. They supposed known better. The Nigerian military are facing terrible situations across the nation. More than 50 soldiers lost their lives in IMO state last week no media printed it, our economy is in shambles, hunger and hardship bitting hard on citizens that need declaration of state of emergency. Let Tinubu mind his business and stop these stupid hypocrisy.

insidelife22:
Arms crossed, the seven days ultimatum is up, what's next?

Meetings upon meetings

Acekidc4:
Who Cares 🤨 God will always provide easily for people who wants to travel outside the country. The closure of Niger air space is Nobody's fault.

Some Mumu will still Blame Tinubu for this ooooooo🤨🤔

F.o.o.ls no de finish.

Vision you said. Shame on you.

TemplarLandry:

Like I said earlier, President Tinubu is a great leader, he knows how to make them see reason.

I dedicate “Cloak & Dagger” by Burna Boy feat. J. Hus to Jagaban. Great jam!

Enjoy his greatness while it last

Generalmystic:
And to Ijaw nation, Kalabari in particular, which o owe my maternity to, this mad dog shouldn't be allowed to gaud our youths to their early grave. Asari Dokubo is bringing bad name to greater Ijaw nation which he claims to be part of. It's high time we tell him where he came from. Ijaws are not known to be stupid and braggadocios

Are you sure? When your resources have been northern project yet they are your best friends. Ijaw nation supposed to be ahead of time if you mean well for your generation.

[quote author=Generalmystic post=124838040]And to Ijaw nation, Kalabari in particular, which o owe my maternity to, this mad dog shouldn't be allowed to gaud our youths to their early grave. Asari Dokubo is bringing bad name to greater Ijaw nation which he claims to be part of. It's high time we tell him where he came from. Ijaws are not known to be stupid and braggadocios [/quote

Are you sure? When your resources have been northern project yet they are your best friends. Ijaw nation supposed to be ahead of time if you mean well for your generation.

IconicR:
Seriously something should be done fast, they should reduce work days till further notice and increase minimum wage. Let's not give obidients any right to say rubbish about this government

Foolishness instigated by tribalism demands phychratic attention.

irunoko:


Wait first but I thought they said there was no shooting what happened? Abi Una don suddenly forget Una lie

Buhari APC expired with their lies

SIONKPO1:
Some floods are caused by human

Yes indeed. Maybe by Peter Obi or Nnamdi Kanu.

JAMO84:
Awa oyel money people are busy cursing the north, while their leaders back home are looting with confidence

Is stupidity your problem or

Battlefield2:
This country is doomed
We react negatively to anything and everything
If it was Peter Obi or Atiku that won this presidential election, Na so Apc/Tinubu camp go dey fire any of their decision, either good or bad
What I have to say is that.....You have to learn to crawl before walking
Nigeria was dead under Buhari, and it will start working again
I have my full trust for BAT!
The Old man will get Nigeria and Nigerian kicking again!

Nigeria will work again
By borrowing and sharing? What will produce the funds to service this debt. In simple economics I understand that loans attracts interest.

finegirl233:
The 8k no make sense but we fit manage am like that. But i'm not too sure if the money will reach the common man.
COVID-19 pallatives is a good case study

What are you going to manage with #8,000? Is your poverty up to that level? How much is one medium size pot of soup?

Nvestor02:
Adviser is only for the people you trusted and know their capacity. Tinubu did well when he appoint these people when he was governor of Lagos.

Let them recreate what happened in Lagos in Nigeria at large. Advisers is not a national position, it's just a qualify people that Tinubu feel better around.

The problem of Nigeria is that, we pick Tribalism over better Nigeria. Tinubu Ministerial position will show how care of him to the diversity of Nigeria.

Thank God you don't accuse him of islamizing Nigeria this time.

Stop these stories of favoritism that leads to no where. Very temporal anyway.

Maxymilliano:
Lol ... The Authority should look into the company that supplied the components.

Equipements such as these are not what can be hawked or purchased from roadsides.

Who told you? The components can be vandalise or dismantle for different proposes. Watch out. On demand.

001Lagos:
you're always dedicating boring songs to ever sensible question being thrown at you

Don't you think that you need a job I ask again?

Forget it

CoronaVirusRelo:
🐖🐗🐷 will be so hurt and pained!

They think the South-South play politics of hate!

Why SS still has 99% chance of still ruling Nigeria before an Igbo man.

The SS has emancipated and only rooting for what will benefit their region! They don’t insult other tribes and are welcoming to strangers!

Go to Rivers and Bayelsa and see how our Southern brothers welcome other tribes!

Unlike our 🐷🐗🐖 with “OUR LAND” mentality! Any little thing, they start screaming “OUR LAND”

Who

When you're ready meet engineers.

YOU are spending #20k a week? How much is minimum wage?

StrongAlphMale:
They're coming to attack and insult you now for saying this. Just watch. They'll comma Call u OSU Igbo Ipob etc for saying this. Someone even said ikoyi is more beautiful and Sane than SA. too many fools on this forum

Most of them think that power failure is normal