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hushmail: sad news indeed,
but how come all these missionaries no dey 9ja?

I am sure they'd rather go to places where they don't have to argue on doctrinal differences everyday

Walks in with radio on my head, attached is the biggest headset, nodding my head to outkast's 'ain't nobody dope as me I am so fresh and clean, can't you see I am so sexy, I am so fresh and clean' .

boolet: Ok ma, shey e tii sun ni?

By 11:33pm? Ma ti sun lo na...how far?

adexsimply:

Ma binu simi

boolet: What's this

I was tagged myself, went to the first page, read and played.

dvdon: Thunder fire her...


Ermm.... I have no point sha.

well, can't say for those that have no points though.

Why anyone has to insult before making their point is what I do not understand

adexsimply: AW:memory lapse
AS:memory lapse
Tag: enoquin

AW: Procastination
AS: Unfettered creativity
Tag: Boolet

Oh dear lord help us

cbrass: @enoquin this your epistle too long nw, and you ended up saying nothing...*dosed of at the second paragraphy*

You dozed or dosed? Since you did, how will you then know I ended up saying nothing?

I guess it depends on the way you want to look at the question/statement. It can be interpreted either ways. The matter is simple really?

Reply: Is it not our wedding? I don't like how you said 'my' as if you are not looking forward to our getting married.

His response: Sorry dear, no...I didn't mean it that way. You know how you women want the best weddings...

Reply: Have you ever heard me mention a big wedding? Babe, I don't like it. I am beginning to think you don't know me.

His response: I am truly sorry etcccccc

Reply: Anyway, where is the quotation for the house, can I see it? How long do you think the project will last? (Depending on what you earn) sha leave the kitchen for me oh, I will like to plan that one and decorate it as I like, that's my contribution...ehen, the master bedroom nko? Very important...what can we afford because our bedroom must be it. Have you eaten? *stand up*.

If you are christian, ask him to lead a short prayer about the project there and then. If you aren't appreciate his effort.

If you truly want to get married, ask if you guys can go to the registry. I hope what you mean by contribution isn't just buying table water .

Just know that there is nothing that cannot be communicated. Your hubby is going to say things that might not sit well with you when you get married, what will you do then? Lock him out of the bedroom, ignore him? Pick his call and when he asks, tell him the truth, that you felt sad and angry on the way he asked the question.

My 4 cents

OP, you dey make me vex. If your sister is 27, it therefore means your age starts from 28. The thing is there is no foundation to the respect you want from your sister, which is usually when you are all growing up. For example, when they were growing, my brothers used to squabble amongst themselves...hot intense squabbles, I was careful on how I helped resolved these conflicts, I tried to be neutral while carefully pointing out to the younger one on the need to respect his elder brother (the elder one was the quiet type), later I might go to the elder one if he was in the wrong and tell him how wrong he was, he was more likely to accept...now they've grown and there is mutual respect, no squabbles...except playful ones where I am called to judge for fun and which I do knowing there is already a solid foundation.

It was how my parents brought me up and how I also helped my parents bring them up (we first borns are also mini parents). No case was ever reported to my parents without the issue of respect being drummed into our heads. The only cases now in the house is when one group needs a mediator e.g parents want to reach out to my younger ones and want me to back their decision or help hit the nail on the head or one of my siblings want to have a decision swing their way and recruit my help. I like the position I am in, helps me understand dual views objectively.

Do I report my siblings to my parents? No, except to playfully tell my parents that 'their' children run me dry by eating too much

Now, your father after your report should have called your sister to sternly warn her except you are one that hadnt been or isn't taken seriously either case, you need to carefully start to change some things.

1: I give my siblings respect and they give me mine. The boys are far taller than myself but submit themselves when necessary to authority (which is not abused). Two of my siblings stay with me and the last just came down from Lagos for his post ume. I don't police them but when it's a certain time and you are not home, you better call me from wherever you are with a valid excuse.

2: I pay the bills and provide for food, sometimes go to the market (I love going anyway), sometimes cook (love cooking) if I wash the dishes, I do so because perhaps my younger sister wasn't able to for which I am thanked. I thank whoever does anything for me and they thank me whenever I do anything for them. If I come back and the house has been rigorously cleaned, i smile in appreciation and proceed to thank or hail whoever in our native dialect

3: As much as we rarely have any friction between us and I love having them with me; they know I won't hesitate telling anyone that decides to give me much trouble to leave after attempts at trying to come to a middle ground. My sister is a graduate waiting for mobilization.

Now, your sister isn't a child anymore. She is 27 and grown even though she isn't fully matured emotionally. Stop treating her like a baby. If she offends you and you cannot bear it, send her home. And if your parents plead with you, give your rules before accepting her back. The rules should be:

*Ask her to call once it has passed a certain time, tell her it's to know her whereabouts and just so you know she is okay.
*if you used to wash the plates, stop. Let her know, that's her chore. If you want to wash plates once in a while, do so...but let her take it as a favour.
*I don't see why her or your friends can't come into the house when they come visiting except your room is too small. If so, whenever you find her friends inside, politely tell them to move outside and apologize for the inconvenience.
*Demand your respect and stand no nonsense from her. Once she shouts, drag her outside and lock her out. I guess you are too self conscious and worry what your neighbours might say but they will talk either way.
*She sees you as too soft perhaps from childhood and you haven't done anything to change that too.
*She is 27, tell her to start paying the light bill. I think when people reach a certain age, they should start paying up for some things.
*As for church...touchy ground. I think she has a right to attend wherever she darn pleases...no forget say she be grown woman oh.

I guess your own job isn't too demanding. I hope you are saving and not buying everything to please her.

Lastly, sorry for the epistle

adexsimply: Chat resumes at 10pm?? Rings a bell? Like a decade ago? Don't just try me o !!!




Just start explaining now!!!!

Ermmm....

adexsimply: You!!!! don't even try it!!!

What? You think I am scared of nightmares? Explain what I did and we just might see how in the wrong you are....

Yazmin: Tap and hold the microphone icon on a contact chat and shout : UPDATE!!!!!
You would see wonders....
P.S: Dont shout too much or else it would update to 2016 UI...

Peace!!!!

You are humourously evil.

VillageBoi: I nefa see our Enoquin but she don answa!

Not yet read Sholay's scenes, will do when I get back home.

@ Enoquin... is your 'film journey' thread still available? E be like say the cyber attack wiped a lot of 2014 threads & posts. I hope they can fix it.

Hi hi, no it isn't available but it's no biggie . This is a good thread as any. Hope you are good? May likely not answer in a long while.

prof800: I dey ooo...
Where is Enoquin? I thought she was suppossd to be on this thread.
btw, have you seen this? www.nairaland.com/1813027/imagine-first-few-scenes-feature#24695852

I have issues I am trying to sort out. Will be here once that is done. Make I register my presence though....

[quote author=]Dressed for Bra7il's funeral.[/quote]More like the grim reapers. I hope that coach smiles though because his look here is quite chilling

What happened to running out when your father
started using stick on you? And even though
some Nigerian parents take beating to a
different level but they hardly continue on a
child that runs or doesn't stand up to them.
What probably happened was he perhaps in a
show of strength held the stick his father used
and because the man was humiliated at not
being able to collect the stick back resorted to
biting. You were angry and you didn't run away
to go and release your anger somewhere else,
instead you took a knife and then when that
wasn't enough took a cutlass... Mothers always
speak to your hubbys if you see them using
excessive force on your children. Some mothers
look the other way even some elder siblings too.
Parents stop beating your children when they
get to a certain age (that's if you believe in
beating as a form of correction). Your children
will not always listen to you.

What happened to running out when your father started using stick on you? And even though some Nigerian parents take beating to a different level but they hardly continue on a child that runs or doesn't stand up to them. What probably happened was he perhaps in a show of strength held the stick his father used and because the man was humiliated at not being able to collect the stick back resorted to biting. You were angry and you didn't run away to go and release your anger somewhere else, instead you took a knife and then when that wasn't enough took a cutlass... Mothers always speak to your hubbys if you see them using excessive force on your children. Some mothers look the other way even some elder siblings too. Parents stop beating your children when they get to a certain age (that's if you believe in beating as a form of correction). Your children will not always listen to you.

Call his line and disconnect several times. He'll come out to angrily confront you and then you push past him and use the toilet

boolet: When shall we begin our workout sessions?

Eyin ati tani E fe pa mi fun iya ati baba mi abi?

Wa gba! Me likey.

dabrake: Patiently waiting for Mikel to arrive Nigeria.

LMAO...so, na with that kain belt you wan take deal with mikel?

Victor Moses! What a timely save!

Enyeama, what a save!

Offside!

adexsimply: How can I be when I've missed you so much?

You're good right?

Perhaps you should sue Seun for psychological and emotional trauma . Yes, I am good. Thanks

adexsimply: Our thread went with the tsunami

Yes and to think tsunami is also a form of nature albeit an angry one . Hope you are good?