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My aunt had to go through same with her sister. The mistake she - and you - made was in proclaiming that she was her only sibling remaining and the last born child (they had lost two boys and their parents). My aunt sister became insolent, stole my aunt's money and even when my aunt tried to get her jobs, she'd go and then stop going even stopped schooling. One day after my aunt had gone to work, the sister took most of my aunt's fine apparels, money, jewelries and ran off.

Today, the sister is co-habitating with someone and now has a child. My aunt has been a source of help and encouragement to her and the sister has realised how late everything is, she cannot afford to be lazy or insolent as she now has a child and since she is not married to the man she is living with, he could kick her to the curbs. Neither can she move to my aunt's place as my aunt is now married.

The truth is once the foundation is wrong, there isn't much you can do except hope that the experience that changes them isn't too drastic.
*Use a soft tone when talking with her about tasks. For example: 'Madam, you no wash plates, why now?' 'How much did you get that meat? E be like say you sabi price things more than me...na you go dey go market'.
*Appreciate the little tasks she does.For example: 'Wow, the kitchen looks so nice today, well done/God bless you'
*Try and ensure she joins a group in church or mosque
*Talk to her once in a while. Ask her about her dreams, tell her yours.
*Rotate the stays, let her go and be with your parents sometimes.

Once you break into that fortress, start being firm by keeping house rules.

Dealing with any other person whether a child or adult requires emotional intelligence as not one solution fits all.

Best of luck.

No be Mr. Nwosu be that?

I remember going to Aba last year to visit a friend and we went to the market cause I wanted to visit the market I had heard so much about. Rain fell, and the whole place became flooded. I had to wade through the water....it was fun . I had a hot water with dettol bath when I got home sha.

On a serious note, something needs to be done, that place stinks! Umuahia where I served didn't stink like that, so even the people of Aba have a lot to do to help themselves, the main thing being thorough disposal of wastes...that city is too dirty abeg. T.A Orji no try too sha.

I do hope to visit again.

See serious paraing oh

your baby ayaya oh

hoodboy: Lots of Nairalanders have serious comprehension issues, did the health minister ever say Dr. Ameyo was discharged? Even with the subsequent publication to to clear the misconceptions, you lot are still lacking comprehension.....RIP DOC, hope you made peace with God...as for the bastard Sawyer, I know where ever you are, you are already paying for your misdeeds

It's quite befuddling how someone who might not have read the body of an article would just say something out of context and almost every other person would fall in line, typing without stopping to think even going as far as adding more rumours. This one wey you think say na just comprehension problem, for my eye e don pass that oh.

passionate88: Rest in Peace... This Ebola virus makes me to remember a novel I once read by Stephen King titled "The Stand" where a similar virus wiped out 70% of the world populations.. Sometimes I'm scared while another time I just wave it away..

You read the book! I can never forget the first sentence, 'It all started with a rat' nor the first few chapters. More than 10 years ago and yet...

RIP madam. May your family find succour.

I do not want to believe that Nairaland represents the average Nigerian...

I read through all that and didn't see where it was written that Nano Silver cured the four just released Ebola patients, why then are some hailing the yet-to-be-tested drug?

The US Ambassador gave a commendation whilst telling us to continue with what we were doing which was: Treat each symptoms as it appears and boost the immune system through food and water. We don't need ZMapp. We need to be able to do the basic things first like Uganda did. Uganda didn't use ZMapp.

If US had through their FDA branded Nano Silver as a pesticide, what has NAFDAC in return said?

Kudos to the tireless health workers.

Really, people fight for such things?

mascot87: #amebomode : Who be d oga wey wan put on d ring?

Beyonce ke? Rara oh....a good resemblance that could be striking from an angle but definitely not Beyonce

AkinEgba: You sure? Hehehe!!

Apparently, you are in a jolly good mood and I, not so much. I'm gonna just slink out of your thread....do have a good evening

AkinEgba: Hehehe! You do not know what ''small'' means? I did not write small, but ''small''.

Okay, apparently I do not know what "small" means?

AkinEgba: http://odili.net/news/source/2014/aug/10/500.html



Hm! See this ''small'' (note small in quote) girl appearing to have benched the multi billionaire Adenugay.

I can't fit laff

So, because Adenuga na big man, the 'small' girl must quake in her boots?

Quarantined but tested negative...add that because most people only read the headline before commenting

No, it isn't wrong for a lady to stay alone, as long as you are grown enough to know what you want even if your motives are not pure.

I left my parents two months after my NYSC in 2010. I knew I couldn't move out and still be in Lagos, so I moved to Uyo. My parents couldn't argue because they knew I needed my space. They couldn't question my motives because I had been brought up well and they trust me to do what's right.
The dividend of that decision is that, the decision for two of my siblings university choices had to taken because of me. I am here to watch over them and my parents have less to worry about especially as regards their welfare.

Everything I do here, I do as I would have done if I was still with my parents. No late nights except choir practice. I am indoor person anyways so I rarely go out except it's absolutely necessary.

Anyways, I like my space, my privacy, the decisions I have to take for me and sometimes siblings and besides now is the time for me to discover myself before oga puts a ring on it

lestat: Let's make Ebola babies together?

Who'd have the ebola, you or the babies?

lestat: Hello eno

Hello?

Rest well Robin

Since it was a suspected case, why was she allowed to drive off alone to 'where ever?' Yes, the doctor was human and fled but a call should have been placed to Yaba or the 0800ebola...immediately. I mean this is Lasuth and not a private hospital.

It also goes to show that the government is not really on top of the situation since there were no laid down protocols. Protocols that would have been followed in cases like this for a virus especially one that has claimed one Nigerian life, with 8 more quarantined.

Options available:
1. Leave the struggling guy; marry a rich or a well to do man.
You may or may not end up happy and he might decide not to help your family, his money...his rules.

2. Stay with struggling guy; he might not be in that state forever or he might not go much higher than this present state or progress may not be so great.
You may or may not end up happy especially if you begin to resent him for not being able to meet all your needs.

Why do we choose life partners?

1. To make our parents happy and proud?
2. To make ourselves happy and proud?
3. To make our friends happy and proud?

I am an advocate of parent(s) reaping the fruits of their labour but at what cost? Has your mum ever hinted at you marrying a rich man?

You haven't gone for service yet, why not wait till after service before getting married? A good job might have been gotten by your partner then and if not, you both can look at ways that extra income can be made. Is your partner a graduate?

Suitors will always come, the key thing is contentment with what you own and with whom you are and you won't even see the suitors as rich or not but as men with faults and imperfections.

My advice? Don't worry overmuch over such things as these. You both don't have to depend on your mother if you eventually marry and things haven't progressed much, just live within your means...

I wish you both the best.

Appeared twice for me. I use airtel

Cute couple. May God bless your home. Iyawo no burn the egg oh

Faith and works

Fine shoeless Mama and Pickin

VillageBoi: Haba... our immense stupidity no get bounds again! You people know where this nonsense came from? Because salt dey kill worm. Ebola is not a worm it's a freaking deadly virus.

Na wa oh...you wan stop my morning laughter? Abeg allow me to continue laughing ojare...hot water and salt indeed!

Esesexxy: had Maggi n ginger oooo

madam, you do realize that you quoted me wrongly? But ginger? You bad ohhhh

sarutobie: their biology teachers no tell dem say salt na antibacterial agent..not antiviral..

you think say na all teachers know say virus and bacteria different? Drinking and bathing salt water indeed!

Naija! Una fit believe anything sha. You do realize that you would sweat more after bathing with hot water and salt, thereby making you potentially attractive to ebola