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The Y axis in my diagram is the major key
Depending on the girl, the Y axis could be any of these indices, (or) a combination of these indices, and more:

Visibility, power, money, beauty, Support, Height, Intelligence, adventuresomeness, Class etc
(The beauty of cash is that it is able to enhance many of the indices listed above)


Mating could be a conquerable science for guys who understand it, understand the societal context, and understand their female targets

Ishilove: Esere, you didn't factor Love into your analysis. Love can make a woman who is way up there in the food chain stoop to date and stick with a guy who earns far less than her. Love makes mincemeat of your submission, in my humble opinion.

What I am trying to show is that love is not so unmeasurable
A girl could date a guy who earns far less than her,
but if you critically examine the relationship, you might find an equal or 'higher power' relationship as the reason she is dating him

Think carefully about this
You can use Uduaghan's daughter and that Eric boy's relationship as a case study

Also try thinking about other relationships. You might soon start seeing the logical connection

Abbott: I like the concept and what's more? It is very true though like all laws/rules, it admits of some exceptions too.
Very much interested in reading the unabridged version.

I go write book for that one

A better and less boring approach would be to answer questions
for example, how would a guy that is 'less in status' 'nail' is chosen chick?

Ishilove: I totally agree with you. Who wants to date a brokeasss? He might cover your destiny with the spirit of poverty troubling him

190: [color=DEEPPINK]ROTFL

Nice one OP

So u saying in essence that money is a strong factor in today's relationships
which is highly applaudable hence the reason why im letting money these days rule my head and relationship

Get money and all other things shall be added unto you

front page please 1st to comment btw oops 2nd JK [/color]

Its more about success level than cash per say

Women are very sensitive to the relative 'succes' level of their male counterpats
So you might see a Kim Kardeshi marrying some comfortable bloke for a day
and then going on 'UP' to date and happilly carry belle for a more successful Kanye West who 'stooped' to date her

(Post 6)

Conclusions

Dissecting the theory will be too long for this forum,
so I'll race straight to the conclusion
(U can always refer to the diagram to understand scenarios better)

1) When women are ready to settle down (even when they do not have jobs) their university boyfriends are many times not ready because their graduate job slaries cannot cater for the pair
2) when the bf and gf have both finished university and have jobs, there is a stronger tendency to take the next step into marriage

3) wen ladies have jobs but their bf's dont have, there is a strong tendency for the girls to suddenly start seeing faults in their bf and start looking out for new relationships. Sometimes even cheating
4) Guys that have 'arrived' in Nigeria are most times married
5) Girls because of their inate desire to date upwards have a tendency to cheat with these married guys

6) Guys in their 20's because of their economic emasculation complain that ladies are bitches and gold-diggers
7) Sons of: politicians, top bureacrats and top private sector chiefs have it easier with all category of girls in Nigeria even if theyhave not yet got employment. This is because they represent the higher pecking order that girls desire to date. Thanks to their dads cash, they would already have nice furnished houses, cars and a bright future even while in university

8 ) When your boyfriend travels abroad and you dont yet have a job, U need to be worried because the probability is that except he has a job that can cater for both of you, he will dump u and pick a girl that can complement him there
9) When ur girlfriend travells abroad. The only time u shld be scared is if u dont have a job. Then, she will look out for some other alpha male

10) If ur gf travls abroad, and u both have jobs that pay same rate (all other economic condition being equal), the tendency is also for her to look out for males in the higher order. If she does not find any, she's coming for u.


These are all things that I have observed. Stay blessed

(Post 5)

My observation in the Southern part of Nigeria
Most males and females seem to be out of University and completed NYSC sowmehere between 24 to 27 years old

The girls are already thinking of marriage amongst economic acheivements at this time
while the guys are thinking mainly of economics -first Job, then rent house, then furnish house, then buy car before marrying

(kai, this is getting longer than i thought)

Congrats Pastor Paul
your best is yet to come

(Post 4)

Women have a strong and prefered tendency to date upwards. Be it age, economic status, power, visibility etc
they can tolerate dating sideways with their peers

Men on the other hand easily date in all dimensions
they are sometimes cowered by more successful ladies especially if they've had a humbling experience before

(Post 3)

Find below a gift I share with you
that should help you visually understand the whats and whys in the dating game

The male symbol is shaped like an erect di.ck
(thats how my secondary school biology teacher thaught me to remember it )

The female symbol has the cross attached

(I did some surface writing about the male and female dating dynamics in this thread: https://www.nairaland.com/1265198/dwindling-pool-male-lovers-nigeria

I believe it will help some of us in better understanding and maximizing the mating game)

(Post 2)

Some years back, after some heartbreak, I decided to question and understand what none-agape Love really was.
I had grown up with those romantic notions of love as indoctrinated and fantasized by TV and romantic novels
Were Cupid in drunken haste draws his bow and strikes his poisoned arrow at just anybody
leading to love between unlikely couples
This romantic view fueled my teenage years, where love was supposed to be blind and extremely foo.lish

After my heartbreak(s) I paid a closer attention to people that acted in such romantic movies
their real love life did not seem in anyway blind.
It seemed to follow a pattern of carefully cherographed choice of partners
and clinical disposal of such partners when needed

Uhm, these guys were (and are still) feeding us the paying mumuish crowd with co.rk and bull descriptions of love

(Post 1)

This writeup links with my other writeup in the business section
https://www.nairaland.com/994349/how-create-economic-success-out/7

Objective: Provides Nigerian males and females with a better understanding of unfolding dynamics in the opposing sex dating pool' with the hope that its understanding would help in allowing us nail our desired mates (no pun intended )

(* i know say people for romance section no like long tori, so I go try make my 'thesis' short. You can go straight to Post #6 for conclusion)

Ishilove: Nna nawa o... I can see you are in the spirit

na so

Billyonaire: A song or a new form of madness ?

One that you shall sing
watch out

Sometimes, bolts of 'something' charges through me
at such moments my mind, mouth and every being in me seems to think nothing of natural laws

I know at such point that anything is possible
i burst into tongues and talk as myself and a mighty being are speaking as peers

let the world rage, and the stars spin
my God, my father has given me a mighty throne and tonnes of angels on majestic assignments

I will speak to my destiny and say you are good
I do not understand what sorrow nor torment means
all I understand is the magnificence of his presence
the touch of the Spirit
the Spirit of possibilities birthed in me

Ah, where is hell that we made a mockery of
we spat at its flames and quenched its darts

I held deaths neck and shook it to its foundation
I broke the gates that were established from the ancients
I made mockery of his host and led them into captivity

see now I have given you its fire
that you quench unrighteoussness with your sword
I am the holy one of Israel
the mighty one. I have spoken

Rejoice my saint, son of my strength
the best of my vineyard
You've seen that I have desired for your a great future
Fear nothing, for I walk the journey with you

I will strengthen your joints and raise your chin
I stand at your side and lift your feet
placed in oil are your weapons
I have said to you that the oil on your head shall not be broken
It has been sealed
from the God of the everlasting, whom has called you his

Amen

Vilicious: Am not asking for fun but I want to know. The bible teaches that If someone slaps you in one side of you cheek, you should turn the Other side. After this sermon in my campus fellowship, some guys wanted to temp me. So as I was standing in front my campus fellowship members, a guy just ran close to me slapped me and stated running away. I ran after him ( i was bigger and faster) caught him and pounced on him in front of my fellowship members. I know I should have let it go, as a christian. So here is my question, if someone hit you do you turn the other side and walk away or are you a little bit like me (am trying to change o) please share your experience too

The scripture is hidden and needs the Spirit to be revealed.

You did conform to scripture
he slapped you, you ran after him, and you exposed urself to more slaps from him in the form of standing up to fight him and not quivering
you also took off ur shirt and singlet in a rufu rufu fight to complete the scriptures

repogirl: Sickening is an understatement.

understatement in itself is not a strong enough word to describe such evil

peeceelove: epistle according to the book of acts

Acts like the Boston bombing are sickening

[quote author=Charmin']Like reading Umari Ayim's stories, i feel satisfied after each episode.[/quote]episode sounds like epistle

@tosan04

I want to 'play' with you

..see, I am honest about it
hope u 'gree for me' so that I will start following ur theory

Wow

Seems we are sick as a people
no one seems to be curious or concerned about other parties in the accident
Great that the Governor survived, but hope his convoy didnt hit anyone fataly

repogirl: Body of whomever, I just dey sing song.

Song of solomon you will sing until u are lured into Solomon's harem of 1000 women

[quote author=Mazi_Omenuko]Days have gone when women were regarded as second class citizens; shouts out to all the women as Nigeria celebrates 100 years of motherhood![/quote]Mother and Motherhood topics at 100 years? are you referring to repogirl or someone else's granny?

@Op

I am not a fan of Pius' style of essays
However, this one strikes me by its subtle but stinging depth

It reminds me of how Sarah Palin who desired to be US vice president had held the belief in her more than 40 years of existence that Africa was a country.

It becomes troubling to me when even locals allow their minds to be shaped by
Western narratives that narrow Africa into a seamless cultural and economical unit perpetually pointing southward in all indices

^^^
But wait a minute why is espanol a part of the language choice?

bebe2: yeaaaaah, dat sounds alright. but am not there to oversee happenings.

and how long before the guy starts to feel used and abused? the day wey primary six dropout wet be the baker go curse am e go start to regret e life

A graduate if sensible will soon learn and improve on the uneducated baker's skills
and get you to kick him once insults are one time too many


I guess the challenges is:
1)the graduate might soon get sloppy thinking that he's doing u a favour
2) The graduate would be actively looking for an alternative job

I'd really like to vote for Buhari
but he needs to be politically smart and tone down his Fulani religious supremasist perception

birdman: There is more to Africa than tropical west Africa. Some places actually have snow, and they have longer thinner noses to adapt to the mountainous air. Stop listening to Alingo all day and expand your horizon

Ok naw
its just that wen i take time off Alingo to read those yeye textbooks on race classification
dem say negroids generally have flat nose, thick lips and curly hair

thanks once more for inspiring and emphatethically pointing my horizon
now I know for sure that all my paintings of Africa must also be dripped in snow as a true respresentation of our diverse land

bebe2: a few days ago i posted an ad for bakery workers(Bakery is in nigeria), got a few responds but i noticed they were all graduates.
they were very enthusiastic and wanted to work but i cudnt bear the tot of having a degree holder do menial jobs and i cant pay them.

i just got my first degree from a university here in manchester, went to see my uni for career advice and the lady specifically told me that being a graduate is not enough, i needed other skill for my cv to stand out.

now my question is, shud this be a public message in nigeria? whateveru want to read/study u shud also consider having vocational skills.

carpenters and plumbers can earn upto 40k per annum in the uk, but entry level salary for most graduate jobs range between 18-21k before tax o.
hope i got my point across
over to u great thinkers

over to u guys

@Op
Dangote hired PhD's as truck drivers
So u cld hire urs for your bakery

If theyve got tetiary level skills, and u've got ambition too
the mix should see your bakery business expand big time

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