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There is nothing wrong in providing these details.
You can create an alternative email address (ID), as well as register an alternative phone number to provide to your employer if you wish.

Kewtt:
LP party shooting to disenfranchise people in the southeast.

https://youtube.com/shorts/pf3zwjQoRaE?feature=share

Foolish talk.
So structureless party like LP will be busy shooting abi?

Odogwuzack:


When we tell them that Lagos is no man's land some miscreants will be arguing.

Pls keep them coming.

Stop that nonsense. If Obi acted like you, we would not be thinking of voting him.

We are rooting for Obi, and has nothing to do with your silly Yoruba vs Igbo nonsense

Dangrace01:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p_GlXawwII4

Missing PVC for Okota Isolo LGA found in Nobis Hotel Ago palace way

If you were unable to collect your PVC at okota isolo local government you can rush to Nobis Hotel Ago palace way to check if your PVC is there.

Best they announce on social media names on cards they found. Those people will come pick them up, instead of saying everyone should come there to find their cards

Prechgold1180:


I m 70 %. Sure it’s bcus of my elder bro death

Till date some people still addresses her with mama Junior
That’s my elder bro name
Some time Dey miss the name and address me as junior

If these people know about your brother, they should have a fair idea about your dad too I think

Salewabeau:
I hope I get the right � reasons here than other channel here since this is the dating thread

My husband and I got married in 2021. He got a job in the UK middle of last year as a skilled worker. He was into tech before he left. Since then I've been the only one in the motherland while he consistently sent something home to cater for myself and rent. Plans are underway to join him as soon as I'm done with NYSC.

Last week, one of my friends in the UK hinted me about something that keeps giving me sleepless nights and terrible unrest. She's a student there and we went to secondary school together. She happened to see my hubby on a dating website. She sent me screenshot of his profile and my husband pictures are all there. Everything. She's on the dating app too.

I confronted my husband after several investigation of the geniuty of what I know. He only yield in after I sent him all evidence that I have. Now he tells me dating app is a norm in the UK and everyone is there. He said he's only there to socialize and meet people, especially Nigerian, but not for dating.

This has caused some issues between us as I wasn't really satisfied with this excuse. I'm tired of constantly thinking my husband is cheating on me.

I love my husband and he's the only man I've ever known.

This is not a problem naw.
As he said it's to meet Nigerians and to socialize not to date, you too will join to meet and socialize with people. Tell him to take his time if he tries to stop you.

Sebi they say what is sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander?

Passpands:
Hello, I’m 23(M) years old, in my final year in one of the federal universities. I lost my dad when I was 14, lost my my mum when I was 3. Dad never remarried. Only have one jnr sibling who’s the only person I actually talk to.


My problem now is I’m depressed and broke. Due to no help from family I was forced into street(yahoo), it was paying before, atleast I was able to sponsor myself from 100lvl-300lvl now everything is hard for me. The school isn’t even helping matters cause I’ve learnt literally nothing, I just block my way through the different levels. I just only realized I have no meaningful relationship (both friendship and girlfriend). I was too busy hustling for money to survive in life. I have no hobbies and no personality. Lately all I think about is money and how to make money, due to my being sickly and not having any skill, the only way I can think of making money if through fraud ( I really want to change this about me)

I have recently developed this fear that after university, I’ll have a very useless and unproductive life. I actually need advice from elderly once here as I have no one to advice me, I’m just living life without purpose.

I actually have more problems I’d like to voice out but society has made me bottle up my emotions as a man. If anyone really wants to advice me or help please I’d really appreciate it.

Ps: had to create this account today, cause I just had to voice out

I give folks advice that work, but guy, the issues you are facing are just too many for me to advice on.
It leans on depressive.

I worry that you are a big target for the forces of darkness that will seek to isolate you, then deal mercilessly with you.

My only advice to you, is that you need to take a walk with Jesus. Two of you need to talk.
I'm not saying you should be religious oo, or start giving your money to church, or suddenly become a good lad or start following prophets.

Just ask him that you would like his guidance.
He'll sort all of this mess out for you. That's his expertise. Do not worry.

Imindmywords:
See earlier topic on trailer here https://www.nairaland.com/7402211/reality-tv-show-nigerian-strippers#117884624


It's finally here, the complete first episode of the long awaited series. I follow four Nigerian strippers operating out of Abuja as they let me into their world: money, fights, taxes, opportunities, crisis resolution, and more.

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What are your thoughts?

Congrats man.

Maynman:

Call them what they are.
If you had family relatives that are killers, won’t you call them Murderers?

With all due respect sir. I'll respond for the sake of impressionable minds reading this.

You don't call women whores to their faces or say that about someone's woman (mum, wife, girlfriend, daughter, sister) to their hearing.
It's just like you don't call a child a bastard to their face or to someone associated with them.
Even someone that is very short, disabled etc should not be talked to that way in their hearing or the hearing of their loved ones without applying some caution.

It has nothing to do with facts. Just simple wisdom and duty of care.
Very different from calling a murderer what they are in certain circumstances. You'd need to ponder on the nuances.

But wishing you the best if you insist.

Maynman:


That’s not an excuse, how can you double date when you are in relationship?
How many people do we know she is “double dating” and having unprotected sex with, hook up girls can also claim double dating.
And before they married, wasn’t she a fiancée?, how is she single then?

People don’t manage beaten that’s why there’s a name for it called “domestic abuse”.
Women marry up, so if your wife is marrying a poor person, she has ulterior motives.
Some manage a dull one like the OP, they need someone to take care of their child.
The man should manage his wife being a hoe, because she won’t stop bringing an illegal child home abi

The worse thing you can do for yourself is marrying a a single mother or raising another person’s child.
Weigh your happiness that your wife cheated and brought a Bastard home? How does that work?
Is it the cooking that’s giving the “happiness”, because as we see, we have many people that’s sharing OP wife

You shouldn't call someone wife a LovePeddler. It's impolite.

You have female relatives. You wouldnt want anyone calling them whores even if it was true would you?

Maynman:

If she can do it within 5 years of marriage, why can’t she do it again?
Your legally married wife is having unprotected sex till the extent of getting pregnant.

1) What if the child is same age as the marriage? Many people double date while single. Doesn't make it right, but it's a fact.
2) In relationships, everything boils down to what each partner can manage. Some people manage being beaten, some manage a poor partner, some manage a cheating one, some manage a dull one, and likewise they are also managed.

If you weigh your happiness against your sadness in your partnership, if your happiness is greater, why stop it? If your sadness is more, why stay?

Meektunz:
Been married for over 5 years now and ever since my wife gave birth to my first child, I've been suspecting that it's not my child due to no sense of resemblance.

I finally did a DNA test but unfortunately the result shows that I'm not the father of my first child. No doubt my wife loves me so much and honestly she has done a lot, sacrificed alot for me.

My conscience never allowed me to end the marriage because honestly she is a good wife one could ever ask for though she has her bad sides.

Since the result came out, I never told her or confronted her because I'm very very certain that once I confront her the marriage will end cos alot will happen but everyday once I see the boy and remember, I get so angry but after some time when we are all playing as a family I will forget.

I still do everything a father could do for his son. Honestly it's not easy to forget about everything.

What do you advise me to do guys?

Marriage is a life long relationship, not just love in tokyo.
If currently, you're enjoying it, then go on.

But do call her aside and tell her the result.
It's really not a thing to be angry about. If she asks for forgiveness, that is no problem. You can and will forgive, but you are not God.

Make her know that you are alright today, but you don't know how tomorrow will be. You will continue to pray that God gives you the needed grace and strength not to let it not worry you in the future

No one asides the two of you need to know about it (plus maybe the kids dad if you both agree to that). If you're thinking of inheritance for your kids, raise all of them to be equal and to expect equal inheritance.

There are somethings that you humanly can't handle. God is the one that will give you the grace to forgive and march on. So don't let it worry you.

ManirBK:


https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.thisdaylive.com/index.php/2022/08/08/buhari-rejoices-with-communications-minister-pantami-on-ciisec-fellowship/amp/

Nigerians dey hype sha.
Since when did this become a biggie?

Myself and a lot of other Nigerians I know are part of the group. We hardly even bother with it except for receiving regular updates.

Lol. Jokers

Me I shock too oo.

These politicians manufacture things from the air, then start running from one court to another making excuses for why they wrote untruths about their certificates.

Congrats to him on the real truth beneath all of this sha

porka:
Doctor of Business Degree (PhD)?
What does that mean?

Let us the see certificate issued and check how it is written on it.

The reason he is the first one since 1209 might be because the degree is perhaps not important.

And what's with the First Class Honours in a doctoral degree?

Nigerians!!!

Supremedrizzy:
Someone gave me a simple job of making an existing static site template responsive within 24 hours and I blew it. A simple task that should take few hours, it looked all good on my localhost only to test it on netlify and it turned out to be a disaster. I'm just so ashamed of myself.

I've been learning web dev since mid last year though its been a case of one month on three months off, I've been grossly inconsistent due circumstances beyond my control. I haven't even coded this year because I come back from my menial hustles with battered bones and weak muscles. You can imagine trying to code after offloading a trailer load of cement all day. I even had to use bet shops around for the gig amidst the pangs of hunger I felt while working coupled with the noisy and distracting environment I was working in which contributed to my legendary blunder.

At the age of 30 and unemployed I've always seen programming as my way out of poverty but it seems I'm not good enough. I'm painfully watching that little flicker of hope fizzle out before my tearful eyes. Which other skill can I dabble into product design?? I suck at designs reason why my frontend skills is below average... should I try backend?? I'm just confused, frustrated and down casted not knowing the next step to take while time is no longer on my side.

Life currently has no meaning and direction to me, I just seem to be flowing aimlessly with the flow. My situation is giving me sleepless nights and I now rely on drugs to sleep for even three hours a day.

I really need someone to talk to, I'm really tired of trying to work out things on my own. I'm 30, broke, lonely and depressed, single has been a constant in my life's equation cos I don't even like myself for who I am presently so I don't expect someone's daughter to like me in this my miserable state.

Someone should please show me the way, this dark tunnel is fast turning to a maze that I can't navigate on my own.

The way is Jesus. To be more precise, the Holy Spirit.
Not by a one way prayer channel, but by getting him to download the knowledge and information that you need to navigate the maze you speak about.

But do you realise that you can practice some of your coding in your mind?
So after doing all that menial job, and your muscles are weak, you can sit back and mentally go through some coding logic without lifting a finger.

When you are rested and have some time, you can then test the mental logics that you spent time on.

How?
It's as easy as this complaint that you wrote.

You thought through it from start to finish, and when you had some time, you then physically wrote it out. That is why it has a flow.
I do that a lot too. I solve a problem mentally just before I sleep, then when i start writing out the solution, it looks very easy.

So you see that you already have the skill in you. just channel it to anything you love.

Maybe also try to figure out a way to monetize your fluid impressive writing skills. Maybe even add some of that to the tools you create.

All of this will pass.

Betterprospect:
Good day Nairalander. I'm single, 30 years old. I studied agriculture related course at University level, and I presently worked in that field and I earned about 120k monthly.

I feel unfulfilled and I'm lacking interest day after day. The unfulfillment brewed mostly from my bosses egoistic and narcissistic approach to his employee, the insane working hours, and the lack of liberty, and most importantly, I feel I could do better. Now I have a meagre 2 million naira saved up, small? I know. Buy I'd like to pursue my passion in tech albeit from ground zero.

Now my dilemma is:

1. Seeing that I'm old and already past my prime for a career change at 30 yrs old, does a pursue of another career make sense?

2. Knowing that 2 million is small and would not last long. Does is it make sense to just up and leave?

3. I have a small biz I ideal which I feel could give me close to 50k monthly, but thing is, this is Nigeria and I might be wrong.

4. Should I just suck it up and continue for another year or two? Everyone I asked seems to think I should.

P,S. I worked 12 hours a day and its impossible I merge the two together.

Start tech in your organisation
First start by learning excel and helping your teams build excel tools for their daily use.
Next move to building more tools with other laguages such as JAVA, python, sql, etc. That is what tech is all about.

You can then with the tech skills learnt and practised in your office move on to other places

GoodFaith:


I make 6 figure
I am good with my pay
I really have 5 years to work and 3 year to Bleep around total of 8 year to go dude
I am not looking for more responsibility
I make more money managing my stuff

Congrats then.

I assume you are Nigerian in the UK.

I love it when we are doing very well.

Best wishes

PastorMIsBack:


Never said it wasn't. I asked in which field so I can go and apply.

Great.
Hopefully, looking though the responses to this, you no know the field.

Best wishes.

GoodFaith:


I have close to 25 year in the tech industry-Insurance company to Banking industry to IBM to government

You definitely are worth more than 70k per annum then, except you are stuck in an old job due to loyalty.
In that case, you should be looking at moving right now.

Make hay while the sun shines.

GoodFaith:
70% to 80% of Nigerian in the UK don't make that income
In the US 60% of Nigerian don't make that income

check out average income

https://qph.cf2.quoracdn.net/main-qimg-c3665d789d3f4395594d33b02ce43b74

True. but the opportunity is there.
The opportunity comes like a wind every once in a while, and if you are prepared, you just jump into the jet stream and it takes you effortlessly to that destination.

There is that opportunity at the moment with uk and US companies looking for employees.
Some are even doing 2 jobs at a go right now.

If one is not in the right circle, you may miss all of these info.

PastorMIsBack:


In what field did you get this job? My husband and I's combined salary is not £4,000 a month.

it is very possible

GoodFaith:


Middle class or close to upper middle class in UK

upper middle

engrrichie92:
I'm a tech bro, I currently do 1.5M Monthly in Nigeria and I just got a job offer last month in the UK for 4K pounds monthly(after tax)

My guys there be complaining about bills and how hard it is to save and all over there

So, If you were me, which would you pick and why?

Modified: will also like to hear from those in the UK; what do you think guys?...Now that you know how it is over there, what would you advice?

Please help push to front page for more engagements

4k after tax is great in the Uk. Means you are earning about 75k plus per annum.
It puts you in the top earning bracket of that country. Hopefully its not in London, and even if it where, if you're not yet a family man, you'd do well.

If single, target accomodation of £700 per month.
Also negotiate work from home at least 2 days to save on transport.
Your feeding shouldnt be more than £300 monthly
Dont get tempted to buy a range rover on hire purchase like Nigerians do there

at the end of the month, you'd be saving about £2k per month which is equivalent to your nigerian earning.
Your working in uk will also improve your profile if you decide to search for a 9ja job
Your earning also makes you credit worthy in the UK which is a big plus.


.....*and by the way, take advice from only those who earn similar rates and higher in the UK. They know the track and will lead you aright.

Dailyparrot:
We have been suspicious of my brother's lifestyle for many years now and recently, his wife is reiterating our suspicion.

We are suspecting my brother of either being possessed, or someone did some juju on him or he belongs to a secret cult based on these two behaviors.

1. He does not like rendering help to his immediate family members but extremely generous outside.
.

Some men are like this. They are strict and stingy to anyone they feel are part of them, even themselves, but are generous to outsiders.

Don't be surprised that your brother can give out cars to others that he himself might feel is too big for him to drive.

I think its a curse plaguing such people

Adebeeyi:


https://fij.ng/article/mayowa-olukehinde-of-breach-menders-collected-n50m-from-investors-now-hes-unreachable/

Forex trading is as profitable as it is loss making.
You can make 20% or more monthly and can also loose 20% or more monthly.
It is essentially like people gambling on a football match. One side will win, while the other side will loose.

So don't listen when you are assured of only profits.
In this case, it was heavy loss making.

sulaak:


Actually, they owe him a lot. An interview is an engagement between two parties, an interviewer who has a job to offer and the interviewee who is looking for a job, if the interviewer fails to act in a professional manner, the interviewee will be justified in sharing his negative evaluation details of the company online. Glassdoor, Reddit and Trustpilot are forums that I have used to share details of my past negative experience.

That is it.
They should be polite, but they owe you nothing whether in Nigeria or in Scotland.
One of the major reasons why the organisation will get back to you in Scotland is because if they dont, people will leave negative feedback about them like highlighted above and other good candidates will avoid them. It's called business justification, not emotional one

So if you and others do the same in Nigeria, you may end up forcing the companies to respond to unsuccessful candidates there. Not out of sentiments, but out of business needs.

That is how you make things happen by taking concrete actions like you've done and not moaning in a pity party like that looser mentioning my name in other posts.

Hope you got it?

pixey:

You are saying bullshit. My guess is that you are definitely one of the useless Nigerian HRMs that lacks courtesy and ethics. Giving feedbacks to unsuccessful applicants is part of the job. Service fee kill you there.

You are a little fool
Inconsequential and a vermin probably typing from underneath a dirty mattress in a slum
A being who is unable to state a point without insulting is a sub human in my books.

Klass99:
Yet, when they receive the same treatment from candidates they start to breathe fire and brimstones, creating threads on Twitter and other social media platforms to hyperventilate and wail about it They don't like a dose of their own medicine at all.



I beg to differ, they owe you courtesy and fair treatment because;

1. You took time away from work to interview (if you are already working)
2. You may have even borrowed money or a suit to get there.
3. You may have also put your current job at risk by not showing up or lying that you are sick just to go and interview.
4. Interviewing can be a time consuming and money gulping venture in terms of transporting back and forth.

It doesn't take much to notify candidates about the status of their job applications, interviews and all. But, because most are badly behaved they act any how.

Nice, but think about it this way as a lady. i guess a beautiful one at that being toasted by 100's of guys.

1. He took time away from other toasting to toast you.
2. He may have even borrowed money or a suit to come toast you.
3. He may have also put his current relationship at risk by not showing up or lying that he is sick just to go and toast you.
4. Toasting can be a time consuming and money gulping venture in terms of transporting back and forth.

Does this mean that to be fair you have to respond to every guys that toasts you?
My guess is that you say yes to some, say no to some others, and for many others just let it slide past and face front instead of helping them calculate the stress they must have past through to come approach you.

Bonaventura:


What they owe you is the fact that they invited you for an interview. You deserve to know how you performed

Yep it would be great if they got back, but businesses are not really moved by emotions like that.
Some foreign companies get back to me, and some dont. I really don't care how I performed because it's largely bullshit talk.
They just had to pick one person, and that one person was not me.
You won't be told that you were not picked because you are black or because you stammer or because your hair was not combed.

It's polite if they get back, but if in a week you're yet to hear from them, move on. They don't deserve you.
In fact I am contacted on same day if I make it. Anything after 2 days, it's that I wasn't the first choice, but the first choice is having some issues with them

dfrost:


Actually they do. Communication is a two-way thing.

How will they feel if the person actually passed the interview and agreed on T&Cs and resumption date and doesn't turn up?

They will feel bad I guess and term the person a fraud or unserious person right?

It happens a lot. They'll feel bad and move on.
The business does not owe you, neither do you owe them until you have both been properly engaged within a contract that can be taken to court .

The emotional bit only improves as you and the business get more involved on a daily basis.

Femeto:
Curtsey demands that they respond. Some people risk their lives to make interviews.

You can't afford to think like that.

They ought to, but don't bother if they don't.
Rather, think of owning your own business that would respond politely to unsuccessful job seekers

Bonaventura:
I have noticed a very annoying patterns with Nigerian organisations about interviews and employment. A job will be widely advertised, you will apply for the job, get invited for the interview. After the interview the recruiter maybe because you didn't perform well most often will not get back to you. You will have to wait endlessly.

I have a friend who is in Scotland. He moved from Nigeria in January this year. He told me that all the job interviews he attended, they all got back to him even when they did not give him an offer. They even went ahead to explain his performance at the interview and how he can improve better.

I understand its almost impossible to reach out to everyone that applied for a job, this is even stated by most recruiters during advertisement, my issues is that the few that you invited for interview deserve to know how they fared.

I know one can argue that not being reached means you weren't hired but its emotionally killing having to wait for a long time.

It would be great and polite if they responded, but they owe you nothing unfortunately.

It's like a movie start not greeting you back after you've said hi.
You're expending 1 person effort in saying hi to them, but they'd be expending thousands of persons energy to say hi back to every one that greets them.

Maybe if the firms were more tech savvy, they be able to within 5 minutes send an email to everyone not accepted, but unfortunately with the way they currently operate, it might be some 2 hrs of their time collating and sending out such mails, so not worth their time.