₦airaland Forum

BlindAngel:
Thanks for your input, what I actually meant is that she insist on her pastor officiating the naming ceremony. Which she's always crying endlessly whenever we start arguing about It.

It's obvious you guys did not agree on denomination before getting married. What were you both discussing during courtship?
If you guys were focused during courtship, you'd have agreed about denomination among others.
Go back to the drawing board and discuss church issues critically. I see her insisting that the children be going to this pastor's church later.
Was he only her pastor?

The OP claims to provide empowerment. How do you empower a person by paying a ridiculously low amount even if you claim minimum wage and no benefit to motivate the person.
People are subtly WICKED.

Kebbikebbi1:
Retail and marketing are not the same.

What's the difference?

Lawly:
I felt am in love and overlooked her issues. But after proposing and going to see her people, that's when her demanding attitudes and stubborn insistence that my baby brother should leave started. It's becoming a horror to me now that she might not care about me. Even knowing that am currently jobless but am the hustling type as well and that I have been struggling hard to meet the demands of bride price and lists from her people and all the expenses to be made all alone on me, she's still making annoying demands and adding expenses I must make for her personally despite the fact that I have told her to pipe low her demands until the marriage is over considering that am the only one shouldering the expenses alone and am not expecting help from anywhere as no one is there to help me.

Why are you shouldering the expenses ALONE?
Then you get married to her, impregnate her and boom a 3rd mouth to feed aside extended family. The economy is HARD, don't add a BRAWLING wife to it.
Is she gainfully employed? What is she bringing to the table to ensure the success of the union?

ApcBacteriafonj:
No pictures to backup. you people should keep on dreaming of car accident

There was an accident there.
I saw it when I passed in the morning.

mediclife1987:
None included as it's a very minor job even one without a certificate can carry out.

You call it minor and the employee will incur transport expenses and feeding that 30k does not cover.
If a job is minor, you wouldn't even need someone to fill the role.

mediclife1987:
Keep apartment neat and tidy weekly.

Go to the market to buy foodstuffs and cook meals weekly.

Wash clothes weekly using a washing machine.

30k/month

Apply within

What are the perks?
Accommodation, feeding.....

helinues:
Anything legit online money. Most especially intermediary deals.

You have contacts for both sellers and buyers, the %/commission on each deal, when you pack them together, they are always reasonable as it's less efforts deals

Do you mean affiliate marketing?

What are their pastors preaching in church that she can't love Testimony like her child.
I'm chided for how I treat my son's nanny (they say I pamper her, don't discipline her....). My response to them is that I treat her like I would treat myself.
She's not perfect as she was caught by my cousin beating my son and I addressed it among other issues.
I am of the opinion that if you treat them well, you get better service and for the greater good of your household.

When a report was released about African counties to face food crises, they debunked the report as false.
Now they set up committee that'll be receiving allowance for doing nothing.
Nigeria a country that's never proactive.

Aliou007:
Hello everyone, please my question is, what does the retail role entails? If successful to pass all the recruitment stages, what will my job be? Thanks

Marketing

Namaster:
Ordinary secretary to the Chairman of a local government will be jumping up and down while pounding his chest screaming "Do you know me?"

.

One LG chairman PA finished me in my workplace.

3 square meal is now LUXURY.

The president never had the citizens in mind.

If you go and protest, you'll likely be arrested.

People will die from HARDSHIP.

Those asking one to farm are oblivious of the activities of herders.

ibechris:
I just warned my cousins wife against getting pregnant again.i pity them sha.

How about her spouse, did you also engage him the consequences as she may not have the final say in a patriarchal society.

The lady is a big time makeup artist whose clientele base are celebrities primarily. She makeups for Veekee James whose cheapest lace work I've seen is 750k, who sew Sharin Ooja's wedding dress. How much do you think Adefunke will charge her?
Check the babe on IG.

MikeofKd:
Boss I understand u quite well but I'm not talking about marriage here , I can have a decent baby mama and I'm ok with that.
D calculation I'm making here is if one has a kid or kids at an older age it might affect one badly. Time is running fast brother.

Decent baby mama that'll MILK you at every given opportunity. A wife will most likely be prudent with resources....

MikeofKd:
Do you think marriage is easy?? Obviously your opinions don't count for anything, one can have a decent baby mama , Money is all you need.

You'll like your daughter to be a baby mama. Awwwwn.

Gerrard59:
Mr franchasofficia has thoroughly explained what you need to know. My interest is the bold. Inasmuch as it is good for children to take care of their children, today's parents shouldn't wish to depend on those children for economic survival in their elderly state. I understand the structure of Nigeria's economy doesn't fully cater for pension (assuming successive govts don't squander everything), but by depending on the children, you make it difficult for them to build their economic bases. Also, you cannot predict what tomorrow's economy will look like. Those who had children during the early '90s still have to contribute to their children's stability or contribute to their well-being. Additionally, culture changes. In my opinion, the generation that will assist their parents willingly and happily is mine. The present Gen-Zs will be hesitant or some will outrightly say no.

So, it is important you plan your retirement especially as na man you be. Also, no born plenty children. That is where the economics of childbearing and raising come to play.

My single sister is a Gen Z and doesn't support my parents to my expectation knowing her income level.
I'm not looking forward to my children as retirement plan.

Gerrard59:
The thing here is that Nigerians nay Africans marry for childbearing sake, not companionship. That is why they practice marry today, born tomorrow ideology. How many Nigerian newly wedded couples would intentionally postpone childbearing for at least two years? And the main koko is that they like to born plenty children scatter everywhere. Born two now, two years never reach, another two don drop. Then they blame Tinubu.

I'm honored to be mentioned by you.
You're right about our marriage being primarily for childbearing.
If you haven't conceived, you'll be asked the reason for the delay. I usually reply them asking if they'll take responsibility when the child comes and they laugh saying God will provide.
I still try to phantom how couples seeing their low income mekwe anyhow and not take caution. They claim that it's good to have a good number of them as you don't know how many will succeed.

ITbomb:
2+1

Wow.
I still tell people that my one year delay in conception was worth it as we weren't buoyant to cater for an additional person.
After delivery, I had to get a maid as I was going to resume work meaning another cost burden.
We currently have 2 persons for each child (long story).
Please don't downplay the importance of money. Children brings blessings no doubt but sir that prudent wife has breaking point if the resources are inadequate and can affect milk supply to her breast.
If a man is taking the right steps about his finances (upskilling, additional income, good job....), let him go ahead and not burden his family mbok. If my only sibling dares to get married with no good income, I would not support her.

ITbomb:
Forget about those saying you must make money first.

1. Have a regular income plus some side hustle
2. Don't marry just because of love, marry who respect you and you respect her (ie her decision making, dressing, communication etc)
3. Your wife must have these qualities
Contentment: content but always aspiring to be better
Respect: more important than love
Peace of mind: she should be your sanctuary
Skill: either employed or have a money making skill
Fruitful: to reduce your prayer points

The more you make money, the more you find out that you need more money and na so time dey go

Do you have children?

Dear OP, children are COST INTENSIVE PROJECT and not age incentive project. If you're financially prepared, you wouldn't create this thread.
The average cost of a baby monthly for someone on a low budget is diapers 10,000
Formula 38000 if it's not exclusive bf.
Others like wipes, soap, cream, detergent.... 5000 to 10000.
About 60k monthly, you've not added education savings, hospital funds.....
I have a 2 yrs old and a 6 months old. Even a good woman will be frustrated if there's no money. She has to eat nutritious food to feed the baby and it must be budgeted for.
It's good to be optimistic but what if the child is a special one health wise, you'll incur more cost.
In summary, please look at your income before bringing the child into the world.
Even my Bible says who builds a house without counting the cost.

Pocohantas is a remote worker and moved from Island to mainland based on her entries I read over time. I think you can ask for her advise.

Acidosis:
Thank you, Esther. Seen my response yet?

Yes I have sir.
I will write back.
Well done egbon mi

Acidosis:
Thank you so much for your heartfelt condolences, Klass99. Your kind words mean a lot to me.

Good to have you back sir.
I mailed you since June 10, looking forward to hearing from you.

ednut1:
igbo has benn president (Azikiwe) , Vice president ( Alex Ekweme), military head of State ( Ironsi) and senate president many times.

An Akwa Ibom man is senate president currently. GEJ is Ijaw.
Unfortunately Democracy is majority rule, the people from the major tribes will dominate. Buhari, Yar Adua are Fulani who are a minority tribe 🤔

You're right about democracy. I'm classifying Fulani as Hausa best to say northerners.

ednut1:
Buhari won second term despite being a failure. Tinubu will likely still win. The northerners are waiting for their turn in 2031 so won’t vote a new president that may do 8 years. Are Soyinka, Reno and others no defending him already

Egbon, are you say that no other ethnic group apart from Yoruba and Hausa will sit there from all indications?

Akwa-Ibom, Cross River......Igbo have never sat there. What's our relevance in this nation?

Gbogbowa:
The suffering is really really bad but what is surprising me is that I don't know why we can't hit the street

We'll be arrested and tried. Since Bubu's tenure, protest has been subtly criminalized.

Why should we have IDP and be projecting increase instead of putting an end to the activities of Boko haram.