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lovediehatelive:
Wow...

A whole 3 months..

It's long o.

The 6 weeks can be endured sha

Something wey be your own, na so you wan rush resume knacking

lovediehatelive:
Thanks for your swift response.

Please don't be offended o.

For you personally, after giving birth, how long did it take to start performing bedroom activities with your husband.

And how long do you feel is ideal generally for women after giving birth to start performing bedroom activities.

I went to be with my mom for 3 months.
We started after I hit 3 months.
The thing is we bleed Lochia for as much as 6 weeks.
Beyond bleeding, you need to be sure that she's ready to resume copulation. Above all, she needs to be sure she has healed especially vaginal birth.

Rejouir:
sorry About the pain, you women are trying o! Especially when it comes to child delivery.

Thank you so much for acknowledging.

lovediehatelive:
Please how long did it take you to Overcome those pains after giving birth

In my first, it took about 2 months because I was stitched.
I still experience discomfort currently but I read it'll linger since it's not my first.

Rejouir:
if the mama can't stand to care for the baby, then she isn't ready yet to have a child. Parenting involves serious alot of sacrifice. Most people can't even afford an orthopedic bed, you want the baby to feel neck and body pain baa.

Please don't say so. I'm a second time mum. I don't stand all the time to care for my newborn. I do experience severe pain in my uterus to below when I want to turn to my sides on the bed let alone trying to sit up and then stand.
The sacrifice of not sleeping when baby cries to nurse whether standing, sitting.... is worthy of recommendation.
As regards comfort in the bed, I use orthopedic bed. But parents can use blanket.....to make baby comfortable on their bed if the mattress is no longer in good shape.

LegitDeals247:
Link to d pregnancy thread pls

https://www.nairaland.com/889053/pregnancy-pregnant-going-through-high/6933
This is the page where someone reposted newborn essentials

Acidosis:
No mind me 🤭

I know right. He needs to open up to his wife about the state of his finance.

Apt.

Acidosis:
Maybe she spent the money on this baby rocker👇👇😄😄

Advise her to cut her coat according to her size. That money is enough for the essentials.

You ehn. Investigator extraordinaire. You dey dere?
The thing is when women go baby shopping and they're not the ones responsible for the funds, it becomes a shopping spree.

larryUG:
You are right, It is my first. The baby is yet to arrive so I may not know all the things needed like the bed. Yes people advised against getting the court that he may not likely sleep in it but then, lets just get it. My wife went to the market to buy all these with her friend and she is a very prudent person. Like she bargains more than me. As for the pump, she ordered it so it was a fixed price, could have been the brand

Well done. I can understand the excitement and anticipation of a baby. It always gets better with subsequent children. See it as an investment for others to come as I didn't spend up to 100k for my 2nd but knowing that diapers and formula will be my cost driver.

larryUG:
Baba, I spent close to a million for my baby stuff.
What you need to understand is that baby things are generally very costly. Secondly, escalation has taken a toll on the prices of things generally.
I gave my wife 350K initially but she bought wasnt substantial.
She added her money and i gave her additional.
BEd alone is 170k-200k depending on the quality. Breast pump (for when your baby my not have the mum around) is 50k in the market. just these 2 items have taken 220-250K out of your 400K. now talk about feeding bottles, diapers, clothes (there are several types your baby will need), Powder/soaps, baby oils, shoes, other stuff, wardrobe alone for kids na 120K. Haba

I think it's your first hence the spending.
Why invest in a baby bed that the baby may not sleep in?
I'm comfortable stretching to reach my baby whom I share the bed with while husband puts up in another room.
Standing up can be so painful as it seems that my uterus and below wants to fall off let alone engorgement of my boobs due to excess bwest milk production. When baby wakes up, I reach out to her without leaving the bed to attend to her and I delivered with no tear but the recovery pain no be here.
The breast pump of 50k, was it the best bargain for electric pump? I got for 35k or is it the brand?
Dear OP, please go to pregnancy thread and look up for a comprehensive list and go to the market yourself.
My husband assisted me to shop this time although mine is no 2.

sweetlady4real:
Congratulations @Esthered
God bless your baby , Amen 🙏

Happy New Year and Happy First Saturday to all mamas and papas here, God bless all our LOs, Amen.

Do have a lovely weekend ❤

Thank you and Amen.

IceDune:
Congrats

Thank you.

Pweetiebabe:
Congratulations Esthered, She will forever be a source of joy to you and your family

Amen. Thank you.

Barmi30:
congratulations ❤️

Thank you so much.

Acidosis:
Congratulations, Esthered.

Glory to God 🙏🙏

Ose egbon mi.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Congratulations, sis. ❤️

Thank you so much eyeneka.

BA and BS

My princess came at 10.53pm last night weighing 2.6kg, EDD 21.01.24
I went for my antenatal appointment yesterday and I complained that I have seen water thrice not knowing that I ought to have rushed to the hospital since the first day I saw it last week.
I was scheduled to be induced in the evening as I begged to go to the office to take permission and do a proper handover.
I got to the hospital by past 5 as against the 4 PM appointment time.
I was given misoprostol under my tongue to enable contraction. The doctor examined me and realized there was no water, membrane was gone and I was 5cm dilated.
I was given antibiotics that made me vomit since I had lost water for over a week and risked chorioamnionitis.
I started having contractions in about an hours time. I ate and was chatting to eliminate fear while having contractions of 8 minutes apart.
I was later moved to delivery ward when I felt like excreting.
The contraction was so painful. I was administered oxytocin to enable the cervix dilate as it was still hard and I have only gotten to 6cm.
By past 10, I had to hold my buttocks when the contraction hits to restrict myself from pushing because I wasn't up to 10cm.
The nurse then asked me to open my legs and saw that the head had crowned. She then said the next contraction, I should push.
I made sure to listen to my body and when it hit, I pushed as instructed and she came out with no tear. I later delivered placenta.
I wish all mamas still waddling a safe and stress free delivery. I also use myself as a point of contact for TTC women that they too shall bear their young.

abdeiz:
Are lagos landlords normal so? This is absurd!!.Omoh.. I'd see things o

The demand is high hence the decision to collect such.

LikeAking:
U no like as your family Dey peaceful?

If you marry your wife will not cut those leaves, she will claim they are demonic leaves from your mothers coven..

If she can’t give birth she will blame the leaves from your mum.. Call your mum all sorts of names,etc..

She will then add juju to your food, to make you a certified mumu, then she will tell you to cut ties with your mum and family for life.

Abobi must of the Nigerian guys become broke and poor once they get married.

90% of the married guys I know are now begging for food after marriage. These were guys who have made millions before marriage..

Nigerian women and dia bad luck.

What you need is lots of sex and children, not a woman or wife..

Nack Nack pass.

90%?
Are the remaining 10% your family members?
I don't know any man that became poorer in marriage in my circle.

talk2hb1:
Lagos, Onikan, Obalende

No idea. Check Jiji

talk2hb1:
Please, Like how much for a room self on the island?

Lagos or Victoria Island?

Carot:
but abulegba is far

He wants to live not too far with such budget?
The thing is you can't eat your cake and have it. He should squat first. Oworonshoki is expensive. Mini flat in Bariga is nothing below 600k. The thing is he needs to calculate transportation cost if he's not mobile.
When my sister did her cost analysis, Surulere LG (not Ogunlana and environs o) is her best bet working at Marina. He'll have to go through third mainland to get to CMS.....expensive journey. Tfare budget should not pass 1k for a start.

I think the OP's budget is low.
My sister's house hunting. A mini flat that isn't furnished is 700k at Aguda and Ijesha axis. She works at Marina too.
The one we saw that we liked was 900k.
They're collecting 2 years rent plus commission and caution totalling 1.950 for 700k houses.
We were negotiating for 1.5 years rent but she suspended the house hunting for now.
OP should look for someone to squat with till he can cough out a tangible amount for rent.
He can still go down to Abulegba......with that budget.

Get a court order and submit to the beneficiary's bank. If the account is funded, they'll debit the account and reverse your money upon conducting a search report to validate the authenticity of the order.
Whoever that gave you his phone number did wrong. If the person knows his right, he'll sure his bank as he's data was not protected.

sonnie10:
I am not too good with recipe and cooking narratives but let me try to revile someone secrets.

1) The water leaf must be sliced very tiny and then crumbled with hands. Do not press out the water from it.
The water leaf is the first ingredient in the pot. The foundation of everything else.

2) You need those ingredients with smoked flavor. Smoked fish, smoked cow skin and crayfish. All these will go on top of the water leaf, while the pot is still sitting on the table.

3) Next is your cooked beef and little or no stock. The pot is still not on the stove at this time. Add periwinkles, either shelled or unshelled.

4) The Afang. The most sensitive step. This will make or break the whole process if not done right. It is the highly guided secret. The leaves should not be too dry or too wet. It has to be finely sliced to strings. Do not use blender. Pound it. But don’t over pound. Once the leaves start to stick together, stop pounding.

Now use you hands to crumble them on the other ingredients already in pot. The pot is still on the table.

5) Add your onion, dry pepper, salt and Maggie.

6) Finally, place the pot on the stove at medium fire. When hot (not boiling) add palm oil. Medium pot could take up to half of half bottle of oil. Cover the pot. Stir well after boiling for about 5 mins. Stir again and taste for adequate seasoning. Stir at the end .

7) 15 mins max. Food is ready.

Notice that water was not added at anytime. Do not add water.
One noticeable thing with the one you posted is that they did not “tat” the water leaves. By this I mean plucking off the stem part of the leaves. It’s a no no. You do not want to see that in your Afang soup.

Well detailed. My mum and sisters don't cook this method but it's always lovely and we're Ibibio from AKS. Is this method done by CRS people as my mother told me they are well detailed in the kitchen.