₦airaland Forum

Ybaby:
I am seeing a pattern that it is men whose mothers feed/fed thier fathers that think like this.

Poster Is your mum single cos you may have to wife her.

1 Timothy 5:8 If anyone does not provide for his own, and
But if any man have not care of his own, and especially of those of his house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

Obingene:
That yours is good doesn't mean you should insult and look down on others that aren't.

Many men try their best to provide but things don't work out, I have seen my father go from a 100 to zero and for 2 years my mum respectfully and diligently worked to cater for us.

Life is no textbook. Nigeria is still d poverty capital of the world.

In all, spouses should understand and support each other, a peaceful marriage is all we all want.

Roles yes, but love still remains the greatest commandment and nothing else.

Preferito:
Wow! This is so disheartening. Love has really waxed cold. But I think the type of foundation given to the youths of nowadays is what's causing this. The Bible stated that the woman is an help meet to the man. This means that when the man is incapacitated she should be able to augment him. She should not compound his troubles. I see no reason why a woman will be troubling a man because he is trying unsuccessfully. Had it been that he is not trying at all then she could have charged him up. Before exhibiting any nasty behavior towards your husband you need to remind yourself the reason why you married him at the first place. To be honest men are now an endangered species and all these things gives me cold feet towards marriage. Why can't the women of these days be like our mothers? I started hawking since I was in primary 2 all the way till SS3 along with my older siblings because my dad was trying unsuccessfully. But there was never a time I did see my mother insult him. Neither was she in any way ever promiscuous. We were in it together and we pulled through. Why can't the women of these days have the will to build with their husbands? This reminds me of the popular quote that says it is only women and children that are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved base on what he can provide. May God order our steps in the right direction.

Ybaby:
Eventually all wives who pay all or some bills cheat. I am not saying it is good I am only stating the fact.

Wives who shelter thier husbands eventually become violent towards the husband.

See the bible knows what it was saying when it said a man who cannot provide is worse than an infidel... those wives may pretend to respect thier husband in his face but gossip their husbands to neighbours, family and friends letting them know they pay the Bills.

What OP experienced is even small. When a woman pays Bills she emasculates the man in front of him or behind him.... she will sha find a way to subliminally let the world know she wears the trouser.

Na so we see am. I pray for you that you are able to fully pay your household Bill's and kids bills if you add your wife's bill she will let the world know you are the MAN!

Sunny Ade said one man was made to escourt his wife to her boyfriend house.... na money cause am.

Man is on earth to pay Bill's, to work and uplift his family...... may all men be able to do this because the consequences of otherwise is severe.

An angel can become a witch if she is made to pay a man's bills

Ybaby:
Such a sad story. Glad you are doing well.

See women are not good at paying a man's bills. We are not wired that way.

She starts seeing such a man as a child.

Once a man stops seeing the woman as his bread winner - the way will open for him like it opened for OP.

Not always true. Pls speak for yourself and I dont see any reason why just N170k ll make a lady proud.

POVERTY

Young men get money! there is a financial clock for men.

OP, happy for you.

Gift7428:
Read again
You highlighted just one part and refused to move to the next line.

I cant with you please.
Na dem.

efighter:
I need to see this Uzodinma's medical certificate of mental fitness because he does not sound mentally balanced. I am suspecting that he must have inherited madness from his grandfather.

Is this how Northern governors give money to Igbos when useless Almajaris destroy Igbos properties? Hope Uzodinma has lost hope.

LordviccoDaGuru:
Buhari is working, shame on all f*cking wailers in South east

HarunaWest:
then that means you know nothing..sorry though

HarunaWest:
Okay lemme burst yah head. I grew up in a liberal home..I attended a Catholic primary school, most of my friends are Christian, my childhood was spent in Lagos state amongst largely Christian neighbours, I speak Yoruba than even my dialect I go to churches, I attend weddings in churches, I attend burials even carry Coffin join during my NYSC @ Abia State. Even I was in KD sometime last year, precisely for a wedding @ Zango Kataf. Having stated all these facts, do I look like someone that gives a damn about religious outlook.?

Southwest2023:
Tonyebarcanista. You are from southern Nigeria ijaw precisely. What's your problem with Kaduna.

Does it Christian's in the state complain to you. If truly Christian and Muslim are equal in number why Christian not sponsor their people to climb the seat of power in the state.

HarunaWest:
See the problem with Nigeria. They so called people appointed, aren't they from Kaduna? Does religion of the person really matter?
The important thing is that they carry out their function properly. If they err, they should be sacked and replaced but that law doesn't hold forte in Nigeria. As far as am aware, there is calm in Kaduna politics today, they aren't complaining so I don't understand why Tonye is crying over spilt milk. I was in Kaduna recently and Elrufai is working whether you like it or not you can't hate the man. If the trusted people carrying out this developments are Muslims, so be it.

infogenius:
op
I won't say you lie because I know a woman I met online too that is going through a similar issue that we are working on but
definitely not you.

Kindly apologize to him, living with your husband and not talking for 7 days is harsh.
Do it because you are displaying wisdom and that you are a weakling.

Your home has to be a peaceful haven.

I don't care what your home is going through as long s you earn you must have savings.
Save 10% of your earnings. This can be used to start a business in future or even as a bailout
one day. Save money.

Buy yourself little things you need like shoes and the likes. How can you be working and struggle to get little things?
It's not convenient but squeeze through. For this another 10%. Pay your tithe if you are a tither and the remaining
70% you can put into your family.

Many women like you these till they go to their graves, their men put them under pressure because they have made themselves available.
This is not bad but should not be a norm.

As much as possible, be yourself show him you are still the woman he married and of course avoid unnecessary arguments with him.
Your silence will not make you stupid or a weakling. It demonstrates maturity.

I can go on and on, but immediately go to him and tell him sorry.

Proffdada:
Don't be quick to judge the man. She maybe a thirsty ho

Inferno001:
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Bro I'm not saying he did wrong by spending within his budget... See ehn this Is a win win for him because party is over and he didn't exceed his budget now the second win will be to make her feel she's right and pet her into understanding your situation...him also getting angry won't make the home peaceful o...sometimes we need to stoop to conquer and making her feel she's right, he wins both ways

Inferno001:
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You're right about him not accepting her excesses and I think my first line suggested that...what I was trying to say up there is him finding peace after the naming and not slating him for following his budget...now the naming is done, she's upset and the reasonable thing to do is find peace...don't advice a man to ignore his wife when you don't stay in his house or know how they live....

janedonez:
Sit her ass down and explain to her that this period calls for prudent spending unless she is ready to live with a man is will be a chronic debtor.
Child dedication isn't the last in celebrations in a family. More are to come, so celebrations are likely to follow

Inferno001:
My brother, at this moment the naming is over and you have spent what you can afford and nothing can change it..it is only natural for some women to want to show off and I won't blame her for that but here is the thing..sit her down and apologize not because you did wrong but because you want peace..promise her you'll celebrate the child's birthday better and she will draw the plan and you'll give her whatever will be needed to make it her taste after all the baby is yours also and if not for the period we're in you would have loved to do more...just say this for peace to reign and make her feel she is right..a happy good woman makes a happy home my brother...

xavuv:
43!...Her children will be succeptible to defects like autism, down syndrome etc

eni4real:
2different cases.. One is a 43 year old childless unmarried lady.. The other one has an adult Daughter!
Stop comparing Genevieve with the lady in question

eni4real:
The lady in question has never married nor have children!!
Not like Genevieve

ForeverSaved:
Wow!. What a wonderful God we have as a Father. I wouldn't have been alive today if not for his grace.


On the 11th of December, 2018 at about 10am, I was sent with a driver to pick up a client to inspect a property somewhere in Rivers State. By the way I reside in Port Harcourt. The agreed pickup point was Genesis fast food at Trans Amadi. The driver drove to the entrance of the premises which is also shared by a couple of other businesses, the building directly faces the Trans Amadi express road. As we approached and tried to navigate into the premises, we had no idea that a robbery was going on there outside at the car pack, the robbers had finished and were quickly making their exist.

All I saw was an armed man with an Ak47 riffle loaded with 4 magazines of bullet, at this point we had blocked the exit way from the premises while the robbers vehicle was right in front of us, so it appeared as if we were there to block their escape, instantly one of them took his gun, corked it and came straight at us, he rested on our car's bonnet and directly aimed that heavily loaded gun at us, I quickly fell backwards in the car to avoid taking a direct hit, the driver froze and couldn't move. Thank God he froze, because if he had released his legs from the break, the car would have hit the gun man, that would have been like a declaration of war!.

What happened next was simply a miracle, the guy looked at us though obviously scared because a little delay could cause them their lives as that area has a number of well armed security men, but the ones at the premises fled when the Armed robbers came. The gun man stepped away, directed his colleague to revise and take another turn. Imagine armed robbers giving you way when you obviously had blocked them, and put their life in danger?. People were just watching it like movie.

After everything, I and the driver were the center of attention, people didn't even border about the man robbed of 10m. A man said, 'I don't know why that guy didn't shoot you, maybe he was not high enough', another man said 'o boy if you have not been serving God you better start now!'.

The funny thing is, after escaping the incident, I and the driver fell sick from the shock for almost 1 week, as I couldn't believe that I was still alive. Till today each time I remember it, it sends shivers down my spine.

Indeed our God is faithful.

I told God I would not complain again no matter what, because the life I now have is not mine anymore.

Praise the Lord!.

kamez:
how someone can be trapped in a car, between life and death and still be able to count how many times his car summasulted is still a mystery to me

CsRockefeller:
It's not because you are a prayerful person, many who are more prayerful than you have gone.

eni4real:
Genevieve has a Daughter

Vulcan24:
this is not KG class.... if u don't understand wait till u are old enuf

ozodigboo:
Nonsense.
The only way to get justice, is through the traditional system.
1 week, the god of natural justice will prevail..
Police ? Lol.
They may even tell her to go to court and disgrace herself publicly. Can she stand in court ?
Everyone will now know she's a rape victim forever.

Vulcan24:
tell him he's a fool

something he would regret in life.....

he thinks it's a child's play to put a woman under your roof and even an old woman !!!

eternal liability at his early start. pls advise him well